Twenty Somethings

[~justin]

It's too bad all those old pictures got "lost" LOL...I would have paid to see those...

Oh, yeah, incidentally, *I* still have copies of all of them.

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LJ, I finished university last year, and I start working (in my industry, chemical engineering) in March. I went through a co-op program, though, so I already have two years of relevant work experience. Hopefully that means I won't wind up hating my job TOO much

I think the drinking age in most of Canada (19 everywhere but Québec, where it's 18) makes a pretty big difference in the university culture. We go through those two stages you're talking about at 18-20, so by the time we get to third or fourth year, if we're still binge drinking it's because we want to

 

[My Own Way]

I am 21 and its kinda depressing knowing its pretty much starting downhill in a few years. I am in my 3rd year of college, but I might need to double major and go 6 to get a job around here.

I feel like i am just wasting away here. The questions of what the fuck do I do next or why am I doing this are coming up. Even though I dont worry about this stuff most the time. I have plenty of time.

It's kinda funny, I am 21 and still have the problems of teenagers. I still have all the trouble in the world making the first move on girls I like. No matter how much I am told that the worst that happens is a no. Its my biggest problem in life really. Other then that its all chill over here.

It totally sucks these days what legnths you have to go to just to get a job. It seems like you're expected to do more and more in undergrad, and therefore a typical four year education turns into five or six AND THEN to top it all off it's highly reccomended that you go on to get a masters or even a PhD depending on the subject. Are you KIDDING me?? Yeah like I really wanna spend the supposed "best years of my life" in school. But what else are you supposed to do??

As for approaching the opposite sex....I'm in the same boat. I'm extremely shy in most social settings. I prefer NOT to be the center of attention and would never dream of going up to a guy and starting a conversation....what if he thinks I'm dumb, what if he laughs, etc, etc....one can only hope it gets better and easier with age...

 

[My Own Way]

Hey all,

I'm in college for the 2nd time. I went the first time doing what I thought I wanted to, then when I looked at the healthcare field I really didn't like the role that doctors play nowadays. So I tried using my degrees in industry and hated being in the lab 5 days a week. Now I'm back in school going for a BS in Nursing. Its weird, I can sit around and look at the girls and guys and be like been there done that, and can mentally label the girls at a party. "that's the cocktease, that's the slut, etc" and almost think of what people will do before they do it. It also makes it hard to go out with some of my friends b/c they are all going thru the "not old enough to drink so they do all the time" stage or the "I just turned 21 so I'm going to go to a bar every night" stage, and they don't have the money or the experience to really enjoy a bar for quality beer. Not just the Miller, BUd, Coors crap, college bars serve.

Its weird but its cool at the same time.

I'm in the exact situation as you lj....i'm in college again and i look around at all these 18-22 year old guys and girls, where for most, not all, but most, where to drink on thursday, friday, and saturday nights is like the most important thing in their world, and I feel lost. First of all....that was never my thing when I was in undergrad....I always felt like I was too old to be there if not age wise then defenetally mentally speaking....that may sound silly...but the frat/house party, and bar scene was just never my scene. And now I've put myself in the same situation but even worse because i'm surrounded by 18 year old boys....which I'm sure they're quite lovely...but I want someone who is settled, over the bar scene, has a job, likes to actually DO things on the weekends rather than sleep off a night of wild partying....

I'm whining/complaining...so sorry....I'll stop now....needless to say lj, I can completely relate to what you're saying...

 

[My Own Way]

Oh, yeah, incidentally, *I* still have copies of all of them.

Oh you do, do you?? And you're not sharing....how rude

 

[Ljbonobo]

I'm in the exact situation as you lj....i'm in college again and i look around at all these 18-22 year old guys and girls, where for most, not all, but most, where to drink on thursday, friday, and saturday nights is like the most important thing in their world, and I feel lost. First of all....that was never my thing when I was in undergrad....I always felt like I was too old to be there if not age wise then defenetally mentally speaking....that may sound silly...but the frat/house party, and bar scene was just never my scene. And now I've put myself in the same situation but even worse because i'm surrounded by 18 year old boys....which I'm sure they're quite lovely...but I want someone who is settled, over the bar scene, has a job, likes to actually DO things on the weekends rather than sleep off a night of wild partying....

I'm whining/complaining...so sorry....I'll stop now....needless to say lj, I can completely relate to what you're saying...

yeah and i'm sure all the 18 year old guys in the classes you're in are completely in awe of those amazing legs......and the fact that you're an "older" woman

 

[My Own Way]

yeah and i'm sure all the 18 year old guys in the classes you're in are completely in awe of those amazing legs......and the fact that you're an "older" woman

LOL....actually...I'm stuck in the graduate program where I take classes with what seems to be a large number of older women....not that I dislike older women...but they just don't do it for me if you know what I mean....Anyway...I seem to get more compliments here about my legs than I do in real life....

 

[Ljbonobo]

well anyone who sees that AV or the legs in a way anywhere near like that AV and doesn't make a comment needs to go see an optometrist.....

 

[My Own Way]

well anyone who sees that AV or the legs in a way anywhere near like that AV and doesn't make a comment needs to go see an optometrist.....

*blushes* I think I like you lj.....

 

[Ljbonobo]

*blushes* I think I like you lj.....

hmmmm (can't think of an appropriate comment) other than

 

[~justin]

Not just the Miller, BUd, Coors crap, college bars serve.

Oh yeah, the other thing is that university bars in Canada serve good beer. Good Canadian beer.

I wouldn't say that I look with disdain on that lifestyle, though. I sampled it during my undergrad and I think that used in moderation with a good crew of friends it can be a recipie for some fun, hilarious times. I didn't go to bars and clubs and pubs (particularly the latter) to meet girls, I went on outings with my friends. I think that's the way to do it.

I guess I'm talking about a somewhat different culture than you, but there are parallels. It isn't all bad, just a lot of it.

I'd only be interested in going back to university if I could have my undergrad back -- same place, same friends, et cetera. Grad school is... unappealing. Fortunately demand for new engineering graduates here in Canada is decent, so I managed to land a job and can thus forget about grad school (for a while, at least).

Now I just need to find myself a nice bachelor pad...

 

[~justin]

Oh you do, do you?? And you're not sharing....how rude

Well, I'm not going to start a new thread just to post a bunch of old pictures. And I'm not one for fifty-page, thousand-post threads about myself... the only sets I've done/pictures I've shown in the last year or so have been by request.

 

[~justin]

As for approaching the opposite sex....I'm in the same boat. I'm extremely shy in most social settings. I prefer NOT to be the center of attention and would never dream of going up to a guy and starting a conversation....what if he thinks I'm dumb, what if he laughs, etc, etc....one can only hope it gets better and easier with age...

I used to be hugely shy, now I'm just a little shy. These things can be worked on and changed. For me, it was a matter of fixing my self-esteem problems -- once I realized that I liked myself, I was happy with who I was and where I was, all of that became much easier.

 

[blue112]

I can relate to alot of whats been said already here, mentally wanting the more enjoyable pleasures that arent associated with the beer bongs and keg stands, though somehow the appeal of drinking til your sick never struck me as appealing. Recently took a larger rent to move to the basement of the place im staying at while I finish up at Queen's just so I could indulge in the more sensual aspects of life, greater sexual privacy and the opportunity to do better things for my girl, was extremely frustrating to cook her dinner only to have my housemates walk through and make their own while were sitting at the table trying to have the beginings of a good night.

plus with my new spot I can walk around naked all I want!

 

[My Own Way]

Well, I'm not going to start a new thread just to post a bunch of old pictures. And I'm not one for fifty-page, thousand-post threads about myself... the only sets I've done/pictures I've shown in the last year or so have been by request.

LOL....some of those picture threads do seem to be a bit on the personal gratification side and less on the people really want to see side....well i went through and examined your thread closely last night and they're very creative....i like the ones with the guitar...

 

[My Own Way]

plus with my new spot I can walk around naked all I want!

That's my absolute favorite part about finally living alone....now i just have to remember to close the blinds

 

[SweetErika]

I've never felt my chronological age either, and now is no exception. I'm 24, married, and finished grad school over 2 years ago. I prefer a quiet evening at home or with a few friends to clubs and parties. I usually have more in common with older people than my own generation. And dare I say it... I'm starting to feel ready to have a baby!

I think what gets me is that I always had a plan in mind for education, a career, marriage (or not), and a baby (in that order), and I didn't follow it. No regrets, but sometimes I stop and think, "I can't believe this is the way it all worked out."

 

[Ljbonobo]

That's my absolute favorite part about finally living alone....now i just have to remember to close the blinds

Lucky ass neighbors....

 

[Ljbonobo]

Oh yeah, the other thing is that university bars in Canada serve good beer. Good Canadian beer.

I wouldn't say that I look with disdain on that lifestyle, though. I sampled it during my undergrad and I think that used in moderation with a good crew of friends it can be a recipie for some fun, hilarious times. I didn't go to bars and clubs and pubs (particularly the latter) to meet girls, I went on outings with my friends. I think that's the way to do it.

I guess I'm talking about a somewhat different culture than you, but there are parallels. It isn't all bad, just a lot of it.

I'd only be interested in going back to university if I could have my undergrad back -- same place, same friends, et cetera. Grad school is... unappealing. Fortunately demand for new engineering graduates here in Canada is decent, so I managed to land a job and can thus forget about grad school (for a while, at least).

Now I just need to find myself a nice bachelor pad...

I'm not saying I didn't have my fun, its just old and been there done that now....

 

[browncow]

It totally sucks these days what legnths you have to go to just to get a job. It seems like you're expected to do more and more in undergrad, and therefore a typical four year education turns into five or six AND THEN to top it all off it's highly reccomended that you go on to get a masters or even a PhD depending on the subject. Are you KIDDING me?? Yeah like I really wanna spend the supposed "best years of my life" in school. But what else are you supposed to do??

As for approaching the opposite sex....I'm in the same boat. I'm extremely shy in most social settings. I prefer NOT to be the center of attention and would never dream of going up to a guy and starting a conversation....what if he thinks I'm dumb, what if he laughs, etc, etc....one can only hope it gets better and easier with age...

Yeah, it's terrible that I have to go through 5-6 years of school for a chance at a job.

Oh, btw, I have no problem talking to the opposite sex ever. I am an extremely talkative person in the past few years in any situation. I am one of those guys that could strike up conversation with anyone anywhere at anytime. Its getting past the friends part or the initiating something more then talking that I have always had problems with.

 

[blue112]

K seriously what is it with girls who like being naked in their apartments and the lack of blinds?
girlfriend does and it drives me nuts!

 

[My Own Way]

K seriously what is it with girls who like being naked in their apartments and the lack of blinds?
girlfriend does and it drives me nuts!

LOL...I have them...but I just forget to close them sometimes....or maybe i'm just naive enough to think that no one is really out there looking anyway...

 

[My Own Way]

Oh, btw, I have no problem talking to the opposite sex ever. I am an extremely talkative person in the past few years in any situation. I am one of those guys that could strike up conversation with anyone anywhere at anytime. Its getting past the friends part or the initiating something more then talking that I have always had problems with.

Ahh...i see now...it's like the age old problem...how to bring it up and do you want to risk ruining a good friendship...I find that my problem is unless i'm initially attracted to the guy that I've become friends with, once i become his friend and know all his dirty little secrets and annoying habits i can't see him as anything more than my friend....ruins a lot of potential relationships...

 

[My Own Way]

I've never felt my chronological age either, and now is no exception. I'm 24, married, and finished grad school over 2 years ago. I prefer a quiet evening at home or with a few friends to clubs and parties. I usually have more in common with older people than my own generation. And dare I say it... I'm starting to feel ready to have a baby!

I think what gets me is that I always had a plan in mind for education, a career, marriage (or not), and a baby (in that order), and I didn't follow it. No regrets, but sometimes I stop and think, "I can't believe this is the way it all worked out."

Isn't it funny how life takes you on these strange and unexpected pathways? It almost makes having a life plan seem absolutly absurd because while one part of you wants to believe that everything will turn out exactly as you want it, the more realistic side is reminding you that you have absolutly no control and that you're just along for the ride. But isn't it fabulous when what you wanted is replaced by a so much better and more satisfying life?

 

[~justin]

LOL....some of those picture threads do seem to be a bit on the personal gratification side and less on the people really want to see side....

Yeah, that's one of the reasons I don't really post in Amateur Pic Feedback anymore. When I first started, that part of the forum it was a pretty small subcommunity and it was the only forum I posted to, even before I got a camera. Now the whole site is a couple of orders of magnitude bigger, and since I was unwilling to bump my own threads and generally started a new thread for each new batch of pictures, I more or less just stopped posting when I ran out of new picture ideas.

well i went through and examined your thread closely last night and they're very creative....i like the ones with the guitar...

Thanks. One of the first sets I took several years ago was a nude set with my guitar. It's sort of a recurring theme in my pictures. I find that type of electric guitar very sensuous because of the hourglass body, which contrasts with the phallic neck...

But guitar pictures are even harder to take solo, becasue there's more to get set up between when you set the timer and when the camera goes off. Hopefully someday (soon would be nice ) I'll meet a kinky, intelligent woman who is interested in... collaborating...

 

[blue112]

am wondering what weve learned from Lit and community? whats been awakened in you? whats been the result of it ie have your partners reacted positively or run for the hills?

Personally, I lurked in the shadows for a good number of years and finally after several disappointing relationships where I couldnt be satisfied, I turned it off for a few months and looked inside to discover myself. Found a very sensual sexaul individual that I love. various threads helped bring it out, so did some of the questions being thrown around.

as for the partners aspect, my current girl was extremely annoyed by decision to look inward for a bit, and since then our libidos are off but Im begining to wonder if theres more to it, I think shes started or has been looking inward as well and am wondering whats in there, she doesnt like talking about sex that much so its hard to tell but im wondering whether theres another sensual soul there as well.

anyway how bout you?