Submissive/Slave Haven

[Netzach]

There is a giant Dom Kvetching thread. And there was probably the best thread ever on lit which was male top centric. Much complaint and candor and evil.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

There is a giant Dom Kvetching thread. And there was probably the best thread ever on lit which was male top centric. Much complaint and candor and evil.

EVIL? hell my license plate has EVL on it.

 

[HottieMama]

Ok, given that my last post in this thread was at least a few days ago, i have no idea why my name was even brought into some comments made by SubKekiLee.

Chris, i remember a few weeks ago when you and Bunny jumped on me for "rubbing my relationship in your face." Since then, i have completely ignored you. i haven't responded to your posts, nor have i posted anything questionable...yet you continue to try and bait me into another verbal sparring match with you. Why? What purpose does that serve? Do you seriously think about me that much that you need to bring my name into issues that have nothing to do with me? If you expect me to get all pissed off and start yelling and screaming here in threads, i'm sorry to inform you, but it isn't going to happen. i will continue acting just as i have been for these past weeks.

i do ask you this though, i have given you the respect of not "rubbing it in your face," which is what you asked for. Why can't you just be a man and walk away without attempting to engage in this petty behavior?


This is the last i will say about this matter or to you. i have tried to keep my mouth shut as long as possible, but this was just the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak.

 

[intothewoods]

There is a giant Dom Kvetching thread. And there was probably the best thread ever on lit which was male top centric. Much complaint and candor and evil.

Male top centric? Hawt.

 

[intothewoods]

Ok, given that my last post in this thread was at least a few days ago, i have no idea why my name was even brought into some comments made by SubKekiLee.

Chris, i remember a few weeks ago when you and Bunny jumped on me for "rubbing my relationship in your face." Since then, i have completely ignored you. i haven't responded to your posts, nor have i posted anything questionable...yet you continue to try and bait me into another verbal sparring match with you. Why? What purpose does that serve? Do you seriously think about me that much that you need to bring my name into issues that have nothing to do with me? If you expect me to get all pissed off and start yelling and screaming here in threads, i'm sorry to inform you, but it isn't going to happen. i will continue acting just as i have been for these past weeks.

i do ask you this though, i have given you the respect of not "rubbing it in your face," which is what you asked for. Why can't you just be a man and walk away without attempting to engage in this petty behavior?


This is the last i will say about this matter or to you. i have tried to keep my mouth shut as long as possible, but this was just the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak.

Now, now. I made him apologize already.

 

[WriterDom]

Well, if you can find switch bashing somewhere in my 11,000 posts I'll apologize. I won't apologize for complaining about all the years of switch whine that has gone on here. Just be who you are stop worrying about what others think. There is no hierarchy based on preference. If someone is giving you shit for being a switch or whatever, confront them about it.

 

[BiBunny]

Well, if you can find switch bashing somewhere in my 11,000 posts I'll apologize. I won't apologize for complaining about all the years of switch whine that has gone on here. Just be who you are stop worrying about what others think. There is no hierarchy based on preference. If someone is giving you shit for being a switch or whatever, confront them about it.

I think you missed the point, babe.

I feel like shit about my sub side right now, probably because it hasn't been getting the attention it needs. *Cough, "Stupid fat boy," cough* When I'm doubting myself and my needs and other people (many other people, in fact) talk shit about me, too, it's just in my nature to internalize shit that I shouldn't. I really wasn't trying to bitch about being a switch, and I'm sorry if it came off that way. It was just a random observation in the midst of my thoughts.

So, yeah, Bunny's just being irrational. Grant me my moment, ok?

What is with "gee you must be a switch" to anyone who displays any social aggressiveness or extroversion or anything?

I don't see how that translates to liking most of the things I like. Nobody runs around to socially aggressive vanilla women and intimates with any seriousness that they really ought to enjoy tying up balls.

Theory of the morning: Doms who are overly eager to trot this one out are doing some projecting of their own flexibility, only they can't handle the idea they might actually bend over for someone, so they have to denigrate their local aggressive woman. Know that doing this to Dommes labels them "asshole" to some degree. Take it out on the uppity femsub, no one will defend her.

Methinks the lady has a very good point. The weird thing about me, though, is that I'm not aggressive or extroverted AT ALL until I really get to know a person, but my complete refusal to fawn over any dominant-claiming person seems to really piss 'em off. I used to hang out with a Dom who always said, "I know you say you're a switch, but I still can't see you as a sub." And you know what? He and I played together, but I wasn't much of a sub for him.

Ok, I'll be going along now.

 

[BiBunny]

Ok, given that my last post in this thread was at least a few days ago, i have no idea why my name was even brought into some comments made by SubKekiLee.

Chris, i remember a few weeks ago when you and Bunny jumped on me for "rubbing my relationship in your face." Since then, i have completely ignored you. i haven't responded to your posts, nor have i posted anything questionable...yet you continue to try and bait me into another verbal sparring match with you. Why? What purpose does that serve? Do you seriously think about me that much that you need to bring my name into issues that have nothing to do with me? If you expect me to get all pissed off and start yelling and screaming here in threads, i'm sorry to inform you, but it isn't going to happen. i will continue acting just as i have been for these past weeks.

i do ask you this though, i have given you the respect of not "rubbing it in your face," which is what you asked for. Why can't you just be a man and walk away without attempting to engage in this petty behavior?


This is the last i will say about this matter or to you. i have tried to keep my mouth shut as long as possible, but this was just the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak.

Yes, he's being an asshat, and I'm not afraid to call him about it, either.

Chris...dude...just shut up. You know I you, but you're easing close to Big Stupid Jackass Dom (TM) territory. You know what I mean.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hmmm, I just think it sad that this is a sub/slave haven and yet male Doms come here and tell people they need to apologise and to who, AND they do!! I didn't think this was supposed to be a place where Doms gave the orders and pyl's followed. Thank the universe I have somewhere to go where Doms are not allowed for just this reason amongst others.

Catalina

 

[intothewoods]

Yes, he's being an asshat, and I'm not afraid to call him about it, either.

Chris...dude...just shut up. You know I you, but you're easing close to Big Stupid Jackass Dom (TM) territory. You know what I mean.

Lol. Poor Chris gets it from not one, but two, smart assed subs! Then again, he kinda likes it that way...

 

[Netzach]

Hmmm, I just think it sad that this is a sub/slave haven and yet male Doms come here and tell people they need to apologise and to who, AND they do!! I didn't think this was supposed to be a place where Doms gave the orders and pyl's followed. Thank the universe I have somewhere to go where Doms are not allowed for just this reason amongst others.

Catalina

If I monitored other people's kvetching I'd have no life.

 

[catalina_francisco]

If I monitored other people's kvetching I'd have no life.

It's not your style thank goodness...you're too secure in who you are to need to grandstand to be noticed.

Catalina

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Lol. Poor Chris gets it from not one, but two, smart assed subs! Then again, he kinda likes it that way...

Damn.. between you and Bunny.. who needs enemas..

Sheesh..

and I knew it was too good to last w/ me and cat.. I agreed with in another thread.. for once.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

If I monitored other people's kvetching I'd have no life.

I'm gonna say this again at the risk of repeating myself.. You are so cool, I consider you arctic.

 

[intothewoods]

bump...

 

[Netzach]

So no one has anything to complain about now?

 

[CutieMouse]

So no one has anything to complain about now?

I have lots of stressed out grumbles, but I'm choosing to sit on them, for the moment.

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

Can I complain about the fact that employers are stupid when they won't hire someone just because they're too "smart" for the job? Or that there's a lot of days I could up & cry because there's an ocean between me & Him? Or that I'm frakkin' cold right now? Or that I'm bored out of my mind right now? Enough complaining for ya?
---
<hands CM a pillow to stick on top of the things she's sitting on in case they're lumpy & uncomfortable>

 

[intothewoods]

Can I complain about the fact that employers are stupid when they won't hire someone just because they're too "smart" for the job? Or that there's a lot of days I could up & cry because there's an ocean between me & Him? Or that I'm frakkin' cold right now? Or that I'm bored out of my mind right now? Enough complaining for ya?
---
<hands CM a pillow to stick on top of the things she's sitting on in case they're lumpy & uncomfortable>

I'm always up for some complainin.'

My husband moves out this Saturday. Watching him pack was like torture last night. I left the house for a while because I just couldn't deal with it. I feel so sad about the entire situation.

I've been leaning on friends, but also my regular play partner, and that's scary. We've been good about keeping boundaries, but there's genuine affection there and it's hard to keep it separate. Trying hard not to think about it all.

 

[intothewoods]

Btw - random observation - I was jonesing to do wax play, and so far the two times I've tried it I HATED IT. On the other hand, I saw someone get flogged on the back and was like omg omg never ever never. Tried it and it feels so good! Who knew?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Btw - random observation - I was jonesing to do wax play, and so far the two times I've tried it I HATED IT. On the other hand, I saw someone get flogged on the back and was like omg omg never ever never. Tried it and it feels so good! Who knew?

LOL, never say never, it will invariably come back to bite you at some point.

Catalina

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

.. My husband moves out this Saturday. Watching him pack was like torture last night. I left the house for a while because I just couldn't deal with it. I feel so sad about the entire situation. ..

Wow did I miss something. I hope things work out for you, ITW.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

I'm always up for some complainin.'

My husband moves out this Saturday. Watching him pack was like torture last night. I left the house for a while because I just couldn't deal with it. I feel so sad about the entire situation.

I've been leaning on friends, but also my regular play partner, and that's scary. We've been good about keeping boundaries, but there's genuine affection there and it's hard to keep it separate. Trying hard not to think about it all.

ITW..it sounds like you have some support from you partner but it looks like you aren't the only one with this being a current situation. Have you checked out this thread? http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=536291
*shrug* Not to wallow in it but you might find someone to talk to if you need.

 

[intothewoods]

ITW..it sounds like you have some support from you partner but it looks like you aren't the only one with this being a current situation. Have you checked out this thread? http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=536291
*shrug* Not to wallow in it but you might find someone to talk to if you need.

Thank you - I wasn't aware of the thread! I'll have to post there.

 

[Netzach]

I totally thought I would enjoy wax being dripped on me, and it's not a favorite. I tried it last time I was waxing M, who loves it. However, it beats the hell out of ice, in my estimation.

Re: peeps complaints
Hang in there.