So, I'm reading this book....

[Lance Hardrock]

bumping again

wish I had something to post, but I'll bump this thread in case someone else does.

Hi Toni. Missed you.

 

[lovemetender]

they say that most folks tend to fantasize during sex even when in a long term committed relationship....with that in mind how often have/do you fantasize during sex?....& if you do does it usually include a fantasy partner or is it more of an erotic encounter you'd like to share with your current partner but for whatever reason haven't expressed it to them?

 

[gr8dad2]

I'll jump in first .. haven't put my two cents in a while.... I have been married 28 years and during that time I don't fantasize about anybody else.. I concentrate my efforts and thoughts on my lady there right then there is nothing better than sex up close and personal and when my lady is on there can be nothing better.. she can be better than any x rated movie or porn star and has a body that definatel turns me on so maybe I am lucky in that regard.. the problem is frequency and that ends up being a lot of masturbation and then there is a lot of fantasy parntners and situations from the mild to the extreme.. but even if the sex was with somebody else .. I don't see me dreaming about somebody else.. I guess I am just a focused kind of guy and concentrate on what I am doing or more correctly who I am doing.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

I'll comment

they say that most folks tend to fantasize during sex even when in a long term committed relationship....with that in mind how often have/do you fantasize during sex?....& if you do does it usually include a fantasy partner or is it more of an erotic encounter you'd like to share with your current partner but for whatever reason haven't expressed it to them?

I don't fantasize during sex with my wife. I'm too busy being with her. Now, she has mentioned the name Antonio Banderas, but I think she was referring to my rugged good looks <ok, maybe not>
so maybe she has fantasies. If it helps her to increase her pleasure with a fantasy, I'm not opposed to that. But as I said, my only thoughts are how to please her during sex.

Now, masturbation is a different matter (and like gr8dad said), I get to do a lot of that due to frequency problems with my wife.
Then I most definitely fantasize about being with another woman, or women. Not usually any movie actress or anyone I know. Just sort of a stylized image of "woman" in my mind.

 

[tonitits]

they say that most folks tend to fantasize during sex even when in a long term committed relationship....with that in mind how often have/do you fantasize during sex?....& if you do does it usually include a fantasy partner or is it more of an erotic encounter you'd like to share with your current partner but for whatever reason haven't expressed it to them?

Hey baby, sorry I missed you. Well so far only the guys have spoken up, so let me be the first woman..I NEVER fantasize while having sex. I am too caught up in the act and trying to please my man and how he can please me...now after we are done and we are talking we may discuss things that we would like to do and tell our fantasies..but not during sex...as far as the guy is concerned I do not know if he is totally thinking of me or if he is fantasizing about another woman(women). I really don't care as long as I am taken care of! lol.

 

[lovemetender]

hmmmmmm...interesting...cause the survey I read had rather high percentages of both men & women fantasizing during lovemaking...mind ya not meant all the time just that they had done it at sometime...

well I confess I'm guilty of fantasizing....not that often but I have & most recently in fact..actually I've found it be quite a stimulant & has made for some terrific lovemaking....so much so that my r/l partner commented on how explosive & satisfying it was

 

[tonitits]

hmmmmmm...interesting...cause the survey I read had rather high percentages of both men & women fantasizing during lovemaking...mind ya not meant all the time just that they had done it at sometime...

well I confess I'm guilty of fantasizing....not that often but I have & most recently in fact..actually I've found it be quite a stimulant & has made for some terrific lovemaking....so much so that my r/l partner commented on how explosive & satisfying it was

hmmm that IS interesting! If you don't mind me asking...were you fantasizing about her or another woman? Are just a different situation, something that you would like to try? Maybe I will have to try that some time. (however I am not sure I can, but might try!)

 

[Lance Hardrock]

additional remarks

I don't know if this constitutes fantasizing and I just thought of it, cause I recently have done it.

I like to pretend I'm a tiger and I growl and bare my teeth and shake my head about while fucking my lady. When I cum I definitely start out with a low rumble deep in my body and let it build up to a roar as I peak. My wife sure loves it and shel gets pretty loud as well. Like two cats in heat? LOL

So I don't think that is a fantasy, but play acting?

Just thought I'd toss it in that sidebar.

 

[lovemetender]

hmmm that IS interesting! If you don't mind me asking...were you fantasizing about her or another woman? Are just a different situation, something that you would like to try? Maybe I will have to try that some time. (however I am not sure I can, but might try!)

Toni...it was another woman that was on my mind & if anything it enhanced not hurt the lovemaking as my lover later confided....of course she had no idea what the source of my motivation was on this particular evening

Lance...hmmmmm.....Tiger huh?...don't think thats what I was talking about but hey different strokes for different folks afterall

 

[tonitits]

Toni...it was another woman that was on my mind & if anything it enhanced not hurt the lovemaking as my lover later confided....of course she had no idea what the source of my motivation was on this particular evening

Lance...hmmmmm.....Tiger huh?...don't think thats what I was talking about but hey different strokes for different folks afterall

LMT thanks for you input...I will keep that in mind.

 

[enjoyingitall]

I'm glad to see you all posting here while I was away.
Thanks for adding a question, LMT.

Interesting answers y'all gave.

I'd have to say that Yes, I do fantasize during sex. Some times about different things with my lover and sometimes about a different lover. Either way, it adds to the overall intensity for me and for my partner. I don't see that it takes away from my focusing on what we're doing at the time. I tend to lose myself in the thoughts and fantasies as well as the actual sex.They all just mesh together for really great orgasms.

 

[tonitits]

I'm glad to see you all posting here while I was away.
Thanks for adding a question, LMT.

Interesting answers y'all gave.

I'd have to say that Yes, I do fantasize during sex. Some times about different things with my lover and sometimes about a different lover. Either way, it adds to the overall intensity for me and for my partner. I don't see that it takes away from my focusing on what we're doing at the time. I tend to lose myself in the thoughts and fantasies as well as the actual sex.They all just mesh together for really great orgasms.

Welcome back E! Hope you enjoyed your time away! Have a nice day!

 

[Lance Hardrock]

glad to see you are back

EJ, welcome back. We missed ya.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Welcome back E! Hope you enjoyed your time away! Have a nice day!

Thanks, Toni.. I had a great time. Good to see you. Hope you're doing well.

 

[lovemetender]

I'm glad to see you all posting here while I was away.
Thanks for adding a question, LMT.

Interesting answers y'all gave.

I'd have to say that Yes, I do fantasize during sex. Some times about different things with my lover and sometimes about a different lover. Either way, it adds to the overall intensity for me and for my partner. I don't see that it takes away from my focusing on what we're doing at the time. I tend to lose myself in the thoughts and fantasies as well as the actual sex.They all just mesh together for really great orgasms.

welcome back baby

I concurr 150% with you...totally enhances w/o detracting in the least

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: glad to see you are back

EJ, welcome back. We missed ya.

thanks lance. Always nice to be missed.

 

[enjoyingitall]

welcome back baby

I concurr 150% with you...totally enhances w/o detracting in the least

Great minds think alike, baby.

 

[tonitits]

Great minds think alike, baby.

Just popping in and giving this a bump.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Just popping in and giving this a bump.

Hey Toni..thanks for bumping this. Hope you're doing well.

I don't have a question today..Anyone else have one?


Lance and LMT both added good ones. You guys have more?

 

[gr8dad2]

Yes .. I have one very important question.. now that our lovely EJ is back... when can we see a nother gorgeous picture of those legs that drive we wild .. lol Missed you darling can you tell...

 

[enjoyingitall]

Yes .. I have one very important question.. now that our lovely EJ is back... when can we see a nother gorgeous picture of those legs that drive we wild .. lol Missed you darling can you tell...

LOL that's not the kind of questions we're looking for here.

Good to see you. Hope you're doing well.

 

[tonitits]

LOL that's not the kind of questions we're looking for here.

Good to see you. Hope you're doing well.

LOL. Hey Ms E. you know with these guys you have to be more specific!!!

 

[gr8dad2]

Now come on Ladies .. you know us guys are multi dimensional BUT we are the animals we are.. and some things can't be denied.... now and then we just blurt out those things that makes us the sexual animals that we are.... so the question to you ladies is does it reall bother you when guys act like "animals" or do you want that more cerebal man???

 

[enjoyingitall]

LOL. Hey Ms E. you know with these guys you have to be more specific!!!

Good Point toni!! I shoudda been more exact when asking for new questions...lol

 

[enjoyingitall]

Now come on Ladies .. you know us guys are multi dimensional BUT we are the animals we are.. and some things can't be denied.... now and then we just blurt out those things that makes us the sexual animals that we are.... so the question to you ladies is does it reall bother you when guys act like "animals" or do you want that more cerebal man???

Time and Place, hon..it's all about the circumstances. Sometimes, I want just the raw animalistic kinda attitude and behavior, other times, I want conversation and intellect to come through. A man has to be well rounded ya know. One without the other is not quite the complete package. And a really smart man knows when it's time to display the right one.