Surprise my hubby tonight

[mamacitamb]

Little background......

We have been married for almost 10 years, we have 4 kids. My hubby has been out of town for a few days, and I want to surprise him with something special tonight.

I am not looking to solely give him oral or anything like that. Since he has been gone, I have been doing a lot of reading on g-gasms. My hubby is always wanting to play with me, but I am typically not in the mood. Sad, I know. I am really wanting to revive our sex life, as it has gone down hill a bit in the last 9 years since having kids.

Any ideas how to approach him, now that I actually want to experiment with trying to have a g-gasm. Just looking for a sexy way to go about this. I am kind of shy, even after 12 years together, about saying what I want in bed.

We used to have an amazing sex life before kids, no bars held. I just turned 30, and am looking to get that back.

Words of encouragement, please!!!

 

[scalpel]

leave notes for him and make it a treasure hunt.

 

[shortstuff02]

Another thing we did to tease each other and give each other ideas was to find pics online of things we were interested in and emailed them to each other. Kind of killing two birds with one stone. It teased him seeing some of these and then it would get him thinking about what I wanted to do or have done to me. Good luck.

 

[mandoscot]

Invite me over to be shared?

 

[KinkyLove4me]

If you are shy about telling him what you want, I have two suggestions that helped me.
Text him something that you'd like (I'd really love to have your cock sliding between my lips right now while I caress your balls with my other hand. Or perhaps "I'll be waiting for you in the bedroom with a blindfold on when you get home. I'd love it if you would....(insert your fantasy here)"). The text thing has worked wonders for us the last few months. Sometimes it goes on all day long back and forth. I'm practically climbing the walls when he gets home some days. OMG! I had to get unlimited texting.

The other suggestion is to turn out the lights, get hot and bothered, and just flat out tell him. Whisper your desires in his ear. If he never hears it from you, then that alone may be a huge turn on for him. Yes, it can be hard to do, but perhaps a drink or two to help you relax will loosen your tongue in the dark. "I want you inside me." "I want ....."

Have fun and good luck!! After all, you only live once!

 

[mamacitamb]

Thank you for the advice.

Kinky, I will definitely be trying that!

 

[subwannabe]

Get rid of the kids! No, not permanently but try to find a way to find a few hours or a couple of days together alone. This would be especially effective if you planned it and surprised your husband. I am in a similar kind of situation somewhat and I just can't find a way to get accross to my wife that we can actually do a few things even during the middle of the day when the kids are awake. She's just got it locked up in her mind that there is no way we can do anything at these times and she doesn't see opportunities that present themselves. You could also actually wear things that are a little sexy to turn him on, even when around the kids, without having to look like a tramp or slut.

 

[BabyxGirl]

I'm young, not married and have never experienced that sort of situation you have, but it would seem to me the best approach would be a direct one. Simply tell you husband what you would like and see if he is interested....I don't know any men wouldn't be.

Jena