What’s the strangest request you’ve had in the bedroom?

[LittleGreene]

Im only responding because I love love a good debate ( I hope you see it this way too, I often get attacked for my interest in conversing with people with differing opinions )

Absolutely, no offence taken and I’m not trying to cause any either - I’m very open to people exploring kinks in a safe and consensual way

Every SINGLE experience I’ve had within the kink community has been rooted in honesty, communication, and care. Nothing is done without full, informed consent, nothing. And nothing is ever done to intentionally harm the other person. Again, thats not kink, that’s abuse, and we (the REAL BDSM KINKY COMMUNITY) don’t stand for that.

That’s the thing isn’t it, in the correct educated community it’s fine, but once it bleeds into the mainstream via pornography that doesn’t show everything or how to perform is safely it becomes dangerous.
The issue isn’t in the kink community, it’s in the guy and girls that end up on a one night stand on a Friday thinking it’s ‘normal’

it’s technically illegal in some UK councils to sing profane lyrics in public, or to handle salmon suspiciously under the Salmon Act of 1986.

Handling salmon doesn’t tend to have the possibility of killing someone involved if performed incorrectly

 

[Jaws82]

Oh absolutely I feel it adds to the sex! But I’m a little crazy in the bedroom, I’ll ask you to slap me, bite my back and shoulders as you’re fucking me up against a wall, pull my hair (god please pull my fucking hair), I’m also a back scratcher, always have super long nails so… I like to dig those in. I LOVE being submissive.

I love a nipple clamp so….

But yeah there’s a difference between forcing pressure on the throat vs holding it with a good amount of pressure but not squeezing? If that makes sense!

I feel like men maybe get less crazy requests than women?

Noted

 

[LittleGreene]

You would not think my request were strange. I'm sure your lovely lady has done the same to you

The one sexual request that I found strange had to do with feet. I have ridiculously high arches and he would request me to put my feet together to pump into the hole it would create. I did as requested for him, but I never understood it.. I've done some pretty of the wall, crazy stuff, but feet? I never understood. I thought it was weird up until I met my "friend," and I get it now. I guess I never really saw attractive feet before now.

I did have one guy that liked the space between my big toe and the next. Never got as far as him wanting to put his dick in there but I’m sure If we’d dated longer he’d have asked

 

[CuriousCat89]

Ahhh reading the above comments has me FLUMMOXED! Of course, each to their own and absolutely there are things that many won’t enjoy. But CHOKING?! I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t like a strong grip around her throat with one hand, eye contact, and his other hand toying your clit and fucking your holes as he edges you, squeezing a little tighter around your throat every time you get almost close to cumming. It reminds me of a time with @Switchem15 … between fucking he would hold my throat and the feeling when he released me… and I could breathe again… my GOD it felt like heaven. But of course not everyone’s going to be into it.

For me, weirdest request I guess I’ve had is to let them fuck both my holes with vegetables. I was 19 with little experience and said no. Now? Maybe there’s not much I would say no too. I’ve been pissed on, pissed on others, had my face pressed into my own squirt…..but there are also requests I personally wouldn’t want to share on this specific thread for familiarity reasons!

Plenty of women don’t like that which is why you don’t just do it. And you have to, as @LittleGreene said, k wo how to properly do it.

But it’s definitely not the case that everyone likes it or that everyone likes to do it to someone else.

 

[CuriousCat89]

I honestly think this is an age/generational thing.

The younger generation , which looking at your age in your profile I think you are, tend to have been exposed to extreme pornography so much more than my generation, that although we had access to porn, it hadnt yet morphed into the misogynistic incel fueled anti-feminist laced fuck fest it is today.

Choking was a very extreme bdsm kink rather than in the mainstream when I was in my 20s.

It was a minor plot element in Eurphoria (tv show). I 100% agree.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Plenty of women don’t like that which is why you don’t just do it. And you have to, as @LittleGreene said, k wo how to properly do it.

But it’s definitely not the case that everyone likes it or that everyone likes to do it to someone else.

If you read my comments you would see I’m one the biggest advocates for learning how to do something properly. Not everyone enjoys missionary sex every day, and not everyone enjoys choking everyday either. The point I was actually debating was to do with educating people more about the BDSM community and not allowing those lines to be blurred.

It is severely unfortunate that we live in a generation of men who like to abuse the trust we as women give them and do things like slapping/choking/rude and forward messaging without consent.

And if we’re going to say, “Well, choking is illegal,” then we need to acknowledge that legality doesn’t always reflect ethics or lived reality. Things like homosexuality, abortion, or even certain types of porn have been criminalised in the past too. Laws shift with cultural understanding.

Criminalising consensual breathplay between adults doesn’t make people safer, it just drives kink further underground and makes honest conversations harder to have.

It was a minor plot element in Eurphoria (tv show). I 100% agree.

A bad reference point unfortunately. I’ve watched the show a few times.

The scene in Euphoria you’re referring to is likely the one involving Maddy and Nate, specifically their rough sexual encounter that includes choking and aggression, but without clear, verbal consent. The way the show handles this is actually exactly my point.

That scene (and others like it) was included to highlight the blurred boundaries, emotional dysfunction, and lack of communication that define many of the relationships in the show, especially between Maddy and Nate.

Nate choking Maddy wasn’t meant to be a healthy depiction of kink or consensual rough sex. It was there to:

1. Expose the toxicity in their relationship

• Nate is possessive, violent, and manipulative.
• Maddy is emotionally vulnerable and wrapped up in a cycle of approval and power-play.
• The scene is meant to show how sex is being used as a weapon, not a shared experience.

2. Comment on performative sexuality

• Euphoria often explores how young people imitate what they see in porn or online without understanding the emotional or physical implications.
• The choking scene shows a dynamic that’s not rooted in trust or communication, but rather in dominance and insecurity.

My point being: it has nothing to do with kink and everything to do with an abusive man. The show doesn’t always make it clear that this was not consensual kink. That’s why people misread it or cite it in arguments about rough sex being normalised. If anything, the scene reinforces why consent conversations matter, because what Nate did wasn’t fetish or kink, it was aggression disguised as passion.

 

[CuriousCat89]

nothing says the kink community like a kid lecturing a fully formed adult with 20 years practicing and learning about the community (but not making it my personality).

Consent, which you do comment on, isn’t the same as you saying you’ve never met a woman who didn’t like to be choked.

I don’t live where it’s illegal to do. But NOT liking it or not liking to do it are not weird behaviors. All I was saying is that ‘every woman likes it’ might be true in your small circle but it’s completely normal to not like it. Or want it. Or want to do it.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Someone asked if they could fuck my elbow crease.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I had a former partner call me out of the blue and ask if she could come over to my house and suck my cock...on camera...because she was trying to convince a new remote partner that she was good at giving head. I agreed. The man directed her cock sucking actions and made sure that she was all the way down when I came...none of her actions was to pleasure ME...it was all to entice a different man on camera...I was the stunt cock...

 

[AnalCreampieGiver]

Someone asked if they could fuck my elbow crease.

That is different

 

[sandybrooke]

Wife was sucking my cock and shaking her ass around and moaned" baby, I want two cocks, one in mouth and one in my pussy" We did work that out!!

 

[cocokittysurprise]

That is different

Very different
I've had some interesting experiences.

 

[peekingone]

Someone asked if they could fuck my elbow crease.

Hmmmm maybe he had a small penis

 

[Curious_about_kink]

Hmmmm maybe he had a small penis

Lol i have a small penis but i wouldnt ask for the elbow crease i agree that is different

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Hmmmm maybe he had a small penis

Quite the opposite, actually LOL

 

[munch2much]

Someone asked if they could fuck my elbow crease.

Why’s that odd? I mean.
What other part of your elbow could he fuck?

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Why’s that odd? I mean.
What other part of your elbow could he fuck?

The fucking of the elbow in general is odd

 

[munch2much]

The fucking of the elbow in general is odd

Ohhh

 

[Carolinaguy45]

Someone asked if they could fuck my elbow crease.

Unbelievable…. I was going to post that a woman once asked me to fuck her knee crease! I wonder which one is stranger lol

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Unbelievable…. I was going to post that a woman once asked me to fuck her knee crease! I wonder which one is stranger lol

Both are pretty bizarre LOL

 

[Carolinaguy45]

Both are pretty bizarre LOL

Agreed. I will report out that I acquiesced to the request lol

 

[deft]

To do the Macarena.

 

[Cat]

To do the Macarena.

Oh.. ... Well, how did it go? Aaaaij! (Totally not singing the Macarena right now. )

Me?
- To go and make a sandwich, with extra ham and cheese.. I never claimed to be good in the bedroom, but cooking.. now that.. is something that I am also bad at.

 

[deft]

Oh.. ... Well, how did it go? Aaaaij! (Totally not singing the Macarena right now. )

To be honest, I'm much better at the Lambada - The Forbidden Dance!

 

[Plasmaball]

I’ve had men ask, and it frightens me. Chocking is the only thing I’ve ever said no to… like there’s no negotiation.

Anything else I’m up for trying.

Chocking? Typo or something new that ive aged out of?