Submissive/Slave Haven

[Netzach]

I'm going to yoga this AM, and yes, it IS because I was told to.

He's starting to use little phrases like "we'll work on that."

I know he knows that's submissive ear candy. I know 'cause I do it with mine. But I like it.

And it's funny, but I didn't whine about anything since my last post. I think it's just being in synch. He's starting to enjoy this a little not just because I do.

*pauses*
Shit. I may be "training" him....

 

[intothewoods]

I'm, uh, giggling here about "Geoff-like" sadism.

Netz- It seems like you almost appreciate the dynamic more because you've been on the other side. Very cool.

 

[eastern sun]

I understand this . . .

I'm going to yoga this AM, and yes, it IS because I was told to.

He's starting to use little phrases like "we'll work on that."

I know he knows that's submissive ear candy. I know 'cause I do it with mine. But I like it.

And it's funny, but I didn't whine about anything since my last post. I think it's just being in synch. He's starting to enjoy this a little not just because I do.

*pauses*
Shit. I may be "training" him....

My husband and I ran into trouble when it took me a lot longer to "work on that" than he was willing to put up with. I'm very strong-willed, and he got frustrated and started to think I was trying "to top from the bottom."

Honestly, I think some things do take a long time to work on, especially when they are long-standing habits deeply woven into the structure of our personality. These real life relationships require real life patience.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Glad to see this thread back in use again..

fades back to lurk mode...

 

[intothewoods]

Glad to see this thread back in use again..

fades back to lurk mode...

I'm totally cool with PYLs posting btw. Just so that it's not overrun by y'all.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Just thought I'd post a new thread here. Ok, so it's been a few months since my first thing. I've discovered some preferences I didn't know I had. NOW what do I do? There is a Dom in my life, but we're not exclusive. He likes me, says I have potential, but I don't think I"ll ever get into this guys heart, and that seems to be where I feel I need to be. I've chatted with a few DaddyDoms, and tho I LOVE the emotional/psychological interaction that is going on there, they seem to lack that little smidgen of "geoff-like" sadism that a part of me needs to know is there, and has the potential to appear if I don't tow the line. I don't dare tell this guy of my needs, for fear he'll set me free. I AM learning things from him, and I DO care about him, but... shrug. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Feel free to private IM me as well if that's easier. Thanks!

I know in my situation it took a little while for, as we call it the "evil ogre" side of my Dom to come out with me. I know he had it in him, he has told me of past experiences with former submissives and we shared many fantasies. I think it was because our first meeting had sent me into such a frenzy then rebellion that he proceeded a little more slowly with me. (the first meeting was very intense, very awesome too. We unfortunately didn't have the time to come down from it together...)

The slower progression to more and more intense play has been working quite well for me. Maybe the DaddyDoms you have been talking to just like to work up to their evil side once they know you are comfortable with it?

 

[Netzach]

My husband and I ran into trouble when it took me a lot longer to "work on that" than he was willing to put up with. I'm very strong-willed, and he got frustrated and started to think I was trying "to top from the bottom."

Honestly, I think some things do take a long time to work on, especially when they are long-standing habits deeply woven into the structure of our personality. These real life relationships require real life patience.

The thing to be "worked on" is that I am stressed right now. Both of us carry way more stress than we ought, and the whole relationship is based around the common ground of being able to spot it, and be sexual stress relievers for one another. A long standing sympatico. With clear boundaries and goals - my Bull is basically a fuck friend ramped up emotionally and intellectually and romantically - but a friend I fuck above all.

The thing that even allows me to consider submitting to this person is that he has a very "as is" attitude toward me - behavioral modification is not high on his list, or if it's there at all it's so marvelously subtle I feel like I'm modifying myself.

If it wasn't I'd bail. Even on him. It puts me in fight mode to catch a whiff of anyone trying to change me - overcritical parenting residue.

 

[Netzach]

I'm, uh, giggling here about "Geoff-like" sadism.

Netz- It seems like you almost appreciate the dynamic more because you've been on the other side. Very cool.

I'm wondering about that. I think it makes it easier for me in a way because so much of what people struggle and react to has to do with grasping for one's own control one's own independence one's own agenda. I have all that any time I want.

We ALL do - but because I'm Domme in my own right and in my overwhelming inclination I have this really frequent touchstone, this really obvious way to connect with that part of myself. So if I want to put it aside for a while, that's really what I want to do. I'm not just balancing out my job, my outer persona, I'm balancing out the inside of me, aligning myself, really.

Maybe I've struggled SO much with it internally that I don't need to fight him on it.

 

[WriterDom]

gigi says hello. She's taking a break but will come back one day.

 

[intothewoods]

Are you there God? It's me, Margaret.

Sorry about the title. But I do kinda feel like this my teenage confessional sometimes.

So. Recently, I've been shying away from a lot of play, other than my regular PYL/play partner.

Part of it is, I just can't "show up" right now for the scene. I'm knee deep in tackling the tough stuff about relationships and my marriage in therapy, and I don't have a lot left over to give to another Top.

At the same time, I do have this sense of devotion/loyalty/attachment developing for my regular guy. I'm really just acknowledging it, and not acting on it, because who knows what it means. I'm still not ready to be in a relationship, because I'm still very much dealing with the last one. And I'm sure a huge part of the loyalty and attachment to my PYL is that he has been there for me in a tough time (in the ways that he could), and also, I'm sure I am desperate for some stability and safety.

I was going to say that I wonder if there's something more though. That maybe I'm kind of monogamous (gasp! ). I feel like getting my flirt on at parties is fun, but I think I will eventually not have that same need. Of course I'll flirt, but I think eventually I won't have such a strong need to constantly reaffirm my own attractiveness.

After writing this, I suppose I will just have to wait and see. My feelings are still so much in flux. It doesn't make much sense to speculate.

 

[SweetGigi]

*taps screen*


umm, hello?


is there anyone out there?


hi.

 

[SweetGigi]

I really don't want to bother anyone or to barge in- I just wanted to come by and say hello to everyone and see how things are going with you all. I think of you guys often and hope that everyone is well. I miss you guys.

*huggles*

 

[intothewoods]

*taps screen*


umm, hello?


is there anyone out there?


hi.

Hello there Gigi! I'm still at the same place I was when I last posted, lol.

 

[SweetGigi]

Hey there sweets. I just read up on your situation. Gosh, that's a lot to deal with. I think you are doing the right thing though and giving yourself some time to heal and process life. In the meantime, enjoy what you have while you have it and try not to over think it.

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

<waves hello> I just haven't had anything significant to say in a while. Just trying to deal with how hard it is having Him in another country. Goodness only knows when I'll be able to see Him in person again. <sniffles>

 

[SweetGigi]

My gosh, is everyone's PYL so far away? What the cock is with the LDR's lately? whoa!!

 

[intothewoods]

My gosh, is everyone's PYL so far away? What the cock is with the LDR's lately? whoa!!

Lol, I don't think so. Minx actually moved to another country be closer to her Master. And my PYLwhateverheis is about a ten minute drive.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

*Waves hello*

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

I'm going to be moving to his country as soon as we can manage it.

 

[SweetGigi]

Hiya, Chris.


oh that is good, Velvet. Where will life be taking you then?

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

.. Where will life be taking you then?

The Vulcan homeworld if I'm lucky.

 

[SweetGigi]

*sniggers*

too cute. I am happy for you miss. very happy indeed.


much luck for you and Him both.

 

[SweetGigi]

*RATTLES CAGE FIERCELY*



I WANT OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



/rant

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

<sneaks Gigi the key>

 

[SweetGigi]

<sneaks Gigi the key>

*giggles* you are too cute.


that made me laugh for the first time today.


thanks, toots.