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[SweetErika]

Cryforme, it doesn't sound like they should have waited that long at all! Hopefully you'll have better doctors watching over you if you have another baby.

My doctor did a c-section after 12 hours of pitocin failed. We had to induce if I wanted a chance at a vaginal delivery because the baby was getting too big. They kept increasing the dosage until I was maxed out for 6 or so hours. I was contracting, fully effaced and my son and I were doing fine, but I wasn't dilating beyond 2-3 cm. My choices were to have a c-section then while my doc was there and everyone was still fresh, get dinner and do another 12 hours of pitocin (which may have ended in a crash c-section), or go home and wait for the baby to come on his own (definite c-section). I chose the first option because I had a really bad feeling about waiting even 12 more hours, and as it turned out, my son was already too big for a vaginal delivery when I went into surgery.

I'm not a medical professional, but a pulse of 100-110 for you shouldn't have been an issue if you were fairly healthy. Mine was around 100 when I was being induced, and I didn't have any problems with it, even though I was under a lot of strain from being fluid overloaded.

Did you ask your doctor why they waited so long when you and the baby were in distress, had a family history of heart problems, and why they couldn't tell you were in labor with external monitoring? I'd imagine that'd be valuable info to have in the future, and at least some of that should be noted in your hospital records (which you could request).

Why is this an issue now, five years later? Are you having another baby, and if so, have you discussed your history with the doctor and perhaps hospital team? Does your OB work in a practice where whoever is oncall from the practice delivers the baby so there's continuity of care and the patients aren't left to deal with strange docs from the hospital?

 

[TheSilverLining]

Cryforme, it doesn't sound like they should have waited that long at all! Hopefully you'll have better doctors watching over you if you have another baby.

I'm not a medical professional, but a pulse of 100-110 for you shouldn't have been an issue if you were fairly healthy. Mine was around 100 when I was being induced, and I didn't have any problems with it, even though I was under a lot of strain from being fluid overloaded.

(my bold) agree completely with this. When I read the fetal heart there I was a bit .
Also agree about the heartrate. Normal HR in a non-pregnant woman should be anything up to about 80bpm. In labour you need to take into consideration the increased stress put on the heart simply by being pregnant! Also the heart rate will increase due to factors such as physical effort / stress / fear / pain / anxiety which is why it's normal for it to be raised slightly during labour. Again, it all depends what's 'normal' for you.

Did you ask your doctor why they waited so long when you and the baby were in distress

Why is this an issue now, five years later? Are you having another baby, and if so, have you discussed your history with the doctor and perhaps hospital team? Does your OB work in a practice where whoever is oncall from the practice delivers the baby so there's continuity of care and the patients aren't left to deal with strange docs from the hospital?

Agree again!
Sounds like you didn't get the aftercare that you needed. I'd suggest (as has been said) getting your maternity notes and making an appointment with your doctor to discuss your son's birth and any issues that you have surrounding it.
I hope you get some of the answers that you need.
TSL x

 

[cryforme1v]

Cryforme, it doesn't sound like they should have waited that long at all! Hopefully you'll have better doctors watching over you if you have another baby.

My doctor did a c-section after 12 hours of pitocin failed. We had to induce if I wanted a chance at a vaginal delivery because the baby was getting too big. They kept increasing the dosage until I was maxed out for 6 or so hours. I was contracting, fully effaced and my son and I were doing fine, but I wasn't dilating beyond 2-3 cm. My choices were to have a c-section then while my doc was there and everyone was still fresh, get dinner and do another 12 hours of pitocin (which may have ended in a crash c-section), or go home and wait for the baby to come on his own (definite c-section). I chose the first option because I had a really bad feeling about waiting even 12 more hours, and as it turned out, my son was already too big for a vaginal delivery when I went into surgery.

I'm not a medical professional, but a pulse of 100-110 for you shouldn't have been an issue if you were fairly healthy. Mine was around 100 when I was being induced, and I didn't have any problems with it, even though I was under a lot of strain from being fluid overloaded.

Did you ask your doctor why they waited so long when you and the baby were in distress, had a family history of heart problems, and why they couldn't tell you were in labor with external monitoring? I'd imagine that'd be valuable info to have in the future, and at least some of that should be noted in your hospital records (which you could request).

Why is this an issue now, five years later? Are you having another baby, and if so, have you discussed your history with the doctor and perhaps hospital team? Does your OB work in a practice where whoever is oncall from the practice delivers the baby so there's continuity of care and the patients aren't left to deal with strange docs from the hospital?

Pitocin! thats the med they had me on all night/morning that increased contractions!
sorry i couldnt remember the name of it.
No i'm not having another baby, boyfriend wants one in the near future but i'm not so sure. All of this was sparked through a conversation with my mom tho, as just something to talk about while we watched that "Special Deliveries" on tv.
I wasnt that healthy. When i got preg i was 130, when i delivered i was 210. Most of it was water weight and the fact that i was on bed rest for 3 months didnt help me not gain a lot of weight. I ate healthy, accept for my guilty pleasure of jalepeno's and mushrooms fried. <Cant stand it but it was my major craving.
my normal heart rate, on average, is around 70-75 so 100-110 seemed a bit much for me. Dr had said i was lucky i didnt have a heart attack with my heart rate being that high because of my family history with heart issues. So why they waited so long just seems beyond me. She knew about my family's history with heart issues at the beginning of the pregnancy. She even monitored my heart rate through out the pregnancy and had me on 18mg of iron through out because i was anemic, plus my normal prenatal's.
Yes they go with whichever doc was on call, but she had scheduled me to be induced on the day/night that she was on call so she would be the one delivering. She was the same doc i had through out the whole pregnancy.

 

[SweetErika]

No i'm not having another baby, boyfriend wants one in the near future but i'm not so sure. All of this was sparked through a conversation with my mom tho, as just something to talk about while we watched that "Special Deliveries" on tv.

You might considering fostering and/or adopting if pregnancy doesn't agree with you but you still want kids. That's something we're looking into because I'm not sure I can have another successful pregnancy, and it'd be very tough for me to be pregnant with a toddler running around (I was exhausted the entire time).

I wasnt that healthy. When i got preg i was 130, when i delivered i was 210. Most of it was water weight and the fact that i was on bed rest for 3 months didnt help me not gain a lot of weight. I ate healthy, accept for my guilty pleasure of jalepeno's and mushrooms fried. <Cant stand it but it was my major craving.

Ouch! That's an extreme amount of weight to put on so quickly, for sure. I had about 25 pounds of water, and even that was putting my health at risk.

my normal heart rate, on average, is around 70-75 so 100-110 seemed a bit much for me. Dr had said i was lucky i didnt have a heart attack with my heart rate being that high because of my family history with heart issues. So why they waited so long just seems beyond me. She knew about my family's history with heart issues at the beginning of the pregnancy. She even monitored my heart rate through out the pregnancy and had me on 18mg of iron through out because i was anemic, plus my normal prenatal's.
Yes they go with whichever doc was on call, but she had scheduled me to be induced on the day/night that she was on call so she would be the one delivering. She was the same doc i had through out the whole pregnancy.

OB's are extremely risk-averse, so it sounds like your doctor may not have been that sharp and/or she dropped the ball toward the end of your pregnancy. If you do have another baby, I'd suggest interviewing new OB's, asking them to review your history, tell you what they'd likely do in a similar situation, and how you might avoid the same outcome in the future. A different hospital might be in order, too, if you feel like you didn't receive the best possible care at the last one.

I'll be going with a different doctor in the future, even though mine was incredibly sharp and handled the medical side correctly. I'm just not comfortable with her bedside manner: she frequently brushed off my completely valid concerns and came close to accusing me of lying on several occasions. I want a doc who is book smart AND people smart next time, for sure, because I don't need the extra stress of being ignored or suspicions.

 

[fuckmeat]

Hi guys.

Well, I've repaired my laptop but due to stuff that has occurred while I've been away from lit, I'm actually no longer a nurse.

Also, to those of you who have pm'd me, a fuckton of advice requests have piled up in my absence and I really don't feel capable of responding to them all. Nor am I even qualified to any more. I advise you to post here or in HT for the SweetErikas of the world to comment on. This is an anonymous forum, if you really feel you can't post your problem on a thread, that's just too bad I'm afraid.

 

[A_Kefka]

Just wanted to say I'm sorry that you have had some trouble FM, I hope things work out ok for you. And to thank you for taking the time to help people whan you could on here.

 

[SweetErika]

Just wanted to say I'm sorry that you have had some trouble FM, I hope things work out ok for you. And to thank you for taking the time to help people whan you could on here.

Well said, and it's nice to see you back here, FM!

Have you considered editing the first post to at least slow the onslaught of new PMs related to this thread?

 

[fuckmeat]

Just wanted to say I'm sorry that you have had some trouble FM, I hope things work out ok for you. And to thank you for taking the time to help people whan you could on here.

Thanks.

 

[fuckmeat]

Well said, and it's nice to see you back here, FM!

Have you considered editing the first post to at least slow the onslaught of new PMs related to this thread?

Yeah, I should do that. I stack my threads new post first so I forget that other people click straight onto post 1.

Ohh fuck it. *takes deep breath*

Basically I had health issues that made my Occupational Health dept squeal. I dealt badly with those issues and now have no nursing registration. I could maybe go back in years to come but I've basically sabotaged my career. Losing my Mistress to leukaemia this year was really hard and I now have no house or job either. Had something of a nervous breakdown.

But hey, only way is up right?

So yeah, if anybody still wants advice from me they can kindly post here. Anyone who's that paranoid can always use a temporary alt.

 

[an_angels_wings]

I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm so sorry that you essentially had a nervous breakdown. A lot of people just don't know how to deal with that sort of thing.

You're right, if you've hit rock bottom, the only way left to go is up. =)

 

[Byron999]

Welcome back FM. I am sorry to hear of your distress and losses. You have provided a valuable service here as is evident from the extent to which people have been using it. I hope you are getting good support and assistance to resolve what you can and rebuild career and home.

xx

 

[fuckmeat]

Thanks guys. I don't want to hijack this into a 'woe is me' thread but I felt compelled to explain myself a bit.

 

[CJ1968]

Thanks guys. I don't want to hijack this into a 'woe is me' thread but I felt compelled to explain myself a bit.

And we appreciate you doing so. Firstly, having been through something similar myself (caused by the loss of my best friend of many years) I'm one of those unfortunate few who can relate to where you are. I'm sure by now you have found out who your true friends really are. Keep these people close, they will help you more than you realise at the time. It took me many months to properly recover, but once I had I was able to look at my life with new eyes, realise what I wanted to do and go for it. I am now in a relatively senior position and have rebuilt my life both emotionally and financially. This won't happen over night but is possible to achieve. It's important for you now to look to the future. Remember the past but don't let it destroy the present or future. Remember those we have lost fondly, as they would want but don't let the memories take over your life. I still think of my friend and when I do it is those memories which help me smile and move me forward. Good luck to you in whatever you chose to do. I'm sure you will succeed in your chosen path and become whatever you chose to be.

Remember too, you have friends you may not have met yet, who may be a help along the way.

Take care, stay positive and all the best for the future.

 

[fuckmeat]

And we appreciate you doing so. Firstly, having been through something similar myself (caused by the loss of my best friend of many years) I'm one of those unfortunate few who can relate to where you are. I'm sure by now you have found out who your true friends really are. Keep these people close, they will help you more than you realise at the time. It took me many months to properly recover, but once I had I was able to look at my life with new eyes, realise what I wanted to do and go for it. I am now in a relatively senior position and have rebuilt my life both emotionally and financially. This won't happen over night but is possible to achieve. It's important for you now to look to the future. Remember the past but don't let it destroy the present or future. Remember those we have lost fondly, as they would want but don't let the memories take over your life. I still think of my friend and when I do it is those memories which help me smile and move me forward. Good luck to you in whatever you chose to do. I'm sure you will succeed in your chosen path and become whatever you chose to be.

Remember too, you have friends you may not have met yet, who may be a help along the way.

Take care, stay positive and all the best for the future.

Thanks CJ. Those are wise words and they mean a lot.

 

[littleangryfly]

So, I'm assuming you had a check at six weeks to ensure your c section is healing fine? Sex should have been resumed after six weeks, assuming all post-partum bleeding had ceased. Some sexual positions can aggravate your incision, so rear or side entry is advised. Most women have issues with lubrication, especially if they are breastfeeding.

I'm no expert at this stuff, it's more a midwife's domain. It may just be that your insides are still sore from the trauma of your c section birth. If the pain is getting worse or more frequent, definitely go back to your doctor or midwife/post partum-practitioner. You have a perfect right to take anything that concerns you to a healthcare professional and believe me, they will have heard it all before. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. Nine weeks may be too soon to expect a normal sexlife to resume but only you can know how severe and worrying this pain is.

You might want to switch back to ibuprofen as it's an anti-inflammatory, though I don't know whether that would be ok with breastfeeding. You should not be doing ANY lifting or strenuous exercise at this stage because you have layers of internal stitching still healing. Things like vacuum cleaning are among the worst things you can do. You must take it really easy after a c section.

Perhaps there are women around here who have had a c section and can offer more insight?

*looks around hopefully*

I'm sorry I didn't reply to this earlier. I've not been feeling that great recenlty but just tonight I remembered your words and wanted to come back to say thank you.

I checked with the dr and physically everything is healing fine. I had a panic attack while they were attempting to fit me for a coil which led my dr and me to think my pain problems were possibily physchological, although I checked and ibroprofen is okay for breast feeding and I have been taking that.

My GP thinks I have PTSD. I have been talking about it all a lot with my partner. Even the talking is making the pain better, honestly, right now it feels like we're on our honeymoon again.

Thank you again, and sorry it took me so long to respond to you. I am grateful and I hope you are well.

x

 

[sacada]

Yeah, I should do that. I stack my threads new post first so I forget that other people click straight onto post 1.

Ohh fuck it. *takes deep breath*

Basically I had health issues that made my Occupational Health dept squeal. I dealt badly with those issues and now have no nursing registration. I could maybe go back in years to come but I've basically sabotaged my career. Losing my Mistress to leukaemia this year was really hard and I now have no house or job either. Had something of a nervous breakdown.

But hey, only way is up right?

So yeah, if anybody still wants advice from me they can kindly post here. Anyone who's that paranoid can always use a temporary alt.

I, too, am so sorry to hear this! We all definitely appreciate you and what you've been doing for Lit; it's terrible when bad things happen to the best people. I really hope things turn around soon!

I do have a medical question, though, for anyone who has some insight into this: I have had trouble reaching orgasm for the past week or two, which has never happened to me before. (This is even on my own, not with a partner!) I currently have a minor yeast infection. Could this be the cause? If not, are there other medical issues I should be worried about? I'm concerned because of how unusual this is for me!

Thank you so much!

 

[fuckmeat]

I'm sorry I didn't reply to this earlier. I've not been feeling that great recenlty but just tonight I remembered your words and wanted to come back to say thank you.

I checked with the dr and physically everything is healing fine. I had a panic attack while they were attempting to fit me for a coil which led my dr and me to think my pain problems were possibily physchological, although I checked and ibroprofen is okay for breast feeding and I have been taking that.

My GP thinks I have PTSD. I have been talking about it all a lot with my partner. Even the talking is making the pain better, honestly, right now it feels like we're on our honeymoon again.

Thank you again, and sorry it took me so long to respond to you. I am grateful and I hope you are well.

x

Thanks, I'm glad you're doing better.

 

[fuckmeat]

I, too, am so sorry to hear this! We all definitely appreciate you and what you've been doing for Lit; it's terrible when bad things happen to the best people. I really hope things turn around soon!

I do have a medical question, though, for anyone who has some insight into this: I have had trouble reaching orgasm for the past week or two, which has never happened to me before. (This is even on my own, not with a partner!) I currently have a minor yeast infection. Could this be the cause? If not, are there other medical issues I should be worried about? I'm concerned because of how unusual this is for me!

I did meet with a doctor about the yeast infection, and I'm in the process of treating it. (She also has had me tested for gonorrhea and chlamydia, though the results aren't back yet.) I didn't tell her, though, about how I haven't been able to orgasm. (I guess I was embarrassed to mention it!) Which is why I'm asking all of you whether this seems like a medical issue to you.

Also, I haven't recently had any medication changes, so that can be ruled out.

Thank you so much!

It may just be psychological, because you know something's not right down there. The irritation yeast infection causes could also be to blame. I hope you're washing your hands thoroughly before and after masturbating. Also, if you have a partner, he/she should be checked too, so you don't pass the infection back and forth.

Beyond that, I don't know why you wouldn't be able to orgasm but I do know you shouldn't get too worried about it. Things should get back to normal once you're clear of any STDs.

 

[fenghuang]

What's the connection between oxygen levels in the blood and orgasms?
I know there are those interested in auto erotic asphixia (sp?) and breath play (though it's not for me) but I did notice myself holding my breath while getting jerked off the other day which got me to orgasm quicker. If I took a breath my orgasm got further away. So what's the connection?

 

[SweetErika]

What's the connection between oxygen levels in the blood and orgasms?
I know there are those interested in auto erotic asphixia (sp?) and breath play (though it's not for me) but I did notice myself holding my breath while getting jerked off the other day which got me to orgasm quicker. If I took a breath my orgasm got further away. So what's the connection?

Wikipedia does a good job explaining the physiology of erotic asphyxia. Clicky.

 

[sassylilthang]

Update 20th Oct 2010

So... basically I'm not actually a nurse any more. In short, I had health issues that made my Occupational Health dept squeal. I dealt badly with those issues and now have no nursing registration. I could maybe go back in years to come but I've basically sabotaged my career. Losing my Mistress to leukaemia this year was really hard and I now have no house or job either. Had something of a nervous breakdown.

But hey, only way is up right?

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Sorry to hear that.....you ARE right, the only place to go is up. I am a nurse as well, and dealt with some things in my personal life poorly, and it spilled over into my work. I broke some rules, and lost my job. I fortunately was able to keep my license with no strikes against me. I now have a better job, with better pay and benefits. It was a huge learning experience.

Good luck to you!

 

[Felix_Jones]

Wikipedia does a good job explaining the physiology of erotic asphyxia. Clicky.

The line between wikipedia and urban dictionary seems to get more blurry by the second.

 

[SweetErika]

The line between wikipedia and urban dictionary seems to get more blurry by the second.

OK, so instead of bitching about Wikipedia, how about explaining why you disagree with the idea(s) put forth there (the main one that answered the question was that oxygen deprivation and CO2 buildup can produce hallucinogenic effects, feelings of giddiness, etc.) and posting information that you believe is more reliable?

 

[sassylilthang]

I called the office about it. The nurse said it was normal... when I asked if I should come in to get it looked at, she said even louder that its normal and not to worry about it.

Yeah, I'm looking into a new doctor. One closer to home just started taking new patients.

Hi, I am sorry to butt in on someone else's thread....but, I did want to add my 2 cents based on experience.....personal and professional. I worked in Labor and Delivery, and in a OB/GYN clinic for approx 3 years total. I saw your problems and thought maybe I could help.

SO, bleeding can be common after a Mirena is inserted....for most people it is occasional spotting or a light period. Sometimes daily though. And it can last up to a year. (in one case, a patient had it for 18 months before her periods stopped).

2nd, you went without a period for 9 months, and your hormones are attempting to get back to normal now. Many women experience heavier flow and cramps when there periods first return after delivery. An exception may be women on DEPO or the minipill. Some women who breast feed also have a cessation of periods like women on those 2 other forms of BC.

It is usually more common in women who have had multiple children....but breast feeding can cause cramping of the uterus, much like period cramping. LOL, it is all the hormones being released to cause the milk letdown. It is also what encourages your uterus to shrink back down. Which, your MW or OB should have checked this at your 6 week postpartum, and if it wasn't back to normal size.....investigated why. Occasionally a woman will have pieces of retained placenta, and that can cause continued bleeding and cramping.

It also would be a good idea to make an appointment to at least see the MD or MW. You do not have to give a specific reason.....if they push you for a reason....tell them you want to talk about your IUD. That way, you won't have to hear, "that is normal" Be persistent....It can work. IUD's can sometimes move in the uterus....they can be expelled or caught in the cervix or become inbedded in the uterus. I don't mean to scare you....but getting it checked out for peace of mind never hurts.

OK....now, as for the bumps.....this is where personal experience comes in, lol. It could be a sebaceous type cyst. Basically a blocked oil gland. I have had those before, and they can feel weird....like little bumps. Some times on your labia, or on your clitoris. For the most part, they cause you no discomfort. Sometimes, they can get inflamed....almost like a zit you would get on your face. Then they can swell up, cause pain, and itching.....and some will eventually drain on there own. Or, could require medical attention. I mention this because there is some theory that these can be caused by hormone levels vs hygeine, etc.

I had them when on a specific form of BC pill......once I stopped that form, I never had another one. Until I started BC again.

Good Luck!

 

[Felix_Jones]

OK, so instead of bitching about Wikipedia, how about explaining why you disagree with the idea(s) put forth there (the main one that answered the question was that oxygen deprivation and CO2 buildup can produce hallucinogenic effects, feelings of giddiness, etc.) and posting information that you believe is more reliable?

I don't disagree at all. David Carradine knows about all the effects. Apparently.