Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[RachelWalsh]

Have any of you seen some of the stuff girls post on fetlife? It makes me want to cry

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Yeah. But I have had actual moments when I was an unreasonable bitch. Lol

As have I. You know what that's called? That's being so fucking overwhelmed by assholery that sometimes your frustration spills out when you least expect it.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Absolutely!! Like did you really think…I was gonna flash you my titties dummy

I think “unreasonable bitch” is a good look for us though
The crazy part is you know they don’t approach women like that offline.

There’s no friggin way they’ve walked up to a woman and said “show me your tits like a good little whore” without being on a list somewhere.

Oh, some have. They're such geniuses that they figure "Well, I got kicked in the groin for saying it irl, but I guess I better sling my broke dick online & try again."

 

[MrsPassion]

Yeah. But I have had actual moments when I was an unreasonable bitch. Lol

Speaking for me only, there have definitely been times where I was cool, calm and collected for messages 1-5 that were out of line and then message 6 came in and I lost it. I don’t think it was unreasonable but a compounded amount of effort to play nice and turn the other cheek and it was my last straw and fuck to give!

Folks assume far too much comfort when they decide you should chat with them because they want it. And I refuse to be the only person uncomfortable in a wild interaction I didn’t ask for.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Have any of you seen some of the stuff girls post on fetlife? It makes me want to cry

I'm not on that site. Wdym?

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Speaking for me only, there have definitely been times where I was cool, calm and collected for messages 1-5 that were out of line and then message 6 came in and I lost it. I don’t think it was unreasonable but a compounded amount of effort to play nice and turn the other cheek and it was my last straw and fuck to give!

Folks assume far too much comfort when they decide you should chat with them because they want it. And I refuse to be the only person uncomfortable in a wild interaction I didn’t ask for.

Fuck Yes !

 

[MrsPassion]

Oh, some have. They're such geniuses that they figure "Well, I got kicked in the groin for saying it irl, but I guess I better sling my broke dick online & try again."

Not the slanging broke e-dick

Have any of you seen some of the stuff girls post on fetlife? It makes me want to cry

I had to leave FL it was stressing me out and didn’t feel safe at all.

 

[RachelWalsh]

I'm not on that site. Wdym?

I am there... sometimes. There are girls who post pics of themselves in their profiles after being cut and bruised physically by men. Some even do it to themselves. I guess it is hot for people into it.

I just want to hug and cry with these girls and get them some counseling.

 

[5by5]

All I will say is, thank God for the ability to block. Over the hurt, but for a few messed up men on here, you will never get a second chance to mess with me. I'm unashamedly straight, so I've only dealt with the male unhinged lit guy. But for every sexy cool guy I've met over the years (this is not my first rodeo) there are a million who can't deal with the fact that women get horny too and sometimes we like to express that, that doesn't mean we're looking for help or an invitation. Sometimes I just want people to know, I'm feeling myself today. One of the reasons why I love men who have self control is because they can make me feel desired WITHOUT making me uncomfortable. But if they get the green light.... its on.

 

[MrsPassion]

There are girls who post pics of themselves in their profiles after being cut and bruised physically by men. Some even do it to themselves. I guess it is hot for people into it

I know fetlife caters to a lot of different tastes and it was jarring for me when I was first there. Some people really do enjoy it, and it’s always hard as a person who only sees the photos and who doesn’t share that same kink or fetish to rationalize.

You always hope it’s safe, sane, and consensual and I try to operate that way…especially when I was there.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I am there... sometimes. There are girls who post pics of themselves in their profiles after being cut and bruised physically by men. Some even do it to themselves. I guess it is hot for people into it.

I just want to hug and cry with these girls and get them some counseling.

So, there's a fine line, right? I'm not gonna kink shame anyone (as long as it's legal & safe). In this instance though, that type of more darker kinks should be shared amongst trusted individuals. It's a catch 22. I'm not gonna tell a woman to not like what she likes, but it's also very important that women take the time to truly analyze their turn ons/fetishes/kinks. Meaning, is this something she truly enjoys for herself, without the influence of anyone else's input? Or is this just yet another deep-rooted mindfuck from a male dominated society that makes her think she likes it too? In the latter case, yes, therapy, indeed.

 

[v_indigo]

Not the slanging broke e-dick

I had to leave FL it was stressing me out and didn’t feel safe at all.

Same. Being a woman, and gay, got me all sorts of fucked up messages

 

[RachelWalsh]

So, there's a fine line, right? I'm not gonna kink shame anyone (as long as it's legal & safe). In this instance though, that type of more darker kinks should be shared amongst trusted individuals. It's a catch 22. I'm not gonna tell a woman to not like what she likes, but it's also very important that women take the time to truly analyze their turn ons/fetishes/kinks. Meaning, is this something she truly enjoys for herself, without the influence of anyone else's input? Or is this just yet another deep-rooted mindfuck from a male dominated society that makes her think she likes it too? In the latter case, yes, therapy, indeed.

I am definitely NOT here to kink shame, but the physical damage, could there be a connection with mental trauma? I don't have all the answers but it worries me

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

But for every sexy cool guy I've met over the years (this is not my first rodeo) there are a million who can't deal with the fact that women get horny too and sometimes we like to express that, that doesn't mean we're looking for help or an invitation. Sometimes I just want people to know, I'm feeling myself today. One of the reasons why I love men who have self control is because they can make me feel desired WITHOUT making me uncomfortable.

This! Yes ma'am!

 

[MrsPassion]

Sometimes I just want people to know, I'm feeling myself today. One of the reasons why I love men who have self control is because they can make me feel desired WITHOUT making me uncomfortable

This part!!
You can appreciate and conpliment and keep your wits about you!

 

[MrsPassion]

Same. Being a woman, and gay, got me all sorts of fucked up messages

I can’t tell you how many times I was aggressively approached by couples when they saw my profile and that I was pan. It was wild

 

[v_indigo]

I can’t tell you how many times I was aggressively approached by couples when they saw my profile and that I was pan. It was wild

“Oh, you are pan? That means I can treat you like a public utility. So sexy!”

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I am definitely NOT here to kink shame, but the physical damage, could there be a connection with mental trauma? I don't have all the answers but it worries me

I don't believe you mean to kink shame. It should be worrisome to you because there are too many women out there who haven't taken the time to truly know what they want, completely irrespective of a man/partner.
You don't have to simply mirror what's popular or what gets you the most attention. Because ultimately, they will get dangerous attention.

 

[MrsPassion]

“Oh, you are pan? That means I can treat you like a public utility. So sexy!”

The cognitive dissonance was astounding

 

[v_indigo]

The cognitive dissonance was astounding

And the baked in misogyny!

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

The cognitive dissonance was astounding

You know what? Ultimately, we have to demand the safe space that we want. Sadly, online play isn't much different from irl interactions. The women & minorities have to fucking kick the door down for change and bear all the name calling & gaslighting along the way.

 

[RachelWalsh]

And the baked in misogyny!

It is strange that so many misogynistic men so desperately WANT to be with women.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

And the baked in misogyny!

So
Much
Misogyny
&
Sexism.

 

[v_indigo]

It is strange that so many misogynistic men so desperately WANT to be with women.

They like women as holes and servants

 

[MrsPassion]

And the baked in misogyny!

Oh yes! Because 9/10 it was the husbands approaching describing mine and their wives use. Meanwhile wifey is no where to be seen or heard from and it’s assumed that I would want either or both of them.

I packed up my kinky suitcase and hit the road I know a lot of people who like FetLife and more power to them and I hope they have a blast, but it was once described as a pit of vipers and I feel it’s soo accurate.