Why do older men become bi-curious?

[mijbob79]

why bi

I find my self thinking about a cock more and more.
Sex with the wife has slowed to once every couple of months. And I need it a bit more....
I never would of thought I would be thinking about bi but the drive seems to be getting stronger.

Looking forward to the first time sometime soon I hope. But is hard to find the right guy.

Still looking

Jim

 

[dacoach44]

Yup.........

I think alot of older men become bi curious because they may have had an experience earlier in life. Many teenage guys have masturbated together with a friend or acquaintance back then. Then life comes along, marriage, raising a family and so on. Then as the years go by they think, hey I'd like to try that again. So you have quite a few men willing to further explore their sexual needs and desires.

and dont forget the way some women totally drop sex outta their life......

 

[fl47432]

I think alot of older men become bi curious because they may have had an experience earlier in life. Many teenage guys have masturbated together with a friend or acquaintance back then. Then life comes along, marriage, raising a family and so on. Then as the years go by they think, hey I'd like to try that again. So you have quite a few men willing to further explore their sexual needs and desires.

Agreed.

Add to that possible motivation the complexity of middle-aged hetero relationships, caused by 2nd wave feminism.

Today's youth have an entirely different social foundation: hookup culture.

 

[dacoach44]

And........

When you play with a man, none of the damned drama women bring, such as her kids, jealousy, etc.

 

[muycurioso]

yep

As some marriages continue, I know husbands who told me how their wives do not want to be bothered with sex as the guys libido increases. But they, we, are not interested in divorcing wives. Its a catch 22 situation.

sometimes arguments over money or (in my case) my career moves lead to a feeling of, I don't want to say anger, but a physical separation. Also it doesn't help if wife lets herself go and I am still in pretty good shape. I am running a 10K this weekend in 30 degree weather. I have always had some bi/gay feelings just only actually acted on them for a short period back in my earlier college days.

 

[muycurioso]

we can rationalize anything

When you play with a man, none of

and if you are just "playing" with a man is it cheating. Yes it is, but I don't know. I have never cheated. I was a road warrior once and had a few chances too (with women)! I never did it.

 

[muycurioso]

my ideas

1) I have always had these desires but religious conditioning/society made me keep them down.

2) I have always been an outsider (not by choice) and figured being bi would make things even worse. I have spent a lot of time alone in my life.

3) When I was young, well 20's it was the 90's and there was the AIDS scare/fear. I was afraid of getting AIDS.

 

[muycurioso]

I don't know man

When you play with a man, none of the damned drama women bring, such as her kids, jealousy, etc.

I think the time I had my gay friend, he kind of flipped out in the end. I think it was always more for him and I feel bad about that. He even contacted me a few years later. We sent letters for awhile. I think my wife had a feeling this friend was something else but never mentioned it.

 

[Cockyme1948]

Wife

No sex at home started looking at porn and reading stories on lit. Drifted to Bisexual/gay, now all I think about is sucking cock “gets me rock hard”. It has become an obsession and the top of my bucket list. Wish I could find a discreet, bi guy to explore everything with.

 

[fitandfresh]

No sex at home started looking at porn and reading stories on lit. Drifted to Bisexual/gay, now all I think about is sucking cock “gets me rock hard”. It has become an obsession and the top of my bucket list. Wish I could find a discreet, bi guy to explore everything with.

Don't think you alone in those thoughts.

 

[Virginiathick7]

As have gotten older.....I think of wrapping my hand around a cock...lol.
Staunton, Virginia

 

[tahoechunk]

Cockyme1948 Yep For me wife not so interested anymore. Shes 55 Im 68 and I wanna fuck. Somethng about just us guys getting together have a ber or wine or whiskey...chat....maybe get a buzz....nice massage.....and just ....get off! Nice blow job. Would be nice to get a young twink.... supple asshole.....lubed up....and fuck he shit outta that asshole.... Its all about the best orgasm you can get!!

 

[Kutching]

Hi I’m much older in Phoenix

As we grew older in our marriage, sex went away.
Now I think a lot about men with hard cocks.
I’m 70 in Phoenix 5-8 -75 blue gray
Kik - kutching

 

[bimori]

Don't think you alone in those thoughts.

Same here and I have gotten to the point that I have to eat my cum every day. I have found that cock and cum are all I can think about. 60 yo here and cock is still rock hard and horney.

 

[gurlsynthia]

Same here and I have gotten to the point that I have to eat my cum every day. I have found that cock and cum are all I can think about. 60 yo here and cock is still rock hard and horney.

70 y/o and cock and cum are all I think about now. Not so rock hard certainly horny and curious.

 

[cuck72]

67 here, and I never would have thought of sucking a guys cock in my teens or 20's. It started for me in my mid 30's when I would peek at a friend of mine pissing in the bar urinal. But I'd say over the last couple years I've been thinking about it every day, it's become an addiction now. I use to just really get off thinking of other men fucking my wife. Now I think more of sucking cocks and being a sissy bitch.

 

[carln3346]

I started to go out of my way to find cock pics to look at in my mid 50s. Never really interested before that - not sure why.
The more I looked, the more I enjoyed and the stronger the desire to feel one got.
I fought it and tried to keep my feelings and desires suppressed, but I met a man who felt the same way so we got together. That was about 7 years ago, and I am more sexually aroused by men then ever

 

[bobb64]

I knew in my teens I liked cock but as I got older the more I looked for it now its all I think about and want.

 

[Nezhul]

This is a WILD speculation, but could it be that lowered levels of testosterone that come with age - make them care less?

 

[Buscando]

Big head - Little head

Having written about this both here and in other threads, I'm thinking that if we were to just bring it down to the very basics of the matter, it might look something like this:

We all know that the cock couldn't possibly care any less about where its pleasure is coming from, no matter what the gender or body part that's delivering it.

Therefore, any prejudices, predispositions, projections, fears, etc., have to come from the big head, which in turn means that they were inserted there from outside sources. Otherwise, we'd all still be exploring and playing with each other freely and happily, just as we did as children.

Some of us reach a point somewhere in our adult lives where we have attained the intellectual maturity that makes it possible to examine and consequently toss aside the effects of those old and silly outside influences and take our pleasure wherever and however we please. Some, on the other hand, never do.

People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them. ~ Epictetus

 

[fitandfresh]

For sure

Now 72 and the urges just keep getting stronger.

 

[Iwantsomeplease]

Same here and I have gotten to the point that I have to eat my cum every day. I have found that cock and cum are all I can think about. 60 yo here and cock is still rock hard and horney.

That's hot got me hard

 

[wahoo33]

No idea why it happens, but I'm just like everyone else on this thread. 52 and bi thoughts never really crossed my mind until a few years ago. I've never fooled around with a guy. Glad there are so many of us in the same situation!

 

[StrangerNeedsStrange]

I'm in my early forties and it has definitely taken hold over the last couple years.

 

[NbTexas]

*

I'm in my early forties and it has definitely taken hold over the last couple years.

It cums with a lot less baggage!