Why do older men become bi-curious?

[CuriousTxGuy]

it's also an odd moment when you realize how much you enjoy doing it . ..

And when you discover you, too, can deep throat.

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

Same here

I didn't become curious at a later age, but I certainly admitted it to myself at a later age, and over the past couple of years, I believe I finally accepted my gay desires. I do not consider myself as gay, but my thoughts, desires, fantasies involve men frequently, although I still prefer women.

I recently signed into Silverdaddies once again for no other reason than to look around, maybe chat. Last night, a man reached out to me in chat, and I had an amazing time! I rate my chats on SD as "meh", "average", and the very rare "OMG". Last night was an "OMG" ;-)

Although we don't know if, due to our current circumstances, a live meet will occur, we decided to take it very slow in the meantime. I know I have some potential life changing decisions to make coming up, so I have been laying low recently, but a quick look around yesterday led me to him. He seemed to be a really nice guy, very articulate, and knew who he was and what role he plays in the male only world.

We'll see what happens

 

[klippert]

Because of a sexless marriages I think older men look at everything. Your trying to find a void to fill being you get no affection from your wife. Not attracted to men. But watch all kind of porn to stimulate myself. Haven't been deep throat and cum since I was single. Living off memories. It's Taboo, the list goes on I guess. People fantasy about tons of stuff until it comes time to fulfill the fantasy. MY2cents

best simplest response. we don't need or want any strings. We just want to nut. in our heads...if we're messing around with another married guy...their is the possibility of keeping it discrete. Do what the wife isn't.

 

[freakyandthensome]

best simplest response. we don't need or want any strings. We just want to nut. in our heads...if we're messing around with another married guy...their is the possibility of keeping it discrete. Do what the wife isn't.

i agree; a fellow married man is a safe bet that it will stay discrete no ulterior motives your wishing to bust that nut and go on with your life. the porn has taken us this far now we wish for the next option

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

I wonder why

Ok, so I know that because the wife loses her interest, some men turn to other men for sex, and in other cases the men were always bisexual, and they began exploring their sexuality at a later age. I think there have been a lot of reasons given here, all valid. What I wonder is why a man would turn to another man instead of a woman? I mean, why is a man that is now divorced/widowed looking for a male sex partner instead of looking for a woman? Maybe they were always bi, and now they are fully armed with their new found freedom to explore? I think we have already come up with a slew of answers, but what prompted me to ask was a profile I saw on Silverdaddies. Middle aged, divorced man wearing a g-string, and a body to die for! He obviously took very good care of himself. All I could think was go out to the pool dressed like that, and with that body, and he could have any honey he wanted. I am sure he has female colleagues, ex-wife's friends, neighbor ladies that have noticed his body, and I'm sure he has left more than a few panties a little damp. To be fair, I don't know if he is exclusively looking for male companionship. I just thought to myself that if that were me, I'd be showing it off wherever females could be found.

I recall a few years ago chatting with a married man who was very well hung, his wife gave him all the sex he wanted, and it was good sex. She enjoyed sucking him frequently, according to him. All seemed well, but I asked him "if that's the case, then why men?" His answer was just two words: the asshole. So the wife wouldn't give up the ass, and he was looking for the man that would. I believe that was the first time that I began to realize that a man's ass could be the sex organ that another man might desire, and something the wife could not or would not provide.

No real point to this post other than I just wanted to make a post on here

 

[klippert]

Ok, so I know that because the wife loses her interest, some men turn to other men for sex, and in other cases the men were always bisexual, and they began exploring their sexuality at a later age. I think there have been a lot of reasons given here, all valid. What I wonder is why a man would turn to another man instead of a woman? I mean, why is a man that is now divorced/widowed looking for a male sex partner instead of looking for a woman? Maybe they were always bi, and now they are fully armed with their new found freedom to explore? I think we have already come up with a slew of answers, but what prompted me to ask was a profile I saw on Silverdaddies. Middle aged, divorced man wearing a g-string, and a body to die for! He obviously took very good care of himself. All I could think was go out to the pool dressed like that, and with that body, and he could have any honey he wanted. I am sure he has female colleagues, ex-wife's friends, neighbor ladies that have noticed his body, and I'm sure he has left more than a few panties a little damp. To be fair, I don't know if he is exclusively looking for male companionship. I just thought to myself that if that were me, I'd be showing it off wherever females could be found.

I recall a few years ago chatting with a married man who was very well hung, his wife gave him all the sex he wanted, and it was good sex. She enjoyed sucking him frequently, according to him. All seemed well, but I asked him "if that's the case, then why men?" His answer was just two words: the asshole. So the wife wouldn't give up the ass, and he was looking for the man that would. I believe that was the first time that I began to realize that a man's ass could be the sex organ that another man might desire, and something the wife could not or would not provide.

No real point to this post other than I just wanted to make a post on here

The simplest answer...no strings. the Silverdaddy, he most likely chose the gay lifestyle. This Offers up a lot of sex. as for your Hung gent you were chatting with. My Wife dated a guy in college...'huge cock" (her words). they'd had sex a few times..but, she was interested in more than his meat...and wasn't going to give up her ass for that monster cock. few months later she had heard he was hanging around a part of campus where the gay men were know to hang out...woods, public men's room...
in the end...its just that simple in my mind. married, what are her hang ups ??..men We have to do; sex list...women have; To Don't sex list

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

The simplest answer...no strings. the Silverdaddy, he most likely chose teh gay lifestyle. Offers up a lot of sex. as for your Hung gent you were chatting with. My Wife dated a guy in college...'huge cock" (her words). they'd had sex a few times..but, she was interested in more than his meat...and wasn't going to give up her ass for that monster cock. few months later she had heard he was hanging around a part of campus where the gay men were know to hang out...woods, public mens room...
in the end...its just that simple in my mind. married, what are her hang ups...men have to do; sex list...women have; To Don't list

Cool... short sweet and to the point. Everybody got it?
Now can we put this subject to bed as it were and go on to more pressing issues ...
I don't know what that would be ---, right now.

 

[carln3346]

I'm not sure of the reasons, I'm just glad that I'm finally comfortable being bisexual

 

[klippert]

Cool... short sweet and to the point. Everybody got it?
Now can we put this subject to bed as it were and go on to more pressing issues ...
I don't know what that would be ---, right now.

Why older men look to the Bi side. Sex. No strings, no lovey dove BS. No baking cookies measure for curtains, no snuggles or smoothie Bullshit. Fuk that ass or throat. Pull out bust my nut. Then leave
Happy now

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

Why older men look to the Bi side. Sex. No strings, no lovey dove BS. No baking cookies measure for curtains, no snuggles or smoothie Bullshit. Fuk that ass or throat. Pull out bust my nut. Then leave
Happy now

Klippert, yes sir you are correct.

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

Cool... short sweet and to the point. Everybody got it?
Now can we put this subject to bed as it were and go on to more pressing issues ...
I don't know what that would be ---, right now.

Since just about every thread I post on dies, and Klippert has given us the best explanation, I’m sure this theses will die now. Just saying.

 

[StrattonChambers]

Bi urges

I always had some curiosity as far back as I remember. But the homophobia was so rampant that you never, ever let on that there might even be a possibility. As a college freshman I had an older friend in Glee Club who I admired. He was tall and blond and very pretty. I used to tell myself that he was just ever so slightly effeminate. I never found out if he actually was, or if he was gay or bi. I was a hairy masculine dude, mostly interested in chasing chicks. But I always told myself that if this one guy ever made a move on me, I would let him go as far as he would. Never happened though, and my actual bi activities didn’t surface until I was in my forties and married. The internet made it much more accessible, and I found guys, a few couples, and a CD to advance my education.

 

[peter49parker]

I may have already posted on this thread, but as an older man, I forget...lol. short answer is nobody gives a crap anymore. When I was young everybody jacked off, you didn't say it out loud though, all your friends would call you homo or something. Now, I make jokes about jerking all the time. Probably to get the guys to notice and maybe pique their interest.

As an older man myself, I remember those days. No doubt we were all jerking off to the lingerie models in Sears catalogs, but no one would admit. Being called out as a 'homo' or a 'retard' by your friends was the worst. Times have changed for the better when we can 'joke' about it and more. You have piqued my interest... hehehe.

 

[Susscrofa]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

My take on this is that there are a lot of men out there who are mostly but not 100% heterosexual, i.e. they have some attraction to men, and always have had it. Because our society pressures individuals to identify early on as exclusively straight or gay, such men identify as 100% heterosexual and consciously or subconsciously suppress any homosexual attraction they may have. Because of the nonsense of "you're either straight, gay, or lying," bi-curious young men are also reluctant to explore that side of themselves out of fear that they might be gay (even though they know perfectly well that they're attracted to and enjoy sex with women).

As people get older, they get past such hang-ups and care less about conformity, social pressure, and what's considered "normal." There's also the fact that your instincts aren't driving you to reproduce as you get older to the same extent, which makes it less of an impetus to pursue strictly opposite-sex relations.

 

[HenryLyon]

My take on this is that there are a lot of men out there who are mostly but not 100% heterosexual, i.e. they have some attraction to men, and always have had it. Because our society pressures individuals to identify early on as exclusively straight or gay, such men identify as 100% heterosexual and consciously or subconsciously suppress any homosexual attraction they may have. Because of the nonsense of "you're either straight, gay, or lying," bi-curious young men are also reluctant to explore that side of themselves out of fear that they might be gay (even though they know perfectly well that they're attracted to and enjoy sex with women).

As people get older, they get past such hang-ups and care less about conformity, social pressure, and what's considered "normal." There's also the fact that your instincts aren't driving you to reproduce as you get older to the same extent, which makes it less of an impetus to pursue strictly opposite-sex relations.

This is extremely well put! Good job. Ive always thought theres a huge spectrum of sexuality for both men and women, and its also not static throughout their life. Just 'conform' to being yourself.

 

[yestryitlikeit]

I have eaten lots and lots of pussy , even what I would call some world class women for a long time and am good at it I think. But right now I have a serious desire to suck cock(s), even get gang raped in a way although no violence....and maybe only 2 fellows as I'm still a virgin in one way and an almost virgin in the other.

I was so frustrated one night years ago I'm a caucasian fellow, and I went to a bath house, rented a small room, took my cloths off and went to where there was a small pool.....I laid down nude next to the pool and closed my eyes. It was not too long before I felt a man's balls graze my lips and so I opened my mouth to accept this unknown and unseen mans dick. It was so exciting to me! He asked me where I wanted to do this and I told him I had a room and he quickly took my hand but allowed me to lead the way and I noticed he had such a beautiful black dick....not too big, maybe 7 inches and round enough for me to have quite a workout sucking it and we were soon in my room

I got on my knees but he wanted me on the bed where he straddled my face with his black cock in my mouth pumping in and out and then he put his finger in my noze and tole me to sniff which I did and he then started to come in my mouth while I felt like I was in sheer bliss. I licked his dick and balls ,then thanked him while he thanked me and walked out never to be seen again.......alas this is one of my great fantasies yet that one was very real

 

[Susscrofa]

This is extremely well put! Good job. Ive always thought theres a huge spectrum of sexuality for both men and women, and its also not static throughout their life. Just 'conform' to being yourself.

A (mostly) gay friend of mine says that his fellow gays try to shame him for daring to mention that he finds some woman attractive and wouldn't mind hitting the sack with her, in the same way that friends of mine would react if I pointed out that I sometimes may find another man attractive. So the need to conform cuts both ways, and it's all bullshit.

 

[Susscrofa]

Why older men look to the Bi side. Sex. No strings, no lovey dove BS. No baking cookies measure for curtains, no snuggles or smoothie Bullshit. Fuk that ass or throat. Pull out bust my nut. Then leave
Happy now

I'm getting bi-curious for much the same reason that I'm also increasingly drawn to female prostitutes - i.e. no pretense of "relationships" and all of the unnecessary drama that entails. Baking cookies and hanging curtains I can deal with, snuggling is fine especially after a few drinks, but hearing whining and inflated drama about hurt feelings because I don't "care" enough about "feelings" is enough to drive anyone to Bedlam.

 

[Friendly2good_people]

Why older men are drawn to sucking cock

I did the mutual masturbation thing with my teenage friends...one of them truly loved swallowing my cock.
Now I am retired and think how nice it would be to do that again, and reciprocate. I know if I could suck my cock I'd do it every day...

 

[Vitriolhack]

Identification with bisexual

https://www.advocate.com/bisexualit...dc-report-finds-more-men-identifying-bisexual.

In my humble opinion, I think the increase of men associated as Bi is a reflection of changing social norms.

Women, I think, have an easier time coming out as bi as it is seen as being hip to have fun with another woman.

I have had multiple talks with bi men. I am going on personal experience here only, but it would seem like a lot of them have penis envy only. I am unsure about their willingness of having a relationship with a same sex partner. It would seem like, it is more like a need to see a bigger dick than theirs.

This is by no means a complete answer, but only elements of a much bigger, and lovely subject. Why did I choose the word bigger, Hummmmmm....

V.

 

[klippert]

I'm getting bi-curious for much the same reason that I'm also increasingly drawn to female prostitutes - i.e. no pretense of "relationships" and all of the unnecessary drama that entails. Baking cookies and hanging curtains I can deal with, snuggling is fine especially after a few drinks, but hearing whining and inflated drama about hurt feelings because I don't "care" enough about "feelings" is enough to drive anyone to Bedlam.

it about sex...like finding a stray dog...don't let the kids name it...its harder to find it a home.
I'm not a drinker, so i'm aware of my emotions. Married men see that another man in the same situation or that 'tart' at work that knows the definition of discretion
not pop-psychology about or 402 different sexuality types to make yourself feel better...
men are testosterone driven...left just rim, suck and fuck. we can meet for a coffee or casual conversation...but, Ill expect to be changing my oil in your mouth. the beauty of driving a big Truck

 

[StrattonChambers]

Really, I think I was always a little bi curious. As a teenager, I thought about it occasionally, but the homophobia was so rampant I didn’t dare take a chance of anyone finding out. Besides, I liked girls way too much and my attention was largely focused on trying to get some pussy.

In college, in the mid to late seventies, thousands of miles from home, things overall were much looser and accepting, but my crowd was still a pretty Neanderthal one. Plus, for a lot of that period, I had a real girlfriend and we were getting it on all the time. But I still had curiosity. When I was a freshman, there was an older boy in Glee Club that I admired. He was tall and blond and very pretty and, I told myself, just a bit on the effeminate side. I don’t know if he was actually gay or bi, but I decided if he ever made a pass at me, I would go as far as he wanted. He never did.

A couple of more girlfriends along the way, and in my mid twenties, I was starting law school. I met the woman who would become my wife, and was insanely in love (well, still am, really) In your twenties and early thirties, engagement, wedding and early married years, you are so focused on your wife, sex with her pretty much any time, getting established in life, raising little kids, you convince yourself that she is all you want and need, and thoughts of bisexuality, or other extracurricular fun, seem to fade way, way into the background.

Flash forward some years, kids are preteen or teenagers, her sex drive has slowed down tremendously, with work, the house, kids, etc., if it hasn’t disappeared entirely. You spend way too much time with your penis in your hand, thinking of ways to wipe up your come that she won’t notice, hiding porn mags in drawers (these were pre internet days), thinking about your secretary, or your wife’s best friend with the huge tits, or whatever.

The internet makes its appearance, mid to late nineties, and you find sex everywhere. Forums, chat rooms, personal ads. Women who want to play. Men who want to play. Couples who want to play. And you start to think. “I don’t want to die having only had a vanilla sex life with my wife and a few women before. I want a past. I want to experience some exotic things.” And you start contacting people. All kinds of people. Men, women, young, old And you meet them discreetly. And before you know it, you’re masturbating another man’s penis, and then sucking it, and he’s doing it to you, and you love it. Not enough to lose your marriage, but enough to keep doing it. Probably your wife is not receptive to an open lifestyle. Maybe you raised the idea, and she shot it down. Maybe you knew better than to even try. You think about men’s asses, and possibly trying anal, top and bottom.

And at some point, you realize that playing with dicks is just a part of what makes you happy in bed. You cover it up and never, ever, let it show in your real life, but it’s in your head constantly, and you indulge when you can.

 

[slowreader1942]

I am in my 70's and very much enjoying expressing my bi feelings. fortunately I have a woman in my life that accepts me as I am. With age comes the need for additional stimulation and having a man to play with has been quite stimulating.

 

[Teddytiger]

My take on this is that there are a lot of men out there who are mostly but not 100% heterosexual, i.e. they have some attraction to men, and always have had it. Because our society pressures individuals to identify early on as exclusively straight or gay, such men identify as 100% heterosexual and consciously or subconsciously suppress any homosexual attraction they may have. Because of the nonsense of "you're either straight, gay, or lying," bi-curious young men are also reluctant to explore that side of themselves out of fear that they might be gay (even though they know perfectly well that they're attracted to and enjoy sex with women).

As people get older, they get past such hang-ups and care less about conformity, social pressure, and what's considered "normal." There's also the fact that your instincts aren't driving you to reproduce as you get older to the same extent, which makes it less of an impetus to pursue strictly opposite-sex relations.

I agree with your comments. When I look back I’ve always been predominantly heterosexual, however, have always had bi feelings, leanings, fantasises etc. As a social norm for guys is only to be heterosexual then I conformed. Now I’m older and comfortable in my own skin I’m willing to both accept and say I am bi.

 

[hogjack]

Probably 90% is from being "shut down and shut out."