Anal sex, reality v pornography depiction

[BillyWalrus]

What is interesting about this thread is how most of the women either do not get fucked anally or if they do, it's a rare thing approached with a lot of caution. Which I can understand as an anal veteran myself. Best to go slow out the gate.

However, at this point, being anally fucked by my girlfriend is the norm so it's no big deal to bend over and take her big cock up my ass however way she wants it. In fact I want her to want it because I want her to fuck me up the ass as often as possible.

 

[Live4themoments]

IMO I think if a woman has anal sex then it's because there is a special, more intimate bond between you and her. The ones I've been with "reserve" it for me as a reward, special occasion, special intimacy, and so on. Then again I had a gf who after the 1st time loved it and wanted it over and over, so there goes that theory. Not sure but I "heard/read" that girls these days are more likely to do anal in order to keep vaginal virginity longer? If true now I wish I was 30 years younger.

 

[Britva415]

There is nothing wrong with deriving pleasure from watching two people fucking. But so much of porn is highly problematic. For starters, misogyny and non-consent are loathsome behaviors IRL, but are turned into kinks in Porn. And after watching enough of it, people become unfazed by it.

Gold star for being one of the only people who knows how to spell "faze" correctly.

 

[intrepidgoodtime]

The sensations, the nerve endings, being so full… always a slow start but fuckkkk when it gets going - I like it hard and deep. I’ve had many anal partners and not many have the right patience or technique right.
I do wear a plug most of the time too which helps

Marry me lol

 

[CurvyCumslut75]

Marry me lol

Awwww that would be bigamy lol

 

[intrepidgoodtime]

I’m willing to share lol

Awwww that would be bigamy lol

 

[LMWM321]

What is interesting about this thread is how most of the women either do not get fucked anally or if they do, it's a rare thing approached with a lot of caution. Which I can understand as an anal veteran myself. Best to go slow out the gate.

However, at this point, being anally fucked by my girlfriend is the norm so it's no big deal to bend over and take her big cock up my ass however way she wants it. In fact I want her to want it because I want her to fuck me up the ass as often as possible.

You raise an interesting point… That men, including straight men, seem to enjoy something going up their butt more than women do.

If I were to ask my wife if I could fuck her ass, there would be 50 no’s before there is a yes. But if she asked if she could pegg me, my answer every time would be, "of course you can - we'll do it tonight.” Actually, I'd be willing to stop whatever I'm doing and do it that very moment

Why do you suppose that is?

 

[BillyWalrus]

You raise an interesting point… That men, including straight men, seem to enjoy something going up their butt more than women do.

If I were to ask my wife if I could fuck her up the ass there would be 50 no’s before there is a yes. But if she asked if she could pegg me, my answer every time would be “ of course you can! So glad you asked!”

Why do you suppose that is?

I read your post and I was thinking about it and I thought, women should be more used to being penetrated than men because they have vaginas which are always being penetrated. In the pussy, in the ass, what's the difference?

Then I thought, maybe because they have vaginas that are normally penetrated, that makes them less likely to want to be penetrated in a different orifice. Like wrong hole, buddy!

Bottom line. I got no idea!

 

[OneEyedSteve]

There is nothing wrong with deriving pleasure from watching two people fucking. But so much of porn is highly problematic. For starters, misogyny and non-consent are loathsome behaviors IRL, but are turned into kinks in Porn. And after watching enough of it, people become unfazed by it.

Most of the stuff my wife and I watch is old 70s and 80s stuff. Modern porn is mostly dull as fuck

 

[klippert]

Of all my lovers woman and men both my ex and current wife.. I have had anal sex with all butt two of the women, all enjoyed my wife in particular stills loves it, and has her most intense organs, as most did...
I was never have been... a "jammer'...I've never jammed my cock up someone's ass. Having had my ass fucked... Someone who just rams their dick or strap-on in....that can be extremely painful and make people say "never again".
There is a time though when Ill start pumping hard and have never had any complaints as many of them encouraged it... and I will say this.... next to oral sex... I prefer fucking ass.. than her pussy. could be the taboo of it or knowing my lover is letting got of their inhibitions. For a lot of my lovers it was their first time... and they came back for more...

 

[CurvyCumslut75]

I’m willing to share lol

Mmmmm

 

[LMWM321]

I read your post and I was thinking about it and I thought, women should be more used to being penetrated than men because they have vaginas which are always being penetrated. In the pussy, in the ass, what's the difference?

It's an interesting question. In part, I think it's because women tend to be less lustful than men. To wit: Generally speaking, gay men seem to enjoy giving head more than straight women, at least from what you read here on Lit. When asked about BJ's in a thread, women seem to enjoy it because they love how it pleases their partner. ..But the Gay/Bi men seem to enjoy it for their OWN pleasure.

I thought about starting a thread that poses the question, "Who enjoys giving blow jobs more: Straight women or Gay/Bi men?"

 

[m_and_em_stories]

Sometimes life does imitate art so to speak. Recently during a conversation I had suggested to Em more varied positions for certain activities including our continued exploration into anal. I didn't specify too much details just suggested we explore trying different things. I had gotten off to a video recently of a man on his back, a woman seated between his legs playing with him but certainly didn't give those specifics as the conversation was more general.

Last night she had me lay on my back, my ass on the edge of the bed with a pillow under my hips, moving a wide stool/chest we have in our bedroom to sit between my legs. The wide stool sits 6-7 inches lower than the mattress, and closer to 10 or so inches with the pillow under me. My legs were braced either side of her on the stool, a very vulnerable feeling position giving her great access and visibility. She used a slim 5" toy on me, one hand controlling it as she explored different angles and speeds while her other hand played with my dick and balls squeezing and stroking them alternately.

Somehow she managed to naturally find a rhythm right away that kept me right on the edge, bringing me closer with changes from one hand or the other then back for a while learning what I liked. what made me moan louder or what drove me to drive my hips against her hand and the toy encouragingly.

The position of being on my back and spread open for her, her seated below me was an odd mix of intimate and clinical. The entire experience of being explored and pleasured, and having it all being thought of and initiated by her was mind blowing and even after ending with a hard and satisfying orgasm, the experience continued turning me on the rest of the evening and this morning resulting in several sessions on my own recalling parts of it.

 

[Live4themoments]

You raise an interesting point… That men, including straight men, seem to enjoy something going up their butt more than women do.

If I were to ask my wife if I could fuck her ass, there would be 50 no’s before there is a yes. But if she asked if she could pegg me, my answer every time would be, "of course you can - we'll do it tonight.” Actually, I'd be willing to stop whatever I'm doing and do it that very moment

Why do you suppose that is?

It's called men have a prostate gland, women don't (or their "prostate gland" developed into a different gland, which I understand may be part of some squirting capability. The prostate gland is much larger and sensitive, and some men may not realize it is being stimulated, just something feels good.

 

[Britva415]

It's called men have a prostate gland

Not to speak for you, but it's definitely not just that. Men don't even know about the prostate (how it will feel, anyway) until after they've already gotten something in there. Plus, not every anal penetration gets that spot. Not every anal penetration needs to get that spot.

 

[m_and_em_stories]

Not to speak for you, but it's definitely not just that. Men don't even know about the prostate (how it will feel, anyway) until after they've already gotten something in there. Plus, not every anal penetration gets that spot. Not every anal penetration needs to get that spot.

You can get _some_ level of external stimulation through the perineum with firm pressure.

But its definitely a value-add for Men when it comes to Anal sex.

 

[LeahWill]

I've often wondered whether the way sex acts in porn reflect any form of reality.
I find anal a particularly interesting subject, as a heterosexual man who has been with quite a few more than 100 women, I've only ever been with 3 who genuinely enjoyed anal intercourse (for one lady it was second only to giving head as her favorite).
What are the experiences of others?

Have you considered that the other 97+ just didn't enjoy anal sex - with you?
But enjoyed it otherwise.

Not suggesting that has been the case for an instant, but a 'hit rate' of less than 3% does seem unusually low.

 

[HotWifeOC]

I have been with 19-20 women and have had anal with 8 or 9 most of those have been cheating spouses and a couple from my teenage years. The thing I have found is you have to go slow and methodical to start with and if you incorporate rimming and some fingering and take your time it is way more enjoyable for her and not she enjoys it she will let you do it again and again. I had two were total butt sluts and bot much prep for them one was a catholic girl who didn’t want the risk of getting pregnant so no vaginal with her only oral and anal and another one as a 40yo married woman who had always wanted anal but her husband thought it was nasty and she loved it.

As for the mess and the pain there may be a small bit of mess unless you have communicated and they have done a clean out and then it is pretty clean. Pain should be very minimal if you have prepped her there may be some slight stinging but nothing major.

I myself enjoy being pegged ALOT and have came just from it alone without touching my cock (thank goodness for an old gf on that )

What we don’t see in the porn is them getting themselves cleaned and stretched before they ever start. All we ever see is the fun part of a big thick cock sliding in and him pounding her. So you can’t really rely on porn at all. Though it is fun to watch watch and get everyone worked up and maybe into trying it

 

[Burstplayer]

You raise an interesting point… That men, including straight men, seem to enjoy something going up their butt more than women do.

If I were to ask my wife if I could fuck her ass, there would be 50 no’s before there is a yes. But if she asked if she could pegg me, my answer every time would be, "of course you can - we'll do it tonight.” Actually, I'd be willing to stop whatever I'm doing and do it that very moment

Why do you suppose that is?

I'd say it's mostly the prostate and the unique pleasure it produces to just men, once you understand it, embrace it and crave it. The other factor I think is that I've found men are just more willing and adventurous sex partners than woman as a whole, not all obviously.

 

[OneEyedSteve]

Have you considered that the other 97+ just didn't enjoy anal sex - with you?
But enjoyed it otherwise.

Not suggesting that has been the case for an instant, but a 'hit rate' of less than 3% does seem unusually low.

Wouldn't know as I didn't have anal sex with any of those women. It wasn't something I ever suggested with any of my sexual partners because I was never bothered about it. Anal is very much a 'take it or leave it' sex act for me. If the woman wants to do it, I'm happy to oblige, but it's a long way down the pecking order.
There's also the fact that the majority of my sexual partners were one night stands, I haven't had 100+ girlfriends. I wouldn't imagine the majority of women look to get fucked in the ass on their first sexual encounter with someone, let alone someone they'd only met that night.

 

[LeeKee]

I've often wondered whether the way sex acts in porn reflect any form of reality.
I find anal a particularly interesting subject, as a heterosexual man who has been with quite a few more than 100 women, I've only ever been with 3 who genuinely enjoyed anal intercourse (for one lady it was second only to giving head as her favorite).
What are the experiences of others?

of the women ive been with, more liked or wanted it than didnt. And the didnt category was only like 25% so...told me alot.

 

[klippert]

Porn is a movie.. scripted... preparation. reality. 90% heat of the moment..

 

[lowcollar]

The ease of anal usually depends on your experience level. I have been pegged hundreds of times. She can just shove it in if it's lubed well. I have been with three women who loved it when they were in the right mood.

 

[AlleeDreap]

I used to assume it worked like it does in sex anime—effortless, instant, and super clean—but the reality was way different. My partner and I had to learn the hard way that communication, real prep, and going slow are everything. Porn doesn’t show the clumsy parts, so a lot of expectations get built on myths. We laughed through most of our first try because it was so far from the fantasy.

 

[BillyWalrus]

The ease of anal usually depends on your experience level. I have been pegged hundreds of times. She can just shove it in if it's lubed well. I have been with three women who loved it when they were in the right mood.

Quite right. It's not that big a deal. A little lube and then up the ass!