Share Ideas: Getting your spouse(s) in the mood

[jux2poz]

Hi y'all!
I'm sure that I'm not the only married man (or woman) here who has trouble turning on a spouse who doesn't like sex or simply getting their spouse "in the mood". I need to re-energize my creativity... cuz after 4 years of marriage, I'm starting to feel like I'm running out of ideas. She knows that I'm here and doesn't mind at all. So, if it's alright (or of interest) with all of you, I'd like to open the floor to your creative ideas for "getting your spouse(s) in the mood" Thanks!

 

[huskie]

I'm all ears!! I'v been married for 8 years and aint been able to figure it out.

 

[Ezzie]

I leave very descriptive emails for my husband to read when he gets home from work. By the time I get home, he's all worked up and ready to go.

 

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[huskie]

Believe it or not Men, When a man helps out around the house. THAT gets her in the mood. When he takes the kids to the park and gives her some free time.THAT will get her in the mood.

Women, by bedtime, are tired. Running the kids to the doc, going to work, cooking dinner, paying bills, putting kids to bed, bathing them.

Help her out around the house, give her some relax time. A massage wont hurt.


My ex always thought I was holding out on him. I was totally exausted and its hard to get horny when you are exausted. I was and an a full time Mommy and a full time worker. PLus, he had a huge sex drive. He wanted it 3 times a day, I only gave it to him about 4-5 times a week. wahh wah ahhh

I do all the above anyway. I think thats part of the problem. shes spoiled. but for me, Tired or not if shes willing I will find the damn energy!! I'm still looking for some drug or some thing I could slip into her drink or some thing???

 

[jux2poz]

Believe it or not Men, When a man helps out around the house. THAT gets her in the mood. When he takes the kids to the park and gives her some free time.THAT will get her in the mood.

Women, by bedtime, are tired. Running the kids to the doc, going to work, cooking dinner, paying bills, putting kids to bed, bathing them.

Help her out around the house, give her some relax time. A massage wont hurt.


My ex always thought I was holding out on him. I was totally exausted and its hard to get horny when you are exausted. I was and an a full time Mommy and a full time worker. PLus, he had a huge sex drive. He wanted it 3 times a day, I only gave it to him about 4-5 times a week. wahh wah ahhh

Great points, Emerald! We don't have kids yet (unless you count the dogs -- whom I take care of mostly) so I'm thinking it's all the hours she puts in at work. She's constantly exhausted. So here's a question, "which chores are most arousing to you?"

Should I wiggle my booty when I vacuum? Or put a little extra pelvic thrust in the dish-washing?

 

[Ezzie]

A man who does the laundry properly is really attractive to me.

 

[jux2poz]

A man who does the laundry properly is really attractive to me.

For a man, doing a woman's laundry is a particular turn on! So, if this works for you, maybe it'll work for me?!

 

[Ezzie]

There's also something sexy about watching a man do the dishes after I've cooked a good meal for him. It's like showing his appreciation for my efforts. And of course to show my appreciation, I usually show him a good time.

 

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[Rod Hardwick]

Actually, the stories I write for Literotica I write for my wife, first. I write about the kind of fantasies that she has (and, aw, heck, me too), then surprise her with them. I go down on her while she reads it, and then she's all mine

 

[Phil333]

Going down on her while she reads a story that I wrote? What a brilliant idea! Thx Rod

 

[jux2poz]

Scrubbing a bathroom.

Another great idea! She's ALWAYS wanting the bathroom cleaned. Doing it in my boxers is a clever idea.

 

[ExtacyCouple]

Booze!

Ahh just kidding I'm sure washing the dishes works much better.

Just so all you ladies don't think I'm a total jerk I happen to do all the grocery shopping in our house and about 95% of the cooking for my wife and kids. I don't clean much though. Don't really seem to have a problem with getting her in the mood and if I do there is always booze.

 

[Lust Engine]

For a man, doing a woman's laundry is a particular turn on! So, if this works for you, maybe it'll work for me?!

I've offered to do the laundry together, stripped down naked & tossed my clothes into the washing machine right in front of her.

Needless to say, it wasn't sly, sneaky or suave but it got the point across. We ended up going at it like hamsters on the Kenmore.

 

[as332]

Turn on

You could try that cunning Australian trick to get your spouse in the mood:

"Darling, are you awake...?"

For the record though, i find that giving the offer and performing a massage or other form of personal act that gives rather than receives always puts my wife in the mood....

 

[borisk]

We ended up going at it like hamsters on the Kenmore.

Spin cycle baby!!!

My wife and I have been together for 12 years now. Its still difficult at times with my job and her taking care of the house and kids.

I enjoy giving my wife massages. We start out being naked and I lay her on her stomach first. Then I tell her to relax and work on breathing. I have this lavander oil from bed bath and beyond that smells wonderful! I then play this tantra relaxation CD that is very relaxing. Taking time to feel her body, some times reading her a story I may have printed out from a author on Lit or one of my own. Just by the sensual touching of my hands around her body is enough for a orgasim (not even touching her vagina). Last thing I do is massage her labia, This will guarantee her orgasmic pleasure.

I can usually time the session to the entire CD, anout 90min. It may seem like a long time but watching her body, relaxed, eyes closed, her thoughts transfixed on your voice, there is nothing else like it. She IS the center of ALL my attention, all for her pleasure....

Boris

 

[amutantman]

all of the above especially housework!

after 15 years and 4 kids together its still a learning process involving both of us. we have just started dirty texts during the day to each other. that seems to work as well.
of course when all else fails just grab her and do it on the kitchen bench.that never fails