Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[JennyCapricorn]

, I got notice that he's Following me so I bet he will show up here

if he does he gets banned from here. But that’s a horrible situation.

Entitled assholes

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

if he does he gets banned from here. But that’s a horrible situation.

Entitled assholes

We should be able to to block followers

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Question for the group: so hubby and I have instituted an "earn a free pass" system for personal improvements and by chance both he and I have earned one this week. I had planned to hit a bar I found hours away from home while picking up kiddo from college later this week, but the idea of both us going to a swingers club was also raised.

Any opinions on which I/we should do? or should I split the difference and push for the swingers club if I don't have any luck at the bar?

 

[genzsub]

Question for the group: so hubby and I have instituted an "earn a free pass" system for personal improvements and by chance both he and I have earned one this week. I had planned to hit a bar I found hours away from home while picking up kiddo from college later this week, but the idea of both us going to a swingers club was also raised.

Any opinions on which I/we should do? or should I split the difference and push for the swingers club if I don't have any luck at the bar?

It totally depends on whether you are interested in just finding a lady (my suggestion ) or you would be good with other genders. My advice is based solely on wanting some same-sex fun.

First, do you have a lesbian or gay-friendly bar that you've found on your route or just a random bar? I think your chances are a lot higher if you can find one of the former. If so, split the difference and see what happens at the bar first. I haven't found regular bars to be very conducive to lesbian hookups, too much time wading through and rejecting the guys. Nightclubs are somewhat better, actually, but it depends on the place.

I'm not sure what the vibe is in a swingers club (never been) but I would suspect that it would have more viable opportunities to meet interested people.

 

[AngieGZC]

A safe thread for women? I like this idea why did I not think of it

 

[AngieGZC]

When I first started on Lit it was just in the chat rooms and even there I would talk to a guy, get to PMing and share a photo because I had horrible body image issues (even with Hubby and friends telling me I looked good). And the affirmation here would feel good. On the forums the “show us your style” and what not gave me very positive responses. It was nice to have strangers affirm that if it was real life I would get a second look (guess which member of my college circle didn’t attract a lot of attention but had to be distracted while men moved on my hot dancer friends?)

Then men started getting stalk-y and that just killed the whole thing. Now I generally only share with women via PM. My need for outside affirmation is less, I’m feeling better about myself, but I’ve found men in PM are unconsciously entitled to the point of being gross or infuriating.

ETA: I think I lost the thread there a little. Very tired. Sorry if that was incomprehensible

I get this feeling very much it is what led me down the path of porn work

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I get this feeling very much it is what led me down the path of porn work

well I don’t know how likely that is but I hope it was fulfilling for you?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Question for the group: so hubby and I have instituted an "earn a free pass" system for personal improvements and by chance both he and I have earned one this week. I had planned to hit a bar I found hours away from home while picking up kiddo from college later this week, but the idea of both us going to a swingers club was also raised.

Any opinions on which I/we should do? or should I split the difference and push for the swingers club if I don't have any luck at the bar?

For the record, I had luck at the bar.

 

[AngieGZC]

well I don’t know how likely that is but I hope it was fulfilling for you?

It was for a while and then it became a job and lost its flare

 

[JennyCapricorn]

It was for a while and then it became a job and lost its flare

Don’t monetize your hobbies. This is why k never seriously pursued baking sweets and breads for pay.

 

[AngieGZC]

Don’t monetize your hobbies. This is why k never seriously pursued baking sweets and breads for pay.

Exactly that is why I walked away. I wanted to enjoy sex and fetishes again haha

 

[JennyCapricorn]

For the record, I had luck at the bar.

And for what it’s worth a huge thank you to @genzsub , @French0077 and especially @GlassVentricle for helping me get out of my own way and have an amazing evening. I owe you all so much.

 

[KatieDoes]

I’m getting a bit of this vibe right now.

 

[AngieGZC]

Sorry to hear that

 

[stickygirl]

I’m getting a bit of this vibe right now.
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Yes, quite the Oxymoron

 

[KatieDoes]

Yes, quite the Oxymoron

Moron, at the least

 

[KatieDoes]

Sorry to hear that

Yeah, it’s unfortunate that lit dudes make up alt accounts and pose as women when they lack the personality to get women to speak to them as they are.

I’m pretty good at detecting the fakes, though.


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Sometimes they’ll even go back and delete or edit the posts that made it obvious they were men, and try to pretend that they didn’t exist. Like we’re idiots or something.

 

[AngieGZC]

Yeah, it’s unfortunate that lit dudes make up alt accounts and pose as women when they lack the personality to get women to speak to them as they are.

I’m pretty good at detecting the fakes, though.

Well, men have been doing that for years...

 

[KatieDoes]

Well, men have been doing that for years...

Yes, fellow woman. Those pesky men. They’re so pesky, fellow woman!

 

[AngieGZC]

Yes, fellow woman. Those pesky men. They’re so pesky, fellow woman!

Well, I do believe the world has shifted to a point where it's acceptable. So, why would they stop?

 

[KatieDoes]

Well, I do believe the world has shifted to a point where it's acceptable. So, why would they stop?

Would you prefer to stop posting on this thread on your own, my guy? Or should I tag in an admin to remove you and your fake account?

 

[Barbelle]

Just want to say how much I love and appreciate this thread

 

[KatieDoes]

Would you prefer to stop posting on this thread on your own, my guy? Or should I tag in an admin to remove you and your fake account?

K. Thanks, bye.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

It was all you.
You are beautiful
You picked up
You did that. X

I wouldn’t have been able to without all of your love and support.

 

[stickygirl]

Gillian Anderson seems comfortable both sides of the Atlantic. I follow these Fearne Cotton interview/chats and Gillian's thoughts, expressed by contributors to her book, chime with much of our wishes here. Worth a view