So, I'm reading this book....

[enjoyingitall]

Re: The question generates another

EJ mentioned that she doesn't consider oral to be foreplay, but sex itself.

So my question is (an easy one I think), is when does foreplay stop and the "real" sex begin?

<I'll answer later after others have posted>

Thanks for adding a question, Lance.

For me, foreplay ends at the moment that I am so aroused that I NEED more of my lover...not just want it or desire it, but really feel a need for it..the kissing, the touching, the mental aspects all come to a peak and at that point the "real" sex begins. As I said before, oral sex, both receiving and giving, to me are part of the sexual act itself. In fact, I've always thought that it is one of the most intimate parts of sex.

So, the real sex begins for me when my body says MORE...sometimes it even says please....

 

[tryingsumtinnew]

Re: The question generates another

EJ mentioned that she doesn't consider oral to be foreplay, but sex itself.

So my question is (an easy one I think), is when does foreplay stop and the "real" sex begin?

<I'll answer later after others have posted>

Hmmm, seems like i've missed a good conversation.

I guess to me, and i love foreplay, that foreplay is over when both parties(or more if that may be the case) have made a desicion that it's time to progress to the next level. I agree that all out oral sex is not foreplay but some teasing or some licking here or there is still foreplay. Maybe to me foreplay is over once one of the parties has decided to give the other partie(s) an orgasm.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Hello trying..Welcome to the thread. We've had some interesting thoughts here for a while now. Hope to see you stop back again.

And I agree..teasing licks are a part of foreplay. A good part!

 

[tryingsumtinnew]

Re: Re: The question generates another

Thanks for adding a question, Lance.

For me, foreplay ends at the moment that I am so aroused that I NEED more of my lover...not just want it or desire it, but really feel a need for it..the kissing, the touching, the mental aspects all come to a peak and at that point the "real" sex begins. As I said before, oral sex, both receiving and giving, to me are part of the sexual act itself. In fact, I've always thought that it is one of the most intimate parts of sex.

So, the real sex begins for me when my body says MORE...sometimes it even says please....

While I agree with mostly what you are saying, but what if your body says you want more (even if it's saying please) and he still wants to continue the foreplay and tease you a little. Like I said before, I think the foreplay is over when both parties try to acheive orgasm.

 

[lovemetender]

Re: The question generates another

EJ mentioned that she doesn't consider oral to be foreplay, but sex itself.

So my question is (an easy one I think), is when does foreplay stop and the "real" sex begin?

<I'll answer later after others have posted>

not to cop out here or anything...but if done properly there is no true definable point between the two...it's just a seamless transition to that special place both partners hunger for

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: Re: Re: The question generates another

While I agree with mostly what you are saying, but what if your body says you want more (even if it's saying please) and he still wants to continue the foreplay and tease you a little. Like I said before, I think the foreplay is over when both parties try to acheive orgasm.

Oh well, you see ... when I say "please"....he doesn't resist.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: Re: The question generates another

not to cop out here or anything...but if done properly there is no true definable point between the two...it's just a seamless transition to that special place both partners hunger for

yes, it's not like I say......stop..time for the "real sex" to begin now..LOL..

There should be an easy transition...and certainly teasing continues throughout the experience. It's all woven together.

 

[tonitits]

Re: Re: The question generates another

not to cop out here or anything...but if done properly there is no true definable point between the two...it's just a seamless transition to that special place both partners hunger for

I mostly agree with LMT, usually cannot tell when one stop and the other begins...but also like EJ said when you are wanting more than just teasing...sometimes that can be as quickly as just kissing and groping...getting each other undressed!!!

 

[enjoyingitall]

Hey toni..hope you're doing well today.

Yeah..tearing each other's clothes off is a definite sign that I want more...lol

 

[lovemetender]

Re: Re: Re: The question generates another

yes, it's not like I say......stop..time for the "real sex" to begin now..LOL..

There should be an easy transition...and certainly teasing continues throughout the experience. It's all woven together.

yes I agree...woven together indeed

Lance...the question is not easily defined by a simple answer & is obviously a good one...as this thread is too

 

[lilrosie lips]

hi all...

Believe it or not Rosie has not much to add to the conversation on Foreplay... I read all the posts and its "yeah what he/she said"

Of course I don't really like the term Foreplay.... for me it should all be just Play....

 

[lovemetender]

hi all...

Believe it or not Rosie has not much to add to the conversation on Foreplay... I read all the posts and its "yeah what he/she said"

Of course I don't really like the term Foreplay.... for me it should all be just Play....

Rosie...guess that's what I was trying to say also...it's all one...sex,teasing,foreplay...whatever you want to call it...where one stops & one starts is undefinable...instead it's just a perfect circle with no breaks

 

[Lance Hardrock]

I concurr

hi all...

Believe it or not Rosie has not much to add to the conversation on Foreplay... I read all the posts and its "yeah what he/she said"

Of course I don't really like the term Foreplay.... for me it should all be just Play....

I agree. There is no fore and after play (some ladies would say there is NO afterplay).

For me, I'd have to say it sort of merges from fore to play to after play. There is a point where there is no stopping and that might be what I'd call the end of foreplay. Those of you with kids probably understand being interrupted at the wrong time. Certain times when interrupted are disasters but earlier it isn't so bad. You just work that into the teasing and waiting play you've been doing anyhow.

I'd say it is a flowing from one stage to the other and not necessarily a definite point.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: I concurr

I agree. There is no fore and after play (some ladies would say there is NO afterplay).

For me, I'd have to say it sort of merges from fore to play to after play. There is a point where there is no stopping and that might be what I'd call the end of foreplay. Those of you with kids probably understand being interrupted at the wrong time. Certain times when interrupted are disasters but earlier it isn't so bad. You just work that into the teasing and waiting play you've been doing anyhow.

I'd say it is a flowing from one stage to the other and not necessarily a definite point.

Again, Lance, thanks for adding a question for us. It was a good one.

As to the "afterplay"..like most women, and many men...I need that for completion.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Ok..another question to think about......

If you had to choose just one sexual aspect of yourself that you feel the most secure about, what would it be? I’m not asking what you do best.....just what is it about your sexual self that you feel the best about. This is a positive thread, so we aren’t gonna talk about insecurities..

 

[Lance Hardrock]

Ooohhhhh

Ok..another question to think about......

If you had to choose just one sexual aspect of yourself that you feel the most secure about, what would it be? I’m not asking what you do best.....just what is it about your sexual self that you feel the best about. This is a positive thread, so we aren’t gonna talk about insecurities..

We can only pick one?

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: Ooohhhhh

We can only pick one?

Yep..trying to make ya think here.

 

[lilrosie lips]

Re: Re: Ooohhhhh

Yep..trying to make ya think here.

Oh Damm EJ... do you enjoy torturing us???

I will give this a try, although I admit to being confused about what exactly you are getting after. I don't quite know how to separate what I am good at from what I feel good about.

But I think what I feel the most confidence in is just being a sensual person. To me I revel in the sights, sounds and most of all the tactile elements of sex. I find nothing more pleasing than to try various touches from the very light to the very strong and all in between, exploring and returning to those that please.

Damm that was hard... and I still am not sure thats what you were looking for!!!

LOL

 

[enjoyingitall]

Sorry Rosie..I didn't mean to come up with a hard one! But your reply was along the lines I was thinking of.

I didn't want to know that a guy thinks he has the best tongue on the planet or that a woman gives the best bj..

I was thinking of things that you feel secure about in yourself sexually.



As for me, I think one thing I feel really secure about is that I have no qualms about expressing myself to my lover. I learned to be open about what I want/need and I enable him to have that sense of security to do the same with me. So, I guess what I'm saying is that I feel secure about making my lover comfortable and accepting and less inhibited and I feel that I can be the same.

 

[lovemetender]

Ok..another question to think about......

If you had to choose just one sexual aspect of yourself that you feel the most secure about, what would it be? I’m not asking what you do best.....just what is it about your sexual self that you feel the best about. This is a positive thread, so we aren’t gonna talk about insecurities..

I'd say it's my openness...I'm always willing to explore & try different things that either my lover or I may want to explore

 

[Lance Hardrock]

Picking one

Now that I think about it, I'm not sure I even have one thing. (okay, just kidding)

I'd have to say it is my curiosity. I'm always interested in exploring strange new worlds, go where nobody has gone.... err.... explore new activities and ideas concerning sex.

My motto is "let's try it. If fun we'll do again. If not, we'll try something else."

Is that what you were looking for?

 

[enjoyingitall]

I'd say it's my openness...I'm always willing to explore & try different things that either my lover or I may want to explore

That's an excellent characteristic to have. It keeps the umph in sex I'd say..

 

[enjoyingitall]

Re: Picking one

Now that I think about it, I'm not sure I even have one thing. (okay, just kidding)

I'd have to say it is my curiosity. I'm always interested in exploring strange new worlds, go where nobody has gone.... err.... explore new activities and ideas concerning sex.

My motto is "let's try it. If fun we'll do again. If not, we'll try something else."

Is that what you were looking for?

Yes, Lance that's what I was thinking of.

Curiosity..exploration...both very good qualities too.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Bump...

Good morning...Anyone have a question for us today?

I'm slacking here and can't think of one.

 

[lovemetender]

K...I have a question...I've read & heard studies where some foods & scents can help trigger our erotic thoughts & act as an aphrodisiac...in fact was just recently where I heard Pizza acts this way with males...not sure about that but I sure do love Pizza...lol

anyway the question is....is there any food or scent that you've noticed that tends to trigger your erotic thoughts?