The SINGLE PARENT's Place

[itsureis]

Question... Single parents, how many of you have insurance that covers your children? Does it cover things such as therapy if needed?

Any of you not have insurance coverage for your kids?

At this particular moment I don't have insurance for my kids... My wife did have some, but she was fired from her job and lost it... I should have some by the end of next week for the ones with me... And once I get a job with benefits for the other two as well...

And no... the insurance that we did have didn't cover therapy or counseling... Even through tramatic experiences.... My five year old daughter was molested by a 12 year old boy... and it wouldn't cover for her or for my wife when they needed help to cope witht he situation...

 

[~Dream~]

well I have Michigan Medicaid which basically covers everything , however have no car= no transpo and all dr's are hard to get to..
we did get help w/ transpo but Mich recently cut back on that also!!cabs are$ 10 just to the groc store and back!!

 

[DocRoy]

Hi what a wonderful idea...

I'm a single father of a 9 year old son. He is the centre of my life.

His mother walked out 3 years ago to go and live with her cybergoth lover about 300 miles away. Since then she sees him 3 or 4 times a year for a weekend. In all honesty she has no interest in him and the reason she stays in contact at all is simply that if she didn't have contact with her son her family would disown her. So, she paints a picture to them (who live in my area) of me being manipulative and stopping her from seeing her son. The reality is that we went to court over her contact and SHE made the decision to see him as little as she does. Even though the court welfare officer tried to get her to have more contact. But her story to her family was that because I stopped her from seeing her son, she needed to go to court. They applauded this. The reality was that i kept calling and emailing her until she phoned him. Now she didnt even see him over christmas. Her family and i dont get on because of this and i find it depressing. My son has complete freedom to call his mom and her family whenever he wants to but he prefers to be with me.

Because of work and where I live its almost impossible to meet women in similar situations let alone talk to them so this place is a sanctuary.

So thats me and mine!

 

[silkynsmooth]

Good morning everyone - I have health insurance for my kids through the state...not Medicaid but the state offers health insurance for parents that aren't working, or it's too expensive through their jobs. Which is great and yes it covers just about everything. It's great peace of mind having that.

My oldest daughter has been in therapy for awhile now and thank god for the insurance. Whether I had it or not she would still be going but it's a little easier this way.

 

[prettygrneyes]

Hi Dream, thanks for coming by!

Wow, you wrote so much that I may have to post two or three times to talk to you!

Your daughter, have you tried getting her into a treatment program? I know because she is 18, she could walk out the door on her own once there, but it sounds like she needs a push in that direction. You may not be able to get her to go until she's really screwed up, but don't wait too long. She has her whole life ahead of her, and I'd hate to see her waste any of it.

God, I hope I haven't overstepped any boundaries here, but I know how important it can be to get help while they are young.

Is she on Paxil for the panic/anxiety disorder? Alcohol effects are intensified by that drug.

can i PM you please????

 

[prettygrneyes]

I didn't really know where to start but here I am ,I have a teenage daughter and she has anxiety disorder and is on meds and the whole nine yards....a good kid....
Last 3 years she was being home schooled and was doing well when the teachers showed up ,so we had a meeting and I knew that she was not ready to go back into the schoold district FT but they did not care what I thought ,well anyways they ended up placing her back into a private school full time this past Jan.she was still having alot of problems ,thats when I ended up in court on a PINS with her ,long story but then I won and she got to come home after a 30 day eval....
Needless to say the last two months she was having problems and they were putting too much pressures on her and demands and now she has been taken away from me,due to the last two weeks she was not going to school ,there were tons of things I was doing ,calling meetings between workers and all the ppl involved in school ,noone wanted to attend and only two of her workers cared enough to come and discuss the possilbilities of having another meeting whereas her teacher and her clincian worker come and discuss the issues at hand ,well needless to say my daughter now is now three hours away from me and I have one call a week to talk to her ,its terrible and I am so worried about her..It is terrible how they have done this to my family and I have no say ,no rights..please if there is anyone that is going thru this PM me or talk here ,and thanks Arden for a wonderful thread....
I am so devastated and noone really cares how I feel.....I want my child home where she belongs and the ppl that have been working along side of us to continue doing so,but the Department of social services nearby are showing no compassion as usual...
it is so unfair....
I am a good mother and I love my children unconditionally and she belongs home ,not with a bunch of strangers and having more anxieties that need be.....she is not opening up and will down the road have more problems than she needs..any advice is greatly appreciated..and please I have trial on Monday and I will most likely lose my daughter for 18 months or more...
Please can you please keep me and my family in your prayers...thank you so much for letting me share this,even know its been hard doing so.....

 

[Georgia Girl]

Question... Single parents, how many of you have insurance that covers your children? Does it cover things such as therapy if needed?

Any of you not have insurance coverage for your kids?

Yes I have insurance that covers everything including mental, optical and oral health.....mine was written into the divorve, his father has to provide it until he is 18 if he is out of school and 21 if he remains in school.

My ex also had to take out an insurance policy for the full value of my son's child support through age 21 so if anything were to happen to my ex the support would not just vanish.

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This place (Lit) has long been a haven for me. A good bit ago I promised myself that if I couldn't bring anything positive I just wouldn't say anything, there is enough negativity. My last few days have been ones that made me want to do nothing but hold my son and check him every second to be sure he's okay. What I do when I am away from him during the day is child and adult protective services. No details but parents I will say this.......no matter how many things the kids break, how often they smart off, how much attitude they have treasure that you still have them.

Have a good day.

 

[prettygrneyes]

I am stopping back in and hope I have not done anything wrong posting my problems going on right now in my life,if it was not for Lit and Angelofsex I would have gone crazy,I thank god everyday for me finding this place and sending me a dear friend,I have been a mess the last few months actually the last year with my daughter experiencing anxieties and all the problems that the system have given me,they just plain out don't care and it is so terrible ,I don't eat and I have not been able to sleep ,which I know is not good,but I am very worried and scared for my daughter.She does not deserve this,i know that there is a law that she MUST be in school ,but is there a law that when I been doing what is required by law and I having rights that are not being rightfully looked at and my child being taken away for reasons that they should work on ,not make them worse...
I am so scared and I feel like I am in a maze and I am running and running to get to the end of it ,where my daughter is standing and I can't seem to get there ,it is terrible feeling not being able to know when I lay down at night that the reassurance of knowing that my daughter is in bed in the next room over and is safe ,and knowing that my child is home where she belongs ,I hate not knowing what is wrong and who bothered her today and who did not understand how she is feeling.My child keeps everything all in and I am afraid that she is not expressing her feelings,when i call they say she is doing ok and she is stressing alot.I think to myself how is she ok then??I know my child is not doing ok ,they see her surface they don't know my child's heart ,they don't think that she is having any problems due to she won't open up ,and she is very scared there and away from me and her family...
thanks for letting me come here ...
Another thing is child support but that is another concern in its own....
its funny how the system does not give a damn about that.....
my ex -hubby has not paid child support but one tyme in the last ten years.....I have went to court over and over ....I don't know what else I can do reguarding that ...
out of sight -out of mind..it is terrible thing......

 

[Arden]

Sending you a PM shortly, PGE

{{{{{PGE}}}}}

 

[tonitits]

I am stopping back in and hope I have not done anything wrong posting my problems going on right now in my life,if it was not for Lit and Angelofsex I would have gone crazy,I thank god everyday for me finding this place and sending me a dear friend,I have been a mess the last few months actually the last year with my daughter experiencing anxieties and all the problems that the system have given me,they just plain out don't care and it is so terrible ,I don't eat and I have not been able to sleep ,which I know is not good,but I am very worried and scared for my daughter.She does not deserve this,i know that there is a law that she MUST be in school ,but is there a law that when I been doing what is required by law and I having rights that are not being rightfully looked at and my child being taken away for reasons that they should work on ,not make them worse...
I am so scared and I feel like I am in a maze and I am running and running to get to the end of it ,where my daughter is standing and I can't seem to get there ,it is terrible feeling not being able to know when I lay down at night that the reassurance of knowing that my daughter is in bed in the next room over and is safe ,and knowing that my child is home where she belongs ,I hate not knowing what is wrong and who bothered her today and who did not understand how she is feeling.My child keeps everything all in and I am afraid that she is not expressing her feelings,when i call they say she is doing ok and she is stressing alot.I think to myself how is she ok then??I know my child is not doing ok ,they see her surface they don't know my child's heart ,they don't think that she is having any problems due to she won't open up ,and she is very scared there and away from me and her family...
thanks for letting me come here ...
Another thing is child support but that is another concern in its own....
its funny how the system does not give a damn about that.....
my ex -hubby has not paid child support but one tyme in the last ten years.....I have went to court over and over ....I don't know what else I can do reguarding that ...
out of sight -out of mind..it is terrible thing......

PGE sorry to hear about your daughter and the things that you are suffering through with this. I have not ever been in a situation like that, Thank God, but I can only imagine what you are going through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that everything is resolved and that you can get her back home and get the help that you need. Keep your head up and be strong. I know that that is not an easy thing. Just do what you can, pray alot and then Let go...Let God. And things should work out. Take care sweetie. I wish there were more I could do to help you through this.

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[Arden]

Yep.. LOL... I guess that you got me beat...

My son, 13, who is still with his Mom is reacting exactly the opposite of his sister... He called me just today and told me that he hated it there and wanted to move up here with me... He even said that he hates his Mom... I know that he doesn't hate her, but that he is unhappy with the situation... The whole thing is very sad... And both my wife and I are hurt by the feeling of our older two... I talked to him for a while and then to his mom letting her know his feelings... He has become fairly reclusive at the house and only talks to people if he wants something... Not to mention that he is being disrespectful to the adults in the house.. (there are four adults) My seperation is very fresh and it is extremely hard on the kids... Even the ones with me, although they don't have to deal with someone taking the place of one of their parents... They do miss their Mom, but they talk to her often and know that we will be back by the end of summer...

Ok.. 'nuff for now... LOL... I do tend to ramble...

I'm sorry to hear about your son being that unhappy with his current situation at home. It sounds like you are the only one he will confide in, and tell what he's feeling inside. I'm sure the disrespect is probably some anger at his situation coming out, my son did that often when he was a young teen, and still does it on occasion. Is he getting passing grades at school or is he slipping there? Would his Mom let you take him to finish out the school year with you if he reached a point where he wasn't coping well with anything? I know you said you were headed back in the summer, but that's still a long way off.

Does he have a computer to use at home? Maybe the two of you could start daily e-mails... make him tell you what he's up to, and how he's coping with things every single day. If he doesn't have a computer, I think those e-mail only machines are under $90 now. K-mart had some during the holidays, I think Radio Shack has them too. I know how expensive long distance rates are. Oh well, it's just a thought. Mostly I'm just thinking out loud here in my ramblings.

 

[Arden]

Good morning all Single Parents. I hope everyone is doing well today. If things aren't not so well...well let's just pour a cup of coffee and take a few Valiums, lol, just kidding, and then everything will be just fine!!! Have a great day!

Pass the bottle of Valium to your left when done, Toni, there are a lot of us waiting in line! lol

(Just kidding)

 

[Arden]

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[Angelofsex]

I am stopping back in and hope I have not done anything wrong posting my problems going on right now in my life,if it was not for Lit and Angelofsex I would have gone crazy,I thank god everyday for me finding this place and sending me a dear friend,I have been a mess the last few months actually the last year with my daughter experiencing anxieties and all the problems that the system have given me,they just plain out don't care and it is so terrible ,I don't eat and I have not been able to sleep ,which I know is not good,but I am very worried and scared for my daughter.She does not deserve this,i know that there is a law that she MUST be in school ,but is there a law that when I been doing what is required by law and I having rights that are not being rightfully looked at and my child being taken away for reasons that they should work on ,not make them worse...
I am so scared and I feel like I am in a maze and I am running and running to get to the end of it ,where my daughter is standing and I can't seem to get there ,it is terrible feeling not being able to know when I lay down at night that the reassurance of knowing that my daughter is in bed in the next room over and is safe ,and knowing that my child is home where she belongs ,I hate not knowing what is wrong and who bothered her today and who did not understand how she is feeling.My child keeps everything all in and I am afraid that she is not expressing her feelings,when i call they say she is doing ok and she is stressing alot.I think to myself how is she ok then??I know my child is not doing ok ,they see her surface they don't know my child's heart ,they don't think that she is having any problems due to she won't open up ,and she is very scared there and away from me and her family...
thanks for letting me come here ...
Another thing is child support but that is another concern in its own....
its funny how the system does not give a damn about that.....
my ex -hubby has not paid child support but one tyme in the last ten years.....I have went to court over and over ....I don't know what else I can do reguarding that ...
out of sight -out of mind..it is terrible thing......

I am so glad you open up on here.....You kept so much in and afraid to say anything......You are a damm great Mom and you love you kids very much.....I to thank Lit for bring you to me my best friend.....and I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU.....Just remember people can help one way or another.
(((((((PGE))))))))))

 

[Arden]

Yes mine covers most everything.......but its expensive..........cause of both dental eye plus health


WCM

I was paying almost $300.00 a month to a HMO nearly 8 years ago, just for myself. I cringe when I think what it must cost today...

 

[Arden]

I have insurance that covers child(ren), but not sure if it covers therapy. I am interested in finding out if it does. I had always had HMO's but they kept dropping them, I had Kaiser Permanente and then they left and it became Tx Health Choice, then they left and I got PacifiCare, they almost doubled the cost and I think was offering less. They are the only HMO left. I changed to Blue Cross/Blue Shield PPO. It just went into effect last month. I really would like to take Daniel to therapy if it does and I could afford it.

Give them a call, there should be a phone# to contact them with questions in your plan book. I think some of them limit how long they will pay for therapy for a specific need.

My son was going to a great doctor up at Hillcrest/ LBJ until we moved. He does 1/2 to 1 hour blocks of talking with the parent(s) and the child, and can knowledgably prescribe any of the medications that kids often need for school or coping. I credit this guy for my sons graduation from HS. He panicked about two months before graduation, couldn't do any work or concentrate on things. The doctor prescribed some other meds that were able to reduce his anxiety level, which allowed him to relax and get things done again. (Whew!)

 

[Arden]

Re: Re: Re: Thank you Arden

{{{Arden}}}

Ok.. I'll share a great experience....

My very middle child...(10) The oldest one with me... Was doing very poorly in school before wew mvoed here... We just got his report card on Sat... He had four As two Bs and a C... The best that it has ever been... Part of it has to do with the fact that I am now able to spend more time with him and helping him more with his work because my hours are different and not 7 days a week...
I'm very excited about it... It's a huge accomplishment for him... He used to act out in school alot, too... And now he only does it from time to time... I'm very proud of him right now... Hopefully we can keep things going this way... I'm afraid that when we get to a larger area with bigger classes that he might start to go backward from this... He also used to wet the bed on a regular basis... Now I can't even tell you when the last time was that he did... So there you are a good thing from a bad one...

Sounds like you're doing an awesome job, Dad! I'm so happy to hear of the positive changes in your son's life.

 

[Arden]

At this particular moment I don't have insurance for my kids... My wife did have some, but she was fired from her job and lost it... I should have some by the end of next week for the ones with me... And once I get a job with benefits for the other two as well...

And no... the insurance that we did have didn't cover therapy or counseling... Even through tramatic experiences.... My five year old daughter was molested by a 12 year old boy... and it wouldn't cover for her or for my wife when they needed help to cope witht he situation...

Man, I would have been furious! Grrrrrrrrr!!!!!!

I hope your daughter was finally able to cope with trauma, Mr. E. That must have been an incredibly hard thing to deal with for your entire family.

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[prettygrneyes]

PGE sorry to hear about your daughter and the things that you are suffering through with this. I have not ever been in a situation like that, Thank God, but I can only imagine what you are going through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that everything is resolved and that you can get her back home and get the help that you need. Keep your head up and be strong. I know that that is not an easy thing. Just do what you can, pray alot and then Let go...Let God. And things should work out. Take care sweetie. I wish there were more I could do to help you through this.

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thanks Toni,it means alot to me....and thx for the hug as well...heres one for you,just because.....{{{{{{Toni}}}}}}}

 

[prettygrneyes]

I am so glad you open up on here.....You kept so much in and afraid to say anything......You are a damm great Mom and you love you kids very much.....I to thank Lit for bring you to me my best friend.....and I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU.....Just remember people can help one way or another.
(((((((PGE))))))))))

thanks Angel ,I love you and I want to really thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the tymes you have been there for me...I really appreciate everything you have done and all the tymes you are there for me ...remember I am here for you anytime hun....
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{bestfriend}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[tonitits]

Pass the bottle of Valium to your left when done, Toni, there are a lot of us waiting in line! lol

(Just kidding)

Passing the Valium to Arden, hehe, just kidding!

 

[tonitits]

Passing the Valium to Arden, hehe, just kidding!

Good morning to all the Single Parents out there. Hope everyone has a great day and even better weekend!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{SINGLE PARENTS}}}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[lady*laura]

GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!

Ok I realize that just because I divorced my children's father that does not mean he would have a personality transplant! However...this guy is hurting his children....MY children! My 15yo daughter had a melt down last night because her father never talks to her anymore...even when she is there on his weekends, yet he expects that she will be free to watch her three younger sibs if he has things to do while they are there. He gets upset with her if she has other plans! This gilr is a sophomore in highschool and involved in band, speech, vocal music, orchestra and swim team. She is tron between feeling guilty about not liking her fahter and being so busy she can't do his parenting job for him. How do I help her with out trashing her father??? Oh I WOULD LOVE to trash him and then some!

 

[tonitits]

Re: GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!

Ok I realize that just because I divorced my children's father that does not mean he would have a personality transplant! However...this guy is hurting his children....MY children! My 15yo daughter had a melt down last night because her father never talks to her anymore...even when she is there on his weekends, yet he expects that she will be free to watch her three younger sibs if he has things to do while they are there. He gets upset with her if she has other plans! This gilr is a sophomore in highschool and involved in band, speech, vocal music, orchestra and swim team. She is tron between feeling guilty about not liking her fahter and being so busy she can't do his parenting job for him. How do I help her with out trashing her father??? Oh I WOULD LOVE to trash him and then some!

Laura, I hope that everything gets better. Even though I don't have the ex to worry about, my son's dad has never been in the picture, I have seen nephews, nieces that have gone through alot of what yours are going through and have also heard the dad's side of the story and they say well the kid never calls, well my advice to them is you are the Grownup/parent, you make the effort and let them know that you care and love them. I would just suggest that you do NOT talk bad of her dad, because even if he is that way deep inside of her she still loves him. But like you said she is starting to see the thruth about him. Soon she will be able to decide on her own whether or not she wants to have anything to do to him. I do think it is wrong of him to want her to miss out on the things she enjoys and are important to her to care for her siblings. Hang in there Laura, I am sure that things will get better. In the meantime, here is a hug for you.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{LAURA}}}}}}}}}}

 

[lady*laura]

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I know deep in my heart I am in much better place emtionally and mentally now than when I was married as are the kids....buty still....I just don't understand him.........sigh