The Cozy Corner

[Xerxes82]

Man, I have a friend who was a totally normal, level headed guy, attractive qualities, and his gf ended things in Jan after a year and he’s just freaking lost it. She 1000% broke him… ghosting him hasn’t helped, the guy flew out here from Cali, unannounced, and showed up on her doorstep to try and talk.
I told him that was psycho behavior but

So some breakups can 100% turn the person crazy after!!

Damn. That sounds crazy.

Makes me glad that the couple of bad breakups I've had in my time didn't warp my brain that badly.

One gave me a kind of ptsd for a while, sure. But I understood that and knew I had to be careful with myself around women for a bit.

 

[Nylonian]

Poor guy has no support network or close friends where he is either.. I’m all he’s got and I’m 1500 miles away
And yes, the lack of closure is what’s driving him crazy. He knows it, he sees it, he just can’t rein it in.
The way she handled the whole thing was absolute BS too :/ (I say this as someone who was close with both of them and I’m the one who set them up) she had a complete change of personality that I haven’t seen in the years I’ve known her.

Just wild

Mmmm. Relationships take a lot of maturity and delicate handling. Otherwise it's gonna manifest into a powderkeg like the situation you've described. Also, damn people are so isolated and lonely these days. We've never been more connected and more lonely at the same time.

 

[MissSNG]

Mmmm. Relationships take a lot of maturity and delicate handling. Otherwise it's gonna manifest into a powderkeg like the situation you've described. Also, damn people are so isolated and lonely these days. We've never been more connected and more lonely at the same time.

Absolutely, sadly, true!!

It’s one of the reasons I set the two of them up, to get him to move out here… which he was in the process of putting into motion before things went to pieces.

Too many adults don’t know how to actually be an adult and communicate openly and honestly in situations like that

 

[mobleedzblue]

Eat a crazy ex-girlfriend for me!View attachment 2615908

I had my fill but there’s always room to eat a crazy ex girlfriend…….I mean…..

 

[MissSNG]

Ok now that I’ve killed the fun mood here
Everyone having a good night??

 

[Nylonian]

Absolutely, sadly, true!!

It’s one of the reasons I set the two of them up, to get him to move out here… which he was in the process of putting into motion before things went to pieces.

Too many adults don’t know how to actually be an adult and communicate openly and honestly in situations like that

Sometimes, introspection and being honest with yourself is hard even as an adult. But we have to embrace the hard things, because the alternative is worse... Bad outcomes, consequences down the line. Being honest with yourself is the first step, then setting up a good communication protocol and expectations.

It's important to have those little check ups especially during the honeymoon phase when things can seem rosy and exciting. Dishonesty builds distrust and that's no foundation for any relationship. Trust is hard to build and easy to crumble. Jenga tower, it only takes once piece.

 

[Nylonian]

Ok now that I’ve killed the fun mood here
Everyone having a good night??

Just making a spressi and thinking about relationships... It's not a bad way to start a Friday.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Ok now that I’ve killed the fun mood here
Everyone having a good night??

Plenty of room for more serious thoughts in a cozy space, I think!

 

[MissSNG]

Just making a spressi and thinking about relationships... It's not a bad way to start a Friday.

Plenty of room for more serious thoughts in a cozy space, I think!

I for one could use a GIANT glass of wine and a massage

 

[Nylonian]

I for one could use a GIANT glass of wine and a massage

I'd never say no to a massage. Great idea, I need to schedule one for this weekend.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I for one could use a GIANT glass of wine and a massage

I had this glass filled almost to the top (bowl for size)

 

[cheekygirl75]

I'd never say no to a massage. Great idea, I need to schedule one for this weekend.

I had the most amazing 75 minute massage last week! Of course the relaxation from that is long forgotten

 

[Qky75]

I'd never say no to a massage. Great idea, I need to schedule one for this weekend.

Man this is so weird but like....Id never turn down a giant glass of wine.....I need to schedule myself one immediately

 

[MissSNG]

I'd never say no to a massage. Great idea, I need to schedule one for this weekend.

Schedule one for me too? Gavin is my usual massage therapist and he has magic hands

 

[Nylonian]

I had this glass filled almost to the top (bowl for size)

View attachment 2615929

Thought there was a crack but then I saw the bowl and made the connection that it's probably spoon.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Ghost

I had my fill but there’s always room to eat a crazy ex girlfriend…….I mean…..

It's my favorite, so delicious!

 

[wwot40]

Schedule one for me too? Gavin is my usual massage therapist and he has magic hands

I have never had a massage. Given of few but never gotten one,

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

I had the most amazing 75 minute massage last week! Of course the relaxation from that is long forgotten

I will be doing this too next week!

 

[Nylonian]

I will be doing this too next week!

Schedule one for me too? Gavin is my usual massage therapist and he has magic hands

What kind of massage do we usually get? Personally it's either Thai or Chinese remedial.

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

What kind of massage do we usually get? Personally it's either Thai or Chinese remedial.

Had Thai once. Never again. I was left bruised. Not relaxing at all to me. I don’t care to be man handled during a massage. So no deep tissue for me. Swedish and I ask for light pressure.

So now you ALL collectively know pain is not my kink.

 

[peekingone]

Had Thai once. Never again. I was left bruised. Not relaxing at all to me. I don’t care to be man handled during a massage. So no deep tissue for me. Swedish and I ask for light pressure.

So now you ALL collectively know pain is not my kink.

I now go to a Physio guy. I get scrapping, dry needling and cupping. It's no joke. I look like I got hit by a car when I leave, but wow does it help...
Going to him tomorrow afternoon, getting prepared mentally

 

[KatieKulka32]

Everyone is talking about running, long hikes, or massages and I'm feeling gluttonous for getting pizza.

It was good though.

 

[Nylonian]

Had Thai once. Never again. I was left bruised. Not relaxing at all to me. I don’t care to be man handled during a massage. So no deep tissue for me. Swedish and I ask for light pressure.

So now you ALL collectively know pain is not my kink.

That's more than fair. Thai massages are brutal. I do appreciate a gentle Swedish massage from time to time but I think I need the deep tissue kind this time. Got a few knots...

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

That's more than fair. Thai massages are brutal. I do appreciate a gentle Swedish massage from time to time but I think I need the deep tissue kind this time. Got a few knots...

What is the other one you mentioned? Chinese remedial?

 

[MissSNG]

What kind of massage do we usually get? Personally it's either Thai or Chinese remedial.

Oh I go for the relaxation kind, no deep tissue for me, I bruise like a peach