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canadiancutie said:
Watching an "Adults only" hypnotist with your mom in the room? Awkward.

Spending $21 in a day on water? Infuriating.

Shaming a clairvoyant with 15 years experience in front of a crowd? Priceless.
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Details, cc, details! You can't just tease us like that!
 
rikaaim said:
I'm new to this lifestyle. In fact, so new that I haven't even found a special person to learn and grow in this lifestyle with. I understand many things about the intricacies of REAL BDSM. I understand so much more than whipping, flogging, torturing, humilating. I know that at it's core, there must always be trust and love, in a PYL/pyl relationship. I also understand that there are many hacks out there who wish nothing more than their own five second gratification by using, abusing, and abandoning, a willing person. Those people make me sick.

So, I ask: Am I a true BDSMer in my heart even though I've never gotten to live the lifestyle yet? I say yes. I say yes because I know in my heart this is the life I want to live. I know what I'm looking for. I know how to treat my willing pyl.

I was just curious as to what others thought.
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I think we have all run into this. I like to call them the "Real (tm) BDSMers." You get all sorts in any kind of clique, and people seem to go out of their way to find reasons to look down on each other. BDSM is, sad to say, no exception.

BDSM is what you make of it. Generally it includes elements of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism. Hence it qualifies for the label "BDSM". But BDSM is a handy label, not a definition. If you get three different BDSMers into a room, real/true or otherwise, you will get at least three different definitions of what BDSM comprises.

So, like most things in life, it's all about finding people who share your own views, or at least are open minded enough to understand and appreciate your views and interests. The label BDSM doesn't guarantee that, but at least it limits people to those with related sexual interests.

I've found (personally) that there are a number of dominant women out there who seem to think that being a "true BDSMer" is about being a bitch. Similarly there are dominant men who define being a "true BDSMer" as about being an arrogant arsehole. So there are certainly definitions I disagree with.

On the other hand, you run into some amazing people who, while they may not have the same definition as your own (or my own), they don't insist that everyone must follow their definitions and don't go out of their way to put people down. Those, to me, are the "real/true BDSMers". The people that contribute to community and understanding, who help out, who teach and learn and grow. So look for those people. And there are many of those kinds of people within this community.
 
Sir_Winston54 said:
Details, cc, details! You can't just tease us like that!
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haha yes I can. But I can tell you you, I out psyched the psychic. I knew my psych class would pay off some day.
 
canadiancutie said:
She's cute I guess. I wouldn't do her. Excessive airbrushing in pictures is gross.
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She's even cuter in real life, and has an awesome bubbly personality you would never expect from a porn star.
 
Marquis said:
She's even cuter in real life, and has an awesome bubbly personality you would never expect from a porn star.
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I would hope that she's cuter in person haha, because she isn't all that cute from what I see. And all porn stars are bubbly.
 
FUCK YOU THESIS! FUCK YOU DISSERTATION! FUCK YOU POWERPOINT PRESENTATIONS FUCK YOU REPORTS FUCK YOU FREQUENCY TABLES FUCK YOU LEVENE'S TEST FOR EQUALITY OF VARIANCES...........

thank you I needed to get that out.
 
astralkiss said:
No shit! I meant which one. I'm not a walking porn star encyclopedia, ya' know.
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She's the one who's always getting fucked by gongshlonging mutes.
 
Just because I have a ghetto booty and dance like wo.. doesn't mean that I will sleep with everything that moves, dumbass.
 
Marquis said:
What distinguishing characteristic are you looking for?
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Her name, perhaps, would be lovely. I am trying to remember if I have seen her before or not. My guess would be Kobe Tai, but I am wrong.
 
astralkiss said:
Her name, perhaps, would be lovely. I am trying to remember if I have seen her before or not. My guess would be Kobe Tai, but I am wrong.
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There was a link.
 
FungiUg said:
I think we have all run into this. I like to call them the "Real (tm) BDSMers." You get all sorts in any kind of clique, and people seem to go out of their way to find reasons to look down on each other. BDSM is, sad to say, no exception.

BDSM is what you make of it. Generally it includes elements of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism. Hence it qualifies for the label "BDSM". But BDSM is a handy label, not a definition. If you get three different BDSMers into a room, real/true or otherwise, you will get at least three different definitions of what BDSM comprises.

So, like most things in life, it's all about finding people who share your own views, or at least are open minded enough to understand and appreciate your views and interests. The label BDSM doesn't guarantee that, but at least it limits people to those with related sexual interests.

I've found (personally) that there are a number of dominant women out there who seem to think that being a "true BDSMer" is about being a bitch. Similarly there are dominant men who define being a "true BDSMer" as about being an arrogant arsehole. So there are certainly definitions I disagree with.

On the other hand, you run into some amazing people who, while they may not have the same definition as your own (or my own), they don't insist that everyone must follow their definitions and don't go out of their way to put people down. Those, to me, are the "real/true BDSMers". The people that contribute to community and understanding, who help out, who teach and learn and grow. So look for those people. And there are many of those kinds of people within this community.
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I just came across this and wanted to comment right away. First, thank you very much. Second, I agree completely.

I'll admit, I'm a nice guy. A hopless romantic as it were. I'm soft, sensual, kind...

Typically not what one might think of as far as a BDSM lifestyle. However, I know my kinks. The feel of new leather on my skin, the sound of the slapper against a lover's rear end, the joy I get from seeing them writhe in both pleasure and pain...mmm...

That's how I know in my heart what I am. I want, like so many here already have, to try and teach that BDSM isn't soley about how much pain you can dish out or take. How strict you can control another or abuse them.

I think everyone here gets that.

I'm feeling much more at ease since the incident occured. Thanks again. :)
 
I have over 20 large bruises, and ~30 small ones (splatterings.) And a couple other injuries.

I think I look kind of like a spotted leopard. :catgrin:
 
Killishandra said:
I have over 20 large bruises, and ~30 small ones (splatterings.) And a couple other injuries.

I think I look kind of like a spotted leopard. :catgrin:
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DUDE!! are you ok?
 
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