The ICK factor.

[barefootgirl69]

I’m always aware when toys are in use and monitor my partner for even their most subtle reactions

You beat me to it!

 

[crazychemgirl]

Rando dudes who tell you “you should smile” … at the grocery store

 

[sallysparrow23]

Rando dudes who tell you “you should smile” … at the grocery store

I've used, "You should say that less," and it seems to shut them up.

 

[Taegul]

Rando dudes who tell you “you should smile” … at the grocery store

That's why I stopped brushing my teeth 27 years ago. Yeah it sucks not being able to eat solid food, but the look of terror on their face is so worth it when I smile back at them!

 

[sallysparrow23]

Rando dudes who tell you “you should smile” … at the grocery store

Or go Wednesday Addams and give them your best creepy smile.

 

[crazychemgirl]

Male posters who post photos of their wives / girlfriends / play partners

 

[crazychemgirl]

Guys who think that flirting just means repeatedly asking for nudes

 

[Wand3rlust]

Guys who think that flirting just means repeatedly asking for nudes

Is that a no then?

 

[GhostOfFAS]

Male posters who post photos of their wives / girlfriends / play partners

That shit drives me crazy.

 

[Wand3rlust]

That shit drives me crazy.

See. Horses for courses....

 

[barefootgirl69]

Male posters who post photos of their wives / girlfriends / play partners

And the ones that say their gf is interested in chatting, but she's out. Then, they get called out and, suddenly, "Sally" appears.

Y'all know that guy, right?!

 

[barefootgirl69]

When people drop into conversation threads unexpectedly and announce how horny they are.

 

[AmberLGreen]

When people have to let you know that they are naked (whatever they are doing)

 

[crazychemgirl]

Long ass mansplaining messages

 

[Photog1rl]

Older Litsters that go gaga over barely 18-year-olds. I know they are legal and I try not to yuck a yum but as a parent with kids aged 20, 22 and 25 I find it disturbing.

 

[37_ttej]

Long ass mansplaining messages

Oh, shit.
And I thought my explanatory posts were both informative and entertaining.
Turns out their just ick.
I'm a d-ick.



#socrushedrightnow

 

[crazychemgirl]

Oh, shit.
And I thought my explanatory posts were both informative and entertaining.
Turns out their just ick.
I'm a d-ick.



#socrushedrightnow

*ahem … they’re


Ick.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Nosey people who ask too many questions about Litsters who have left.

 

[Xerxes82]

Older Litsters that go gaga over barely 18-year-olds. I know they are legal and I try not to yuck a yum but as a parent with kids aged 20, 22 and 25 I find it disturbing.

On the one hand, I get this.

On the other hand, I lost my virginity at 19 to a 53 year old woman and loved every single minute of it. Now, obviously it's a little bit different dynamic when it's a younger guy/older woman vs younger woman/older man. There's more of an inherent squick factor in the latter, I think. Probably due to all the times that dynamic has undoubtedly been abused over the years. But still.

So, yeah. Complex issues without simple answers.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Alts who ask too many questions about Litsters who have left.

FIFY

 

[Photog1rl]

On the one hand, I get this.

On the other hand, I lost my virginity at 19 to a 53 year old woman and loved every single minute of it. Now, obviously it's a little bit different dynamic when it's a younger guy/older woman vs younger woman/older man. There's more of an inherent squick factor in the latter, I think. Probably due to all the times that dynamic has undoubtedly been abused over the years. But still.

So, yeah. Complex issues without simple answers.

I so respect that your experience and my opinion are not the same. I also appreciate you offering your own experience and opening dialog. It is a complex topic and I will try to further articulate my thoughts.

This came up for me for a couple of reasons. First, age gap is a common theme and really quite popular and while it is not my thing I don't think there is anything wrong with legally consenting adults having a sexual relationship. It is hard to see the number of men that are all in when a young woman(if they are not catfish) comes on here playing up being barely legal. I don't understand the appeal nevermind the fetishization.

I have personal experience with age gap relationships. They include a naive girl being manipulated. I thought I understood and had a handle on the situation but the power dynamic was real and it wasn't until I was older that I realized how toxic it was. This undoubtedly plays into my responses.

Additionally, I don't think there is any way that as a 52 year old mother I couid view sex with someone the same age or younger than my children as anything other than predatory. I can hear and believe that for you that was not the case.

Lastly, on Lit you don't tend to see older women fawning over younger men as often but that may just be due to sheer numbers and not because women don't do it.
It probably doesn't make it any better but I would feel the same way regardless of the gender.

 

[NewEng]

People who are unable to concentrate on one tiny thing at a time

Sorry, could you repeat that please, l didn't take it all in

 

[dkak001]

Older Litsters that go gaga over barely 18-year-olds. I know they are legal and I try not to yuck a yum but as a parent with kids aged 20, 22 and 25 I find it disturbing.

We went to a strip club last week. They were SO young. They were cute but I couldn't help think they might be my kids ages. Getting old really sucks.

 

[Xerxes82]

I so respect that your experience and my opinion are not the same. I also appreciate you offering your own experience and opening dialog. It is a complex topic and I will try to further articulate my thoughts.

I totally get it, and that's completely fair. For what it's worth, I don't remotely disagree with your premise. At 42, I absolutely find myself hitting that area where there is just a place where a potential partner is too young to even be considered. In my mid 30's I flirted with a then 19 year old and just felt incredibly wrong, that was kind of the clue for me that I'd aged out of that demographic, right?

And I respect your perspective, particularly given your own experiences with the matter. I think the risk that younger partners are taken advantage of, or even that they feel taken advantage of, is something that people absolutely need to consider when they think about such matters.

Thanks for the discussion!