The SINGLE PARENT's Place

[lady*laura]

Sometimes just living can be overwhelming. There are times when I wonder if I can do it anymore. Looking at the dreams I had at 20 compared to where I am at 41 makes me sad. I never thought my marriage would end. Life is full of beginnings and endings. If I spend too much time wondering what if...and asking what went wrong I'll make myself crazy. One day at a time...somedays one hour at a time.....

 

[TantaLiza]

Sometimes just living can be overwhelming. There are times when I wonder if I can do it anymore. Looking at the dreams I had at 20 compared to where I am at 41 makes me sad. I never thought my marriage would end. Life is full of beginnings and endings. If I spend too much time wondering what if...and asking what went wrong I'll make myself crazy. One day at a time...somedays one hour at a time.....

lady*laura...

Although I'm just 4 yrs behind you, I so know how you are feeling! I never married cause I knew down deep it wouldn't work.... instead, I've concentrated on raising my daughter on my own for almost 13 yrs. The days can be long and the nights even longer.... sometimes a minute seems like a year... ~sigh~

Over the last few years, I've worked long hours and multiple jobs to provide for her... thank God my family helped take care of her while I worked. I've never had any monetary help from her father nor has he ever seen her other than pictures his parents have shown him... I've not even layed eyes on him myself since the night of conception! I did however talk to him this past Fall for the first time in over 10 yrs... it felt really weird!

As stated previously, kids aren't stupid... although I've never talked bad about my daughter's father, she's developed her own ideas. We were even gonna work it out for her to finally meet him and she said (and I quote) "Why would I want to meet him? He blew into town, knocked my mom up and left us... he's not a good influence and I hate him." Needless to say, I wouldn't push her to do anything she didn't want to do.... maybe later she'll change her mind... maybe not...

Time seems to have flown and I'm still doing the best I can by my daughter... something is still missing. Maybe one day I'll figure out what/who it is...


Hugs to all the other single parents out there.... I feel your pain!!

LizA

 

[tonitits]

Good morning Single Parents. Hugs to all. Hope everyone is doing well or at least able to cope. Tantaliza my story is similar to yours. I did not marry his father either and have raised him on my own with help from family so I don't have to pay for babysitter. He stays with Dad while I work nights. I have never seen his dad since the day I told him I was pregnant. No support, but in some ways it is worth it. I don't have all the fighting with the ex like some and my son is not put in the middle. He knows he is loved and we do the best we can, and if we cannot afford something, well he understands that, too! He is a wonderful young man, and not just by my standards, others have told me the same. He loves babies, kids and older people and takes his time to help them, always polite and acts nice, in public anyway, lol. I have really been lucky with him for the most part.

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[Lady_Sam]

Good afternoon Single Parents. Well I'm in a much better frame of mind today. Done with feeling sorry for myself Who needs that anyways. too much other stuff going on to worry bout little things.

Anyone have a suggestion for stopping whinning? My son started doing this about three months ago. When it gets bad he gets a time out but everything seems to be a whine now and I'm going to go bonkers if he keeps it up.

 

[lady*laura]

whinning.,..

for what it's worth...I had some results wuith my daughter when she started doing that. I looked at her matter of factly and said I can't talk to you whne you whine. When you are ready to talk to me in your real voice I will be happy to listen. She got mad at first but it didn't take long to get the message across.

Here's another helpful tip.....don't count to 3! Tell the child I am going to count to ZERO !!! You get better results because there is nothing after zero. When you count to 3 once they learn to count they keep adding numbers and it makes you even more crabby when they do that. My kids are 15, 12, 10 and 8 now and I still use the count to ZERO when I want them to know I mean business...when I get to 3 they usually just do it and I of course thank them!

 

[itsureis]

Good night to all the single parents. Hope everyone has a nice evening and has a very happy Valentine's Day.

B.S. welcome to the thread. Thanks for dropping in.

Ok... I'm a few days behind now... As I often get... But I too was spending time with my kids... This was my first VDay alone in over eight years... There is a special lady that I talk to every day... But for some reason we weren't able to connect at all on Friday... Not until after midnight... What a bummer day... Of course we did talk until about 3:30 then... LOL But it's all good, I guess...

{{{single parents}}}

^5 single dads... LOL...

 

[tonitits]

Ok... I'm a few days behind now... As I often get... But I too was spending time with my kids... This was my first VDay alone in over eight years... There is a special lady that I talk to every day... But for some reason we weren't able to connect at all on Friday... Not until after midnight... What a bummer day... Of course we did talk until about 3:30 then... LOL But it's all good, I guess...

{{{single parents}}}

^5 single dads... LOL...

Good morning Single Parents. Hope everyone enjoyed the weekend. My son is sick and I will be taking care of him later. But wanted to stop in and say hi and give everyone a hug.

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[tonitits]

Here's a joke my cousin sent me a while back. I thought that the single parents, especially the mom's would appreciate!

>Fwd: Mom's boyfriend > > > > > >

I'm a single mom. I had minor surgery and while I was
recovering and spending most of the day in bed, my seven
year old daughter asked me why I didn't have a boyfriend.
I told her the television was my boyfriend, he entertained me
all the time. The only problem was the television set was old and would just shut off for no reason. But, I would just give
it a few hard wacks on the side and it would come back on, which was no big deal. A couple of days later a neighbor stopped by to check on my recovery. I was trying to get the television to come back on so, my daughter answered the door. The neighbor smiled and asked "Is your mother busy, Michelle? My little one looked up at him and replied, "No, sir, she's in the bedroom banging her boyfriend". See how rumors get started !!!!!

 

[tonitits]

Good evening to all the single parents here. Hope everyone had a nice day.

PGE - how are you doing? I have been thinking about you alot lately. Hope everything is good well for you. You know we are all here for you if you ever need to get anything off your chest.

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[windycityman]

Good evening to all the single parents here. Hope everyone had a nice day.

PGE - how are you doing? I have been thinking about you alot lately. Hope everything is good well for you. You know we are all here for you if you ever need to get anything off your chest.

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Had a great Vday with my son......we had a ball......today was good too......he comes back after spending a couple of days with his mom........tommorow nite i pick him up.......Hope your weekend was good!........

Godspeed to all the other single parents.......may your day be filled with joy and happiness!!!!!!!!!!!

WCM *smiles* for the ladies
^5s for the guys everyone keep up the great job as parents!!!!

 

[Lady_Sam]

Evening single parents. Hope everyone had a great day. I'm suffering a serious case of burnout at work so I'm hoping the job I test for next monday pans out. Not only does it pay more but it would definitely be more stable

 

[windycityman]

Evening single parents. Hope everyone had a great day. I'm suffering a serious case of burnout at work so I'm hoping the job I test for next monday pans out. Not only does it pay more but it would definitely be more stable

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lady_Sam}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} i hope you get your new job.......good luck to you n.....i will keep you in my prayers

 

[tonitits]

Evening single parents. Hope everyone had a great day. I'm suffering a serious case of burnout at work so I'm hoping the job I test for next monday pans out. Not only does it pay more but it would definitely be more stable

I know what you mean about job burnout. I think that is what I have, not so much the job I do, I think it is more the hours/days off and always being mandated to work holidays, etc..


I hope the job pans out for you. Good luck. I will be thinking about you and sending good vibes your way!!!

 

[tonitits]

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Had a great Vday with my son......we had a ball......today was good too......he comes back after spending a couple of days with his mom........tommorow nite i pick him up.......Hope your weekend was good!........

Godspeed to all the other single parents.......may your day be filled with joy and happiness!!!!!!!!!!!

WCM *smiles* for the ladies
^5s for the guys everyone keep up the great job as parents!!!!

My weekend was ok. I had to work. My son got sick Sat and I was sick with one of my migraines last night, but we still had a pretty nice weekend. He missed school today due to being sick. But he is feeling lots better and should be able to go to school tomorrow. I am glad that you enjoyed the weekend.

 

[windycityman]

My weekend was ok. I had to work. My son got sick Sat and I was sick with one of my migraines last night, but we still had a pretty nice weekend. He missed school today due to being sick. But he is feeling lots better and should be able to go to school tomorrow. I am glad that you enjoyed the weekend.

Migraines are bad..........sorry.......a friend of mine has those...i know they are very bad.........Gods speed to health my friend............

 

[itsureis]

Hello single parents...

Last night my son said that I didn't like him because I was making him do his chores and I took away video games for a while... LOL... We talked about it and he now understands that there is a time for things... Both play and work... And I dont' think that he's mad at me anymore... LOL... Boy is it fun raising kids...

 

[tonitits]

Migraines are bad..........sorry.......a friend of mine has those...i know they are very bad.........Gods speed to health my friend............

Thanks WCM - yeah I am on 2 different medications. One, which is actually an anti depressant, that I take at bedtime to try to prevent the migraines. And another that I take when I actually get the headache. When I am able to take the bedtime one on a regular basis it seems to help. But when I fall asleep, I sleep well and for long time and do not feel like getting up! It's kind of a catch 22. Thanks for the kind word and concern.

 

[lady*laura]

AGGHHHHHHH!!!!!

it is when the kids are picking on each other and fighting and the house is a mess and the laundry is piled high and my hormones are raging and there isn't a morsel of chocolate in the house that I wish I had a pair of ruby slippers to take me to Oz!

 

[tonitits]

Re: AGGHHHHHHH!!!!!

it is when the kids are picking on each other and fighting and the house is a mess and the laundry is piled high and my hormones are raging and there isn't a morsel of chocolate in the house that I wish I had a pair of ruby slippers to take me to Oz!

{{{{{{{{{{LAURA}}}}}}}}}} sounds like you had a rough day! Hope the hug helps.

 

[lady*laura]

I never turn down....

a hug.....nope, not ever....thanks!

 

[TantaLiza]

Throwin out chocolate kisses to everyone that needs them!!! Gonna leave the basket on the table just in case you want more...

Understand the burn out thing, too Sam!! Only thing is, I'd have to quit my job of almost 18 yrs ..... hoping and praying that I could find something with as good pay and benefits!! Doubt that'll be happening anytime soon.... ~sigh~

Sorry to hear about the migraine, toni... I averted one by the skin of my teeth this morning at work... just happened to have some meds that I could sneak without too much work interference... also got to chill out on a heatin pad for a quick nap, too! I'm sure mine is caused from major stress at this time...

Woohoo... gonna fly with a couple friends of mine to Austin TX this weekend to check on a naive 21 yo step daughter.... Think it's gonna be fun no matter what the reason tho! It's been so long since we got to "hang out"..... both of my friends are married... I'm the only old maid of the bunch... (made up for it with a feisty teenager, tho)... lol

I'll look out the window of the plane and scatter some good thoughts and wishes for all the single parents... Take care everyone and hope to drop back in soon...

LizA

 

[itsureis]

Re: AGGHHHHHHH!!!!!

it is when the kids are picking on each other and fighting and the house is a mess and the laundry is piled high and my hormones are raging and there isn't a morsel of chocolate in the house that I wish I had a pair of ruby slippers to take me to Oz!

Wow, Laura... I hope that your evening was better than your day... I go through that myself from time to time... Best wishes for tomorrow...

 

[tonitits]

Throwin out chocolate kisses to everyone that needs them!!! Gonna leave the basket on the table just in case you want more...

Understand the burn out thing, too Sam!! Only thing is, I'd have to quit my job of almost 18 yrs ..... hoping and praying that I could find something with as good pay and benefits!! Doubt that'll be happening anytime soon.... ~sigh~

Sorry to hear about the migraine, toni... I averted one by the skin of my teeth this morning at work... just happened to have some meds that I could sneak without too much work interference... also got to chill out on a heatin pad for a quick nap, too! I'm sure mine is caused from major stress at this time...

Woohoo... gonna fly with a couple friends of mine to Austin TX this weekend to check on a naive 21 yo step daughter.... Think it's gonna be fun no matter what the reason tho! It's been so long since we got to "hang out"..... both of my friends are married... I'm the only old maid of the bunch... (made up for it with a feisty teenager, tho)... lol

I'll look out the window of the plane and scatter some good thoughts and wishes for all the single parents... Take care everyone and hope to drop back in soon...

LizA

I did not catch the migraine in time for the meds to help, it was already past that point, I was sleeping and woke up from the pain! My burn out is similar to yours. I have only been there about 7 yrs. but know that if I quit it I would not be able to find anything that pays near what I make and the benefits, especially with the job situation being what it is at this time. And what some of family does not understand, when you are the only provider you can just give up something like that...we need all the money we can get. I live a modest life...but even though I make good money...there just never seems to be enough or barely enough.

 

[lady*laura]

Re: Re: AGGHHHHHHH!!!!!

Wow, Laura... I hope that your evening was better than your day... I go through that myself from time to time... Best wishes for tomorrow...

Today is much better. Those full moons really stir things up.....I am looking forward to the weekend..the kids will be with their father.....peace and quiet.......aaaahhhhhh

 

[tonitits]

Good morning Single parents. Hope everyone is doing good and looking forward to the weekend. Thunderstorms here today. Take care and hang in there.

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