You wake up tomorrow.

[playwithlezli]

OK, maybe men don't always have it easy. On the other hand, he did get to drink a lot of beer......


Oil Change instructions for Women:
>>>
>>1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since
>>the last oil change.
>>
>>
>>2) Drink a cup of coffee
>>
>>
>>3) 15 minutes later, write a check and leave with a properly
>>maintained vehicle.
>>
>>
>>Money spent:
>>
>>
>>Oil Change: $20.00
>>
>>
>>Coffee: $1.00
>>
>>
>>Total: $21.00
>>
>>
>>
>>----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>Oil Change instructions for Men :
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>1) Wait until Saturday, drive to auto parts store and buy a case of
>>oil, filter, kitty litter, hand cleaner and a scented tree, write a
>>check for $50.00.
>>
>>
>>2) Stop by 7/11 and buy a case of beer, write a check for $20,
>>drive home.
>>
>>
>>3) Open a beer and drink it.
>>
>>
>>4) Jack car up. Spend 30 minutes looking for jack stands.
>>
>>
>>5) Find jack stands under kid's pedal car.
>>
>>
>>6) In frustration, open another beer and drink it.
>>
>>
>>7) Place drain pan under engine.
>>
>>
>>8) Look for 9/16 box end wrench.
>>
>>
>>9) Give up and use crescent wrench.
>>
>>
>>10) Unscrew drain plug.
>>
>>
>>11) Drop drain plug in pan of hot oil: splash hot oil on you in
>>process. Cuss.
>>
>>
>>12) Crawl out from under car to wipe hot oil off of face and arms.
>>Throw kitty litter on spilled oil.
>>
>>
>>13) Have another beer while watching oil drain.
>>
>>
>>14) Spend 30 minutes looking for oil filter wrench.
>>
>>
>>15) Give up; crawl under car and hammer a screwdriver through oil
>>filter and twist off.
>>
>>
>>16) Crawl out from under car with dripping oil filter splashing oil
>>everywhere from holes. Cleverly hide old oil filter among trash in
>>trash can to avoid environmental penalties. Drink a beer.
>>
>>
>>17) Install new oil filter making sure to apply a thin coat of oil
>>to gasket surface.
>>
>>
>>18) Dump first quart of fresh oil into engine.
>>
>>
>>19) Remember drain plug from step 11.
>>
>>
>>20) Hurry to find drain plug in drain pan.
>>
>>
>>21) Drink beer.
>>
>>
>>22) Discover that first quart of fresh oil is now on the floor.
>>Throw kitty litter on oil spill.
>>
>>
>>23) Get drain plug back in with only a minor spill. Drink beer.
>>
>>
>>24) Crawl under car getting kitty litter into eyes. Wipe eyes with
>>oily rag used to clean drain plug. Slip with stupid crescent wrench
>>tightening drain plug and bang knuckles on frame removing any
>>excess skin between knuckles and frame.
>>
>>
>>25) Begin cussing fit.
>>
>>
>>26) Throw stupid crescent wrench.
>>
>>
>>27) Cuss for additional 5 minutes because wrench hit bowling
>>trophy.
>>
>>
>>28) Beer.
>>
>>
>>29) Clean up hands and bandage as required to stop bl ood flow.
>>
>>
>>30) Beer.
>>
>>
>>31) Dump in five fresh quarts of oil.
>>
>>
>>32) Beer.
>>
>>
>>33) Lower car from jack stands.
>>
>>
>>34) Move car back to apply more kitty litter to fresh oil spilled
>>during any missed steps.
>>
>>
>>35) Beer.
>>
>>
>>36) Test drive car.
>>
>>
>>37) Get pulled over: arrested for driving under the influence.
>>
>>
>>38) Car gets impounded.
>>
>>
>>39) Call loving wife, make bail.
>>
>>
>>40) 12 hours later, get car from impound yard.
>>
>>
>>Money spent:
>>
>>
>>Parts: $50.00
>>
>>
>>DUI: $2500.00
>>
>>
>>Impound fee: $75.00
>>
>>
>>Bail: $1500.00
>>
>>
>>Beer: $20.00
>>
>>
>>Total: $4,145.00
>>
>>
>>But you know the job was done right!
>>

 

[Tymeless]

OK, maybe men don't always have it easy. On the other hand, he did get to drink a lot of beer......


Oil Change instructions for Women:
>>>
>>1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube when the mileage reaches 3000 miles since
>>the last oil change.
>>
>>
>>2) Drink a cup of coffee
>>
>>
>>3) 15 minutes later, write a check and leave with a properly
>>maintained vehicle.
>>
>>
>>Money spent:
>>
>>
>>Oil Change: $20.00
>>
>>
>>Coffee: $1.00
>>
>>
>>Total: $21.00
>>
>>
>>
>>----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>Oil Change instructions for Men :
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>1) Wait until Saturday, drive to auto parts store and buy a case of
>>oil, filter, kitty litter, hand cleaner and a scented tree, write a
>>check for $50.00.
>>
>>
>>2) Stop by 7/11 and buy a case of beer, write a check for $20,
>>drive home.
>>
>>
>>3) Open a beer and drink it.
>>
>>
>>4) Jack car up. Spend 30 minutes looking for jack stands.
>>
>>
>>5) Find jack stands under kid's pedal car.
>>
>>
>>6) In frustration, open another beer and drink it.
>>
>>
>>7) Place drain pan under engine.
>>
>>
>>8) Look for 9/16 box end wrench.
>>
>>
>>9) Give up and use crescent wrench.
>>
>>
>>10) Unscrew drain plug.
>>
>>
>>11) Drop drain plug in pan of hot oil: splash hot oil on you in
>>process. Cuss.
>>
>>
>>12) Crawl out from under car to wipe hot oil off of face and arms.
>>Throw kitty litter on spilled oil.
>>
>>
>>13) Have another beer while watching oil drain.
>>
>>
>>14) Spend 30 minutes looking for oil filter wrench.
>>
>>
>>15) Give up; crawl under car and hammer a screwdriver through oil
>>filter and twist off.
>>
>>
>>16) Crawl out from under car with dripping oil filter splashing oil
>>everywhere from holes. Cleverly hide old oil filter among trash in
>>trash can to avoid environmental penalties. Drink a beer.
>>
>>
>>17) Install new oil filter making sure to apply a thin coat of oil
>>to gasket surface.
>>
>>
>>18) Dump first quart of fresh oil into engine.
>>
>>
>>19) Remember drain plug from step 11.
>>
>>
>>20) Hurry to find drain plug in drain pan.
>>
>>
>>21) Drink beer.
>>
>>
>>22) Discover that first quart of fresh oil is now on the floor.
>>Throw kitty litter on oil spill.
>>
>>
>>23) Get drain plug back in with only a minor spill. Drink beer.
>>
>>
>>24) Crawl under car getting kitty litter into eyes. Wipe eyes with
>>oily rag used to clean drain plug. Slip with stupid crescent wrench
>>tightening drain plug and bang knuckles on frame removing any
>>excess skin between knuckles and frame.
>>
>>
>>25) Begin cussing fit.
>>
>>
>>26) Throw stupid crescent wrench.
>>
>>
>>27) Cuss for additional 5 minutes because wrench hit bowling
>>trophy.
>>
>>
>>28) Beer.
>>
>>
>>29) Clean up hands and bandage as required to stop bl ood flow.
>>
>>
>>30) Beer.
>>
>>
>>31) Dump in five fresh quarts of oil.
>>
>>
>>32) Beer.
>>
>>
>>33) Lower car from jack stands.
>>
>>
>>34) Move car back to apply more kitty litter to fresh oil spilled
>>during any missed steps.
>>
>>
>>35) Beer.
>>
>>
>>36) Test drive car.
>>
>>
>>37) Get pulled over: arrested for driving under the influence.
>>
>>
>>38) Car gets impounded.
>>
>>
>>39) Call loving wife, make bail.
>>
>>
>>40) 12 hours later, get car from impound yard.
>>
>>
>>Money spent:
>>
>>
>>Parts: $50.00
>>
>>
>>DUI: $2500.00
>>
>>
>>Impound fee: $75.00
>>
>>
>>Bail: $1500.00
>>
>>
>>Beer: $20.00
>>
>>
>>Total: $4,145.00
>>
>>
>>But you know the job was done right!
>>

glad dad does all my auto work or knows someone that can do it. and glad he doesn't drink

 

[Terra_Cide]

I remember the days when my dad used to change the oil. Then he realized he was getting too old for that nonsense, and went to a garage like the sane people do.

$21.00 for an oil change?? Damn, I'd sure like to know where that lady gets her oil done. In all my years of owning cars, I've never had a $20.00 oil change!

 

[Tymeless]

I remember the days when my dad used to change the oil. Then he realized he was getting too old for that nonsense, and went to a garage like the sane people do.

$21.00 for an oil change?? Damn, I'd sure like to know where that lady gets her oil done. In all my years of owning cars, I've never had a $20.00 oil change!

there like 15 bucks in ohio

 

[AussieAngel]

Hey Aussie...

You are so cute and adorable, I want to get to know you more and would like to finally meet you, and then come into the bedroom and make love to me! better? hehehe

Much better. Now if only i could really get that!?! how much money do i need to save to go to canada?

 

[Minouners]

Much better. Now if only i could really get that!?! how much money do i need to save to go to canada?

It all depends on where you're flying from and what airline... once you're in I can deal with the rest!

 

[bi golly]

1) take a long hot shower and play with the soap. a lot. I would see what breasts feel like from the inside. Shave my legs. See what a clit feels like, from the inside. Use the hand shower to get off.

2) try out make up. Minimal make up. Try on a lot of lingerie. Find the right bra.

3) try out some looks. Try to look 'hot' without looking slutty. Or high maintenance.

4) pick up a guy. Make him hard just by smiling. A promising smile.

5) ride him like a cowboy.

6) go to a lesbian bar and get picked up by a jock dyke. Let her eat and fuck me for as long as she wants.

7) hope that it wears off so I can have my cock back.

 

[Terra_Cide]

Find the right bra.

Good luck on that. I've been female all my life and haven't had any luck yet- and that's after being properly fitted too!

 

[Tymeless]

Good luck on that. I've been female all my life and haven't had any luck yet- and that's after being properly fitted too!

bra's can't live with them can't live without them.

 

[ready2try]

................

 

[Tymeless]

Shower and shave the places I never do, legs, armpits and pussy, don't shave where I usually do, face and balls. Play with pussy after shaving. Get dressed (in all the sexy stuff that I wish my girlfrind would be kinky and ask me to wear sometime). Stockings, garter, thong, bra.....skirt, blouse and heels. Go shopping try on something in Victoria's Secret call the sales women in to see what she thinks, really just looking to see her reaction. Ask her what she likes to wear or is wearing (I always wonder when I'm in those stores). Hope she comes in to help me. Find a guy to buy me dinner and drinks....flirt....go to his place......suck my first cock and let him cum in my mouth. Let him fuck me(either me on top or doggy), cum in me and then straddle his face, kiss him and leave. Go home cum once more with a vibrator, fall asleep, wake up in the sexy lingerie as a male and vaguely remember being a women for a day.

well the thing is you don't know if your gonna wake up a guy the next day or not.

 

[lilwetone]

good question...


Well, I probably end up in front of a mirror..just glairing. And also thinking "How in the hell did i get this??"....Maybe its a 24 hr thing... i dunno.

I dont think id know what to do.....id be to wierd,

 

[playwithlezli]

Good luck on that. I've been female all my life and haven't had any luck yet- and that's after being properly fitted too!

LOL! so true

 

[rbijon]

Shower and shave the places I never do, legs, armpits and pussy, don't shave where I usually do, face and balls. Play with pussy after shaving. Get dressed (in all the sexy stuff that I wish my girlfrind would be kinky and ask me to wear sometime). Stockings, garter, thong, bra.....skirt, blouse and heels. Go shopping try on something in Victoria's Secret call the sales women in to see what she thinks, really just looking to see her reaction. Ask her what she likes to wear or is wearing (I always wonder when I'm in those stores). Hope she comes in to help me. Find a guy to buy me dinner and drinks....flirt....go to his place......suck my first cock and let him cum in my mouth. Let him fuck me(either me on top or doggy), cum in me and then straddle his face, kiss him and leave. Go home cum once more with a vibrator, fall asleep, wake up in the sexy lingerie as a male and vaguely remember being a women for a day.

You did all that today? Wow, can I follow you around tomorrow?

 

[Stiffy Says...]

If I woke up as a woman...

1. Need not repeat steps #1-? due to sexual nature of masturbation , exploration, etc. by myself.
2. Try and figure out WTF it takes for women to get made up...likely this would be difficult at best.
3. Go out, see what life is like as a woman.
4. Fear the impending period!
5. Get a hysterectomy ASAP if this is a permanent condition - I do NOT want to experience pregnancy!!!
6. Try to adjust....probably be a lesbian...guys are icky!

 

[none2_none2]

If I woke up as a woman, it would worry me that my partner would loose interest in me since he is a gay man...

That aside, if I were not in a relationship, I would try to get pregnant. After seeing an episode of "House' where the sperm doners were nothing like the lady envisioned, I don't think I'd go that route. Since I don't care for penises inside me, fucking wouldn't be an option either. So I guess that means I'd have to find some hairy, masculine, muscular, handsome guy that wants to be masturbated while wearing a condom. I'd make up some story that I'm paranoid about germs, but that I also like to keep used rubbers. I wouldn't bug him about paternity, I'd just want to have a child. But who knows, being an infertile man, I'd probably end up being an infertile woman.

Other than having a child and the other reproductive experiences that go with feminity, the gender differences are an illusion to me. Some of the stereotypes: If I wanted to wear a dress, I can do so as a man. If I want to go crazy shopping, I can do so as a man. If I wanted a bathroom full of jells, hair brushes, perfumes, lotions, I could do so as a man.

To cover up a birth defect, I have always had hair a bit longer than what at times has been considered typical for guys. As a result, when I was a teen and was slender with the hair length, I knew what it was like to have a non-gay man start acting weird. Yuck! No wonder some women like to be lesbians, or why some people don't like big dogs that druel a lot.

So in summary, unless it would lead to having a child, such a change wouldn't do much for me. As far as I'm concerned, a person is who they are regardless of gender.

 

[playwithlezli]

None2 None. very thoughtful answer! I have always said to me it was the person not the parts, but I sure didn't think of that when I answered this thread earlier.

 

[Tymeless]

while we say that its not the person its the parts. society still has a view on things and shapes the way we act and experience things even when we don't agree with it. Yes as a man you can wear a dress, but until its acceptable your still a man wearing a dress. with that comes odd stares and anything that comes with it. the gender change in this is a very important concept because it comes with the thoughts behind it that the inhibitions we all exhibit do to our genders. Also with waking up in a different body whether you want to admit it or not your gonna see things differently, not to mention the effects of different hormones.

 

[lightsaver]

while we say that its not the person its the parts. society still has a view on things and shapes the way we act and experience things even when we don't agree with it. Yes as a man you can wear a dress, but until its acceptable your still a man wearing a dress. with that comes odd stares and anything that comes with it. the gender change in this is a very important concept because it comes with the thoughts behind it that the inhibitions we all exhibit do to our genders. Also with waking up in a different body whether you want to admit it or not your gonna see things differently, not to mention the effects of different hormones.

Perceptive and wise. Hi btw, I am new here found your ques very interesting. While I agree with your comment, I have no ability to precisely relate to that level of misconception from society as I have always been a female & adore being one.
However, there have been times when it was hard to figure out what or which part (of me) society was dissing me for - as I am as a colored, bi woman.
I think many ppl are always going to enjoy being ignorant, its a shame.
Cheers to you every1 who is true.

 

[Yeahlikewow]

I'd wake up a bit shocked and wondered what the heck happened whilst I was sleeping! After the shock had worn off my curiousity would most probably get the better of me and I'd have a wank to see what it actually felt like. They say (or, I've heard), female orgasms are more intense than males and I'd actually find out if this was true.

Then, i'd get dressed and see how it felt having something between my legs allday.. wow that would be weird. Not half as strange as being able to pee standing up and i'll also find out whether it is really difficult for men not to pee on the seat and if i can aim properly!!

In honesty i wouldn't really like to be a man and have these manly bits so if this did happen then i'd hope it wouldn't last forever and was just a day thing.

 

[none2_none2]

while we say that its not the person its the parts. society still has a view on things and shapes the way we act and experience things even when we don't agree with it. Yes as a man you can wear a dress, but until its acceptable your still a man wearing a dress. with that comes odd stares and anything that comes with it. the gender change in this is a very important concept because it comes with the thoughts behind it that the inhibitions we all exhibit do to our genders. Also with waking up in a different body whether you want to admit it or not your gonna see things differently, not to mention the effects of different hormones.

Odd attitudes aren't limited to people who don't act/look like the gender of their body parts. Case in point, there are people who think it it is cool to have pink, orange, green, blue hair. There are also people who like piercings or tatoos. Those things are always freekish to a segment of society.

In my particular case, I was born without an exterior right ear. It wasn't anything genetic, but most likely due to a car accident that my mother was involved in vitro. I have always worn my hair long enough to cover that fact up. Back in the 1960's-1970's long hair was only understood on males that were either hippies or if they were doing a play about Jesus. Any other reason was considered to be about messing with gender or sexual preference. Except for imitating Jesus, all other reasons were considered negative -- especially if the reason was belived to be for preference/orientation reasons. There may have been exceptions to these attitudes in urban areas, but where I grew up (rural areas and for a time in the military as a dependent) that wasn't the case.

My birth defect and longer hair is a separate issue from sexuality. There may be some overlap, but my long hair wasn't due to being effeminate. Though I was attracted to men, I had no understanding of what that meant. I didn't hear of the term homosexuality until I was 11 years old, and it scared me to death because how it was explained that such a person was going to spend eternity in damnation. I won't lie and say I was the butches teen male that one would ever encounter, but neither was I fem. I was typically the third fastest runner in my school. I also wanted to play most of the traditional sports, but usually wasn't picked because of things such as my hair. I remember one "friend" in 6th grade (during the years I lived with my Dad who was in the military) who questioned me about my hair as he knew I was disliked by many because of it. I explained I wore it long to cover the birth defect. His response was that I should go ahead and cut it because people wouldn't hold my birth defect against me. I told him if that were so, then why do they hold the length of my hair against me? He shut up, and that was the last time such a stupid comment came up.

Along with the hair, I tended to wear unusually long shorts because I had skin graphs on my leg for the plastic surgeries on my ear. My grandma would take long pants and cut them to about the knee. Thus they were more tapered than typically found in store purchased shorts, plus the typical length was much higher than the knees in those days... In other words, my attire was also sometimes a reason for being teased. Not because it was female attire, but that it was "different" than the styles of the time.

I can understand society's pressures to conform, but sometimes you just can't. Had I been born 30 years later, perhaps they could have just cut off what portion of an outer ear I did have on that side and then with high tech plastics and glue, design something that could pass as a normal ear. That would have meant no body scars, and my hair could have been like the social norms for male hair length.

I won't deny that part of me would have loved to have been "normal". However, over time I kind of gotten away from that. I am who I am regardless of my conditions. The negative societal pressures only served to make me a stronger, independent person by experiencing it. I also never let any physical limitations keep me from what I wanted to do. I've always been a runner (especially in Jr high) regardless of the tightness of skin I used to feel on my legs from the graphs. I also was a piano major for a while in college, and to this day I do a lot of singing, so my less than perfect hearing didn't hold me back.

So if the big person in the sky were to give me the options to give him/her a list of things to change about myself, I'm not even sure the ear defect would be on the list. Don't think such an opinion happened over night. I think I finally realized that about four years ago. (I'm 47 now, so it took me decades to get to this point.) My grandmother, who was my primary parental figure through out my life, was in a nursing home during the last few years of her life. Sometimes towards the end she would get a bit disoriented as to recognizing an individual visitor. All I would have to do is put her hands on my ears so she could feel that one was abnormal, and then she would remember who I was... I wouldn't give up those small extra precious moments with the person who loved me most in this life for even one minute of being able to look in the mirror and see what I always THOUGHT I wanted to see -- a person with TWO normal ears, no skin graphs, and who could wear short hair without looking freakish. I finally realized that if "I" didn't need to desire to see that in the mirror, neither did I need to have others see that in me.

That doesn't mean I'm going to cut my hair and expose my defect to the world as I don't need anybody's pity. Rather it means I just don't obsess about being different. And there are differences associated with not having two ears. (If I don't see someone talking, I have to rotate until I do see where the sound is coming from. Likewise, it takes a bit more to focus on a particular conversation if there are multiple sounds going on.)

So in summary, I think it is healthier to love and accept yourself the way you are, not the way you could or might have been -- regardless of how much the way you are may depart from what society expects of you. In my case, if I really must have two normal ears and all the physical characteristics that come with having two ears as well as all the resulting societal approvals, then am I ever capable of loving the soul that is "ME", or do I just love an illusion of what I wish I was? The answer for me was NO. I cannot love and accept myself if I have to change something first. Imagine if a parent said to a child: I'll love you, but not until x,y,z. Anybody in their right mind would say that was a horrible parent. The same applies to self love or self-acceptance. Thus, I have to love myself regardless of my body parts. For everybody, self love/acceptance isn't a done deal, but a daily attitude of looking in that mirror and being at peace with what you see. Life is just too short to do otherwise.

 

[playwithlezli]

Thank you none2. I love the way your "negative" turned to a "positive" when your grandmother got older. What a reminder to all of us that we do not always know why, but many things happen for a reason.

 

[Tymeless]

Odd attitudes aren't limited to people who don't act/look like the gender of their body parts. Case in point, there are people who think it it is cool to have pink, orange, green, blue hair. There are also people who like piercings or tatoos. Those things are always freekish to a segment of society.

In my particular case, I was born without an exterior right ear. It wasn't anything genetic, but most likely due to a car accident that my mother was involved in vitro. I have always worn my hair long enough to cover that fact up. Back in the 1960's-1970's long hair was only understood on males that were either hippies or if they were doing a play about Jesus. Any other reason was considered to be about messing with gender or sexual preference. Except for imitating Jesus, all other reasons were considered negative -- especially if the reason was belived to be for preference/orientation reasons. There may have been exceptions to these attitudes in urban areas, but where I grew up (rural areas and for a time in the military as a dependent) that wasn't the case.

My birth defect and longer hair is a separate issue from sexuality. There may be some overlap, but my long hair wasn't due to being effeminate. Though I was attracted to men, I had no understanding of what that meant. I didn't hear of the term homosexuality until I was 11 years old, and it scared me to death because how it was explained that such a person was going to spend eternity in damnation. I won't lie and say I was the butches teen male that one would ever encounter, but neither was I fem. I was typically the third fastest runner in my school. I also wanted to play most of the traditional sports, but usually wasn't picked because of things such as my hair. I remember one "friend" in 6th grade (during the years I lived with my Dad who was in the military) who questioned me about my hair as he knew I was disliked by many because of it. I explained I wore it long to cover the birth defect. His response was that I should go ahead and cut it because people wouldn't hold my birth defect against me. I told him if that were so, then why do they hold the length of my hair against me? He shut up, and that was the last time such a stupid comment came up.

Along with the hair, I tended to wear unusually long shorts because I had skin graphs on my leg for the plastic surgeries on my ear. My grandma would take long pants and cut them to about the knee. Thus they were more tapered than typically found in store purchased shorts, plus the typical length was much higher than the knees in those days... In other words, my attire was also sometimes a reason for being teased. Not because it was female attire, but that it was "different" than the styles of the time.

I can understand society's pressures to conform, but sometimes you just can't. Had I been born 30 years later, perhaps they could have just cut off what portion of an outer ear I did have on that side and then with high tech plastics and glue, design something that could pass as a normal ear. That would have meant no body scars, and my hair could have been like the social norms for male hair length.

I won't deny that part of me would have loved to have been "normal". However, over time I kind of gotten away from that. I am who I am regardless of my conditions. The negative societal pressures only served to make me a stronger, independent person by experiencing it. I also never let any physical limitations keep me from what I wanted to do. I've always been a runner (especially in Jr high) regardless of the tightness of skin I used to feel on my legs from the graphs. I also was a piano major for a while in college, and to this day I do a lot of singing, so my less than perfect hearing didn't hold me back.

So if the big person in the sky were to give me the options to give him/her a list of things to change about myself, I'm not even sure the ear defect would be on the list. Don't think such an opinion happened over night. I think I finally realized that about four years ago. (I'm 47 now, so it took me decades to get to this point.) My grandmother, who was my primary parental figure through out my life, was in a nursing home during the last few years of her life. Sometimes towards the end she would get a bit disoriented as to recognizing an individual visitor. All I would have to do is put her hands on my ears so she could feel that one was abnormal, and then she would remember who I was... I wouldn't give up those small extra precious moments with the person who loved me most in this life for even one minute of being able to look in the mirror and see what I always THOUGHT I wanted to see -- a person with TWO normal ears, no skin graphs, and who could wear short hair without looking freakish. I finally realized that if "I" didn't need to desire to see that in the mirror, neither did I need to have others see that in me.

That doesn't mean I'm going to cut my hair and expose my defect to the world as I don't need anybody's pity. Rather it means I just don't obsess about being different. And there are differences associated with not having two ears. (If I don't see someone talking, I have to rotate until I do see where the sound is coming from. Likewise, it takes a bit more to focus on a particular conversation if there are multiple sounds going on.)

So in summary, I think it is healthier to love and accept yourself the way you are, not the way you could or might have been -- regardless of how much the way you are may depart from what society expects of you. In my case, if I really must have two normal ears and all the physical characteristics that come with having two ears as well as all the resulting societal approvals, then am I ever capable of loving the soul that is "ME", or do I just love an illusion of what I wish I was? The answer for me was NO. I cannot love and accept myself if I have to change something first. Imagine if a parent said to a child: I'll love you, but not until x,y,z. Anybody in their right mind would say that was a horrible parent. The same applies to self love or self-acceptance. Thus, I have to love myself regardless of my body parts. For everybody, self love/acceptance isn't a done deal, but a daily attitude of looking in that mirror and being at peace with what you see. Life is just too short to do otherwise.

thats fine and dandy that you have accepted and deal with your birth defect thats a good thing for you and i'm happy for you. But transgenderism is a mental problem caused by an influx of estrogen or testosterone in the womb at a certain point in development of the fetus in most cases. As a result anyone like me with a severe case of gender dysphoria no matter how much we love ourselves and who we are the thought that our body is wrong will never leave us and will drive most of us to suicidal tendencies or self medication ie drugs and alcohol. I love myself and everything about it but my y chromosome, medical science has given me a way to correct the outward appearance and while i wish the woman in the sky would grant me the ability to choose. i'm not holding my breathe so i have to take it into sciences hand. Do i believe its a fix all no i don't but it gives me a piece of mind and happiness never felt before not to mention motivation to get things done just because of accepting my womanhood and working towards becoming that woman on the outside. i tried accepting i'm a male for 23 years and i was a miserable asshole, i'm not anymore.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

none2_none2 and the reply of Tymeless is great. They are words the world should hear and digest. Thanks for taking the time to post them.

 

[Tymeless]

none2_none2 and the reply of Tymeless is great. They are words the world should hear and digest. Thanks for taking the time to post them.

thanks my dear!