So......................... I'm straight-curious

[Boota]

A while back, quite a while actually, I attracted the attention of a lot of lesbians I knew. I had no idea why. It was kind of a weird situation, knowing that my friend likes girls, but for some reason she's interested in me. If it happened once I wouldn't have thought much about it, but over the course of a year I was approached, probably, about twenty times. I thought I was subconsciously putting out some sort of lesbian vibe. LOL. One of my lesbian friends who wasn't hitting on me said that it was because if a lesbian was going to consdier being with a man they would likely be looking for someone extremely masculine. What they thought a man was. Not sure if that's what it was, but it makes as much sense as anything I could come up with.

I did have sex with a lesbian around that time. It was with a friend's girlfriend. She had never been with a man and she was very curious. Curious to the point where it sort of scared my friend about whether her girlfriend was really gay or not. Apparently they talked it over and approached me about being "the one". I don't think I have to tell you that it was a bizarre conversation to have sprung on me from out of the blue. LOL.

Anyway, all went well. We both had a good time and took it for just what it was. I haven't seen them in a while, but last I knew they were still together. I'm not a very good lesbian deprogrammer, I guess.

 

[Trombonus]

A while back, quite a while actually, I attracted the attention of a lot of lesbians I knew. I had no idea why. It was kind of a weird situation, knowing that my friend likes girls, but for some reason she's interested in me. If it happened once I wouldn't have thought much about it, but over the course of a year I was approached, probably, about twenty times. I thought I was subconsciously putting out some sort of lesbian vibe. LOL. One of my lesbian friends who wasn't hitting on me said that it was because if a lesbian was going to consdier being with a man they would likely be looking for someone extremely masculine. What they thought a man was. Not sure if that's what it was, but it makes as much sense as anything I could come up with.

I did have sex with a lesbian around that time. It was with a friend's girlfriend. She had never been with a man and she was very curious. Curious to the point where it sort of scared my friend about whether her girlfriend was really gay or not. Apparently they talked it over and approached me about being "the one". I don't think I have to tell you that it was a bizarre conversation to have sprung on me from out of the blue. LOL.

Anyway, all went well. We both had a good time and took it for just what it was. I haven't seen them in a while, but last I knew they were still together. I'm not a very good lesbian deprogrammer, I guess.

Wow, outside of Lit I've only met one lesbian...I feel deprived...

 

[Oblimo]

Wow, outside of Lit I've only met one lesbian...I feel deprived...

I suspect you've met a few more, and their sexual preferences simply never came up in conversation.

 

[Trombonus]

I suspect you've met a few more, and their sexual preferences simply never came up in conversation.

Possibly, I'm just oblivious enough to not notice something like that...

 

[Oblimo]

kinda like every guys wet dream ta shag a lesbian chick, innit?

Is this where I confess to not harboring a fantasy of having sex with a lesbian (or the classic threesome), but having the fantasy of being a lesbian? I guess it is.

Discuss ............

[nosey]What is the situation of your current romantic life that leads you to consider experimentation at this particular time?[/nosey]

 

[Oblimo]

Possibly, I'm just oblivious enough to not notice something like that...

Well, I had the fortune of going to a college where many lesbian couples (and moresomes) made surprisingly frequent, vocable use of the showers in the coed bathrooms...

Lesbian couple in shower: "Ooh!" "Ahh!" (etc.)

Oblimo: (walking in to bathroom) "Sorry guys, I gotta take a shower; you okay with that?"

Lesbian couple: (whispering) "Who is that?" "That's Oblimo; he's cool." (louder). "No problem!"

Oblimo: "Thanks. Okay, I'm in the shower two stalls down now."

Lesbian couple: "Ooh!" "Ahh!" (etc.)

 

[Trombonus]

Well, I had the fortune of going to a college where many lesbian couples (and moresomes) made surprisingly frequent, vocable use of the showers in the coed bathrooms...

Lesbians couple in shower: "Ooh!" "Ahh!" (etc.)

Oblimo: (walking in to bathroom) "Sorry guys, I gotta take a shower; you okay with that?"

Lesbian couple: (whispering) "Who is that?" "That's Oblimo; he's cool." (louder). "No problem!"

Oblimo: "Thanks. Okay, I'm in the shower two stalls down now."

Lesbian couple: "Ooh!" "Ahh!" (etc.)

Yep, definitely deprived

 

[S-Des]

Well, I had the fortune of going to a college where many lesbian couples (and moresomes) made surprisingly frequent, vocable use of the showers in the coed bathrooms...

Lesbians couple in shower: "Ooh!" "Ahh!" (etc.)

Oblimo: (walking in to bathroom) "Sorry guys, I gotta take a shower; you okay with that?"

Lesbian couple: (whispering) "Who is that?" "That's Oblimo; he's cool." (louder). "No problem!"

Oblimo: "Thanks. Okay, I'm in the shower two stalls down now."

Lesbian couple: "Ooh!" "Ahh!" (etc.)

Yeah, that would be pretty tough to miss.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Fem - - nice thread and very interesting responses from all. My first reaction was a group scene with a man and a woman and that may be the way too go, but then I thought. . .if I was going to be with a woman. . . would I want a man with me observing? . . . My answer was no. I would want the intimacies of being alone with her.

I think it may be a safety thing. With another woman there if you want the event to stop there is a better chance that it will and you may feel safer that way.

With a woman I believe I could cat fight my way out of a situation if I suddenly wanted to back out and things weren't working out to leave gracefully. . .or brawl with her like I did when I was a girl growing up on the farm and had a couple of very abusive sisters. . .

In the end though it is all going to come down to trust. . .trust to me will outweigh some of the feelings on hair, size, shape. . .etc. . .trust is the key, you are going to want to feel safe. Just like I would want to feel safe in the arms of my first female encounter.

 

[S-Des]

Fem - - nice thread and very interesting responses from all. My first reaction was a group scene with a man and a woman and that may be the way too go, but then I thought. . .if I was going to be with a woman. . . would I want a man with me observing? . . . My answer was no. I would want the intimacies of being alone with her.

I agree with this. I liked a post I saw earlier about not treating it like a science experiment or a romp in the hay. If you want to get something out of the experience (even if it's only going to be once), you would need some emotional attachment to the man (at least I would). Even in a short relationship, there is mutual attraction and some sense of a connection.

The answer to the original question . . . no, it's never been a fantasy of mine to be with a lesbian (why would I care if she was straight, bi, or gay...I'd just want her because of how I felt about her and vice versa). Some like casual sex, to me it never had appeal. On the other hand, if I knew something would probably be a one shot deal, but there was that attraction between us, I would find it interesting (even considering it might be bittersweet if I found myself more attracted to her than she was to me).

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I agree with this. I liked a post I saw earlier about not treating it like a science experiment or a romp in the hay. If you want to get something out of the experience (even if it's only going to be once), you would need some emotional attachment to the man (at least I would). Even in a short relationship, there is mutual attraction and some sense of a connection.

The answer to the original question . . . no, it's never been a fantasy of mine to be with a lesbian (why would I care if she was straight, bi, or gay...I'd just want her because of how I felt about her and vice versa). Some like casual sex, to me it never had appeal. On the other hand, if I knew something would probably be a one shot deal, but there was that attraction between us, I would find it interesting (even considering it might be bittersweet if I found myself more attracted to her than she was to me).

I agree with what you say. . . I guess I may not have given that impression in the rest of my post. Safety is a key factor, but yes, attraction and desire is also key, trust still being the big one. I wouldn't just grab some chick off the street and haul her back to my place and tell her she's the one. I'd at least say hi. No, seriously. . .I'd want the same time to get to know her as I would a man.

 

[scheherazade_79]

I think you should try it, Fem - if only because it'll make you appreciate women that much more afterwards.

Having a threesome is a cop-out. While there's a woman there, you're bound to have a good time.

I slept with various guys up until the age of 20. It was an absolute chore. I kept wondering why people raved about sex, because I felt absolutely nothing with guys. To be honest, having the TV on in the background was the only thing that kept me going.

I've had a lot of guys suggest to me that there was something 'wrong' with the guys I slept with in the past - that they weren't 'real men', or they didn't know what they were doing, or they treated me wrong. But that wasn't the case at all.

It's not a case of women being better in bed than men, or vice versa - both experiences are just entirely different. And I know one does it for me, while the other doesn't.

I can't believe how tactful and diplomatic I'm being on this topic

 

[Nirvanadragones]

A " mouthful", I know . . .

I'm not sure I agree with the idea that an emotional connection would make the experience better/ more meaningful to you. I agree that trust is an absolute necessity, and so is respect. I suggest that the man you choose to be with understands your situation and you should both have an understanding about what you both want/ need from the experience. You should feel safe with him, and have peace of mind knowing that you would be able to stop if you wanted to.

I distinguish between emotional/ spiritual and affectionate attraction and physical attraction. I prefer to feel all of that towards the person I am with, because for me, that makes the experience meaningful, intense and passionate. Personally, I do not have that affectionate attraction towards men. (I believe this is all about who we are predisposed to fall in love with)

In terms of sex, for me personally, I am fluid enough to admit that certain straight -sex scenarios could turn me on under the right circumstance, and with the right man. Yet, almost all of those fantasies involve a woman – somehow.

My physical intimacy and comfort levels with men are not very high – I have many male friends whom I can flirt with, and hugs are always welcome. Where purely sex is involved, when I am in desperate need of being taken, I do not think I would have a problem with feeling him deep inside of me. But generally there is where the fantasy begins, and ends. Intimate contact like kissing and touch would make me extremely uncomfortable. I would have a hard time giving him pleasure and making him feel satisfied. Giving oral sex would be out of the question. The last time I had sex with a man, his comment to me (in a very gentle way) You’re making love to me like I am a woman. And he was right. That was my sign to not do it again.

I feel smothered when I am around men for a long period of time. I do not find it easy to live in the same house as a man. It’s the intimacy of it that makes me uncomfortable – things like smell, clothes, etc. It’s not unpleasant. It just feels wrong.

If I am not mistaken, that is what you are exploring – the physical attraction. But it’s never purely physical, and what I like in my fantasies where men are concerned, is the element of being wanted, and desired. That plays a huge role for me. What is your psychological element? What is the “mind-fuck” that turns you on? I think if you can explore that, you’re sure to have a good time.

In terms of the sex act in itself, once again, there is a difference between fucking, having sex and making love. When making love, there is an intimacy, and a deep seated need to be gentle, even when the sex is passionate and hot. I want curves, I want soft, smooth skin. I want tender and soft and strong and woman.

Also - be safe . . . I strongly recommend using condoms, not merely for protection reasons like STD’s, pregnancy risk, etc. If it is your first time, the one thing that could seriously freak you out, is when he comes inside of you. Personally, that is just too much for me to deal with. At least with a condom, it’s not messy, and you do not have to deal with that “first hand” so to speak (You would not need to touch it, smell it, etc) Then again, perhaps it’s different for you, and you enjoy it.

How to go about it? I’d also say, when you find a man you feel attracted to – play! Have fun! Relax and have some wine and laugh with him and flirt. Start with gentle hugs and move at your own pace. Do what you feel comfortable with and trust the way your body responds to him. He would need to know when you are ready for him to push for more. I think it’s imperative that he needs to make you feel that he wants you and finds you attractive, but not push too hard when you are not ready.

So yes, - play with him. . . Don’t feel pressurized to do it all in one night or in a week. I think a slow lead up would be best. I wouldn’t suggest a once off date to get fucked. Make it an adventure. That way you would know when and if you want to stop or continue.

I think you are an incredible woman for being able to admit and want to explore and be open to this . . .

 

[TheEarl]

Quote:
Originally Posted by rgraham666

See if you can find a guy like that, one whose ego won't be crushed if you tell him not to do something. Or that you've changed your mind. Kinda rare, but not unknown.


but how do you know??

Find a close friend. Buy him cake and reserve the right to back out at any time. I think you'd probably be better trying to do it with someone you already know very well, than starting off with someone new and trying to work from there. The friend is more likely to understand the parameters of the deal.

The Earl

 

[TheEarl]

Is this where I confess to not harboring a fantasy of having sex with a lesbian (or the classic threesome), but having the fantasy of being a lesbian? I guess it is.

Ditto

The Earl

 

[Guest]

Where purely sex is involved, when I am in desperate need of being taken, I do not think I would have a problem with feeling him deep inside of me.

Thats hot!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think you are an incredible woman for being able to admit and want to explore and be open to this . . .

thankzzzz loverly

 

[Guest]

Find a close friend. Buy him cake and reserve the right to back out at any time. I think you'd probably be better trying to do it with someone you already know very well, than starting off with someone new and trying to work from there. The friend is more likely to understand the parameters of the deal.

The Earl

i dont know any guys i feel that i wanna fuck

but u gotta point

 

[impressive]

I like the idea of going with a chick and a guy. That makes a lot of sense as you'd have the experienced girl there to help out and instruct you both.

This was my initial response to the question posed. I think it would give you a "safe" way to determine whether or not you wanted to proceed to a strictly M/F encounter.

By the by, when a "taste for cock" was mentioned--it's not a matter of liking being penetrated. A dildo is a bit different. It doesn't respond to you. It doesn't rise or fall or throb or twitch when you touch and stroke it, and it usually doesn't come with pubic hair and sensitive, swinging, tightening, wrinkling balls. It doesn't smell all sweaty and musky and manly, it doens't get all salty and slick with precum and it doesn't ejaculate.

Okay, thanks for that. Now I'm ... hungry.

Fem - - nice thread and very interesting responses from all. My first reaction was a group scene with a man and a woman and that may be the way too go, but then I thought. . .if I was going to be with a woman. . . would I want a man with me observing? . . . My answer was no. I would want the intimacies of being alone with her.

Good point ... but the difference in exploring with someone of the same gender is that you already know how it looks, feels, smells, tastes. It's not foreign to you.

~ ~ ~

If you don't speak the language, but you're going to visit a foreign country for the first time, would you prefer to go alone or with a friend who is fluent?

 

[Guest]

By the by, when a "taste for cock" was mentioned--it's not a matter of liking being penetrated. A dildo is a bit different. It doesn't respond to you. It doesn't rise or fall or throb or twitch when you touch and stroke it, and it usually doesn't come with pubic hair and sensitive, swinging, tightening, wrinkling balls. It doesn't smell all sweaty and musky and manly, it doens't get all salty and slick with precum and it doesn't ejaculate.

One assumes that you're going to be interested in investagating and playing with the thing, not just allowing the guy to penetrate?

I'd bemore comfortable with a man if he didnt have a dick

i know that sounds really freaky but sigh.

i guess im havin second thoughts. and i'll still have em a zillion times

 

[Guest]

I hope that it works out well, and your first (and possibly last) heterosexual experience is what you desire.

thankzzzz handsome

 

[Guest]

In the end though it is all going to come down to trust. . .trust to me will outweigh some of the feelings on hair, size, shape. . .etc. . .trust is the key, you are going to want to feel safe. Just like I would want to feel safe in the arms of my first female encounter.

thats it. thats the big deal

 

[Guest]

I think you should try it, Fem - if only because it'll make you appreciate women that much more afterwards.

Having a threesome is a cop-out. While there's a woman there, you're bound to have a good time.

I slept with various guys up until the age of 20. It was an absolute chore. I kept wondering why people raved about sex, because I felt absolutely nothing with guys. To be honest, having the TV on in the background was the only thing that kept me going.

I've had a lot of guys suggest to me that there was something 'wrong' with the guys I slept with in the past - that they weren't 'real men', or they didn't know what they were doing, or they treated me wrong. But that wasn't the case at all.

It's not a case of women being better in bed than men, or vice versa - both experiences are just entirely different. And I know one does it for me, while the other doesn't.

I can't believe how tactful and diplomatic I'm being on this topic

and yer comin to visit us when???

 

[Guest]

I'm not sure I agree with the idea that an emotional connection would make the experience better/ more meaningful to you. I agree that trust is an absolute necessity, and so is respect. I suggest that the man you choose to be with understands your situation and you should both have an understanding about what you both want/ need from the experience. You should feel safe with him, and have peace of mind knowing that you would be able to stop if you wanted to.

I distinguish between emotional/ spiritual and affectionate attraction and physical attraction. I prefer to feel all of that towards the person I am with, because for me, that makes the experience meaningful, intense and passionate. Personally, I do not have that affectionate attraction towards men. (I believe this is all about who we are predisposed to fall in love with)

In terms of sex, for me personally, I am fluid enough to admit that certain straight -sex scenarios could turn me on under the right circumstance, and with the right man. Yet, almost all of those fantasies involve a woman – somehow.

My physical intimacy and comfort levels with men are not very high – I have many male friends whom I can flirt with, and hugs are always welcome. Where purely sex is involved, when I am in desperate need of being taken, I do not think I would have a problem with feeling him deep inside of me. But generally there is where the fantasy begins, and ends. Intimate contact like kissing and touch would make me extremely uncomfortable. I would have a hard time giving him pleasure and making him feel satisfied. Giving oral sex would be out of the question. The last time I had sex with a man, his comment to me (in a very gentle way) You’re making love to me like I am a woman. And he was right. That was my sign to not do it again.

I feel smothered when I am around men for a long period of time. I do not find it easy to live in the same house as a man. It’s the intimacy of it that makes me uncomfortable – things like smell, clothes, etc. It’s not unpleasant. It just feels wrong.

If I am not mistaken, that is what you are exploring – the physical attraction. But it’s never purely physical, and what I like in my fantasies where men are concerned, is the element of being wanted, and desired. That plays a huge role for me. What is your psychological element? What is the “mind-fuck” that turns you on? I think if you can explore that, you’re sure to have a good time.

In terms of the sex act in itself, once again, there is a difference between fucking, having sex and making love. When making love, there is an intimacy, and a deep seated need to be gentle, even when the sex is passionate and hot. I want curves, I want soft, smooth skin. I want tender and soft and strong and woman.

Also - be safe . . . I strongly recommend using condoms, not merely for protection reasons like STD’s, pregnancy risk, etc. If it is your first time, the one thing that could seriously freak you out, is when he comes inside of you. Personally, that is just too much for me to deal with. At least with a condom, it’s not messy, and you do not have to deal with that “first hand” so to speak (You would not need to touch it, smell it, etc) Then again, perhaps it’s different for you, and you enjoy it.

How to go about it? I’d also say, when you find a man you feel attracted to – play! Have fun! Relax and have some wine and laugh with him and flirt. Start with gentle hugs and move at your own pace. Do what you feel comfortable with and trust the way your body responds to him. He would need to know when you are ready for him to push for more. I think it’s imperative that he needs to make you feel that he wants you and finds you attractive, but not push too hard when you are not ready.

So yes, - play with him. . . Don’t feel pressurized to do it all in one night or in a week. I think a slow lead up would be best. I wouldn’t suggest a once off date to get fucked. Make it an adventure. That way you would know when and if you want to stop or continue.

I think you are an incredible woman for being able to admit and want to explore and be open to this . . .

u make so much sense!!! and u know me well

thankz for sharing how you feel, beautiful.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I'm sorry, I have very little experience with lesbians. My best friend has sent a couple of girls running in that direction, but I'm unaware of anyone changing any lesbians back to straight.

There's a reason for this.

 

[ltnsfr007]

I'd bemore comfortable with a man if he didnt have a dick

i know that sounds really freaky but sigh.

i guess im havin second thoughts. and i'll still have em a zillion times

Hehehe, sure you can find some that had IT taken off.

(you're scary)