Well...I said no...

[GrnEyedGrl]

I don't have a whole lot of advice on Plan B as I've never used it, but I just wanted to send my thoughts to you as I know how much of a overwhelming ordeal this can be emotionally. I do tend to agree with some previous posters that this sounds like rape to me and I would call it as such. You made your intentions known. Just for future reference though, if you find yourself in that situation, learn how to give a good right hook. Don't ever let a guy dismiss your feelings that way, even in the heat of the moment. Good luck.

 

[Mac98]

the one thing i always enjoyed about the 'how to' forum was it was inquisitive, educational, thought provoking, and sometimes even helpful! unfortunately, of late, it seems that a bunch of people who spend too much time in the 'general' forum have been visiting - please return to your little rat hole there and bash one another to your heart's content.

You've noticed this too, eh?

Sorry, thatgirl, people on HT are usually very understanding and considerate. I once started beleiving it was where all the sane united every evening after work. Unfortunately, as LY stated, seems as if we've started being infested by dirty, diseased cockroaches. Don't let this affect your opinion about us, we're really usually very friendly people.

I can't give you any advice, just wanted to say that...

Good luck with your ordeal.

 

[PoliticoThistle]

Removing profile

 

[Hoardingenergy]

I agree if she said stop and he did not stop, its date rape.

 

[the_sinner]

not entirely true.

Yeah, it is. And you just proved it once again.

 

[subwannabe]

The thing is she never really said stop. She told him before hand that she did not want to have "sex". Then she proceeded to have all kinds of sex with him and during the process did not tell him to stop and apparently was a very active partner in basically saying yes, yes, yes. Before she realized what was going on his cock was inside her and by then I guess it was too late to actually say no. It doesn't sound like there was a meeting of the minds as to what the definition of sex really was. It really sounds to me like he thought she had changed her mind about having sex so he went ahead.

 

[Firebrain]

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Lost_Yonder]

The thing is she never really said stop. She told him before hand that she did not want to have "sex". Then she proceeded to have all kinds of sex with him and during the process did not tell him to stop and apparently was a very active partner in basically saying yes, yes, yes. Before she realized what was going on his cock was inside her and by then I guess it was too late to actually say no. It doesn't sound like there was a meeting of the minds as to what the definition of sex really was. It really sounds to me like he thought she had changed her mind about having sex so he went ahead.

with all due respect, but do you know how utterly outlandish and nonsensical what you are claiming is? to be able to place yourself in a situation you ultimately know absolutely nothing about and into the minds of others, is an amazing feat of clairvoyance!

and then to have the nerve to judge her based on your magical powers is, at best, bizarre. why the need to be so dismissive? if you don't believe her, that is certainly your prerogative, but that is always the problem with rape, nobody really believes the victim - she had to have done something to have brought this upon her... and to top it off, while she raised the issue of him entering her without her consent, she never called it rape - we did.

the negative attacks are really unnecessary…

 

[thatgirl2136]

while she raised the issue of him entering her without her consent, she never called it rape - we did.

...I was wondering if that was ever going to be noticed...Thank you.

 

[LoveNotHate]

Well... If this has been resolved already, my apologies. It does look as if the topic has moved on. But I will answer the original question.

I have used Plan B a fair number of times... maybe three, or four? I'm not quite sure... but more than I would like. Over a span of three years or so.
I have always taken it within 24 hours of the "incident" (condom breaking, magical disappearing NuvaRing, etc.) and I am happy to say I am not, and never have been pregnant.
I even used it before they made it only one pill (not too long ago, it was two).

As for the side affects, I think I felt a bit sick to my stomach a couple of the times, but not bad at all.

If you miss your period, or feel there is a possibility you could be pregnant, you should consider taking a pregnancy test.

I'm sorry you had to lose your virginity this way. What a scumbag.

 

[thatgirl2136]

Well... If this has been resolved already, my apologies. It does look as if the topic has moved on. But I will answer the original question.

I have used Plan B a fair number of times... maybe three, or four? I'm not quite sure... but more than I would like. Over a span of three years or so.
I have always taken it within 24 hours of the "incident" (condom breaking, magical disappearing NuvaRing, etc.) and I am happy to say I am not, and never have been pregnant.
I even used it before they made it only one pill (not too long ago, it was two).

As for the side affects, I think I felt a bit sick to my stomach a couple of the times, but not bad at all.

If you miss your period, or feel there is a possibility you could be pregnant, you should consider taking a pregnancy test.

I'm sorry you had to lose your virginity this way. What a scumbag.

Did you start ontime or a few days late?
I've had what looks like spotting, but I'm still unsure because it never went to an actual flow.
I'm most likely picking up a test today.

 

[LoveNotHate]

Well, since I was on the NuvaRing three out of the four times, I controlled when my period began (it's a couple days after you take it out). And I did have a normal period.

As for the condom breaking... Yeah, I believe I had a normal period then, too.

I usually have a pretty heavy period (lovely, I know), so if I were just spotting after that, I would definitely take a pregnancy test or two.

Plan B sometimes makes you spot if I'm not mistaken.

 

[SweetErika]

Did you start ontime or a few days late?
I've had what looks like spotting, but I'm still unsure because it never went to an actual flow.
I'm most likely picking up a test today.

Your best bet is likely waiting to home test until a few weeks after your period was supposed to start. Then, if you are pregnant, you won't be fooled by a negative result that came from testing too early. Most pregnancies show up early on, but some are slower starters hormone-wise or the tests come out negative when the fertilization occurs later in the cycle than one expects.

Of course if you haven't been to the doctor for STI tests yet, just ask them to throw on a Beta HCG when the other labs are ordered for extra security.

 

[the_sinner]

Did you start ontime or a few days late?
I've had what looks like spotting, but I'm still unsure because it never went to an actual flow.
I'm most likely picking up a test today.

My girlfriend used a Plan B once last fall (we had a condom malfunction and we were 99% sure we were safe, but she decided it was worth it to cover the extra 1%) and I believe it delayed her next period by about a week.

Also, it made her extra-horny for the next several days. I certainly don't recommend it for that purpose, but we did get some great sex out of the whole incident.

 

[Adakgirl]

Sure, you're perpetuating the myth that men can't really control themselves once they get going. That's bullshit and one of the reasons why acquaintance and date rape continue to be so prevalent in our society. If we actually stopped blaming victims (vs. just saying we don't blame them) and started teaching boys/men that they are responsible for responding to their partners' reactions and stopping themselves no matter how riled up they are, we'd likely see a significant reduction in the rape statistics.

Personally, I find the way this is being brushed off by some people to be disgusting. The OP may have to deal with the effects of this experience for the rest of her life, yet you two are essentially espousing the "boys will be boys" philosophy in reference to her rapist. How do you think YOU would feel if people dismissed a sexual assault on you and said you shouldn't have let it get to that point, even though you didn't ever see it coming and did your very best to just survive at the time?

I was not doing anything of the sort. And Jadefirefly agreed with me. You misinterpreted what I was telling the OP. I was giving her advice on how to be perfectly clear with a guy by backing up her words with her actions. And that's the reality, just the way it is.l

 

[Firebrain]

I was not doing anything of the sort. And Jadefirefly agreed with me. You misinterpreted what I was telling the OP. I was giving her advice on how to be perfectly clear with a guy by backing up her words with her actions. And that's the reality, just the way it is.l

Excellent - I always knew the plural of anecdote was evidence! Somebody call the office for National Statistics...

 

[subwannabe]

I can see how some people can take my posts as negative but all I have really been trying to say is that it seems to me like this guy was told in advance that she did not want sex without defining what exactly she meant by sex. After telling him she did not want to have sex with him she preceeded to get hot and heavy, naked, engaged in oral on herself while giving him hand jobs and blow jobs and MAYBE the poor shmuck thought from all of that that she had changed her mind about not wanting to have sex with her. I also said that many parts of her story didn't really make sense and this was also pointed out by several other posters. I think it's wrong to label us some kind of troublemakers and accuse us of trying to be clarevoiant as to her thoughts when people of the opposite view are also being clarevoiant as to what her thoughts were. I don't think it has ever been established that she was up front with him in the beginning that she was willing to have all kinds of sex with him but he was not allowed to have actual intercourse with her.

 

[Cattypuss]

she preceeded to get hot and heavy, naked, engaged in oral on herself .

Wow, I wish I were that flexible!

 

[Gil_T2]

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[infinity706]

Wow, I wish I were that flexible!

I think most women would agree. Even the straight chicks I've asked all admitted they'd be willing to lick their own pussy.

 

[Sunndance07]

This isn't really a how to, but more of a does it work?

So I was with this guy the other night and I made it very clear I would not have sex with him (especially because he did not have a condom) well we were getting pretty heated orally and such then we were making out with him ontop of me. I noticed hi reach down but I thought it was to finger me. He didn't he pushed right on in....there went my virginity....i think i was so shocked by what happened I just let him, but I'm really scared now. I took the plan b as soon as I could. I'm wondering how many women have had to and had it work? I don't know what I'd do if I got pregnant from this guy who won't even talk to me now....

Yes, I know I'm stupid...No need to state the obvious.

Take a test in 5-6 weeks and take it from there.

 

[the_sinner]

I think it's wrong to label us some kind of troublemakers and accuse us of trying to be clarevoiant as to her thoughts when people of the opposite view are also being clarevoiant as to what her thoughts were.

Some people have seen inconsistencies or omissions in her story and said "This doesn't quite make sense, what happened here?" and let her respond.

You, on the other hand, picked up on something you thought didn't make sense and immediately accused her of, and I quote you directly here, "making this shit up as you go along."

If you really think there's some kind of moral equivalence there, I don't know what to tell you.

 

[thatgirl2136]

All is well, I started my period yesterday late afternoon. Ironically I was ready to get a home pregnancy test when I started.

As for everyone saying I obviously wasn't clear on what sort of sex...I agreed to have oral sex and that was made clear, it was also made completely clear I would not have intercourse with him.

 

[Luna_Bella]

please get the help you need, I don't care what others say, if you felt wronged then you probably were .

I had one partner who was totally sex driven thats all he though/thinks about(we are still friends). I had told him that I would never have sex with him. yet no matter how worked up from making out and caressing we did, he never never went against my wishes. In fact he would stop, just to ask if he was going to far, if I was comfortable with what we were doing... seriously this guy is an ass, he's cheated on every girlfriend he's ever had, he lies etc, which is why we never actually dated . but when it came to down to it he did the right thing always. I had a great deal of fun with him. Yet it never came down to intercourse... am I a slut for having fun with the guy?? No!! yet if he would have broken our agreement and forced himself on me .. I would have called it rape.

so please get the help you need...

Like MAC98 says we are usually a friendly helpful bunch just don't mind the others, some of them are usually helpful but I guess rape is one of those things that tend to be or is a sensitive matter and take people on edge.

I hope everything turn well...

 

[LoveNotHate]

That's great news, I'm glad to hear it..

Have you thought about getting tested?