What to Do When You Wake Up to Your Partner Masturbating Beside You

[IslandKate91]

It happens all the time. Mostly, I lend a helping hand. Other times, I just stay quiet and watch.

 

[HordHolm]

Help.

It's happened a couple of times, and though she's quiet she's not that quiet. On both occasions it has been most enjoyable...

 

[In2Deep83]

If not why not?

Well... I'm surprised by a few comments here because one of the best ways to learn about yourself, what you like and don't like is to pleasure yourself.
I do this regularly and my husband has never ever woken up and honestly it's not because I was being quiet, he's just a deep sleeper..
If he did wake up though, I'm pretty sure he would join in and fuck me senseless.
Kudus to everyone who regularly pleases themselves... Atleast you are able to get yourself off.

 

[IslandKate91]

Well... I'm surprised by a few comments here because one of the best ways to learn about yourself, what you like and don't like is to pleasure yourself.
I do this regularly and my husband has never ever woken up and honestly it's not because I was being quiet, he's just a deep sleeper..
If he did wake up though, I'm pretty sure he would join in and fuck me senseless.
Kudus to everyone who regularly pleases themselves... Atleast you are able to get yourself off.

Yes, many times my husband doesn't wake up either. He is also a deep sleeper.

 

[Goldenshowers]

Check to see if I am in the right house

 

[jckontharocks]

Interesting this is a topic on here. But I guess what isn't.

My wife and I just talked this exact subject out. She pointed out when waking in the middle of the night, she often wakes up horny and has a little me time. She pointed out how she doesn't wake me up for sex and more appreciates masterbating so she can fall right back asleep. Since she is a mom and alone time and me time are both super important, we came up with an ediquette, that the person masterbating is to be left alone and if one of us awakes, we are to pretend we are sleeping.

After we had this talk we fucked and had the Most connected sex we had in years or maybe ever.

Now when I wake in the night I'm happy to rub one out without worry.

Highly recommend the talk and to leave the person alone.

 

[JerseyJade]

Lower myself on him and then wrap my lips tightly around his dick, just below the head and let him finish in my mouth. No mess.

 

[jarigi]

^^^^^^^^^
You certainly know the way to a man's heart Jade!

 

[30bandits]

Lower myself on him and then wrap my lips tightly around his dick, just below the head and let him finish in my mouth. No mess.

you are a good woman...

 

[IslandKate91]

Interesting this is a topic on here. But I guess what isn't.

My wife and I just talked this exact subject out. She pointed out when waking in the middle of the night, she often wakes up horny and has a little me time. She pointed out how she doesn't wake me up for sex and more appreciates masterbating so she can fall right back asleep. Since she is a mom and alone time and me time are both super important, we came up with an ediquette, that the person masterbating is to be left alone and if one of us awakes, we are to pretend we are sleeping.

After we had this talk we fucked and had the Most connected sex we had in years or maybe ever.

Now when I wake in the night I'm happy to rub one out without worry.

Highly recommend the talk and to leave the person alone.

I really LOVE that you and your wife had this discussion!

Discussions like this can really make you two more connected like you mentioned. While we haven't had this exact discussion, my hubby and I mostly handle it like you two. It is mostly me waking up to him, having some me time as you say, and I just pretend to be asleep but secretly enjoy watching him.

 

[jckontharocks]

I really LOVE that you and your wife had this discussion!

Discussions like this can really make you two more connected like you mentioned. While we haven't had this exact discussion, my hubby and I mostly handle it like you two. It is mostly me waking up to him, having some me time as you say, and I just pretend to be asleep but secretly enjoy watching him.

Hahah. Well put miss!! After you pretend to be asleep and know they're finished... Then its your turn!

 

[Chubbyissh]

I'll definitely sit back and enjoy the show ...

 

[Cognantreverie]

Initially I would probably be pretty salty they didn't wake me up to handle it but after that initial irritation I would offer to take care of them.

 

[IslandKate91]

Initially I would probably be pretty salty they didn't wake me up to handle it

Why? Sometimes a little "me" time is great. I will frequently get myself off while my husband is asleep besides me.

 

[HampshireBoy]

Interesting this is a topic on here. But I guess what isn't.

My wife and I just talked this exact subject out. She pointed out when waking in the middle of the night, she often wakes up horny and has a little me time. She pointed out how she doesn't wake me up for sex and more appreciates masterbating so she can fall right back asleep. Since she is a mom and alone time and me time are both super important, we came up with an ediquette, that the person masterbating is to be left alone and if one of us awakes, we are to pretend we are sleeping.

After we had this talk we fucked and had the Most connected sex we had in years or maybe ever.

Now when I wake in the night I'm happy to rub one out without worry.

Highly recommend the talk and to leave the person alone.

My wife and I have also discussed this, when talking about her waking up during the night and being unable to get back to sleep. It turns out that both of us (when single) found that masturbating enabled us to go back to sleep, so sometimes she may ask me to fuck her and sometimes she will masturbate to relax. Therefore, if I wake up, I'll let her know I'm awake and let her decide what happens. Sometimes I'll just carress her and stroke her nipples, sometimes it is entirely "me time" for her and I'll join in by masturbating myself.

 

[IslandKate91]

It turns out that both of us (when single) found that masturbating enabled us to go back to sleep

I find that this really works for me too. Finding "me time" is a premium with two kids and a busy schedule and so is good sleep. If I wake up and can't go back to sleep, rubbing one out quickly really helps me to be able to fall asleep again. If I have full on sex, I found that I am fully awake after so I don't wake my hubby up.

 

[Toylovr]

Softly whisper good morning so I wouldn’t startle him into stopping, move in closer, and ask him if he’d like a hand with that

Nice! Love your style.....sexy!

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

Lay there and quietly watch for a moment, seeing his precum forming on his cockhead by the dim moon light peering into the bedroom. Then., I shift moving down. He knows I am awake as I move my face closer to his cock. His hand softly slips behind my head guiding, as I whisper, "let me", before wrapping my lips around his delicious member, never removing until I am satisfied I have sucked out ever drip of cum.

 

[Billwebb33]

This has happened a few times with an ex and i kept quiet, pretended to be asleep and listened as she got herself off. Real turn on for me, even now 15 years later.

 

[sandybrooke]

Interesting this is a topic on here. But I guess what isn't.

My wife and I just talked this exact subject out. She pointed out when waking in the middle of the night, she often wakes up horny and has a little me time. She pointed out how she doesn't wake me up for sex and more appreciates masterbating so she can fall right back asleep. Since she is a mom and alone time and me time are both super important, we came up with an ediquette, that the person masterbating is to be left alone and if one of us awakes, we are to pretend we are sleeping.

After we had this talk we fucked and had the Most connected sex we had in years or maybe ever.

Now when I wake in the night I'm happy to rub one out without worry.

Highly recommend the talk and to leave the person alone.

My wife and I had the same agreement. BUT sometimes she would peel off her panties and ask that I cum on her pussy!

 

[y=mx+b]

i just read an old Jezebel article about what to do if you are woken up by a fapping partner

https://i.kinja-img.com/gawker-media/image/upload/s--mbxwryyQ--/c_fit,fl_progressive,q_80,w_636/dsxz4cviyuv0fy0sgqsk.gif

so what is your reaction?

what would you do?

Smile to myself and pretend I was sleeping.

 

[IslandKate91]

Smile to myself and pretend I was sleeping.

This is what I do, but I also watch through semi closed eyes.

 

[LuluHuff]

I can't say I have ever woken up to someone masturbating next to me. I've been woken up by someone wanting to have sex or play. I guess maybe I have slept through some masturbating next to me and not know it lol. I guess if I did wake up and it was going on I'd probably offer to help if I was in a good mood which usually I am.

 

[rainbowbite]

I find that this really works for me too. Finding "me time" is a premium with two kids and a busy schedule and so is good sleep. If I wake up and can't go back to sleep, rubbing one out quickly really helps me to be able to fall asleep again. If I have full on sex, I found that I am fully awake after so I don't wake my hubby up.

Same here. Full on sex is so energetic! I feel like taking on the day after lol. If I wake up it's easy to fall back to sleep after a quick solo rub.

As far as waking up to my partner masturbating... I would offer to help at the very least. At most, I'd roll to my side and guide him in for a cozy, sleepy screw before going back to bed.

 

[IslandKate91]

Same here. Full on sex is so energetic! I feel like taking on the day after lol. If I wake up it's easy to fall back to sleep after a quick solo rub.

As far as waking up to my partner masturbating... I would offer to help at the very least. At most, I'd roll to my side and guide him in for a cozy, sleepy screw before going back to bed.

I've been finding out lately that a little me time in the morning while he is in the shower and before I get out of the bed has really helped to start my days off nicely.