Signs your mate is cheating...

[James G 5]

Re: lol....oooh Sheath had fun this weekend

me? bait James? *smiles wickedly* never in a million years. I'm skeered of James! Seriously though, James is always amazing to talk with, he's always so clearheaded and concise with his statements and mmmmm....I love a man who knows his way a round a good debate!
Skeered of little ol' ME?
Whatever for, I am a perfect angel
And I do love a good debate
Bolsters my rep as a cunning linguist

Now then my dear....lets have some juicy details about this wonderful weekend of yours huh?
Key~ who is living vicariously thru the sexual gratificattion of others...

Yep, I'm right with you there

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: lol....oooh Sheath had fun this weekend

Skeered of James, eh? As we should ALL be!
Noooo, not ME

I agree...he does have quite the knack for making one think, doesn't he?
Yeah, and that gets me in more trouble and costs me more relationships....*sigh*

My weekend? Ah...absolutely amazing. My man and I have gone through a lot, and it is made so much harder because we are often apart. (He's a musician on tour most of the year...my Music Man, gee, wonder where I came up with THAT, lol!) We had a weekend together...just us...and it was just what we needed to recharge the romance. I feel like I have fallen in love all over again...

Juicy details....hmmm...well, I discovered once again that eating lots of fruits DOES work to improve the taste of cum, because damned if it didn't taste great! We played with my favorite dildo, enjoyed all sorts of fantasies, and made sure that he came all over my body, not just inside me. My favorite sexual part? His voice calling my name while he shot his cum deep into my throat.
I am so jealous..........

What images...oh, yeah...ummm...shit. Where was I?

Oh. The best part of the whole weekend, not just the 'sexual' parts? Simply lying beside my man and feeling him breathe as he slept. Ah.....bliss...A little piece of Heaven, right there here in Tennessee. Imagine that.

S.

Awwww
That's so sweet
Congrats

 

[James G 5]

Re: Hmmm....

Greetings!

James, thank you for your fine discourse. It's always a treat to deal with a gentle-man. We should talk SF sometime: maybe Piers Anthony and his perpetual quest to prove his/the "Everyman" character can rise up to deal successfully and happily with virtually any situation he is dropped into, without having to have any superpowers, etc., etc.

Ok, ya'll cut it out or I won't be able to fit my head thru door frames anymore

I like Piers, his "Incarnations of Immortality" series & their ruminations on the roles of man, gods, and avatars was fascinating
I've been being frivolous all over this thread, mebbe we should start a new one somewhere on phbilosophy in Sci-Fi

 

[Cycnus]

Cycnus - the character's name

Well, after 4 years of Latin, my Latin teacher would just kill me if I didn't have a Latin dictionary to hand at all times. So of course I do - wouldn't ever want to disappoint Mrs. Grande. Besides, Norwegians have a way of making you PAY if you...stray from proper paths.

Nightswan, I'm afraid you didn't do your research.

Cycnus is a character referred to in both the AEneid (P. Vergilius Maro, ed. J.B. Greenough; 10, 189) and Metamorphoses (P. Ovidius Naso, ed. Hugo Magnus; 2, 367).

A quick description of him would be that not only was he a king of the Ligurians and son of Sthenelus (or Stheneleia, per the text), but that he was related to Phaeton. In the usual fashion (lol ) he was changed into a swan and cast up into the heavens. Hence, Cycnus. Perhaps that's one source for the origination of cygnus? Be a good research project.

Gotta love it!



~Cycnus

 

[Cycnus]

James,

That would be fun - then we could digress all over the board. Well... within a confined area.



~Cycnus

 

[Noor]

Cycnus, cygno di notte, and nightswan- I want to play too!

I want to be more than light, more than a lily, more than a woman falsely accused of adultery in the Old Testament Apocrypha, even if the prophet Daniel clears my name by tricking my accusers, who end up being condemned themselves.

I want to be the Defender of men.

 

[nightswan]

dear cycnus,
my dictionary report both terms to be exact;it wasn't clear,tough,tht you were referring to a character;sometimes ,clearing things up can lead to great benefits.


Mens agitat molem

 

[James G 5]

James,

That would be fun - then we could digress all over the board. Well... within a confined area.



~Cycnus

dunno, the prospect of us gambolling about Lit could be frightening LOL

 

[sheath]

dunno, the prospect of us gambolling about Lit could be frightening LOL

I thought it was frightening enough already?

S.

 

[James G 5]

I thought it was frightening enough already?

S.

Just when you think it's as dark as it can get...

 

[Mstrskey]

Waaaahhhh

....James said I smell lilke bait!! Damn it all no more Dollar General deodorant for me...just cuz it only cost a buck doesn't mean it does the trick. Sigh...at least now I know what's up with all those noseplugs at work. Thought maybe we were at risk for SARS or sumpin!!

Now then did I understand right, James has a problem with a swelling head? It's so big it won't fit through the door? ...hehhehehee! I am as described...naughty naughty!

Mmmmmm...oh Sheath I am sooooo frickin jealous. If I didn't think you were a goddess for your cucumber salad I'd hafta hunt ya down and kill ya! Seriously though darlin' it sounds just wonderful, I'm happy you guys got some quality time together.

Alright folks....you're killing me with the Latin!! Do you have any clue how totally terrible I was at Latin? I mean I have problems with Pig Latin for Pete's sake. Yinz are makin' my brain hurt!- well not really, just making me feel incredibly small town and dull...sigh!- and I don't t like that. Huked on foniks werked fir mee!!

 

[sheath]

Re: Waaaahhhh

Mmmmmm...oh Sheath I am sooooo frickin jealous. If I didn't think you were a goddess for your cucumber salad I'd hafta hunt ya down and kill ya! Seriously though darlin' it sounds just wonderful, I'm happy you guys got some quality time together.

I have missed him so much...it's hard to find time together, but it is always SO worth it.

LOL Cucumber salad goddess? I'll take that as a compliment. Hey, I'm just happy to have a man who actually WANTS to have that cucumber salad. I don't have to sneak it up on him or anything.

S.

 

[sxylegs]

Good morning all....
Hi Sheath.....I really enjoy your insights about various matters this one included......Your posts are great!!!!!

As far as cheating is concerned,,,,,I think right now I would rather my boyfriend would cheat and get it over with then what he does do.......if he sees an old girlfriend then he broods for weeks on what might have been.....he doesn't understand how this affects our time together when he allows himself to fall into this slump.
I feel this is a form of cheating.......it takes away from us for really no basic reason.......He needs to put the past in the past......

Any Suggestions?????

 

[sheath]

Good morning all....
Hi Sheath.....I really enjoy your insights about various matters this one included......Your posts are great!!!!!

As far as cheating is concerned,,,,,I think right now I would rather my boyfriend would cheat and get it over with then what he does do.......if he sees an old girlfriend then he broods for weeks on what might have been.....he doesn't understand how this affects our time together when he allows himself to fall into this slump.
I feel this is a form of cheating.......it takes away from us for really no basic reason.......He needs to put the past in the past......

Any Suggestions?????

Don't ya love to revive old threads? And thanks for the compliment! You made me smile. See?

Advice for you on your boyfriend? I've never dealt with something like that, but I can imagine that I would feel like it was a form of cheating. Thinking about the lost future with someone else while he should be thinking of a future with YOU would really put a damper on the relationship.

Maybe turn the tables on him? After explaining in detail exactly how you feel, begin talking about an ex of yours. Make him sit there and listen, no matter how upset he gets. Then look him dead in the eye and ask him how it feels. I've found that often, those doing something detrimental to a relationship don't actually realize how bad it is until it is shown to them with a very clear and up-front example.

But above all, keep telling him how it makes you feel. Drive that point home. Maybe remind him of why those relationships ended. And whenever he mentions what 'might have been', tell him what 'will be'. He should get the message.

And of course, if he doesn't, you could always hit him over the head with the frying pan. That would definitely drive the point home.

S.

 

[SexyChele]

Good morning all....
Hi Sheath.....I really enjoy your insights about various matters this one included......Your posts are great!!!!!

As far as cheating is concerned,,,,,I think right now I would rather my boyfriend would cheat and get it over with then what he does do.......if he sees an old girlfriend then he broods for weeks on what might have been.....he doesn't understand how this affects our time together when he allows himself to fall into this slump.
I feel this is a form of cheating.......it takes away from us for really no basic reason.......He needs to put the past in the past......

Any Suggestions?????

Sheath is cool beans, isn't she?

I've had this situation happen with a couple of my ex-b/fs. Yeah, I really know how to pick 'em, sometimes!

The one thing I learned - and this isn't going to sound good - is that there really isn't much future with a man who is unwilling to let go of his past. "She" will always be there, and seldom will anyone truly measure up to "her" potential. Doesn't matter that they broke up because she slept with all of his friends, that she sucked him dry of all his money, or that she broke it off because of his stubborn refusal to actually go through with the wedding he got down on bended knee to ask her to do! In my mind, it is a form of cheating. He is usually holding back a part of himself, and that isn't fair for his present relationship.

What to do? I'm not really sure. I've tried the sympathy route, and he decided the next woman he met gave him better sympathy. I tried the "snap out of it, she's gone" approach, and then found out he contacted her less than 48 hours after we broke up. (Of course, my ultimate "revenge" was in hearing him tell me she had married the man of her dreams 6 months before!)

Trying to talk to him doesn't usually produce anything worthwhile. At least that has been my experience. However, talking to him about how it is affecting the relationship you two have, might get through to him. My current partner has been married twice, and the idea of his not being over those past relationships concerned me. We did a lot of talking before I got involved. That's kind of hard to do after you are involved, but if you keep the subject to how his attitude is affecting the here and now it might help to keep things in perspective.

Good luck - I know this one isn't easy to deal with!

 

[sxylegs]

Hi Sexychele and Sheath......
I will take your advice to heart........except Sheath......my boyfriends best friend gave me a boat oar instead of a frying pan to knock some sence into him.....
Little by little we are whittling away the past but I don't know how long I can do it.....

thanks for the time you gave......

Have a good one!!!!!

 

[TigerClaw]

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[SexyChele]

Re: This Thread

Is a very depressing Topic.

: (

It can be, yes. However, there are so many of us who have gone through so much that I think we can have a good amount of sharing as well. And perhaps that sharing might help another person, yes? It is a hope.

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: This Thread

It can be, yes. However, there are so many of us who have gone through so much that I think we can have a good amount of sharing as well. And perhaps that sharing might help another person, yes? It is a hope.

Sharing definetly helps
if we all shared each other, the whole concept of infidelity would cease to exist, now wouldn't it?
No cheating if no monogamy

 

[TigerClaw]

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[James G 5]

Re: LOL

Ah yes but what of us Possesive types???

Therapy.
Possesiveness is usually related to issues of insecurity or a fear of loss or lack of love (fear of, that is).
Address your issues, don't chain someone to you on account of them

 

[TigerClaw]

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[TigerClaw]

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[sheath]

Hi Sexychele and Sheath......
I will take your advice to heart........except Sheath......my boyfriends best friend gave me a boat oar instead of a frying pan to knock some sence into him.....
Little by little we are whittling away the past but I don't know how long I can do it.....

thanks for the time you gave......

Have a good one!!!!!

Ah, the boat oar would work MUCH more effectively than the frying pan.

S.

 

[sheath]

Re: Re: Re: This Thread

No cheating if no monogamy

Darling James, you should put that in your sig line!

I believe monogamy is a wonderful, beautiful thing. Monogamy takes much more time and effort than NOT being mongamous. And it shows the ultimate in giving...to allow only that one person into your secret sensual and sexual self...for the rest of your life. That's one hell of a commitment. But quite worthwhile.

S.