So... do all women masturbate...?

[cloudy]

My ex-husband tried to tell me one time that he hadn't masturbated since he was 15 - he was maybe 36 or 37 when he said it.

Once I'd gotten over laughing so hard I damn near wet my pants, I called him a liar.

He wouldn't have sex if the lights were on, and (I swear this is the truth) in 11 years of marriage, I never saw him naked.

Some people really have a number played on them by well-meaning, but ignorant, parents. I'm assuming that's what happened in his case.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

I'm certain that there are those who don't. I'm not one of them...I masturbation.

 

[Hotat21]

I've been masturbating for.... 8 years? Love it. used to use fingers, then I found toys. It's also a great stress relief.

 

[LustfulAngel]

It's also a great stress relief.

It certainly is

I've been masturbating since I was about 13-14 years old. Even when I was married, and had a pretty decent sex life, I found myself wanting to indulge myself once or twice a week. If I don't have a steady partner I tend to masturbate more, but I haven't given it up.

Though I have an assortment of toys, I prefer my fingers for most occasions, but that's just me.

 

[Hotat21]

I used to use my fingers and then I found toys. now I use a small pink clit vibrator. That is... when I can get the batteries to work. <_<

For me, toys allow me to keep going and keep the stimulation on the hot spot whereas if I use my fingers, it's hard to keep going.

 

[VoyeurChic]

I do, and i have no problem admitting i do. I do have two types of friends though. The ones who say they don't, but inside i know they masturbate, and the ones who say they don't and really dont masturbate. I think there are religious aspects, and socity for a long time viewed it as somthing women just didnt do. To put a number on it i would say 80% do and admit it, 10% do and dont admit it, and 10% really dont.

 

[Eilan]

I have to confess that I don't masturbate. I much prefer to masterbate, masterbait, or mastrubate. Am I abnormal?

In all seriousness, I don't masturbate that often, particularly when I'm having sex regularly, which has been the case for the last 5+ years. I rarely feel like masturbating when I'm alone; for the past few years I've been masturbating pretty regularly for my husband because he loves to watch.

 

[M's girl]

Hi Eilan,

That's funny... I was just thinking this afternoon that I actually masturbate more often when in a relationship and while having regular sex. It's almost like the desire can be switched on and off. I can go long periods without actually longing for sex and during those times I might masturbate every once in a while (I'm talking long periods like months or years even) but certainly not daily or even weekly.

When in a relationship, like now, my masturbation habits fluctuate with the overall mood of our relationship, but almost always it still means: more sex = more masturbation in between. Funny how that works, no?

 

[Hotat21]

Interesting. I masturbated when dating my ex... I wasn't getting any. He did a lot, I know that. He never made me cum any time. We didn't have sex, but we did other things and to be honest, he wasn't good at all.

 

[KokopelliRises]

I actually only discovered masturbation about a year and a half ago. This might seem pretty late in life, but I am not that old (under 20). To my one of my friends this seemed odd because she's been masturbating since she was in her early teens, but I'm quite thankful I discovered it when I did. It made me realize what I was missing in the relationship I was in (but am no longer).

Back when I discovered masturbation I was living at home and had my own bedroom so I could do it as often as I wanted, and usually ended up doing it about once a day or so. Now, unfortunately, I live in a room of about the same size with a roommate, so I only get to do it two, three, or less times a week when she's gone or when I have time to take a long enough "bath". So goes life.

 

[Hotat21]

Poor you. I can do it anytime I want... but I can't make noise. I like noise. Not a lot.... but just enough. So I ahve to muffle myself.

 

[M's girl]

Interesting. I masturbated when dating my ex... I wasn't getting any. He did a lot, I know that. He never made me cum any time. We didn't have sex, but we did other things and to be honest, he wasn't good at all.

With me it was never a case of not getting any or not being satisfied (although I was not all of the time/always). It's just that the more sex I have, the more it's in my system and feel the urge in between episodes of having sex with my partner. In my last relationship before M our sexlife had stopped completely and that 'situation' lasted over two years. I think I masturbated ten times tops during that time. Sounds weird, even to me, because I could not imagine doing without for such a long time now. On the other hand I'm sure I could fall back if the same were to happen between M and me and we would not have sex anymore...

 

[Hotat21]

So the more you have sex, the more you masturbate?

 

[M's girl]

So the more you have sex, the more you masturbate?

Yes, I guess so.

Of course the initial question was more about women who do not masturbate at all, no matter if they have sex with a partner or not. Would like to hear more about that.

 

[Hotat21]

I know someone who doesn't. Or at least she doesn't say, but I'm sure it's probably true as it's rooted in religion.

 

[Muirin]

I'm one of the very few who don't masturbate. I guess because it doesn't turn me on, i could never really get off. It turns me on WAY more knowing that my SO is pleasing me. I never really enjoyed it and for the sex toys i can't use them because they hurt. They're not very comforting for me. Non of this has to do with religion or my parents. Actually my parents incouraged it but it's not enjoyabe for me at all. It's weird i know.

I have masturbated for my past BF, only because they were horrible in bed, and the fact that someoen was watching me was a turn on. I'm just a weird person all around i guess.

 

[Hotat21]

I'm masterbating right now. My undies are small/tigh enough that my toy will stay put and i can move my hips and it still stays on my clit.

 

[MizDuster]

I started masturbating in my teens and continued even when I was married. My husband knew about it and had no problem with it; even to the point where we had occasional mutual masturbation sessions.

Even now, at the age of <removed because I said so>, I still find occasion to pleasure myself a number of times through the week, and see no reason to stop now.

 

[Elixer]

I have actually went through phases of masturbation deprivation. I really don't have any explanation for it..other than sheer stupidity! What the hell was I thinking?? I'm making up for lost time now, though!

 

[jersey1982]

i do it a lot when my man is not able to be around because of work or if either of us is ill. i definitely prefer being together. shoot, sometimes we masturbate together just for the hell of it, but that normally ends up in regular sex too.

 

[Hotat21]

It's soooo uhc fun. I'm doing it now. *moans softly*

 

[Hotat21]

Yep, doing it again...

 

[intruder52]

I'm sure there are women (and men for that matter) who don't.

I have to say that the subject of masturbation is just not a topic of everyday conversation. .

Yeah I find that to be true also. I don't understand it. Huh we all, well all, masterbate, just some more than others. I talk about masterbation with my children and do not get any of the strange looks I get from my friends when the subject comes up.

 

[Debdeb123]

I do. But i'd rather have sex. Before my currentboyfriend i only had my fingers for masturbation and I never found it satisfying like sex. But my boyfriend convinced me to buy a vibrator and now I do enjoy maturbaion a lot more but I still would rather have sex any day. Oh and a lot of girls I know have vibrators so I am guessing they use them.

 

[tanyachrs]

Yeah I find that to be true also. I don't understand it. Huh we all, well all, masterbate, just some more than others.

Most of us don't talk about our toilet habits either. We all do it, but we don't necessarily want the details.