Vanilla vs non-Vanilla Sex

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I would love something other than vanilla. Hell, sometimes I feel like all I've gotten in recent years is dairy-free vanilla flavored. Somehow more expensive yet less satisfying.

You're getting ice cream? The ice cream truck hasn't been here in over 2.5 years!

 

[Titsandclits]

If this is a definitive list then I am definitely in the French vanilla category. But mostly due to not being exposed to more Neapolitan sexual flavors.

Where does French Vanilla sit in the ice cream spectrum, if Vanilla is at one end and Neapolitan is at the other? I'm working my way to Tutti Frutti

 

[JackKingOff]

Not sure I am there yet, but I want to be a mint chocolate chip!

 

[AnnyMouse28]

Where does French Vanilla sit in the ice cream spectrum, if Vanilla is at one end and Neapolitan is at the other? I'm working my way to Tutti Frutti

My personal definition of “French Vanilla” is this. I have a great academic interest in all things sexual. I enjoy discussing sex with partners and strangers on the internet. I am open to and willing to do things partners are interested in doing/trying. But my personal desires when it comes to the act lie firmly in the vanilla category.

 

[spoiledwetbrat]

I would rather a partner meet me where they are at than force themselves into my kinkery. However I am really interested in living out some of my fantasies so if they’re into what I’m into, I prefer like a wild sundae banana split to vanilla.

 

[Beholders_Eye]

For those of us in Texas:

 

[cascadiabound]

I disagree that vanilla = inhibited

Also I disagree that vanilla = boring.

Lately I've been making gourmet vanilla extract and I have found that the difference between basic store bought vanilla and what can be achieved with premium vanilla beans and other ingredients along with time and patience is huge. And this might be where the analogy starts to work... good sex takes good communication, patience, practice, time.

Excellent vanilla is actually a high bar. And a great base to build on for all the other options on the kink buffet.

So... I'm a gourmet french vanilla icecream sundae- and depending on the day and the partner, the toppings are going to vary. I definitely want my vanilla icecream *topped*
Gimme variety and it's okay to surprise me and push my palette with new flavors.
And make it pretty - not a mish mash of flavors.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Vanilla is what other people do.

 

[Lost_Writer01]

Vanilla is what other people do.

Agreed. You know if you’re vanilla or not based on how it feels when you’re with someone.

 

[j23in03]

I've been served vanilla for years. I've almost forgotten the other flavors.

 

[The_gladiator]

I adore vanilla that is done right, and well, but it’s not the only flavor I like nor do I always want it on its own, but it’s often the base that makes up the rest. Even a hot fudge sunday with animal crackers on top still has vanilla mixed in with it. Like I might enjoy some kinks, but at the heart of it all, I’m not going to say no to a good orgasms inside a woman.

 

[Thepachu]

With self vanilla with partner non vanilla, I think I'm a butter scotch

 

[MileHighBlackDiamond]

Ice cream, I'm grateful I get it now as my past relationship it wasn't even in the house..... I digress

If you read some of my other posts, I'd say we're far from vanilla, equally neopolitin. Give us a flavor and we'll give it a try at least once.

We enjoy such a variety from slow, passionate, sensual sex looking into each others eyes to her hands tied bar spreading her legs in doggy screaming for me to give it to her as hard as I can, to her begging for anal, mimicking DP with toys as well a the real act with others joining us, bodies entwined.

It just depends on the day and what flavor we're in the mood for.

 

[Jordan90]

Everyone makes excellent points! Vanilla is delicious. Non-vanilla is breath taking. The mixing and matching is what makes life interesting and sex and artistic endeavor rather than a scientific exercise...

 

[Sappho_CGN]

An old joke:

The new female neighbour from the big city was talking to the mid-age suburbian mom with pride about her BDSM sex-life and how boring vanilla sex was. The mom asked what BDSM was and what the city-woman was doing in detail. The city-lady described it long and detailed.

Then the mom commented: "I never knew how pervert I am".

 

[easyoff]

Enjoy many flavors at once

 

[Dcharger]

I'm definitely not into vanilla side of fun but not sure how flavored i get.

 

[zoso682001]

When vanilla is offered up I've always made it work . If I had my way it'd be Spumoni every day !

 

[tedsbeds]

You're getting ice cream? The ice cream truck hasn't been here in over 2.5 years!

My truk omes one a month if I'm lucky and all it ever has is vanilla. But sometimes I go out and try to find some sweet cherry!

 

[TXRafe]

what flavor is putting on dance pop/edm, taking a couple hits of molly each, and completely losing control with each other for a couple hours, waking up after noon, naked and covered in each other? daiquiri ice?

 

[SweetMasochist]

Love this question - me:

 

[magic_rat]

There is nothing definitive about my opinion, and it's just that, an opinion. I'm willing to wager that the more distance someone has from "vanilla" then the more things they will categorize as such. Conversely, those that don't experiment, will find many more things off limits or taboo than the less-vanilla crowd.

I agree. For some vanilla will mean once a month, under the covers, lights off. For others vanilla may be anything that doesn't involve 3 or more people (I'm in that camp). Everyone will measure things against their own barograph of normality. You may think BDSM is disgusting but love a bit of spanking as foreplay.

I've enjoyed 'vanilla' sex with kinky people and introduced kinky things to vanilla folk.

Sex is just sex. It's supposed to be fun. Just enjoy what you're doing, and be open to possibilities.

 

[TheUKGent]

I'm definitely a 2 scoop with mint choc chip and lemon sorbet (in a cup, not a cone).

 

[magic_rat]

Well , firstly I wouldn’t do anything deviant without consent or knowing boundaries that are in play.

Nor should anyone. Consent is king.