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[shadow_dreamer]

Re: Ahhh what sweet people you are

Originally posted by Spenser41
To be thinking of me like you do... Man I am blessed with sweet can caring friends.

Well I went to the first job, and give them my app. They said thank you, the owner is on vacation and will look at apps when she gets back.
The other place says they still plan on talking to the people who applied but not until after the holidays. So not sure when that will happen. And for that job I did one interview and passed and then did a test and passed so waiting for final interview.
However in that job, there were over 60 people who passed and only 40 will be hired. Not sure where I place on that list.

I will be honest if this does not pan out, then I am going to focus on my own business in computer repair. I have been doing this for a long time but work has not been that plentiful.
But, if I get out there and start beating the streets and try to get some ads out... (money) then maybe I can get more work coming in. But that is if these other two fall thru....
So we will see what happens and again... thanks for all the good thoughts and posts...

It's not easy to sit and wait but like toni said if they don't choose you then they are CRAZY! You'll still be in my thoughts and prayers and wishing you all the luck.

I'm trying to keep myself occupied so I don't think too mich about a friend and co-worker who suddenly passed away yesterday. My poor SO was the one who was the bearer of sad news and as usual I kept up a good facade. Now that I am alone at home it's really hitting me hard. My heart is very sad and my tears seem to be endless.

Take care everyone, my countdown has begun (only 15 days to surgery date). Feeling anxious yet scared. Ah what we have to go through in life.

Aloha everyone!
shadow



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[Spenser41]

Re: Re: Ahhh what sweet people you are

It's not easy to sit and wait but like toni said if they don't choose you then they are CRAZY! You'll still be in my thoughts and prayers and wishing you all the luck.

I'm trying to keep myself occupied so I don't think too mich about a friend and co-worker who suddenly passed away yesterday. My poor SO was the one who was the bearer of sad news and as usual I kept up a good facade. Now that I am alone at home it's really hitting me hard. My heart is very sad and my tears seem to be endless.

Take care everyone, my countdown has begun (only 15 days to surgery date). Feeling anxious yet scared. Ah what we have to go through in life.

Aloha everyone!
shadow



Shadow.
Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and you will be in mine as well with your upcoming surgery. Also I know how you feel when someone you know well passes away suddenly. It is a major shock the system. You will be in my prayers as well, hon.
Love ya...

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[tonitits]

Re: Re: Ahhh what sweet people you are

It's not easy to sit and wait but like toni said if they don't choose you then they are CRAZY! You'll still be in my thoughts and prayers and wishing you all the luck.

I'm trying to keep myself occupied so I don't think too mich about a friend and co-worker who suddenly passed away yesterday. My poor SO was the one who was the bearer of sad news and as usual I kept up a good facade. Now that I am alone at home it's really hitting me hard. My heart is very sad and my tears seem to be endless.

Take care everyone, my countdown has begun (only 15 days to surgery date). Feeling anxious yet scared. Ah what we have to go through in life.

Aloha everyone!
shadow



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((((((((((Shadow)))))))))))) I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Let the tears flow, it does help to get it out. Just remember the good times and know that she will always be with you. Now she will be your guardian angel watching over you. Good luck with the surgery. I know it is scary waiting and anticipating it but it will be over soon and you will be much better. Hang in there sweetie!

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Thank you Spencer and Toni for your support. I've gotten most of my tears out and have been able to talk things out with another co-worker and my SO who knows me quite well. He knows I tend to keep things bottled up and put up a good front when it comes to my emotions and he's been there by my side holding me up and getting me to talk.

Strange how I open up and talk nowadays compared to when I was with my ex for 17 years (all we did was chit chat and nothing heartwarming or close; he'd bitch about so and so and it was "I, me, mine and I'm always right" whenever he spoke). I suppose I've come a long way in trusting someone which is not high on my list. Never knew there was such thing as compatability in a relationship until my SO came into my life. What really scares me is we don't argue; we discuss everything under the sun and may not agree but fighting and arguing has not happened since we met 5 years ago...very strange, huh?

Yes my upcoming surgery is nerve wracking and what makes it worse is the pre-op steps of visiting the vampires (blood work, lab stuffs) since my previous surgery was postponed once due to elevated high white cells (just receovered from flu) and going through other tests I've never gone thru before. Luckily I have friends like you and my SO to keep the jitters to a minimum. I'll keep you posted as time progresses and before I go under "da knife".

aloha and love to you both,
shadow

 

[shadow_dreamer]

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY EVERYONE! STAY SAFE AND ENJOY!!!!!


Aloha from Hawaii where we play with fireworks in our own yards as well as going places and watching the aerial shows around the island!

 

[tonitits]

Thank you Spencer and Toni for your support. I've gotten most of my tears out and have been able to talk things out with another co-worker and my SO who knows me quite well. He knows I tend to keep things bottled up and put up a good front when it comes to my emotions and he's been there by my side holding me up and getting me to talk.

Strange how I open up and talk nowadays compared to when I was with my ex for 17 years (all we did was chit chat and nothing heartwarming or close; he'd bitch about so and so and it was "I, me, mine and I'm always right" whenever he spoke). I suppose I've come a long way in trusting someone which is not high on my list. Never knew there was such thing as compatability in a relationship until my SO came into my life. What really scares me is we don't argue; we discuss everything under the sun and may not agree but fighting and arguing has not happened since we met 5 years ago...very strange, huh?

Yes my upcoming surgery is nerve wracking and what makes it worse is the pre-op steps of visiting the vampires (blood work, lab stuffs) since my previous surgery was postponed once due to elevated high white cells (just receovered from flu) and going through other tests I've never gone thru before. Luckily I have friends like you and my SO to keep the jitters to a minimum. I'll keep you posted as time progresses and before I go under "da knife".

aloha and love to you both,
shadow

We are here for you anytime sweetie! I know what you mean about opening up. I never really have had a hard time opening up to ppl once I get to know them, I am very shy. But I have a hard time trusting ppl with my heart and letting them in. I have been hurt too many times due to trusting everyone and I now have a tendency to build walls around my heart and just shut down and give up on love. I am struggling right now to keep from doing that with my heart. Because I know you have to be open and ready to accept love when it does come along otherwise you will be like I used to be and just going through life without really living.

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Originally posted by tonitits
We are here for you anytime sweetie! I know what you mean about opening up. I never really have had a hard time opening up to ppl once I get to know them, I am very shy. But I have a hard time trusting ppl with my heart and letting them in. I have been hurt too many times due to trusting everyone and I now have a tendency to build walls around my heart and just shut down and give up on love. I am struggling right now to keep from doing that with my heart. Because I know you have to be open and ready to accept love when it does come along otherwise you will be like I used to be and just going through life without really living.

I hear ya! I'm terminally shy when I'm in a group of people I really don't know. I'm the type to just sit on the sidelines and watch. It takes a long time before I can begin to trust someone and even then I find I can't fully trust them whidch is not good when it comes to my SO. But he knows the things he does and says that triggers my inability to trust. I've been hurt badly and one too many times so we are alike you and I.

No one was able to break thru the walls I built for many, many years until I met my bf who slowly tore the walls down brick by brick. I used to write poetry that revealed the life I was living and the pain I was enduring and no one ever read it until my bf. He admitted it brought tears to his eyes and felt what I had and was going through and it brought us closer and made me feel comfortable enough to talk to him.

It's a roller coaster ride for me but I'm happy to say the ride is getting smoother emotionally and just celebrated 5 years with my bf. Compatablity is what we share and although it seems strange we have not had an argument or fight at all. We discuss things and come to an agreement of sorts without compromise.

Love comes mysteriously but for people like us who are shy and have been hurt too many times we have to learn to overcome the hurdles and open your arms and heart to that certain someone. It's not easy to accept love much less give it in our case but we have to let the door open once in awhile or we may end up alone and wondering "what if?"

We are more cautious when it comes to the heart. Don't block out the world; let the sunshine in a little and feel the warmth of love.

shadow

 

[Spenser41]

Happy 4th to everyone!

Dear Shy ones...

How that is NOT me! According to my Grandfather, there was never a stranger when I was around. I talked to everyone. Even as a little kid. Now when I got into school, and because of moving almost every year, I found it easier to just blend into the background then stand out.
But that changed once we stopped moving and I got settled. I started to come out and now, I am back to my ole "make a friend out of everyone" me.
One time some friends and I were standing in line for a movie. We were going to be there a long time. So... I just turned around and started talking to the people behind me, and then the people behind them started in and before I knew it I had a group of people talking. My friend's boyfriend said... "He knows no strangers."
I guess I have always been that way. People have always opened up to me. Even on the radio, people would call in and just start telling me their troubles. A friend of mine said you know why that is? I said no. They said it is your warm caring heart.
Have I gotten used? OH HELL YEA! LOL
Have I been lied to? You bettcha!
Have I been hurt? OH yea... many, many, many times.
Have a put a wall up and am I less trusting? No... not really.

See (and I am not really sure why this is) women when they trust for the most part, trust completely. When that trust is broken, they tend to close up and throw away the key. From that point forward... all men (or so they say) are heart breakers and from that point forward they MUST prove themselves worthy of trust.
Which to be really honest is not fair to that person nor is it healthy for the woman. (ok so I watch Dr. Phil)
Men however do not blame all women for being hurt by one woman, but women (not all women) tend to blame men (not all but most) has liars, cheaters, and promise and heart breakers.
Instead of seeing that mistrust coming from ONE man, ALL men tend to get branded that way. (by the way I am not saying that Toni or Shadow are like this) but I have had way too many talks with women who do see things this way.
Sad to say, many of them run off nice guys because they were men and men are you know whats.
It is good when a person (man or woman) can put the hurt behind them and realize that not all (men or women) are the way the last SO and that we should accept people for who they are UNTIL they have proven not to be trusted.

Ok that said and soap box put away, I am glad the two of you have someone in your lives that you can trust and love. And you know I only wish the best for you. But I put this information on here incase those who are just passing by are stuck in a "I do not trust men" mode and might want to rethink what is really going on here. It is more of not trusting YOURSELF with the other sex because you are scared you may make another mistake and get hurt again. So if the walls are there and you do not let someone else back in, it is easier to live with yourself and being lonely, then being brokenhearted. Only when you let the hurt go, forgive the other person and YOURSELF for the past and PUT IT BEHIND YOU, can you move forward into a healthy relationship.

MMM maybe I need to watch less of Dr. Phil and more of Walker Texas Ranger. LOL

Anyway... happy 4th!

 

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[tonitits]

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[tonitits]

Hope all is well with you. Hope you are able to get online a bit soon. Good luck in whatever you do.

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[Spenser41]

Hope all is well with you. Hope you are able to get online a bit soon. Good luck in whatever you do.

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Sorry I was not on hon... hope all is ok and look for me later..

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Re: Happy 4th to everyone!

Originally posted by Spenser41
Dear Shy ones...

How that is NOT me! According to my Grandfather, there was never a stranger when I was around. I talked to everyone. Even as a little kid. Now when I got into school, and because of moving almost every year, I found it easier to just blend into the background then stand out.
But that changed once we stopped moving and I got settled. I started to come out and now, I am back to my ole "make a friend out of everyone" me.
One time some friends and I were standing in line for a movie. We were going to be there a long time. So... I just turned around and started talking to the people behind me, and then the people behind them started in and before I knew it I had a group of people talking. My friend's boyfriend said... "He knows no strangers."
I guess I have always been that way. People have always opened up to me. Even on the radio, people would call in and just start telling me their troubles. A friend of mine said you know why that is? I said no. They said it is your warm caring heart.
Have I gotten used? OH HELL YEA! LOL
Have I been lied to? You bettcha!
Have I been hurt? OH yea... many, many, many times.
Have a put a wall up and am I less trusting? No... not really.

See (and I am not really sure why this is) women when they trust for the most part, trust completely. When that trust is broken, they tend to close up and throw away the key. From that point forward... all men (or so they say) are heart breakers and from that point forward they MUST prove themselves worthy of trust.
Which to be really honest is not fair to that person nor is it healthy for the woman. (ok so I watch Dr. Phil)
Men however do not blame all women for being hurt by one woman, but women (not all women) tend to blame men (not all but most) has liars, cheaters, and promise and heart breakers.
Instead of seeing that mistrust coming from ONE man, ALL men tend to get branded that way. (by the way I am not saying that Toni or Shadow are like this) but I have had way too many talks with women who do see things this way.
Sad to say, many of them run off nice guys because they were men and men are you know whats.
It is good when a person (man or woman) can put the hurt behind them and realize that not all (men or women) are the way the last SO and that we should accept people for who they are UNTIL they have proven not to be trusted.

Ok that said and soap box put away, I am glad the two of you have someone in your lives that you can trust and love. And you know I only wish the best for you. But I put this information on here incase those who are just passing by are stuck in a "I do not trust men" mode and might want to rethink what is really going on here. It is more of not trusting YOURSELF with the other sex because you are scared you may make another mistake and get hurt again. So if the walls are there and you do not let someone else back in, it is easier to live with yourself and being lonely, then being brokenhearted. Only when you let the hurt go, forgive the other person and YOURSELF for the past and PUT IT BEHIND YOU, can you move forward into a healthy relationship.

MMM maybe I need to watch less of Dr. Phil and more of Walker Texas Ranger. LOL

Anyway... happy 4th!

I kinda came out of my shell when I used to volunteer by conducting classes for people who wanted to learn about the National Weather Service Skywarn Program and how to submit a Severe Weather Report via various communications and doing radio comms for local parades and events and had to deal with the secret service people. That brought me out of my shell and I will talk to people unless I feel intimidated or uneasy. I will strike up a conversation with people standing in line or others like shoppers or tourists. You see I don't have to deal with them in my daily life again and again which makes it easier I suppose.

Now as for a relationship I have a problem with trust and I admit it was due to many, many occasions of being hurt, burned and taken advantage of. I used trust everyone with no qualms, used to be easy going and let everyone run all over me. After 10 years of a marriage made in hell, I learned I need to take my time and see how things go before I can trust someone. I suppose it's because my ex was doing things with my so called best friend tbat was the straw that broke the camel's back when it comes to trust in a relationship.
I know it's wrong but I do give a guy a chance and not shut him out (well that was before I met my SO - now it's letting some guys know what my ring on my left hand ring finger means, lol).

What doesn't help is working with number of guys (with guns - I work in the office of the State Harbor Police) who openly cheat and talk about it and treat women like they're a dime a dozen. It's common thinking here that men in uniform can get any woman he wants and I hate to admit it but it happens more than it should. This also gives me a bad feeling about trusting some men.

It all depends on how the guy comes across...I dislike (hate is such a harsh words to use) arrogant, egotistical, stubborn men who don't understand the word "NO". These are guys I do not trust. All others are given a degree of trust and it builds over time as I get to know then.

You're right about not wanting to make the same mistake and getting hurt again and it stemming from our own selves. I was hurt a number of times mentally, emotionally and physically that left deep scars. I do not look at all men being that way; they are individuals. Trust is something to share and if one proves not to be trustworthy then it's time to sit down, talk and make a decision.

Hope this makes sense...if it doesn't I apologize. My meds are really working. I'm counting down the days (10 as of today) to when I'll be laid up for quite some time and in the meantime I'm popping a lot of pain pills (Advil, tyleno PM kind of pills) as well as nerve pain med. So if I babble I'm sorry.

Hope everyone had a fun and safe 4th of July! It was pretty quiet in this neighborhood but reportedly there were at least 56 fires here on this isle alone. Luckily not one was hurt.

Aloha,
shadow



(cheering and doing the hula for: Spencer and Toni and everyone on the thread)

 

[tonitits]

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[Spenser41]

Morning ALl

Well Shadow,
I am sorry that has happened to you. And I hope you did not take it that I am "coming down" on anyone for their walls.
I know there are men out there that cheat. But I know there are women out there that do it too.
And I also know there are women out there that do have a thing for men who are cops or men in uniforms and some of them know that they are married but do it with them no matter because of the thing they have for being with a cop.
I am not saying the men are right in what they are doing. Not at all. Matter of fact I hear that cops who are married rarely stay that way due to tons of things. THe stress, the danger, the hours and so on. That does not give them the excuse to do it and not siding with them. But to cheat it takes two.
Now a days it is harder and harder to make a marriage work. Having been married 2 times and my parents many times to other people and heck most of the people here on lit, it is rare to find a marriage that does work.
I had lunch with a friend the other day and we were talking about our failures in marriage and relationships and some people just make crappy choices and tend to choose the wrong kinds of people.
I heard a person speak on relationships once and she said women who have many bad relationships tend to choose the wrong kinds of people. They are attracked to people who will hurt them and there are many reasons for this. Family history, past history, poor self esteem, and the list goes on.
And some people just suck in relationships and are better off not being married. I know one woman who has been married 4 times and every time she married someone it was alway an abuser.
I guess it comes down to this... do what you feel in your heart you can do to make your life managable.
But if you tend to keep having poor relationships (and I am not saying this about you or anyone on the thread) then either seek professional help and see why you do what you do, why you choose who you choose or stop going for the same kinds of people.
I do know a woman that all she will date or marry are cops. And every single relationship bombs. And when it does she is just ruined. I told her to go see a professional but I also said, stop dating men because they are cops. Date other types of men.
But she said she can't. Other men to her are not true men. Only cops. And so you see her problem.
The woman that married only abusers took the advice of her shrink and just stopped dating all together. And she has not and it has been 5 yrs. She is learning about herself and why she has this destructive path that makes her put herself in harms way.
She is now ok with never marrying again if it means staying alive or being killed by her next relationship. Sometimes you have to make those kinds of hard choices.

In the end of this deep subject... I hope everyone finds someone that will love them back the way they wish they were and deserves but the most important thing is, that they love themselves and focus on healing their past and issues and focus on being a whole person. Because there is no way you can be healthly and in a healthy relationship if you are not whole yourself.

Have a good one...

 

[tonitits]

Good morning ya'll. Hope ya'll have a wonderful HUMP day!

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Re: Morning ALl

Originally posted by Spenser41
Well Shadow,
I am sorry that has happened to you. And I hope you did not take it that I am "coming down" on anyone for their walls.
I know there are men out there that cheat. But I know there are women out there that do it too.
And I also know there are women out there that do have a thing for men who are cops or men in uniforms and some of them know that they are married but do it with them no matter because of the thing they have for being with a cop.
I am not saying the men are right in what they are doing. Not at all. Matter of fact I hear that cops who are married rarely stay that way due to tons of things. THe stress, the danger, the hours and so on. That does not give them the excuse to do it and not siding with them. But to cheat it takes two.
Now a days it is harder and harder to make a marriage work. Having been married 2 times and my parents many times to other people and heck most of the people here on lit, it is rare to find a marriage that does work.
I had lunch with a friend the other day and we were talking about our failures in marriage and relationships and some people just make crappy choices and tend to choose the wrong kinds of people.
I heard a person speak on relationships once and she said women who have many bad relationships tend to choose the wrong kinds of people. They are attracked to people who will hurt them and there are many reasons for this. Family history, past history, poor self esteem, and the list goes on.
And some people just suck in relationships and are better off not being married. I know one woman who has been married 4 times and every time she married someone it was alway an abuser.
I guess it comes down to this... do what you feel in your heart you can do to make your life managable.
But if you tend to keep having poor relationships (and I am not saying this about you or anyone on the thread) then either seek professional help and see why you do what you do, why you choose who you choose or stop going for the same kinds of people.
I do know a woman that all she will date or marry are cops. And every single relationship bombs. And when it does she is just ruined. I told her to go see a professional but I also said, stop dating men because they are cops. Date other types of men.
But she said she can't. Other men to her are not true men. Only cops. And so you see her problem.
The woman that married only abusers took the advice of her shrink and just stopped dating all together. And she has not and it has been 5 yrs. She is learning about herself and why she has this destructive path that makes her put herself in harms way.
She is now ok with never marrying again if it means staying alive or being killed by her next relationship. Sometimes you have to make those kinds of hard choices.

In the end of this deep subject... I hope everyone finds someone that will love them back the way they wish they were and deserves but the most important thing is, that they love themselves and focus on healing their past and issues and focus on being a whole person. Because there is no way you can be healthly and in a healthy relationship if you are not whole yourself.

Have a good one...

Morning Spencer!

Rest assured I didn't take it personally about anything you wrote or about building that infamous wall. You are correct about each of us need to heal and love ourselves before we are able to truly love others. We carry so much baggage from our past that it's best to face it, seek help if necessary and move on with our lives.

I admit I had a tendency to go for the "bad boy" image and discovered it was because I led such a "strict and over protected" life that I seeked out this type of guy. It was one way of my rebelling against my Catholic/Spanish upbringing as I was told.

Yes I have a thing for guys with long hair (as you can see my bf has long hair) but that bad boy look is not what I go for nowadays. Let's just say when I was going through my divorce, I made a checklist (a short one) that I used when I met my bf and learned he wanted to be a major part of my life. I've grown up and learned by my mistakes and try not to repeat them again and this checklist helped.

Both sexes do cheat and sad to say yes cops marriages/relationships rarely last. I've been there, done that (had a bf who was a cop) and I know of only one couple who are still together (and he just retired) and they admitted it took both parties to work together to make it a lasting relationship. I know a lot of cops here on the island and on the outer islands (my bf teases me and asks "is there anyone who doesn't know you?") and it's heartbreaking to see women going for cops knowing it's not an easy relationship to be in. It takes a lot of patience, open communication and then some in order to make it last.

Most people have a difficult time trusting others after being cheated on, lied to and so forth. I was one of those. I never thought I'd be able to trust a man again, especially if I was in a relationship, and when I first met my bf he too admitted his inability to trust people. I've had my ups and downs and felt threathened by other women (in person and on-line) but I did something I rarely was able to do in my past relatiolnships. I opened up and talked to him about my feelings and thoughts. We had a heartfelt discussion and eventually my fears subsided. On occasion we sit down to discuss things (without arguing or making compromises just to appease the other). This is what makes this relationship solid. ..open communication.

As for the woman who has a thing for cops and cops alone, she needs help. Somewhere, sometime during her life something must have happened for her to make up her mind she would only date cops. It's sad to see and hear these things about women wanting to date only certain types of me and women who will date only a select few without giving others a chance.

My sisters all call me the renegade, the rebel because I've always went against the teachings (as they call it) of my parents which meant dating/marrying my own race and a man who was a doctor, lawyer or well off. I know one can't live on love but to only date/marry someone of my own race and of financial stature is not my thing.

Race, creed, political preference and so forth is not of importance to me. What matters now is someone who is willing to love me as I am, allow me to grow, share our feelings, able to communicate honestly, provide the support I need emotionally and mentally and to allow me to do the same for him.

And you know what, when my friend/co-worker first told me about a certain guy (whom she called my secret admirer) and later set up a lunch date for the three of us so I could meet him I was very, very hesitant. Despite my reluctance I went along with her plan and who would have believed it; now here I am 5 years later with the guy who was once known as my secret admirer. I've been able to let go of my past and not dwell on the bad memories (although occasionally I get a bad dream about past events). When I falter and tend to take a step backward and begin to put a brick into place and try to build a wall my bf is there to help me pull back and toss the brick away, breaking it into pieces. I'm glad I did not say no to my friend; if I did I probably would not be here today.

Spencer you are a great friend and I welcome your thoughts and comments. I hope others will be able to find someone who will love, nuture and grow with them as I have. We must all take a step forward in order for the healing process to begin. We may be afraid of being hurt again but don't let that run your life. If you do you may miss out on life and being with that special someone.

Okay I'm done with my soap box and I've been too long winded so I'll step down and put it aside for anyone else who wishes to use it. Take care and the love in this thread is one of uniqueness...we have not met face to face but there is an invisible bond amongst us.

Aloha,
shadow

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Originally posted by tonitits
Good morning ya'll. Hope ya'll have a wonderful HUMP day!

MORNING, MORNING, MORNING TONI! Wishing you and everyone a happy HUMP day! Does this mean it's HUMP time?

 

[tonitits]

MORNING, MORNING, MORNING TONI! Wishing you and everyone a happy HUMP day! Does this mean it's HUMP time?

here at Lit that is what it means!!!! In the real world to most ppl this the hump of the week and the rest of it is all down hill to the weekend. But for me today is my Monday! Have a good evening. Hope that you are not in too much pain.

 

[Spenser41]

Re: Re: Morning ALl

Morning Spencer!

...and the love in this thread is one of uniqueness...we have not met face to face but there is an invisible bond amongst us.

Aloha,
shadow

And for that reason I am glad I kept the place open.

Thanks for sharing your story and glad you have a happy relationship in your life now.

Your in my thoughts and prayers...

 

[flywater]

Spencer, just wanted to say there should be many people thanking you for being around! I just have read the last couple posts on this page and I am impressed at your understanding and being able to verbalize the hardest of human emotions ... trust..... thank you for doing something few pwople are willing to do, that is be honest!

 

[Spenser41]

Spencer, just wanted to say there should be many people thanking you for being around! I just have read the last couple posts on this page and I am impressed at your understanding and being able to verbalize the hardest of human emotions ... trust..... thank you for doing something few pwople are willing to do, that is be honest!

Hey Flywater... (by the way.. what does that mean?)
Thanks for popping in on the Pub and thanks for the kind words.
I do not claim to have it all together - far from it - and I will say I have not been honest all the time. I am just a normal guy just trying to feel his way through this place we call home and trying to be sensitive to others needs.
I have always been more intouch with my emotions then most guys... ( I am a musician and I hear creative people tend to be that way... well they also said we can be mood jerks as well. LOL)
But thanks again for sharing... come back anytime.
By the way I see you play the violin (or is that a fiddle?)
Take care

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Originally posted by tonitits
here at Lit that is what it means!!!! In the real world to most ppl this the hump of the week and the rest of it is all down hill to the weekend. But for me today is my Monday! Have a good evening. Hope that you are not in too much pain.

Well unfortunately I won't be having much fun this weekend since my SO has to work. Oh well there are other ways I can have fun at home

What a day to start your week! I used to have a Tuesday thru Saturday work week and for awhile it was okay until I got bored going out without my friends who worked your typical Monday thru Friday. Nowadays I just sit or actually lay around and wait for my SO to take me by the hand and whisk me away for a few hours of play in the sun then come home and pay the price, lol.

Thanks for your concern...I've grown accustomed to living with pain on a constant basis but when I overdo things I have no one else to blame but myself. What can I say? I'm one of those ppl who just can't keep still...have to keep doing something. Most times lately I spend it in bed, heavily medicated and end up sleeping.
Hmmm maybe that's where I get my ideas for my stories, lol.

Don't work too hard and enjoy life to its fullest!

<<<<<<<<HUGS TO TONI, SPENCER AND EVERYONE HERE IN OUR COZY LITTLE CORNER OF THE CYBERWORLD!>>>>>>>>

Aloha,
shadow

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Re: Re: Re: Morning ALl

Originally posted by Spenser41
And for that reason I am glad I kept the place open.

Thanks for sharing your story and glad you have a happy relationship in your life now.

Your in my thoughts and prayers...

I'm glad, as well as Toni and everyone else, you kept this pub open for use to come in and make new friends. Here in Hawaii we consider close friends as family and that is what I see y'all as, my family.

Hope things are going well for you and looking up.

You are also in my prayers and thoughts...

Take care!

 

[shadow_dreamer]

Originally posted by flywater
Spencer, just wanted to say there should be many people thanking you for being around! I just have read the last couple posts on this page and I am impressed at your understanding and being able to verbalize the hardest of human emotions ... trust..... thank you for doing something few pwople are willing to do, that is be honest!

Welcome flywater! This is one place we can come to and let our emotions out...pull the soap box out and let it all out.

Spencer is ranked as a rare item because he is in touch with his emotions and willing to share his thoughts, feelings, comments and suggestions with us. I have only met 3 men (Spencer, my SO and a long time very close friend) that are honest and willing to share their feelings, thoughts, etc.

Being honest is one thing ppl find difficult to do but it may be due to something in their past. Honesty is the best policy even when it hurts which I've been told to be constructive criticism.