Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[InCNCestBangPie]

To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.

Reiterate for the lazy.

 

[Submissivepat]

Any dominant women out there that want to chat?

 

[JohnnySavage]

Reiterate for the lazy.

You're a bully.

 

[neci]

You're a bully.

there’s a possibility she would make an exception if you posted your spaghetti sauce recipe.

 

[RachelWalsh]

there’s a possibility she would make an exception if you posted your spaghetti sauce recipe.

Hmmmm. Is it red or white sauce? Lol

 

[JohnnySavage]

As an Americanized version of one of Gods Favored Peoples, we call it Red Gravy (because it has meat in it) or Ragu (Sugo not having meat). Sunday Sauce is also an acceptable name, although I normally cook and bake on Saturdays.

I'd, of course, share my recipe but again, being one of Gods Favored Peoples, I don't have a recipe. I start a base of Roma tomatoes and some flavor of ground meat (beef, venison, port, veal...), then add spices until I hear the voices of my ancestors whisper, "enough, child."

 

[RachelWalsh]

Not the slanging broke e-dick

I had to leave FL it was stressing me out and didn’t feel safe at all.

I really appreciate some of the... advice I have received here about FL. I have really taken that to heart. Thanks ladies

 

[Zrosey]

Unfortunately, Lit has been a sink-or-swim crash course in how to stand up for yourself.

Oh, do I feel this! I'm a fairly quiet soul here on lit, but after a few posts and getting inundated with dick pics and some pretty evil misogynistic comments, I had to take a time out for my own sanity.
It seems after blocking some this behavior has quieted down at least for now.

You protect yourself with the tools you have currently at your disposal and you learn and adapt as you go and trade out the tools that no longer serve you for the ones that do

And I so love this! So much truth to learning as I go.
At first, I came close to bailing out on lit, but through the help and compassion of some amazing folks I'm still here and learning

 

[Zrosey]

We all have. Remember, consent can be revoked, and you don't owe anyone e a good time

I am going to hold these words close this is some powerful stuff

 

[neci]

Oh, do I feel this! I'm a fairly quiet soul here on lit, but after a few posts and getting inundated with dick pics and some pretty evil misogynistic comments, I had to take a time out for my own sanity.
It seems after blocking some this behavior has quieted down at least for now.


And I so love this! So much truth to learning as I go.
At first, I came close to bailing out on lit, but through the help and compassion of some amazing folks I'm still here and learning

my earlier days on lit really helped me learn about my own boundaries and sticking up for myself. someone could say or do something, and i didn’t have to take it personally, because their words were a reflection of them, not me. the power of ignore is also really awesome. there are some wonderful people hanging out around here, in the strangest of places, and i’m glad i’ve stuck around to get to know a few of them. i hope you continue to meet wonderful people, and don’t mind the crazies. they come with the internets and are easy to make go away. there are days i open up the forums and only have a handful of threads visible, but this is my curated experience and i can make it what i want.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

i hope you continue to meet wonderful people, and don’t mind the crazies. they come with the internets and are easy to make go away. there are days i open up the forums and only have a handful of threads visible, but this is my curated experience and i can make it what i want.

I love the attitude. Obviously, some are not always easy to make go away. But the sentiment is the same. Let them be crazy by themselves while you build your own world to enjoy on here.

 

[lil_jenni]

I think it was worse when I first started on Lit. I received shit all the time, as did a lot of other women here see the 'PM asshattery' thread https://forum.literotica.com/threads/pm-asshattery.750187/

These days, I'm in invisible mode all the time, so I rarely get PMs from the opportunistic lurkers. And I also kind of warn folks off with my profile. But I still am not weird PM free. I can't even post what the most recent one said.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Yeah, you kinda have to go invisible mode to avoid the frequency of rough PMs. You'll still get them, just not as many.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Oh man when I first joined the forums. Like not even an hour after.. I had some guy hit my PMs asking if I'd consider letting him watch me through a web cam.
No "Hi how are you" or fuck all. I didn't have an AV or anything written in my profile. Hadn't made a post and definitely didn't know how to make myself appear offline. I just wandered in to see what it was like and got that.

I don't reply to bullshit PMs anymore for my own sanity. I'm here for me, not to inspire some random dudes happy sock time

 

[Beth_Anne90]

Happened to all of us, I'm sure!!

 

[lil_jenni]

I don't reply to bullshit PMs anymore for my own sanity. I'm here for me, not to inspire some random dudes happy sock time

Same here. I also no longer reply to the "lonely guy here" PMs or the ones that try to open a conversation with just hello or a line. I do (usually) still reply to the ones who have a comment or question about something I posted. I have some PM friends I met that way. But they at least took the time to approach me about something I'd written, not just a generic email.

 

[Beth_Anne90]

Same with me Jenni.

 

[Beth_Anne90]

And I have had some great conversations in the past.

 

[v_indigo]

Contrary to what this account says, I’ve been here forever, and was not nice when it came to letting guys know that I have zero interest in what they were trying to offer

 

[Zrosey]

Yeah, you kinda have to go invisible mode to avoid the frequency of rough PMs. You'll still get them, just not as many.

I NEED to find this invisible mode you speak of!
Lol...gonna be sweet for sure

Found it! And thanks for bringing it up

 

[twztdgirl]

I wouldn’t say I have experienced terrifying, just mostly eye rolling. There are the “Hi” only pms as well as those that are a snippet of a sexual encounter or a “tell me all about you and your most intimate fantasies”. There is no attempt to interest me at all. The laziness there is underwhelming. So many assumptions

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

A lot of guys here seem to get awfully pissy when you stand up for yourself: "Hey, I didn't like when you said so and so..."
In fact, it seems the calmer you are in stating your boundaries/needs, the more disproportionately bothered they become.
But hey, thanks for giving me all the red flags at once.

Also, if I state I'm not comfortable diving right into sex chats, stop trying to push past those boundaries.
Like, just say you're illiterate .

 

[Uktousa91]

Any dominant women out there that want to chat?

I would love to chat

 

[keepingsweet]

Oh I 100% follow. Sadly, I think most of us do. We're the online placeholder to briefly fix everything wrong in their life, but just through sex.
And no, it doesn't make an ounce of sense.

Wow, processing this

 

[keepingsweet]

Folks assume far too much comfort when they decide you should chat with them because they want it. And I refuse to be the only person uncomfortable in a wild interaction I didn’t ask for.

Whoa, so much truth in this thread

Lifting this powerful reminder up for the ages