Are we headed toward a Dom shortage?

[bridgeburner]

A,

In verbal comms, not face to face, you can "hear" body language ...

• fidgeting, whether from nerves or boredom
• the breathing pattern, how it changes from the first hello through however else you engage an individual in conversation
• the change in voice when someone drops their head
• and if you're really observant ... you know why they're fidgeting, if they are, in the first place.

Face to face communications ... a person will open their book for your perusal if you simply wish to observe.

Not everyone has this skill though --- and it may be innate talent as much as skill. Not everyone gets the hang of online conversation and even among those who do, some people are just better at it than others. Whether that's because they're truly more perceptive or because they're less interested in fooling themselves is a tough call.

Also, most people are not radically different face to face than they are online ----- I don't mean just some casual pick-up experience but people with whom one regularly converses and interracts online. BUT occasionally they are, or they are enough different or you've read them just wrong enough that meeting face to face is a major disappointment that you would have recognized immediately or shortly thereafter had you first encountered the peson in the flesh.

I've been doing the online thing for a long time now --- about 8 years. I'm pretty damn good at reading people but I've been burned before and surprised and I'm sure it will probably happen again in future because you really just can't know some things until you meet face to face.

But you can learn things on the phone. ;->



-B

 

[PrettyKitty427]

so...how does one find a Dom without approaching one? *bats eyelashes and shakes her booty*

 

[CmdrGdHrt]

so...how does one find a Dom without approaching one? *bats eyelashes and shakes her booty*

Batting your eyelashes and shaking your booty should do it... If you hadn't shot me down in PM. LOL

Kurt

 

[PrettyKitty427]

Batting your eyelashes and shaking your booty should do it... If you hadn't shot me down in PM. LOL

Kurt

hey it's not my fault that you're more than twice my age.

 

[Betticus]

so...how does one find a Dom without approaching one? *bats eyelashes and shakes her booty*

That is a good question. I'd say get to know them, talk to them and see if they peak your interest first. Then maybe warm up to them. It's a pretty big investment of time and energy and of yourself so you may as well not rush it.

It is only fair for both of you right? To try to make a good decision.

 

[FungiUg]

so...how does one find a Dom without approaching one? *bats eyelashes and shakes her booty*

Um... in my experience, if you are interested in someone, try talking to them. Just as a person. If there's a mutual interest in more, you'll soon discover it.

Just make it a low key hello -- so don't approach and say "can I be your submissive". Any more than a Dominant approaching you out of the blue to say "I want you as my submissive" wouldn't work.

D/s relationships are still relationships between people, and still need all those people things to work. So concentrate on that.

 

[kitty4ever]

D/s relationships are still relationships between people, and still need all those people things to work. So concentrate on that.

Very, very true.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Does one exist now?


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=268471

I've noticed in the past year there are new subs coming out of the woodwork it seems. Has anyone else noticed this?

In the past month, I've been approached by 3 subs just out of high school. I had a thread over there at bdsmP, not the one someone recently bumped up, and I had to shut it down cause I was getting 2 or 3 contacts a day.


There has always been a Domme shortage. Are we headed toward a Dom shortage? These young ones coming up still want to fuck guys their own age, but in a Dom they don't care if you are in your 40s or 50s.

Uh No!

Everywhere I go I meet lots of Doms most pared up with subs both male and female. Many more in real life than online. Although! Every Dom I know in real life is online! Arghhh!

 

[Rugor]

It's all about the people involved, and since D/s involves so much trust you really do have to get to know each other.

Everything comes down to people. I second the motion of getting to know each other first. One doesn't normally luck out and get someone with whom you share a myriad of common interests just like that.

It has happened, but it's amazing and uncommon.

 

[CmdrGdHrt]

Making a note

Making a note:

"On your knees, bitch! You'll call ME "Master" now!" probably will not work.



Kurt

 

[CmdrGdHrt]

hey it's not my fault that you're more than twice my age.

and here's a perfect opportunity to offer another suggestion. Perhaps it is prudent to check someone's profile for information that might affect your decision whether to be friends with a person or not.

Kurt

 

[kitty4ever]

Re: Making a note

Making a note:

"On your knees, bitch! You'll call ME "Master" now!" probably will not work.



Kurt

That will earn you a raised eyebrow, laugh and probably a "Bite me", but that's just me.

 

[Betticus]

"On your Master Bitch! Call me Knees!"

 

[kitty4ever]

"On your Master Bitch! Call me Knees!"

<laughs>

You goober.

 

[CmdrGdHrt]

Re: Re: Making a note

That will earn you a raised eyebrow, laugh and probably a "Bite me", but that's just me.

Frankly, I am surprised that you would bother with that much of a response!

Kurt.