Your Purpose for Chastity...?

[RacyWilde]

Indulge me, tell me why you do chastity - the one major reason.

As a Domme, I use chastity for my own pleasure - not to stifle my sub's arousal, but to intensify it. I'm a sexual sadist, after all.

But I've always been fascinated as to why men want it, and even do it on their own. As I've become to understand chastity from a man's pov, I've found that there are seven typical reasons he does it. Do any of these listed below resonate with you? Or is there another reason...?

1. You are in a sexless relationship and chastity helps you survive it.

2. You need to maintain your arousal so you can be more attentive to your partner.

3. You feel undeserving or hate arousal and want to make your appendage shrink and become dysfunctional. (Perhaps you are a sissy or a slave...?)

4. You want to be feminine/female and chastity puts away your masculinity.

5. You don't have anyone in your life and chastity is a way you can play with your sexuality on your own.

6. You like the bling... it makes you feel sexy and it goes well with your fem outfits or helps create the look you want. (Perhaps to attract D-types and men.)

7. You have a Dominant that commands you to be in chastity.

Cheers

 

[sweettalk4u]

Indulge me, tell me why you do chastity - the one major reason.

As a Domme, I use chastity for my own pleasure - not to stifle my sub's arousal, but to intensify it. I'm a sexual sadist, after all.

But I've always been fascinated as to why men want it, and even do it on their own. As I've become to understand chastity from a man's pov, I've found that there are seven typical reasons he does it. Do any of these listed below resonate with you? Or is there another reason...?

1. You are in a sexless relationship and chastity helps you survive it.

2. You need to maintain your arousal so you can be more attentive to your partner.

3. You feel undeserving or hate arousal and want to make your appendage shrink and become dysfunctional. (Perhaps you are a sissy or a slave...?)

4. You want to be feminine/female and chastity puts away your masculinity.

5. You don't have anyone in your life and chastity is a way you can play with your sexuality on your own.

6. You like the bling... it makes you feel sexy and it goes well with your fem outfits or helps create the look you want. (Perhaps to attract D-types and men.)

7. You have a Dominant that commands you to be in chastity.

Cheers

I think you’ve named them all! Aside from number 7 the rest are missing out on something wonderful. Control does it for me. I have been on both sides and it can be a wonderful experience either way. There’s a dynamic that develops between them that can really enhance a relationship

 

[Wonderer67]

For me, there is something tremendously arousing by being owned by a dominant woman.

Men are driven by sex and by orgasm. By cutting out the ability to cum or even get an erection is to me, the epitome of being owned.I always tell my wife by not letting me cum or to be locked up is battling a man’s biological, mental and physiological needs.

And that makes it very hot for me.

 

[Sigmund7]

Numbers four and six do it for me. I think of my cage as a fun accessory, like my panties.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

Number 2 and 7. She has always been a little more sexually dominant which I love.

With chastity, I have become more attentive to her needs over my own as my arousal is through the roof, and she has become more sexual. Dressing sexier, being more assertive, just more confident in herself.

Knowing that I will be getting her off without having an orgasm for myself just intensifies the arousal. She is naked more, I am naked more, we hug and kiss more. She teases more, as I mentioned she dresses sexier, much more provocative at times. It is great, I am released at her will.

 

[Pliantjoed]

Control. Giving up control of my most personal and private of things to someone is such a powerful thing. It helps with perspective. My penis, while it provides me arousal and satisfaction is there solely for the pleasure of my partner/key holder.

 

[PaxNurgle]

It is about control and arousal. Handing your partner the keys (literally) to your arousal means they also become the sole key to when and where you can get sexual release- that in itself is so powerful! And it makes the release, when (and on what terms) your partner allows it, to be that much more intense. It also can be beneficial for the keyholder; by giving the keyholder the means to reward good or attentive behavior from the submissive, or punish poor or inattentive behavior by witholding or delaying gratification.

Submissives crave arousal and control. Chastity devices are one means to achieve both. I think reason number two says it best: "You need to maintain arousal so you can be more attentive to your partner."

 

[SissySalina]

As a sissy having a tiny thing it has never been about great sexual satisfaction with it. It was so tiny that women hardly got off with it giving them satisfaction. By giving up the tiny thing this sissy has found a way to better service others and give pleasure to them. With Her help sissy has been able to learn how to give men pleasure and expand sissy's ability to give pleasure to others.
This would have not been possible without the CHASTITY of sissy, it has provided awareness in giving pleasure to others.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I like that attitude too. I have always believed it is better to give than receive- and this includes sexual satisfaction.

 

[SissySalina]

Maybe this?
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11898156/508520559

 

[Goldenfinger]

#7 there’s something very erotic about giving control to my wife. She love the control and that all erections are for her and by her control.

 

[SissySalina]

I like that attitude too. I have always believed it is better to give than receive- and this includes sexual satisfaction.

https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11898156/278606935

 

[pumperguy191]

For me, there were 2 reasons. First, I was a chronic masturbator and needed to stop. Second, I had been hiding the fact that I had cheated on my wife for years. Too much guilt. So, I confessed and also sent her a video of a wife putting her husband in a cage. I told her that's what I wanted. We dabbled in chastity for a little over a year. Unfortunately, she never got the jist of it. I was left to do it myself. We have stopped the whole chastity/FLR lifestyle for now. I have no clue where we are headed.

 

[PEAKER44]

I have become very curious about this lately, mainly being caged. I’m willing to do just about anything to spice things up in a slightly more than sexless marriage. Any tips on how to introduce this to the wife??

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Since it was my wife who introduced chastity into our relationship, her desire to see me caged is the only real "purpose" my presently locked condition requires. In coping with that reality, however, I have discovered that #2, then #4 and finally #6 have each assumed an importance in my overall acceptance of my chastity.

I am definitely aroused by the submissive feelings welling up within me from loss of my male prerogative and the sexy, almost girlish feeling I get from seeing her hardware restraining my sex. In the end, though, Baby's wish is the only thing that really matters in my chastity.

 

[sub2femdom]

It's really difficult to explain the 'why' of chastity that does it for me. More than one of your possibilities apply to me -

#2 would be true if I had a keyholder, but I don't, but the sense of it does still apply to me.
#4 in a way, depends on mood.
#5 yes, vaguely. There's a lot more to that though
#7 yes, when possible

Being in chastity and not being able to get an erection or orgasm whilst my mistress teases, cuckolds, denies, etc.. that's erotic as hell. The peak of sexual desire and lust. Mixed with some jealousy and envy, the sting is much like eating a spicy burrito.. the payoff can be worth the pain.

I'm not into permanent chastity, but a few days of teasing ending with a cuckolding, cleanup, and eventual release, sloppy seconds, reclaiming.. Or maybe just being denied until next time a few days later

It's the anticipation and being held in an extended state of arousal for sometimes days at a time that does it. The mere thought of her locking me, knowing she's going to tease me later and certainly deny me on day 1... Sploosh!

Hope that helps get into the psyche of at least one cuckold

 

[Chaste_Down]

I wrote my first story about just this!

I think sissies know instinctually that their partner's pleasure is going to be greatly enhanced if they (the sissy) are kept limp and helpless, especially while being fucked, but basically, all the time. Also, that it will aid in their feminisation generally. A constant reminder that they're owned, controlled, and being changed.

 

[emme8]

#7 there’s something very erotic about giving control to my wife. She love the control and that all erections are for her and by her control.

In my house it is #2 and #7. I will put him into chastity for these reasons.
Maybe as we continue down the journey, I will learn about more of his fantasies and desires. And the purpose will vary some.

 

[shemyezza]

I wrote my first story about just this!

I think sissies know instinctually that their partner's pleasure is going to be greatly enhanced if they (the sissy) are kept limp and helpless, especially while being fucked, but basically, all the time. Also, that it will aid in their feminisation generally. A constant reminder that they're owned, controlled, and being changed.

absolutly spot on, I just love being in chastity now thoguh initially it was my wifes suggestion or rather order

 

[pumperguy191]

After some time away from chastity and FLR, I asked yesterday if she wanted to try again. She thought for a second and said yes, with a grin. She also stated that this time she would take more control. I can't wait to see where this goes.

 

[twister947]

I would submit to this if ordered to. It would have to be her idea, and cuckolding would be the icing on the cake. The juxtaposition of her pleasure on my suffering would be fiercely erotic.

 

[Nonsense01]

7 for me.
we have used chastity for years. Sometimes in a session, for a trip or event, and we have done long term.
For my wife and I it is about denial. I have always been attentive. As she puts it when the lock or tag goes click, “You’re an innie, not an outie”

 

[surferjake]

Indulge me, tell me why you do chastity - the one major reason.

As a Domme, I use chastity for my own pleasure - not to stifle my sub's arousal, but to intensify it. I'm a sexual sadist, after all.

But I've always been fascinated as to why men want it, and even do it on their own. As I've become to understand chastity from a man's pov, I've found that there are seven typical reasons he does it. Do any of these listed below resonate with you? Or is there another reason...?

1. You are in a sexless relationship and chastity helps you survive it.

2. You need to maintain your arousal so you can be more attentive to your partner.

3. You feel undeserving or hate arousal and want to make your appendage shrink and become dysfunctional. (Perhaps you are a sissy or a slave...?)

4. You want to be feminine/female and chastity puts away your masculinity.

5. You don't have anyone in your life and chastity is a way you can play with your sexuality on your own.

6. You like the bling... it makes you feel sexy and it goes well with your fem outfits or helps create the look you want. (Perhaps to attract D-types and men.)

7. You have a Dominant that commands you to be in chastity.

Cheers

A variation on 5; not really #1, but when self-playing, forcing myself to extend/put off getting off. I mean, for men, once you start masturbating, you usually are racing for the finish. A cage in the way slows you down, makes you bring things up over a slow boil.

And, sometimes #4, cause who doesn't like a little gender bending?

 

[Goldenfinger]

we all have our reasons. My wife enjoys the control and I enjoy her Having it.

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[Goldenfinger]

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