Twenty Somethings

[Ljbonobo]

Thank you for the welcome and that's an amazing set of legs in your AV.

 

[My Own Way]

Thank you for the welcome and that's an amazing set of legs in your AV.

Thanks!!

 

[My Own Way]

So in an effort to lift this thread up...since it is my thread and I happen to like it let's chat about what we're all here to talk about...sex....more specifically sex in your 20's. Whatever...take this where you want....who, what, when, is it good, could it be better, enough, not enough, first time....never done it...whatever you feel comfortable sharing....

Oh and feel free to talk about anything else...this is just my pitiful attempt to keep this discussion going...

 

[dollface007]

It's been feast or famine for me. I'll be getting a decent number of dates, a decent amount of sex for a while, and then I'll find myself in vast stretches of NOTHING. No sex, maybe a crush here or there that doesn't pan out. I'm on the feast end of the cycle right now, thank GOD!

I started my first sexual relationship when I was 18, with my first (and only, thus far) love, and that relationship lasted into my 20s. Looking back on it, i was afraid to be sexual, afraid enjoy myself, and definitely put his needs before mine....bad move.

Then I had a period of sowing my wild oats when I didn't want to have anything to do with love or committment at all. I was able to really find myself sexually. I think it's because I saw it as sex and fun and not much more. I didn't really feel the need to be self-conscious or worry about how the guy felt about me. If i wanted to be a slut in bed, i could be a slut. It was very liberating.

Now I'm in a stage where I was looking for a relationship again, and was able to find someone. It was a very long search and it wasn't easy. Now i'm trying to mesh the two extremes...being in a caring relationship AND having great sex. It's sort of new territory, so i'm still trying to figure things out. Communication and honesty about everything, including sex...what a concept!

That's my personal experience, but I think it's a good idea to talk about global issues too. Perhaps in a future post, or perhaps the rest of you have dealt with the same stuff too...

 

[~justin]

I went through those first two phases, or something similar anyway, but I now appear to be in the drought somewhere between phase two and phase three. I almost never meet women with whom I am intellectually, emotionally, AND physically compatible -- it's practically always only one or two of the three.

I've met more than zero, so I know they're out there somewhere, but boy is that kind of compatibility ever hard to find...

Edit: Oh, and I'm 23.

 

[My Own Way]

I have mixed feelings about the whole relationship thing....On one hand...I think I'm ready....ready for the companionship, ready for the work involved, ready to open up and love, ready for sex....but on the other hand I'm scared of all of those...minus the companionship part. My life is full right now...at least I think it is...and I don't know if I want someone else in it. I also agree with what you said Justin....I can't find anyone that I feel i'm both emotionally and physically compatable with....I'm sure he's out there...but he seems to be hiding pretty well...

I'm totally with you on discussing global, cultural, current events....I would talk about the tsunami but as horrible as this sounds I'm not sure there's much more to say about it...did you hear though that cartographers have to re-write the maps of the area affected by the tsunami, not only did it wipe out islands but it totally changed the contors of the ocean floor....

 

[My Own Way]

Oh and Justin....love the pictures...

 

[~justin]

I know what you mean about being ready but also scared. I have codependaphobia, or Severe Independence Appreciation Disorder ( )... I'm used to structuring my life however I like. But on the other hand I know how wonderful that kind of intimacy and closeness is, and I kind of miss it.

I actually come here in part to escape discussion of global issues.

I'm glad you liked the pictures. It's too bad my other threads are all so old that the pictures are gone now (not that *I* don't still have them, of course ). And, as everyone else has said, I *love* your avatar.

 

[KyleW]

Ah a thread I belong in....

I'm enjoying my freedom a lot right now. My friend's have begun marrying or getting into serious relationships. And while I enjoy being with someone, I'm not sure I'm ready to commit yet for life. Probably because I haven't met that special someone yet.

But right now...I'm enjoying life a lot. Especially my sex life.

 

[dollface007]

I'm totally with you on discussing global, cultural, current events....I would talk about the tsunami but as horrible as this sounds I'm not sure there's much more to say about it...did you hear though that cartographers have to re-write the maps of the area affected by the tsunami, not only did it wipe out islands but it totally changed the contors of the ocean floor....

Actually (i probably wasn't very clear), I meant to say talking about sexual issues in a global sense as opposed to just our personal experiences. But those other global issues are important too!

I know what you're saying about, "my life is full, but..." I feel like i'm on this trajectory, and fitting somebody else into it is really scary. Especially since that somebody probably has his/her own trajectory. Would we respect them if they didn't? I'm still feeling pretty selfish about my life in terms of career, lifestyle, etc. My new beau and i have simlilar goals and values but VERY different paths to those goals. It seems too early in the relationship to either say "fuck it" or "let's try a compromise."

 

[~justin]

My friend's have begun marrying or getting into serious relationships.

My friends are doing that too. It freaks me out a bit, to be honest, so I try not to think about it

 

[dollface007]

My friends are doing that too. It freaks me out a bit, to be honest, so I try not to think about it

Ditto. Plus, some of my friends have started having <shudder> babies </shudder>.

 

[~justin]

Ditto. Plus, some of my friends have started having <shudder> babies </shudder>.

Exactly... eek.

 

[My Own Way]

Ditto. Plus, some of my friends have started having <shudder> babies </shudder>.

Oh god...don't get me started about friends with babies....I'm only 22 and I already have two friends with kids...one has TWO of them....sure...I love kids in the here let me hold them but you can have them back when the poop kind of way....If I'm not ready for a realtionship I'm certainly not ready for children....

 

[My Own Way]

I'm glad you liked the pictures. It's too bad my other threads are all so old that the pictures are gone now (not that *I* don't still have them, of course ). And, as everyone else has said, I *love* your avatar.

Yeah...LOVE the pictures...I just gave them a quick run through but I'm gonna have to go back and examine them a little closer. I'm glad you like my AV....seems to get a lot of attention...

 

[My Own Way]

Ah a thread I belong in....

I'm enjoying my freedom a lot right now. My friend's have begun marrying or getting into serious relationships. And while I enjoy being with someone, I'm not sure I'm ready to commit yet for life. Probably because I haven't met that special someone yet.

But right now...I'm enjoying life a lot. Especially my sex life.

LOL...well welcome! What gets me is the whole LIFE thing....I mean both sets of my grandparents have been married for more than 50 years, and my parents hit 26 last June....seriously...what do you talk about when you've been with someone day in and day out for 50 YEARS??!! My biggest fear is that the answer to that is nothing....that there's just silence every night at the dinner table....

 

[My Own Way]

Actually (i probably wasn't very clear), I meant to say talking about sexual issues in a global sense as opposed to just our personal experiences. But those other global issues are important too!

I know what you're saying about, "my life is full, but..." I feel like i'm on this trajectory, and fitting somebody else into it is really scary. Especially since that somebody probably has his/her own trajectory. Would we respect them if they didn't? I'm still feeling pretty selfish about my life in terms of career, lifestyle, etc. My new beau and i have simlilar goals and values but VERY different paths to those goals. It seems too early in the relationship to either say "fuck it" or "let's try a compromise."

I'm totally on the same page as you Dollface....both on the global thing as well as the personal trajectory part. I mean, I have this routine that is my life down pat....it's good, it works....am I selfish because I'm not so certain I want to fit someone else into that routine? And for that matter...not even someone else, but their own personal routine as well? I just don't know....What I do know is that there are some nights when my bed is awful lonely....

 

[~justin]

Yeah...LOVE the pictures...I just gave them a quick run through but I'm gonna have to go back and examine them a little closer. I'm glad you like my AV....seems to get a lot of attention...

It's mesmerising... all I can think about when I look at it is being between those sensuous legs...

I look a little different now than I did when those pictures were taken. It's been quite some time since I took any... I basically took every picture I could think of that I could take alone over the course of a couple of years, and once those possibilities were exhausted I put pictures on hold until I could find someone interested in playing with cameras. Never met anyone, so no new pics.

 

[yodaboy]

Hi all, 23 can I join the club?

As a teenager I felt like an adult but was treated like a kid.

In my 20's I feel 16 but I'm treated like and adult.... go figure!


As for the sex thing I always thought it was better with love. Highschoolers for all their emotions don’t really get love properly despite what they think.

And since it was not till recently that I found what I consider my first real love I’m literally loving my 20's (and all that loving sex).

 

[My Own Way]

It's mesmerising... all I can think about when I look at it is being between those sensuous legs...

I look a little different now than I did when those pictures were taken. It's been quite some time since I took any... I basically took every picture I could think of that I could take alone over the course of a couple of years, and once those possibilities were exhausted I put pictures on hold until I could find someone interested in playing with cameras. Never met anyone, so no new pics.

It's too bad all those old pictures got "lost" LOL...I would have paid to see those....I'm currently at that taking pictures by myself phase...it's more difficult that people think...a lot of setting the timer, posing, setting the timer, posing....I can't say it's gotten boring yet but I'd welcome a man willing to take the pictures for me with open arms....

 

[My Own Way]

Hi all, 23 can I join the club?

As a teenager I felt like an adult but was treated like a kid.

In my 20's I feel 16 but I'm treated like and adult.... go figure!


As for the sex thing I always thought it was better with love. Highschoolers for all their emotions don’t really get love properly despite what they think.

And since it was not till recently that I found what I consider my first real love I’m literally loving my 20's (and all that loving sex).

LOL...of COURSE you can join our happy little club....pull up a chair and stay awhile....

 

[My Own Way]

I just saw this on a friends away message...struck me as funny/ironic since we're discussing being twentysomethings so I thought I'd share....

"What is twentysomething? Twentysomething means you're out of college, you've gone through your phase where you wished you still were in college, but now you're done with that too. You're a "real person". But not quite. As of today, none of my friends are engaged, none have kids and none are within three years of either. We are the gap between college and marriage, between zero responsibility and total responsibility. And we fucking love it. "

 

[browncow]

I am 21 and its kinda depressing knowing its pretty much starting downhill in a few years. I am in my 3rd year of college, but I might need to double major and go 6 to get a job around here.

I feel like i am just wasting away here. The questions of what the fuck do I do next or why am I doing this are coming up. Even though I dont worry about this stuff most the time. I have plenty of time.

It's kinda funny, I am 21 and still have the problems of teenagers. I still have all the trouble in the world making the first move on girls I like. No matter how much I am told that the worst that happens is a no. Its my biggest problem in life really. Other then that its all chill over here.

 

[~justin]

It's too bad all those old pictures got "lost" LOL...I would have paid to see those....I'm currently at that taking pictures by myself phase...it's more difficult that people think...a lot of setting the timer, posing, setting the timer, posing....I can't say it's gotten boring yet but I'd welcome a man willing to take the pictures for me with open arms....

Yeah, it's awkward to do it all yourself, particularly for *cough* action shots. I'd enjoy playing photographer, as well as having someone else do my photographing...

"What is twentysomething? Twentysomething means you're out of college, you've gone through your phase where you wished you still were in college, but now you're done with that too. You're a "real person". But not quite. As of today, none of my friends are engaged, none have kids and none are within three years of either. We are the gap between college and marriage, between zero responsibility and total responsibility. And we fucking love it. "

I'm still in the "I wish I was still in university" phase, myself.

 

[Ljbonobo]

Hey all,

I'm in college for the 2nd time. I went the first time doing what I thought I wanted to, then when I looked at the healthcare field I really didn't like the role that doctors play nowadays. So I tried using my degrees in industry and hated being in the lab 5 days a week. Now I'm back in school going for a BS in Nursing. Its weird, I can sit around and look at the girls and guys and be like been there done that, and can mentally label the girls at a party. "that's the cocktease, that's the slut, etc" and almost think of what people will do before they do it. It also makes it hard to go out with some of my friends b/c they are all going thru the "not old enough to drink so they do all the time" stage or the "I just turned 21 so I'm going to go to a bar every night" stage, and they don't have the money or the experience to really enjoy a bar for quality beer. Not just the Miller, BUd, Coors crap, college bars serve.

Its weird but its cool at the same time.