The SINGLE PARENT's Place

[Lady_Sam]

Evening Single Parents

I, too, am a single parent. My son just turned four two weeks ago. I can't believe he's four. I'm 34. His father left when he was 2, for a woman he had never met in person. Well a girl really, she was just 20 and he 37. When Devin's father left, he picked him up, kissed him on the cheek. Said he'd send money and that was it. Left me working part time (I had been a stay at home mom), with no daycare, no care and no hopes of finding a full time job.

Fortunately I did manage to find all of that and was off of aide within two months. His father doesn't support him, though the da has finally located him and they tell me it'll be about 3 months before I start getting support for Devin since he not only left the state, but went clear cross country. The girl he left for was in canada. She wised up and kicked him out after two months. Karma bit him in the toosh when he got himself deported .

I do not mention Devin's father. I don't know what to say to him. He's only ever asked about him once and that was about a month after he left.

I'm so stressed I don't know whether I'm coming or going half the time. *sighs* Gah now I'm getting blearry eyed.

As to the insurance question. I have insurance through work that covers everything. Though how long that will last with the lay offs is uncertain.

 

[Lady_Sam]

Bumping this thread

 

[BlackSnake]

Re: Evening Single Parents

I, too, am a single parent. My son just turned four two weeks ago. I can't believe he's four. I'm 34. His father left when he was 2, for a woman he had never met in person. Well a girl really, she was just 20 and he 37. When Devin's father left, he picked him up, kissed him on the cheek. Said he'd send money and that was it. Left me working part time (I had been a stay at home mom), with no daycare, no care and no hopes of finding a full time job.

Fortunately I did manage to find all of that and was off of aide within two months. His father doesn't support him, though the da has finally located him and they tell me it'll be about 3 months before I start getting support for Devin since he not only left the state, but went clear cross country. The girl he left for was in canada. She wised up and kicked him out after two months. Karma bit him in the toosh when he got himself deported .

I do not mention Devin's father. I don't know what to say to him. He's only ever asked about him once and that was about a month after he left.

I'm so stressed I don't know whether I'm coming or going half the time. *sighs* Gah now I'm getting blearry eyed.

As to the insurance question. I have insurance through work that covers everything. Though how long that will last with the lay offs is uncertain.

I grew up with only my mother to support me. I have an older brother and a younger sister. All the times that I needed my father he was not there. When I was just about to graduate high school he came around. I didn't need him. He was useless to me.

My mother was a champ. She ran races with us, and played games. I watched her struggle, but she never gave up. Eventhough, I did a lot of things, I never did anything that caused her to angry with me, because I was careful not to let her find out. I think she knew, but didn't say anything. I was always in the house by dark, did my homework, kept the house clean. The little things that made it a little easier on her.

She married serveral times after my father, but I never saw them as being a part of my life. I'm 38y/o and I don't curse in front of my mother.

Your son will always love you, no matter what you do. It's OK to make mistakes. Do sweat anything that you have to do, to support yourself and your kid. He will appreciate it all. Even when he's a teen and thinks he right about everything. My best advise is to stay close to your son, and don't judge him, just be there.

 

[itsureis]

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But the ladies here can hug you guys anyway! lol
Good Morning to all!


{{{{{Single Parents}}}}}


PGE... my thoughts are with you this morning... take care!

Oh yes... Most definately... I'll take all the hugs and kisses that the ladies want to give... LOL.. I'm jsut that type of a guy... If a lady wants to give a hug or kiss, who am I to hold her back...? Might as well help her with it...

 

[itsureis]

Re: Evening Single Parents

I, too, am a single parent. My son just turned four two weeks ago. I can't believe he's four. I'm 34. His father left when he was 2, for a woman he had never met in person. Well a girl really, she was just 20 and he 37. When Devin's father left, he picked him up, kissed him on the cheek. Said he'd send money and that was it. Left me working part time (I had been a stay at home mom), with no daycare, no care and no hopes of finding a full time job.

Now here's a lady that needs a hug... Glad I came along when I did...

{{{Lady_Sam}}}

Hope this will help you to feel a little better...

 

[Lady_Sam]

Re: Re: Evening Single Parents

Now here's a lady that needs a hug... Glad I came along when I did...

{{{Lady_Sam}}}

Hope this will help you to feel a little better...

{{{itsureis}}}

Thank you hun it does help

 

[tonitits]

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{{{itsureis}}}

Thank you hun it does help

Lady Sam hope today finds you happy and enjoying life.

Hugs and kisses to all the Single Parents.

{{{{{{{{{{SINGLE PARENTS}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[tonitits]

Good night to all the single parents. Hope everyone has a nice evening and has a very happy Valentine's Day.

B.S. welcome to the thread. Thanks for dropping in.

 

[windycityman]

sometimes

Good night to all the single parents. Hope everyone has a nice evening and has a very happy Valentine's Day.

B.S. welcome to the thread. Thanks for dropping in.

Sometimes we do what we really feel we need to...........I turned down someone to spend time with my son......cause he is the love of life.....so we are going to have a Vday party.......I hate to miss a moment with him.....time goes so fast...i dont want to lose that...Happy Vday to all single parents!!!!!!!!!!!Gods speed.....Your in our prayers........

 

[Arden]

~HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY~
To you, and yours...

 

[windycityman]

~HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY~
To you, and yours...

Valentines day bump


WCM

 

[rosylady]

Happy Valentines Day Single Parents.

 

[tonitits]

Happy Valentines Day Single Parents.

good morning Single Parents. For all of you who have a special someone I hope that you are able to enjoy the holiday. For those of us who do not, or our special someone is far away on this day I hope we all still feel all the love, happiness, hugs and kisses. But most of all I hope we all have a fun day with our children. Take care and enjoy Valentine's Day.


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{SINGLE PARENTS}}}}}}}}}}}

 

[tonitits]

Evening bump

 

[windycityman]

Evening bump

Wonders hows the other sp's nite is going.??????? we had dinner now its nintendo time lol.........but its a great date...........i couldnt ask for anything else.....then spending time with my son.........smiles......I hope everyone elses nite is just as good!!!!!!!!!!


WCM

 

[Arden]

Re: Evening Single Parents

I, too, am a single parent. My son just turned four two weeks ago. I can't believe he's four. I'm 34. His father left when he was 2, for a woman he had never met in person. Well a girl really, she was just 20 and he 37. When Devin's father left, he picked him up, kissed him on the cheek. Said he'd send money and that was it. Left me working part time (I had been a stay at home mom), with no daycare, no care and no hopes of finding a full time job.

Fortunately I did manage to find all of that and was off of aide within two months. His father doesn't support him, though the da has finally located him and they tell me it'll be about 3 months before I start getting support for Devin since he not only left the state, but went clear cross country. The girl he left for was in canada. She wised up and kicked him out after two months. Karma bit him in the toosh when he got himself deported .

I do not mention Devin's father. I don't know what to say to him. He's only ever asked about him once and that was about a month after he left.

I'm so stressed I don't know whether I'm coming or going half the time. *sighs* Gah now I'm getting blearry eyed.

As to the insurance question. I have insurance through work that covers everything. Though how long that will last with the lay offs is uncertain.

Hi Lady_Sam... Nice to meet you.

Boy, do I ever relate to your experience with your ex and his behavior. Interesting that he got his just desserts and was deported... Mine had a girlfriend pregnant before our divorce was finalized (it only took 3 months). They lived together for about 1.5 years, and she eventually left him. What goes around... lol...

Your son will ask more questions about his Dad with time. Keep the answers simple until he's old enough to understand things a bit more. My daughter was 4 when we divorced. When she'd ask about her Dad, I'd tell her he was ok, where he lived at, that he loved her. That satisfied her for years. I think she just wanted to know he was still somewhere, if not with us... and hadn't dropped off the face of the earth. I found a nice photograph of him and had it framed for her to keep on her dresser, she still has it there today, and she's almost 12. Of course, she has formed her own opinions about her Dad now, he never bothers to contact her but maybe once a year or so.

Dealing with stress is such a real issue for single parents. It is magnified by the fact that there aren't enough hours in the day to do everything as a single parent (especially where there are no visitation weekends or shared custody) I hope you have someone you can depend on to watch him once in a while, so you can have a few hours for yourself now and then.

Happy Valentine's Day, Lady_Sam...

 

[Arden]

Re: Re: Evening Single Parents

I grew up with only my mother to support me. I have an older brother and a younger sister. All the times that I needed my father he was not there. When I was just about to graduate high school he came around. I didn't need him. He was useless to me.

My mother was a champ. She ran races with us, and played games. I watched her struggle, but she never gave up. Eventhough, I did a lot of things, I never did anything that caused her to angry with me, because I was careful not to let her find out. I think she knew, but didn't say anything. I was always in the house by dark, did my homework, kept the house clean. The little things that made it a little easier on her.

She married serveral times after my father, but I never saw them as being a part of my life. I'm 38y/o and I don't curse in front of my mother.

Your son will always love you, no matter what you do. It's OK to make mistakes. Do sweat anything that you have to do, to support yourself and your kid. He will appreciate it all. Even when he's a teen and thinks he right about everything. My best advise is to stay close to your son, and don't judge him, just be there.

Hi BlackSnake... Nice to meet you!

I loved reading about how respectful and supportive you were of your Mom while growing up. My 20 year old son doesn't see the world that way, for some reason. He is rude, doesn't help with anything normal around the house, and swears at me and his sister. ~sigh~ He does do his own laundry, because when he turned 18, I just quit doing it one day. *laughs* It took him about three weeks to figure out that he needed to do it on his own.... lol

But the rudeness and swearing... he wasn't raised that way. I never used swear words in the home, except for a 'damn' that may have slipped out once or twice. I think he does it more to provoke reactions out of us, a power trip thing. He's off at college now, and I pray that he does well and learns to coexist more peacefully with others while there.

Happy Valentines Day!

 

[Arden]

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Oh yes... Most definately... I'll take all the hugs and kisses that the ladies want to give... LOL.. I'm jsut that type of a guy... If a lady wants to give a hug or kiss, who am I to hold her back...? Might as well help her with it...

You asked for it!

{{{{{ }}}}}

Happy Valentines Day, Mr. E!

 

[Arden]

Happy Valentines Day Single Parents.

Hi Rosy... and thank you! I hope you will enjoy your new job!

{{{{{Rosy}}}}}

 

[Arden]

good morning Single Parents. For all of you who have a special someone I hope that you are able to enjoy the holiday. For those of us who do not, or our special someone is far away on this day I hope we all still feel all the love, happiness, hugs and kisses. But most of all I hope we all have a fun day with our children. Take care and enjoy Valentine's Day.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{SINGLE PARENTS}}}}}}}}}}}

Thank you, Toni... It's easy for single parents to feel left out on Valentine's Day, I know that I did for so long. In fact, this is the first Valentines Day I am celebrating with a S/O in about 7+ years.

The only thing that saved me were those wonderful homemade Valentines Day cards the kids would make me. I still have every single one of them!

Happy Valentine's Day!

{{{{{Toni}}}}}

 

[Arden]

Wonders hows the other sp's nite is going.??????? we had dinner now its nintendo time lol.........but its a great date...........i couldnt ask for anything else.....then spending time with my son.........smiles......I hope everyone elses nite is just as good!!!!!!!!!!


WCM

Happy Valentine's Day, wcm!

It sounds like you're having a wonderful evening. Let's see... my son is off at college, my daughter is at the roller rink with friends, my S/O is playing with the band tonight at a club (he lives out of state)... so I'm celebrating Valentine's Day evening with the cats tonight! Glad you are able to enjoy the company of your son on this special day...

{{{{{WCM}}}}}

 

[Lady_Sam]

Happy V Day to everyone. I am of course alone as I have been for quite a few years now. Even when I was with my son's father, I would do something for him for V day but I was generally forgotten. I'm used to it by now. Doesn't make the day any easier. Seeing everyone at Work have flowers delivered or balloons and yet nothing coming to my desk was incredibly hard this year.

 

[lady*laura]

The smiles you get each day and the unconditional love of your son plu those spontanious kisses and warm hugs are worht more than all the balloons or flowers or cards at work...one hundred years from now it will not matter what care you drove, what your bank account looked like nor what clothes you wore...what will matter is that YOU were important in the life of a child.

Hugs to you from one lady to another

 

[Arden]

Happy V Day to everyone. I am of course alone as I have been for quite a few years now. Even when I was with my son's father, I would do something for him for V day but I was generally forgotten. I'm used to it by now. Doesn't make the day any easier. Seeing everyone at Work have flowers delivered or balloons and yet nothing coming to my desk was incredibly hard this year.

Lady_Sam... I know that feeling well. I got a Christmas present once, and that was it for 7 years of marriage. I had no birthday, no Valentine's Day, no Mother's Day or anniversary thoughts come my way ever. At the time, it felt like I was nothing to anyone, except the kids. Today, despite the trials and tribulations of being a single parent, my kids are my life... and I thank God for them being here every day.

 

[Arden]