When things move beyond Literotica

[FinnMacCool]

Call it the Luck o the Irish,but anybody and everybody I have met thru Lit,has been an extraordinary experience,and that being said,in the process now of meeting some with dubious character and ill repute,lol*sneaks a glance at gg*

 

[Lee9104]

Call it the Luck o the Irish,but anybody and everybody I have met thru Lit,has been an extraordinary experience,and that being said,in the process now of meeting some with dubious character and ill repute,lol*sneaks a glance at gg*

Hi FinnMacCool

I haven't met anyone from Literotica yet. The one I was about to meet didn't work out as I am sure you figured out lol. I am glad you have had very good luck in your meetings with people on Literotica I am hoping to change my luck as well .

 

[Raidho]

Oh, please. My comment was made in jest to LK's message, which is why I quoted him, and if you can't see that then that's your problem. Thanks.

No, I can't say that general snottiness of other people *is* my problem.

I just thought I was on the GB there for a minute.

Oh, and Finn, love the avatar.

 

[aka Lusty]

No, I can't say that general snottiness of other people *is* my problem.

I just thought I was on the GB there for a minute.

Oh, and Finn, love the avatar.

Bitch, please. You don't know me or anything about me, but make all the assumptions you like. Believe me I won't lose any sleep over it.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

I think it is just like anything else in life,some you win,some you lose.I have a few friends that I met online,,and we have met,talked on the phone,etc and some are just casual friends,and others are close to my heart.As far as a love interest,I think it could could either way.If one is interested in seeing someone they meet here(or other online places),,I think that is perfectly okay.I would prefer having talked a while over the phone,maybe emails,,something beyond lit, maybePm's,,etc.My sister in law met her husband through an ad and they get along just wonderfully...maybe the net brings some people togther for special/certain reasons,,,and just go with it if it feels good.

 

[Zmey]

At some point you grow out of playing games. I think I'm old enough. I'm honest and I usually can tell when someone isn't serious. Interaction is real, you get to know some one for real and if it's all a pretentious lie it would feel pretty shitty. I had one serious IRL relationship developed from online interaction (here actually) a few flings, and some really good friends I've met IRL and some still waiting to meet.
Lie is a lie no matter how you slice it.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

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Lie is a lie no matter how you slice it.

i agree...

 

[FinnMacCool]

Thanking you much..Tir Na Nog!!

No, I can't say that general snottiness of other people *is* my problem.

I just thought I was on the GB there for a minute.

Oh, and Finn, love the avatar.

 

[Lee9104]

At some point you grow out of playing games. I think I'm old enough. I'm honest and I usually can tell when someone isn't serious. Interaction is real, you get to know some one for real and if it's all a pretentious lie it would feel pretty shitty. I had one serious IRL relationship developed from online interaction (here actually) a few flings, and some really good friends I've met IRL and some still waiting to meet.
Lie is a lie no matter how you slice it.

This person was old enough to have stopped playing games as well. He made a conscious choice to play me. My mistake was in trusting that he was honest and serious about what he was saying and doing. I second you and alisonwunderlnd a "LIE is a lie no matter how you slice it". He was and is a liar. I am sure I will not be the last person he PLAYS or takes for a RIDE.

 

[Ahh_lex_A]

Definitely

.............i would say, it is more of plying on my side. The two of you might know each other too well. But you dont know him/her too wel un less you are with him. People can let someone show something they want you too see. Mostly the good things about them. Who knows about what he/she is not showing you?....

 

[Zmey]

This person was old enough to have stopped playing games as well. He made a conscious choice to play me. My mistake was in trusting that he was honest and serious about what he was saying and doing. I second you and alisonwunderlnd a "LIE is a lie no matter how you slice it". He was and is a liar. I am sure I will not be the last person he PLAYS or takes for a RIDE.

I'm sorry this happened to you, not all people are the same.
Ahh_lex_A I actually do the opposite, show my worst side initially. If a person is open-minded, intelligent, patient enough they stick around and get to know me better. It's sort of like a defense mechanism for me. I like people for who they are and I expect the same.

 

[FinnMacCool]

Well so far we have a lttle soul baring,a couple of ,and some genuine Lit seekers.I am meeting one this weekend and I know the Irish luck will continue,so keep on

 

[Lee9104]

Well so far we have a lttle soul baring,a couple of ,and some genuine Lit seekers.I am meeting one this weekend and I know the Irish luck will continue,so keep on

I hope you luck continues. Glad to see it is working for someone out there. Keep in touch. Sounds like you will be having a fun weekend. I enjoy meeting new people as well and seeing where it leads when it works out it is a good thing.

 

[Proudsubinatl]

Thanks

 

[Raidho]

This person was old enough to have stopped playing games as well. He made a conscious choice to play me. My mistake was in trusting that he was honest and serious about what he was saying and doing. I second you and alisonwunderlnd a "LIE is a lie no matter how you slice it". He was and is a liar. I am sure I will not be the last person he PLAYS or takes for a RIDE.

You really do miss out on the good stuff if you don't trust. You get hurt once in a while, but when the connection is true, it is nothing short of magical. People whose only joy is getting one over on other people remind me of people whose only accomplishment in life is killing a big monster in a video game. I feel sorry for them.

Trust, but verify.

 

[Ahh_lex_A]

well..well...

.....
.....we love, we choke, we live ,we...blah blah.....that's life. =) A learning experience. hehehe

 

[Guttergoddess]

Call it the Luck o the Irish,but anybody and everybody I have met thru Lit,has been an extraordinary experience,and that being said,in the process now of meeting some with dubious character and ill repute ,lol*sneaks a glance at gg*

oh really?? Thanks for the compliments!

 

[rcuhljr]

Now for some advice for any woman looking for someone on the web. You are in the driver’s seat here. Don’t be afraid to demand whatever it is you need to make you feel comfortable. Recent pictures, cell phone number, and real name should be the bare minimum. By a cheap calling card before calling anyone and use it. It will fool his caller id. Make the first meeting a nice restaurant or lounge. I usually ask the woman I am interested in to pick out the nicest restaurant they can think of. Tell a friend what you are doing and by all means stay safe. Common sense things I know but it’s important to be reminded sometimes. Lastly, listen to your intuition. If something doesn’t sound right or if you have a bad feeling just drop him and start over with someone else. Better safe than sorry.

I think that bears repeating, well said.

As far as online relationships, they are just as hit or miss as real life, just it's easier to run a charade online. By the same token you can weed 90% of the liars through careful screening as mentioned above.

 

[lonelyinsnowlan]

I've met several people IRL from Lit and other online connections. I don't plan on stopping.....

... but you need to be really honest about what you're hoping to get out of it and trust your gut. Ask the hard questions. Be prepared for answers you don't want to hear.

I flirt outrageously online. But that doesn't mean, if you choose to stick around, that I won't be myself when you get to know me. I am who I am.

 

[sseg]

A lot of the time...

Not to be too negative or anything, but in my view online is just fantasy. Women or men they are all just here for fun. Take it to a offline level and you might as well forget anything positive happening. This is all smoke and mirrors and not Real Life no matter how honest people claim to be.

It is. There are a lot of people who indulge their fantasies online for whatever reasons, they aren't as exciting as they'd like to be in real life, or they find it easier to express themselves when they don't actually have to process real-time interactions, or whatever. Then there's the tendency for us to read whatever we want in to someone else, so no matter how you present yourself online, each person reading you will come away with different impressions.

Me, I try to deal straightforward with people and remember that there is a human being on the other end of the line. Someone treating me with respect and dignity will get the same, and anyone who doesn't will get ignored.

My real life is plenty exciting, I tend to downplay it a lot online because I figure most folks wouldn't believe it anyway and I don't really care to try to explain it all to people who can't know me well enough anyway.

 

[Lee9104]

Hi Everyone.

Proudsubinatl~
Quote "I'm sorry. You should not have had to go through that. We can only hope that someday he gets whats coming to him!" Quote

Thank you. I wish very much I was not washed, spun around a few times and hung out to dry as well. Yes. One can only hope he will get his and it maybe sooner then he thinks. As they say what goes around comes around full circle I might add.

sseg~

Quote "Me, I try to deal straightforward with people and remember that there is a human being on the other end of the line. Someone treating me with respect and dignity will get the same, and anyone who doesn't will get ignored." Quote

That was all I wanted. If everyone was like that we would all have no problems. I fear however, that some are not capable of this.

lonelyinsnowlan~

Personality flaw I tend to trust everyone until I am given a reason not to. Problem is when you find out to late you should have never trusted anything they ever said or did.

Raidho~

Quote "You really do miss out on the good stuff if you don't trust. You get hurt once in a while, but when the connection is true, it is nothing short of magical. People whose only joy is getting one over on other people remind me of people whose only accomplishment in life is killing a big monster in a video game. I feel sorry for them." Quote

Thank you. I couldn't agree more.


For all that have posted and those of you that have sent your kind words in PM's to me I thank you.

 

[justaguyinbama]

..I was genuninely concerned for his safety...2 days later...he left me a VM stating he couldn't meet...as I was too fat for him....I almost decided not to get online ever again after that.

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He actually said that? Those were his words? If you aren't attracted to someone then your not, but there are nicer ways of letting them know that. And at that point I probably would have went through with the meeting because being attracted to a person doesn't just involve physical attraction.



I've met a few people online. My ex wife for one. But lately meeting people online just doesn't seem to work for me. There have been a couple people I've gotten pretty close to then met. Everything was great before we met but then afterwards things changed. So I don't think i'm gonna do the online relationships anymore, atleast not get so close to someone before I have a chance to meet them first.

 

[Lee9104]

He actually said that? Those were his words? If you aren't attracted to someone then your not, but there are nicer ways of letting them know that. And at that point I probably would have went through with the meeting because being attracted to a person doesn't just involve physical attraction.

Hi justaguyinbama~
You are so very right. Attraction is so much more then what a person looks like. If the person is ugly on the inside it doesn't matter if they have a pretty face or not. I think if you judge a person on looks alone you are going to be missing out on knowing many great people.

 

[human_male]

This is going to sound like one of the cynical rants that I'm prone to, but I think it's a fair point. I think when a woman (I'm sure men are just as bad but I only have experience with women) is getting to know someone she builds up this notion of him in her head. It can be quite an idealistic notion, and when she finally meets the guy he of course doesn't measure up. I've known women who seem really, really keen when in the chatting/exchanging pics phase, then when they meet me face to face they never want to see me again. Since I haven't done anything except be myself, or changed my bahavior, and they've already seen what I look like, I can only assume that actual me didn't measure up to the imagined me in their head.

So if someone (male or female) agrees to meet you and they seem keen, but afterward they don't want to follow through, it might not be because they weren't sincere about wanting to meet you but because you didn't live up to their expectations. Which is no fault of yours.

 

[Lee9104]

Hi human_male~

I can see your point but that was not the case at all in my situation. I can however, see how that could happen. It just has never happened in my cases with chatting online and then meeting people. If you are being yourself I don't understand why it has happened to you. Sorry that it has and wish you much better luck in the furture with your meetings.