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[HottieMama]

*waves* to HottieMomma and *waves* to Evil_Geoff

How are you both on restful Sunday?

Ehhh...i'm ok..tired...and my 7 month old doesn't want to sleep...

 

[sexycaz22]

Ehhh...i'm ok..tired...and my 7 month old doesn't want to sleep...

Oh...dear....

I do know how you feel regarding feeling tired, I had some late nights this week AND I had to get up early to go to university!! In fact, I had to go to bed at 9pm last night and just when I enjoyed myself playing out a scene with one guy I knew quite for a long time from Lit.boards *laughs*

Hope your baby gets settled down soon, so you can rest peacefully. *hugz*

 

[intothewoods]

I've been a wreck all weekend. I developed this odd obsessive crush on the guy who Topped me last weekend. Luckily, I didn't make an ass out of myself. But FM reminded me how much I have going on.

I think I'm really facing being alone. Like no relationship, no intimacy. And it's so hard. I have been so dependent on someone else for my emotional needs for so long. Saying I am good enough because I said so is one thing. Believing it is another.

I think this is going to be a rough week.

 

[ShyVixen]

I've been a wreck all weekend. I developed this odd obsessive crush on the guy who Topped me last weekend. Luckily, I didn't make an ass out of myself. But FM reminded me how much I have going on.

I think I'm really facing being alone. Like no relationship, no intimacy. And it's so hard. I have been so dependent on someone else for my emotional needs for so long. Saying I am good enough because I said so is one thing. Believing it is another.

I think this is going to be a rough week.

((hugs)) I'm sorry to hear that, intothewoods.

It's always hard to believe we are good enough. It may be rough, but try to have faith in yourself - not as easy as it sounds sometimes, I know.

 

[HottieMama]

((((ITW)))) Wish i had some words of wisdom...

In the past 5 days, i have realized something..and i don't know if it will make sense to anyone but me...but here goes. i think "breaking up" is MUCH harder when you're a sub. i say this because of my previous relationship and the fact that many "normal" day-to-day activities were considered "rules" by him. So those activities then became associated with him and with pleasing him...no matter if i did it every day before him or not. Now...it's over, and i still have to do those things...and EVERY LAST ONE is a reminder of what i used to have...but i can't avoid them....and IT FUCKING SUCKS!!!!!!!! Just goddamn BLOWS... FUCK....

Sorry...woke up this morning and it feels like someone ripped the scab off...and i hurt all over again.

 

[CutieMouse]

I've been a wreck all weekend. I developed this odd obsessive crush on the guy who Topped me last weekend. Luckily, I didn't make an ass out of myself. But FM reminded me how much I have going on.

I think I'm really facing being alone. Like no relationship, no intimacy. And it's so hard. I have been so dependent on someone else for my emotional needs for so long. Saying I am good enough because I said so is one thing. Believing it is another.

I think this is going to be a rough week.

Breathe. It is so incredibly frightening to be "alone", but if you have reached a place where you realize you are dependent on someone else for your emotional needs, you need to be alone for a bit. You are a wonderful, fabulous, strong person... if you can learn to trust yourself to meet your own emotional needs, you'll stop settling just to get that emotional "fix", and oh wow do quality men come out of the woodwork, when they see a gentle woman with a solid core of self-actualized emotional strength...



~M

 

[CutieMouse]

((((ITW)))) Wish i had some words of wisdom...

In the past 5 days, i have realized something..and i don't know if it will make sense to anyone but me...but here goes. i think "breaking up" is MUCH harder when you're a sub. i say this because of my previous relationship and the fact that many "normal" day-to-day activities were considered "rules" by him. So those activities then became associated with him and with pleasing him...no matter if i did it every day before him or not. Now...it's over, and i still have to do those things...and EVERY LAST ONE is a reminder of what i used to have...but i can't avoid them....and IT FUCKING SUCKS!!!!!!!! Just goddamn BLOWS... FUCK....

Sorry...woke up this morning and it feels like someone ripped the scab off...and i hurt all over again.

I'm gonna repeat the "breathe" thing.

I know exactly how you're feeling; there are things I thought I'd always associate with X, but once my heart healed, and I was over him... they went back to being the same old everyday things they always were. When I felt that horrible sorrow while I did XYZ, it helped me to think "Huh- I get to do this for ME now. Which means I can do it however, whenever, whatever I like..." and I slowly reclaimed the activity. Just tweaked it a bit, put a bit of my own spirit into things... it helped, a lot.



~M

 

[littleone77]

I need to get out of the PG and discover more of Lit me thinks. Perhaps if I had discovered this thread months ago, I could have been where I am a whole lot sooner, lol.

A little about me...College student, submissive (obviously), cat person, and very open minded. Recently, as in almost three months ago, I finally got the sense to leave an almost abusive, going no where LDR. Now I am in the sort of relationship I've always dreamed of.

Does anyone mind if I lurk a bit?

 

[HottieMama]

I need to get out of the PG and discover more of Lit me thinks. Perhaps if I had discovered this thread months ago, I could have been where I am a whole lot sooner, lol.

A little about me...College student, submissive (obviously), cat person, and very open minded. Recently, as in almost three months ago, I finally got the sense to leave an almost abusive, going no where LDR. Now I am in the sort of relationship I've always dreamed of.

Does anyone mind if I lurk a bit?

((((((((((((((((((littleone))))))))))))))))) i don't mind in the least...you know i love you, girl.

Besides...who else am i going to plot evil shit with?

 

[littleone77]

((((((((((((((((((littleone))))))))))))))))) i don't mind in the least...you know i love you, girl.

Besides...who else am i going to plot evil shit with?

*chuckles with hugs* Do you love me almost as much as double fudge brownies?

Ya, me the co-conspirator for evil shit planning. Yep. Just call on me if you need me you all. I can crank out some dosies *rolls eyes*

 

[HottieMama]

*chuckles with hugs* Do you love me almost as much as double fudge brownies?

Ya, me the co-conspirator for evil shit planning. Yep. Just call on me if you need me you all. I can crank out some dosies *rolls eyes*

ALMOST as much....ALMOST...

 

[HottieMama]

I'm gonna repeat the "breathe" thing.

I know exactly how you're feeling; there are things I thought I'd always associate with X, but once my heart healed, and I was over him... they went back to being the same old everyday things they always were. When I felt that horrible sorrow while I did XYZ, it helped me to think "Huh- I get to do this for ME now. Which means I can do it however, whenever, whatever I like..." and I slowly reclaimed the activity. Just tweaked it a bit, put a bit of my own spirit into things... it helped, a lot.



~M

i keep trying to tell myself that i am doing it for me now...sometimes it works..others it doesn't... It's that whole scab analogy all over again.

Thanks for the advice, M. It really does help.

 

[intothewoods]

Breathe. It is so incredibly frightening to be "alone", but if you have reached a place where you realize you are dependent on someone else for your emotional needs, you need to be alone for a bit. You are a wonderful, fabulous, strong person... if you can learn to trust yourself to meet your own emotional needs, you'll stop settling just to get that emotional "fix", and oh wow do quality men come out of the woodwork, when they see a gentle woman with a solid core of self-actualized emotional strength...



~M

I know I need to be alone. I really do. I'm just all of a sudden starved for physical contact! I'm just so up and down right now. But I know I will get through this. Thanks, Cutie, and HM!

 

[intothewoods]

Well, at least my crush called me back, so I don't feel like a complete loser. I told him I was coming out of a long term relationship, and was just a bit stir crazy for play at the moment. He was sweet about it, and we might play later this week.

Anyway, I'm just glad to not be totally humilated!

I need to get a grip!!!

I actually just made friends with a Domme who is super cool, and we'll probably play at an upcoming party. I don't know. I got a great vibe from her. Like she could beat my tushy and I'd be able to get a sense of where I'm at (how much I can take, etc), but because she's not a guy (and I'm so damn hetero) I won't have weird misplaced love-esque feelings for her.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*passes his business card around...*
.__________________________
|....Evil_Geoff, Dom For Hire!....|
|...Have Toy Bag, Will Travel!...|
|.....No Scene To Extreme!!.....|
|..........No Fee To High!..........|
| email - Evil_Geoff@xxxxx.com |

Free Samples will be available July 14th, at 1763...

 

[BiBunny]

*passes his business card around...*
.__________________________
|....Evil_Geoff, Dom For Hire!....|
|...Have Toy Bag, Will Travel!...|
|.....No Scene To Extreme!!.....|
|..........No Fee To High!..........|
| email - Evil_Geoff@xxxxx.com |

Free Samples will be available July 14th, at 1763...

*Drool* Any chance you'll be coming to Alabama soon?

 

[HottieMama]

*passes his business card around...*
.__________________________
|....Evil_Geoff, Dom For Hire!....|
|...Have Toy Bag, Will Travel!...|
|.....No Scene To Extreme!!.....|
|..........No Fee To High!..........|
| email - Evil_Geoff@xxxxx.com |

Free Samples will be available July 14th, at 1763...

Wichita KS for a night...err...a weekend???

 

[intothewoods]

*passes his business card around...*
.__________________________
|....Evil_Geoff, Dom For Hire!....|
|...Have Toy Bag, Will Travel!...|
|.....No Scene To Extreme!!.....|
|..........No Fee To High!..........|
| email - Evil_Geoff@xxxxx.com |

Free Samples will be available July 14th, at 1763...

1763 looks like fun, but a wee too far for me to travel.

 

[wenchhh]

ITW, I just wanted to say that I can SO relate to the things you've been feeling/saying. Ya'll might remember the crazy first experience sub frenzy (thanks cm for the definition) I went thru A couple of months ago. Well, it seems that his attn has been pulled elsewhere, life is too busy right now for him to keep up the maintenance of a sub, and so I'm kinda left high and dry. (well, not DRY, but you know what I mean) I too ACHE for the physical. Looking around and kinda feeling "once bitten twice shy" as GW used to say... and just wondering HOW to get thru some days. Trying VERY hard not to just latch onto the next self professed dom that invites me to play, because I don't want to do this again, get the fix and then be w/out and left floundering. Plus, I really LIKED this guy I had met. Sigh. yes, you're right, CM... BREATHE... that's good advice. Unfortunately, it's advice HE used to give me too, so... guess I'll stop for awhile. Breathing that is. lol. ha! ITW, just know you're not alone, and I'm open to PMs if you wanna commiserate. Think we'd feel better if we took that cute lil college girl up on her ability to come up with some great revenge tactics? lol. HUGS!

 

[CutieMouse]

*irrationally beaming...*

 

[FluteMaster]

Breathe. It is so incredibly frightening to be "alone", but if you have reached a place where you realize you are dependent on someone else for your emotional needs, you need to be alone for a bit. You are a wonderful, fabulous, strong person... if you can learn to trust yourself to meet your own emotional needs, you'll stop settling just to get that emotional "fix", and oh wow do quality men come out of the woodwork, when they see a gentle woman with a solid core of self-actualized emotional strength...



~M

Thankyou for sharing that CM. I have ben trying to tell ITW that for weeks now. <smile>

She made a courageous and honest step..re-assessing where she is and looking at what she needs. I have been honoured to be there for her, and I want others to know that I believe in her strengths and abilities 100%, along with the love and support of her friends here.

 

[intothewoods]

ITW, I just wanted to say that I can SO relate to the things you've been feeling/saying. Ya'll might remember the crazy first experience sub frenzy (thanks cm for the definition) I went thru A couple of months ago. Well, it seems that his attn has been pulled elsewhere, life is too busy right now for him to keep up the maintenance of a sub, and so I'm kinda left high and dry. (well, not DRY, but you know what I mean) I too ACHE for the physical. Looking around and kinda feeling "once bitten twice shy" as GW used to say... and just wondering HOW to get thru some days. Trying VERY hard not to just latch onto the next self professed dom that invites me to play, because I don't want to do this again, get the fix and then be w/out and left floundering. Plus, I really LIKED this guy I had met. Sigh. yes, you're right, CM... BREATHE... that's good advice. Unfortunately, it's advice HE used to give me too, so... guess I'll stop for awhile. Breathing that is. lol. ha! ITW, just know you're not alone, and I'm open to PMs if you wanna commiserate. Think we'd feel better if we took that cute lil college girl up on her ability to come up with some great revenge tactics? lol. HUGS!

It's so tough. I'm craving physical contact, but I don't want to emotionally latch onto someone.

I'm actually thinking more and more of playing with Top girls. I'm not really into women, so it's pretty emotionally safe, I think.

Although watch me become like a full fledged lesbian or something. Maybe I just haven't met the right girl? Lol - so far kissing girls has been a huge let down. Kind of like when you eat frog legs for the first time. Eh, tastes like chicken. <snicker>

 

[sexycaz22]

It's so tough. I'm craving physical contact, but I don't want to emotionally latch onto someone.

I do know how you feel, I have been craving for physical contact, in fact any of attention from men, I have been without one for such a long time, and I am feeling down in the dumps.

*hugz* I am sure, things will improve for you. And I hope, in my own fantasy world, that I will get the physical contact, however brief it is, when I am on holiday next week.

 

[intothewoods]

Thankyou for sharing that CM. I have ben trying to tell ITW that for weeks now. <smile>

She made a courageous and honest step..re-assessing where she is and looking at what she needs. I have been honoured to be there for her, and I want others to know that I believe in her strengths and abilities 100%, along with the love and support of her friends here.

Thank you...

 

[intothewoods]

I do know how you feel, I have been craving for physical contact, in fact any of attention from men, I have been without one for such a long time, and I am feeling down in the dumps.

*hugz* I am sure, things will improve for you. And I hope, in my own fantasy world, that I will get the physical contact, however brief it is, when I am on holiday next week.

This is probably the first time in my life I've really enjoyed any attention from men! I'm trying to make the most of it.