What happens to women after marriage?

[UpAllNightCpl]

Marriage can suck, at times, or if you're with the wrong person.
But marriage can also be GREAT. Wife and I have been together for 17 years, and our life is better than ever. We go to strip clubs together. We go to Hedo together. She keeps me more stimulated, both mentally and physically, than even when we were first dating. We went through a rough patch about 7 years ago when she lost interest and dropped into a depression, but plain talk and a trip to the doctors office, plus a prescription for wellbutrin, changed everything.
Hope you find the problem and can work it out.

 

[bholderman]

I dont think its just the women side of things. Men fall into their own rut as well.

I'm a man and I'm in a rut. I love my wife to death, have great sex, but sometimes, just wonder...

Brad

 

[slicklights]

nvm..

 

[whoreny]

I am now the proud owner of two failed marriages.

The first we were both very young - the sex was good and frequent both before and soon after we were married. At some point though it just stopped - we would do all the things we normally did during the evening and she would be quite amorous

until we went to bed. "Not tonight" "I'm tired", "is that all you ever think about?"

I was young, dumb and insecure so I just figured it was me.

Not long after we decided to just call it quits after a year, before there were kids and more baggage involved

second marriage lasted almost 15 years but there was unhappiness throughout the last 10 at least. I practically had NO sex life after the first couple of years. Unless she was inebriated. Sex was always good, although rather plain, and she seemed to enjoy it. Blowjobs became a thing of the past, she seemed to like me going down on her, and I enjoyed it very much - but after a very short time she would go "enough of that".

After the sex became so infrequent I got to where I had a hair trigger, which became very frustrating for me. I guess she didn't care one way or the other. After being told "no" so many times I got almost to the point where I didn't care myself.

I guess even the lack of sex would have been tolerable if there had been happiness in other parts of the marriage but it just got worse as the years went on and we grew further and further apart. If it hadn't been for kids I would have left much sooner.

But through all these times, most of my adult life really I had practically convinced myself I must not be a very good lover. I tried to be I thought. I was attentive, took my time was willin g to do, try just about anything. But since two wives didn't seem to be interested I assumed it must be me.

But thank God I have found a woman now that has helped me realize that it wasn't ME. Every aspect of my sex life now is GREAT! I have had more and better sex in the last six months than I did the previous 15 years. I guess I had ( and still have) a bunch of excess stored up sexual energy.

And the best part is she is in a similar situation with her past sex life. It just goes to show how important sexual compatability is.

We have just barely gotten started in our future life together so the challenge for us will be to keep it going over years and years, not just months and months.

I have no doubt we can and will do it. Love is a wonderful thing.

Good luck to all those struggling through unhappy married sex lives