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Sorry ladies, looks like the gig is up. A new survey from the University of Indiana found 85% of men believe their partner climaxed during their most recent sexual tryst — while only 64% of women said they actually did reach orgasm.

It’s a huge gap — a difference of 20 percentage points. Study co-author Debby Herbinick told ABC News the reason could be because of a breakdown in the bedroom.

“It shows a lack of communication between partners, she told the news outlet, “Either by women faking it, or by men not asking or noticing if their partner [climaxed].”

The 130-page report, which involved 6,000 participants between the ages of 14 and 94, was sponsored by Trojan condoms and included questions about sexual behaviors, health and perceptions. It is considered to be the largest national sex survey the United States has ever seen.

Because the last comprehensive survey was completed nearly two decades ago in 1994 by Dr. Alfred Kinsey, the new research is able to identify if sexual trends have shifted over time.

Other survey highlights include:

•91% of men over 50 said they did not use a condom during casual sex (i.e. with an acquaintance or a date)
•As many as 40% of people say they having anal sex — a rise from 20% to 25% recorded in the 1990s.
•Teenage boys reported using a condom 79% of the time during the last 10 times they had sex with a girl. Teenage girls reported using a condom only 58% of the time.
 
Sorry ladies, looks like the gig is up. A new survey from the University of Indiana found 85% of men believe their partner climaxed during their most recent sexual tryst — while only 64% of women said they actually did reach orgasm.

It’s a huge gap — a difference of 20 percentage points. Study co-author Debby Herbinick told ABC News the reason could be because of a breakdown in the bedroom.

“It shows a lack of communication between partners, she told the news outlet, “Either by women faking it, or by men not asking or noticing if their partner [climaxed].”

The 130-page report, which involved 6,000 participants between the ages of 14 and 94, was sponsored by Trojan condoms and included questions about sexual behaviors, health and perceptions. It is considered to be the largest national sex survey the United States has ever seen.

Because the last comprehensive survey was completed nearly two decades ago in 1994 by Dr. Alfred Kinsey, the new research is able to identify if sexual trends have shifted over time.

Other survey highlights include:

•91% of men over 50 said they did not use a condom during casual sex (i.e. with an acquaintance or a date)
•As many as 40% of people say they having anal sex — a rise from 20% to 25% recorded in the 1990s.
•Teenage boys reported using a condom 79% of the time during the last 10 times they had sex with a girl. Teenage girls reported using a condom only 58% of the time.

In the immortal words of Frank Drebend, as played by the late, great Leslie Nielson: "By the way, I faked every orgasm."
 
I see no reason for a woman to ever have to fake it with me, and if she wants to cum, I will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes, to make it happen. She never has to lie to me about it...when you make someone elses pleasure as important as your own, her not cumming shouldnt ever really happen.

I don't understand selfish lovers and never realized how many men were that way, until actually asking women friends that I know..and asking women I've slept with. What the hell is wrong with these men?


I'm usually 100 percent certain a woman cums with me..and when I make her have a gspot one and she is unable to move for a full minute, I am 110 percent certain.
 
Thanks to Meg Ryan’s famous scene in "When Harry Met Sally," we’ve witnessed just how easy it is for women to fake an orgasm.

And really, all your partner needs to do is watch a few minutes of porn to see how to “have what she’s having.” Think she can’t fool you? Think again. Some colleagues of mine recently found, in an as-yet unpublished study, that one-quarter of the men they surveyed believed that porn — fake tans, fake breasts, fake orgasms, and all — depicts a realistic representation of women’s sexuality. As a sex educator and author, I find that statistic disturbing, but not surprising, and all this week I’ll be in the forum at Good in Bed to answer questions and provide answers.

It’s not like women are getting better information. Find me a women’s magazine whose cover doesn’t include screaming headlines about the 764 varieties of orgasm every woman is supposed to be having each time she has sex. In reality, life gets in the way—stress, depression, anxiety, body image, performance anxiety (women get it too), sleep deprivation, feeling rushed (women average roughly 10-30 minutes to orgasm), all interfere with orgasm. So sometimes women fake it.

Faking isn’t evil; it’s often a well-intentioned safeguard for her partner’s ego. A woman is less likely to have orgasms early in a relationship — her body needs time to learn to trust a new partner and to relax into the knowledge that he accepts and appreciates her body. At the same time, if a woman likes her partner, she wants him to feel good about the relationship. If orgasm is a way she can show him she’s enjoying it, but orgasm just isn’t there for her yet, faking it is a completely viable option — as long as it doesn’t become a habit.

But back to those 764 different kinds of orgasm. If your partner hasn’t experienced them all, don’t worry. Orgasms are a little like "Highlander": There can only be one — one kind, that is. Orgasm is simply the explosive release of sexual tension. You have, however, lots of ways to generate that tension.

Don’t sweat it if your sex isn’t “porn-perfect.” Orgasms should be less about being able to have one a certain way and more about not being able to stop yourself from having one.

Focus on sharing her pleasure, and both you and your partner will enjoy the real-life results. For more tips on female orgasms, visit me at Good in Bed, where I’ll be answering your questions all week.

Emily Nagoski has a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, with a concentration in Human Sexuality from Indiana University, and a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology also from IU. With more than a decade’s experience as a sex educator and an unshockable enthusiasm for empowering others to have healthy, joyful sex, Emily brings insight and clarity to the often perplexing, always fascinating world of human sexuality. She is the author of the "Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms" and the "Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man."
 
Thanks to Meg Ryan’s famous scene in "When Harry Met Sally," we’ve witnessed just how easy it is for women to fake an orgasm....

Said it before on another thread...Any guy who's got a clue and is adept at reading the signs of orgasm w/ a woman is gonna KNOW if the woman he's with is faking an orgasm!

Flushing is a tell tale sign of having had an orgasm (noticeable more so in those w/ fair skin), It's caused b/c of the rise in blood pressure and the blood capillaries just under the surface of the skin rupturing. Along w/ flushing comes the retraction of the clit, vaginal muscle spasms, pupil dilation, sweating, and an increased breathing and heart rate.

All of that stuff...can't be faked, tho I'll say the sweating may not occur, esp if it's just a quickie.
 
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