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I got in an argument today with my best friend. The Sex with Acquaintances thread struck a nerve and I overanswered (went back and edited because I don't really need to take out my annoyance on the general public).

She went out last Saturday and hooked up with someone she knew for all of about an hour, took him to her place and let him mess up her sheets, then he hurried out the door with an excuse that he had to be up early the next morning. Okay so, sounds pretty clear what it was, right? Except she really liked him for whatever reason, he promised to call (right) and hasn't, so she's upset. Then she told me she thinks she might be pregnant (not from him, from one of two possible other one night stands last month).

I adore her usually. She's funny as hell and a genuinely nice person but sometimes she acts like such an idiot, I wish I could slap sense into her. I listened, tried to soothe her without inserting personal opinion, and promised to help her however she needed. Then she asked my opinion, and I still tried to keep it gentle and told her Mr. Speedy (dubbed that due to her report of his performance, sorry) from the weekend should probably be the least of her concerns if she thinks she might be pregnant, maybe he'd call and maybe (most likely) he wouldn't, but she had bigger issues to think about right now.

And she flipped out on me that no one cared about her happiness, maybe she wanted Mr. Speedy, she wanted a happy relationship, boohoo, mememe. So after hearing her same complaint after nearly every one night stand (and she has a few a month), I kinda flipped and told her Mr. Speedy was looking for a quick lay which she provided and it was unlikely she would hear from him unless he just wanted a second round, and if she couldn't put on her big girl panties and either accept the "arrangement" or stop doing it, she was an idiot. Then went on to tell her if she was pregnant she had another *much bigger* issue to consider that did not affect just her and she'd better grow up quick.

Somehow I don't think it was the right thing to say under the circumstances (well, it was, but not exactly like that).
 
VelvetSin said:
I got in an argument today with my best friend. The Sex with Acquaintances thread struck a nerve and I overanswered (went back and edited because I don't really need to take out my annoyance on the general public).

She went out last Saturday and hooked up with someone she knew for all of about an hour, took him to her place and let him mess up her sheets, then he hurried out the door with an excuse that he had to be up early the next morning. Okay so, sounds pretty clear what it was, right? Except she really liked him for whatever reason, he promised to call (right) and hasn't, so she's upset. Then she told me she thinks she might be pregnant (not from him, from one of two possible other one night stands last month).

I adore her usually. She's funny as hell and a genuinely nice person but sometimes she acts like such an idiot, I wish I could slap sense into her. I listened, tried to soothe her without inserting personal opinion, and promised to help her however she needed. Then she asked my opinion, and I still tried to keep it gentle and told her Mr. Speedy (dubbed that due to her report of his performance, sorry) from the weekend should probably be the least of her concerns if she thinks she might be pregnant, maybe he'd call and maybe (most likely) he wouldn't, but she had bigger issues to think about right now.

And she flipped out on me that no one cared about her happiness, maybe she wanted Mr. Speedy, she wanted a happy relationship, boohoo, mememe. So after hearing her same complaint after nearly every one night stand (and she has a few a month), I kinda flipped and told her Mr. Speedy was looking for a quick lay which she provided and it was unlikely she would hear from him unless he just wanted a second round, and if she couldn't put on her big girl panties and either accept the "arrangement" or stop doing it, she was an idiot. Then went on to tell her if she was pregnant she had another *much bigger* issue to consider that did not affect just her and she'd better grow up quick.

Somehow I don't think it was the right thing to say under the circumstances (well, it was, but not exactly like that).
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Oh Wow. Good for you for saying the obvious, she may learn in time but....she needs to grow up, that you are right about. What can be done about it, NOTHING, she has to do it on her own...
 
Hovering parents.

I'm at the science museum and the boys are in the Dino dig sand pit. A family comes over, puts a little princess in the dig put, and hovers nearby camera at the ready.

My youngest dumps a scoopful if sand over his shoulder (not okay) instead of beside him (okay), and sand gets on the little girl. She doesn't cry, complain, get upset, or otherwise react- but the parents/grandparents start lecturing my son *as I am crossing the three feet if space to deal with it*.

So they're getting all passive aggressively worked up over their child getting dusted with sand, while playing in a sand box, and I'm doing what I do - "Do not throw sand behind you. Sand is dumped to the side. Come here. (Lift child out if the play area) Apologize. (he does/they don't acknowledge). Sit over here. (time out)" he starts to get upset, I explain if he wants to play in the sand he must follow the rules - what's the rule? We dump sand to the side. Good? Good. He goes back to playing.

Aaaaand the offended family continued to make comments about badly behaved children like I hadn't stepped in at all. :rolleyes:
 
LaSalsa said:
Oh Wow. Good for you for saying the obvious, she may learn in time but....she needs to grow up, that you are right about. What can be done about it, NOTHING, she has to do it on her own...
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She does, and she hears a softer version of it each time she asks for an opinion. I'm more angry with myself for losing patience at pretty much the wrong time, though. She needed support just then, not a slap from her best friend. While she does need to grow up, it's still her life and her business ultimately. She called this morning to confirm she took a home test and it's positive. :(
 
Feeling that I made the wrong decision telling. I did it so that this would happen and it would stop me living that life. But now I have this life and this feeling and its even worse.
I miss him a lot and that annoys me too after everything he has done. I try to keep thinking about court and how I felt being taaken there and watching them, whilst I sat that alone. I try to keep focusing on that because although it makes me feel dreadfully hurt....it keeps me feeling angry too. And thats better than these other feelings.

I know...times a great healer and all that. Well I wish it would get the fuck here.

I made a decision to take a few months off from relationships (D/s or otherwise), but now I am not sure. He has just got on with his life like I never existed. Maybe I should try and meet someone else.

Its just not the advice I would give anyone else. I'd say take some time.

It seems unfair and selfish to waste someone elses time just for a distraction whilst these feeling of love still linger.

Sorry lol. maybe i should have put this on my journal.

It is pissing me off though :eek::(
 
minx1 said:
Feeling that I made the wrong decision telling. I did it so that this would happen and it would stop me living that life. But now I have this life and this feeling and its even worse.
I miss him a lot and that annoys me too after everything he has done. I try to keep thinking about court and how I felt being taaken there and watching them, whilst I sat that alone. I try to keep focusing on that because although it makes me feel dreadfully hurt....it keeps me feeling angry too. And thats better than these other feelings.

I know...times a great healer and all that. Well I wish it would get the fuck here.

I made a decision to take a few months off from relationships (D/s or otherwise), but now I am not sure. He has just got on with his life like I never existed. Maybe I should try and meet someone else.

Its just not the advice I would give anyone else. I'd say take some time.

It seems unfair and selfish to waste someone elses time just for a distraction whilst these feeling of love still linger.

Sorry lol. maybe i should have put this on my journal.

It is pissing me off though :eek::(
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You've been writing, but you could add another project to occupy yourself whenever your mind has a moment to look back. It's called sublimation and works. You could do anything from cleaning up the house, to some project or other.

They say many of the greatest artist used sublimation, tortured souls producing beauty.

You don't have to fully go down that path though. Just get something your mind can focus on, instead of focusing on what you don't want. Then wait for time to do it's thing.

Oh, and another relationship would not be a good project to pick. ;)
 
YourCaptor said:
You've been writing, but you could add another project to occupy yourself whenever your mind has a moment to look back. It's called sublimation and works. You could do anything from cleaning up the house, to some project or other.

They say many of the greatest artist used sublimation, tortured souls producing beauty.

You don't have to fully go down that path though. Just get something your mind can focus on, instead of focusing on what you don't want. Then wait for time to do it's thing.

Oh, and another relationship would not be a good project to pick. ;)
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Thanks YC.

I've kinda tried that today. I've been up since 6am and in that time I've done clothes washing, cleaned both bathrooms, cooked a paella, lamb soup and chicken casserole, written my journal, watched a movie and half cleaned the car! I just cant switch my bloody mind or heart off.

Uurrrgh :mad:
 
minx1 said:
Thanks YC.

I've kinda tried that today. I've been up since 6am and in that time I've done clothes washing, cleaned both bathrooms, cooked a paella, lamb soup and chicken casserole, written my journal, watched a movie and half cleaned the car! I just cant switch my bloody mind or heart off.

Uurrrgh :mad:
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Wow - wanna come to my place? ;) :kiss:
 
Intrusive thoughts are a fucking nightmare.

I find something else to be occupied with, but also I find a word or a phrase to repeat over and over in my head until the intrusion fades. I dont' know if that's a healthy way to deal or not....
 
*HUGS*, minxie! :rose:

If it's any consolation, ya' know the old saying "What comes around, goes around" is oh-sooooo-true!
 
Yes I"m really pissed!!

Friday afternoon a careless dweeb @@#$#!! drove into my Sister-in-Law killing her instantly. I am so angery. Also my wife is just an emotional wreck about it too.

I live in Alberta Canada, where we have the Alberta Highway Safety Traffic Act. Under such a law we are all obligated to be safe drivers. Driving is a privlidge that is earned and maintained. You are required to have proper breakes, working windshield wipers and wiper fluid. It bugs the hell out of me that some people can't wrap their head around civilized behavior.

Anyway that @#$@@%^&!!! is facing 10 years in jail. As well as a whole town of people who just want to lynch him.
 
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