The Female Gaze

[hotwords229_A]

My trouble is, i like what I like. But I only know what that is when it's in front of me.

I love to look. Like a voyeur fascination. With the male and female form. But to  really turn me on? Then yes. I need more.

I understand this. For all my talk and objectification of the female form, a hot body doesn’t equate to feelings. It makes me horny, sure, but it’s not like I want a relationship with some supermodel.

I do find it fascinating how women don’t seem to have that uncontrollable urge to see male body parts just to fantasize over. My man brain, the one on my pants, can’t grasp this very simple concept of a lack of superficial desire—or, at least, a lack of desire to share it with the world.

On top of that, the other thing that confuses me is when I see women who have no issue posting pics of other naked women while being “100% straight” and simply enjoying the beauty of the female form, but I rarely see them posting the beauty of the male form.

This thread is a place for women to post sexy images of guys, whatever that may be, to show us what you like and perhaps inspire us to be a little less dick pic-y and more sensual(?), and yet, I think I’ve posted more pics than any of you!

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I understand this. For all my talk and objectification of the female form, a hot body doesn’t equate to feelings. It makes me horny, sure, but it’s not like I want a relationship with some supermodel.

I do find it fascinating how women don’t seem to have that uncontrollable urge to see male body parts just to fantasize over. My man brain, the one on my pants, can’t grasp this very simple concept of a lack of superficial desire—or, at least, a lack of desire to share it with the world.

On top of that, the other thing that confuses me is when I see women who have no issue posting pics of other naked women while being “100% straight” and simply enjoying the beauty of the female form, but I rarely see them posting the beauty of the male form.

This thread is a place for women to post sexy images of guys, whatever that may be, to show us what you like and perhaps inspire us to be a little less dick pic-y and more sensual(?), and yet, I think I’ve posted more pics than any of you!

I see hot/"sexy" men all the time (I live in one of the most superficial places in the world, looks-wise).

I'm infinitely more aroused by the words a man says than a picture of them with their dick in their hands. Someone that can effectively wield their words/voice is 1000 times more attractive than, say, someone just sharing their penis/abs/whatever physical attribute they think is attractive.

 

[Endless_Night]

My trouble is, i like what I like. But I only know what that is when it's in front of me.

I love to look. Like a voyeur fascination. With the male and female form. But to  really turn me on? Then yes. I need more.

This^. Less the voyeur aspect.

Other considerations that may impact the situation:

-Sex is easy to come by for women. It may make us choosey.
-What are the chances the sex with someone will be half as good as he looks?
-While I can't speak for all women, lust alone has not served me well.

Objectifying at a distance is just less messy.

 

[Endless_Night]

I do find it fascinating how women don’t seem to have that uncontrollable urge to see male body parts just to fantasize over.

My imagination works pretty good all on its own.

Idk. Maybe men are so anxious to get us to look at their appendages it casts a pall?

This thread is a place for women to post sexy images of guys, whatever that may be, to show us what you like and perhaps inspire us to be a little less dick pic-y and more sensual(?), and yet, I think I’ve posted more pics than any of you!

I love artistic shots of the male form. Line, curve of a muscle, the shadowing of black and white photograph.

I'm just not great at image search and now that Tumblr and Lit have made it more difficult to find images and post, respectively. It's rather hobbled my already limited ability to participate.

There are some past images on Lit that are seared into my brain.

 

[ScarletDaisy]

Someone that can effectively wield their words/voice is 1000 times more attractive than, say, someone just sharing their penis/abs/whatever physical attribute they think is attractive.

So very true. Talk to me, listen to me. Words and thoughts attract me.

-While I can't speak for all women, lust alone has not served me well.

Objectifying at a distance is just less messy.

Lust and lust alone has led me to disappointment and/or heartbreak.

My imagination works pretty good all on its own.

I love artistic shots of the male form. Line, curve of a muscle, the shadowing of black and white photograph.

I also enjoy the artistic photos, or the ones that pique my imagination, making me wonder about more. But I've never been comfortable searching out images. It's sad when we're shy with ourselves, isn't it?

 

[hotwords229_A]

I'm infinitely more aroused by the words a man says than a picture of them with their dick in their hands.

One of the lessons may be that we (guys) need to talk more when our dick isn’t in our hands. Because when it is, we aren’t necessarily poets.

Maybe men are so anxious to get us to look at their appendages it casts a pall?

This is an issue. But, I think, it’s also the fundamental issue (wrong word) for this thread.

We often can’t figure out why women don’t (necessarily) want to see us naked as much as we want to see them naked. (Obviously I’m generalizing, but not by much).

I'm just not great at image search and now that Tumblr and Lit have made it more difficult to find images and post, respectively. It's rather hobbled my already limited ability to participate.

My tumblr is hot! Just saying.

I also enjoy the artistic photos, or the ones that pique my imagination, making me wonder about more.

I wonder if more beefcake photographers are male and maybe misunderstanding what will soak the world’s panties? Maybe we need more straight female photographers taking sexy pics of men?

 

[cocokittysurprise]

One of the lessons may be that we (guys) need to talk more when our dick isn’t in our hands. Because when it is, we aren’t necessarily poets.

I would say it's more of a skills issue for some... I've watched plenty of videos, and have personal experiences with men that (while giving themselves a penis hug) had no problem verbalizing exactly what it is they would do to me if/when given the chance.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I would say it's more of a skills issue for some... I've watched plenty of videos, and have personal experiences with men that (while giving themselves a penis hug) had no problem verbalizing exactly what it is they would do to me if/when given the chance.

I stand erected, um, corrected.

 

[Endless_Night]

This is an issue. But, I think, it’s also the fundamental issue (wrong word) for this thread.

We often can’t figure out why women don’t (necessarily) want to see us naked as much as we want to see them naked. (Obviously I’m generalizing, but not by much).

Hmm. I can't speak to the strength of general desire to see the naked form.

I'd agree women, generally speaking, are less driven, but I doubt the reason can be pinned down to one specific thing.

Conditioning? Boundaries? Idk.

Couple of thoughts:

-In the real world (back when I wasn't in rural isolation ), men were more often interested in sex with me than the reciprocal. In that situation is easy to slip into a space where it's more about being on the defensive than seeking out. You don't have to look so much. It's just . . . there.

-Perhaps it's that seeing someone naked implies some type of agreement to do . . . other things? I have to know someone quite well before I'm even willing to accept flirtation on the board, much less any type of visual. It so often leads to an expectation. That again ties in with being in a more defensive stance.

Again, probably many reasons. I view the above more as having to fend off, while other women enjoy the game. Their reasons for not looking so much (if that's the case) are probably very different.

My tumblr is hot! Just saying.

Are we talking Enny safe hot?

I wonder if more beefcake photographers are male and maybe misunderstanding what will soak the world’s panties? Maybe we need more straight female photographers taking sexy pics of men?

Maybe.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

I stand erected, um, corrected.

You're forgiven.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Hmm. I can't speak to the strength of general desire to see the naked form.

I'd agree women, generally speaking, are less driven, but I doubt the reason can be pinned down to one specific thing.

Conditioning? Boundaries? Idk.

Couple of thoughts:

-In the real world (back when I wasn't in rural isolation ), men were more often interested in sex with me than the reciprocal. In that situation is easy to slip into a space where it's more about being on the defensive than seeking out. You don't have to look so much. It's just . . . there.

-Perhaps it's that seeing someone naked implies some type of agreement to do . . . other things? I have to know someone quite well before I'm even willing to accept flirtation on the board, much less any type of visual. It so often leads to an expectation. That again ties in with being in a more defensive stance.

Again, probably many reasons. I view the above more as having to fend off, while other women enjoy the game. Their reasons for not looking so much (if that's the case) are probably very different.

This all makes sense, but what about pure fantasy?
Or does the real life “defensive stance” carry over into the fantasy realm?

Are we talking Enny safe hot?

Nope!

 

[Wand3rlust]

The female form seems to be genuinely more aesthetically pleasing than the male form.

That isnt to say the male form can't be pleasing.

But males and females tend to take a lot of pics of women. Not so much men. So the ratio of women to men pics is skewed.

Also, even the pics meant to arouse women, tend to feature the woman more prominently than the man. The man can be relegated to a shiny shoe and pressed trouser. Or a shirt sleeve.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I love having my trousers pressed.

 

[Endless_Night]

This all makes sense, but what about pure fantasy?

This is where imagination comes into play. I rarely require a visual. I can imagine that all on my own.

Or does the real life “defensive stance” carry over into the fantasy realm?

Not consciously, certainly. However, it seems possible the lack of searching part might roll over.

It's just not habitual to search.

Nope!

I'm guessing this is why I've never visited your Tumblr.

 

[Endless_Night]

I love having my trousers pressed.

Errr . . . is this safe to view?


Another thought on the subject at hand. Generally speaking, I don't know that women tend to be as visual as men. I know that I am not. I may enjoy certain types of pretty people pictures, but it's more of a situation of if they come my way rather than seeking them out.

Perhaps that's a component.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Errr . . . is this safe to view?

Sure. It's even B&W!

 

[Endless_Night]

I love having my trousers pressed.

Okay. So, for me, this does little.

The guy's body is nice and everything, but I need more context. Now, if there places were switched, and he was standing behind with his hand at her waist, to me, that would be way more hot.

(They would be positioned so you could still see his body well, in case that wasn't clear.)

In that situation, there could be more of an implication that he was possessing the woman. I'm submissive, so that's what is more likely to do it for me.

Too, we talked about how different people see picture pictures in Cock Talk. Whether you see yourself as the do-er or the do-ee. If you're a do-ee viewer, you often like to see pictures of your own sex, in situations you like. I'm a do-ee.

Images of men alone that I have found sexy tend to be situational to things that interest me or I find appealing. Like . . . a nice body and a book, and such. Or, there's been a few in the Kilt thread. I have Scottish heritage and I find Scottish men appealing. That kind of thing.

 

[Photog1rl]

Ok, I gathered some screenshots of pics that I think are more female gaze. None of these are overtly sexual but they each make me want to know more or step into the scene.

These men are intriguing or beautiful to me.
The freckles, eyes and slight stubble-stunning

The tone of this image, his nose and lips are gorgeous. This is a beautiful man.

It is the introspection and thought behind the eyes that draws me in. I also really like the well groomed nails and ruggedness of his face.


I would love to know what he is writing and join him for a cappuccino.


Reading together in bed is a simple luxury. The apples are corny but I forgive him lol


I hate fedoras but this pic is interesting-I think it is in the details. the friendship bracelet, wedding ring, water or lint on his hat and his beard.


Details are often sexy.


I don't usually find smoking sexy but this is hot.


I want to run my tongue up his chest, across his collar bone and up his neck to his chin and lips.

This last image is the most sexual in nature. I find my mind wondering what is happening below that has him arching his back like this and wanting to what he sounds like when his lips part and he moans with his release.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Ok, I gathered some screenshots of pics that I think are more female gaze. None of these are overtly sexual but they each make me want to know more or step into the scene.

Thank you, these are great and I love your comments and insight on them.
This is the kind of stuff I want this thread to be.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Whether you see yourself as the do-er or the do-ee. If you're a do-ee viewer, you often like to see pictures of your own sex, in situations you like. I'm a do-ee.

This is a good point. I’m also a de-ee, I always imagine myself as the guy in the pic. That’s what I like about that one.

 

[Endless_Night]

These are all great, but the first and last appeal particularly.

The freckles, eyes and slight stubble-stunning
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The intensity of his gaze, the brow ridge, the angularity and sharp planes of his face. The mouth.

An almost pretty but still very masculine face.

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A lovely defined collar bone and suprasternal notch create a line I want to glide my fingertips along.

 

[Apisto42]

These are all great, but the first and last appeal particularly.


The intensity of his gaze, the brow ridge, the angularity and sharp planes of his face. The mouth.

An almost pretty but still very masculine face.

He’s a top candidate for hot boy anal.

A lovely defined collar bone and suprasternal notch create a line I want to glide my fingertips along.

One of my collarbones was snapped in half when I was 16 and healed funny. It makes for a quirky asymmetrical look.