Bandit's Blurt and Vent Thread

[KayKat]

Bless your heart Bandit..You are doing wonderful! I hate that you get shaky doing it but I do understand...

 

[Bandit58]

Bless your heart Bandit..You are doing wonderful! I hate that you get shaky doing it but I do understand...

Best they shake after I've got it in and not before....

 

[catalina_francisco]

My daughter txted me the other day to say she's back to being unwell (rash, flu like symptoms) so has had blood tests and has had to go stay with her boyfriend so he can look after her. I'm changing my mind about him a bit now because not every guy would put up with having a girlfriend who's been sick for three months.

I think I know how you feel about this, and how it undermines the previous thoughts and feelings you have had about the bf.....been there, done that when my daughter's bf was nursing her, even helping her on and off the toilet when she couldn't walk, and taking care of her daughter. Problem is I keep having this niggling at the back of my mind about the other side of him which is far less caring and downright dangerous which doesn't make the nice things he does OK and a free pass. She did throw him out after he went too far, didn't call the police as she should have and they had previously urged her to do if necessary, but now she is back to thinking perhaps they could get back together because he says he knows her financial problems are his fault and he tells her he is going for counselling to deal with his anger, and says he loves her...and so she is back in talking herself around to wiping all the bad things from her mind to give him another chance.

As with so many women though, she knows all the facts and figures (lol, having a DV counsellor for a mother sort of burns that into the brain), but it doesn't help control her feelings toward the nice him, her need for love, or her vulnerability to his methods of persuasion. Initially she followed my advice and didn't have any contact with him and was fine, but made the mistake of thinking she was immune now and could talk to him when he called, only to find herself walking back to him with open arms. Sometimes being a mother isn't all it is cracked up to be, especially at a distance. Her friends have threatened her with buying me a plane ticket to Oz if she dares let him move in again...so now she is thinking how she can convince them it will be OK after they were the ones who took care of her after the last time.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Best they shake after I've got it in and not before....

You are worth your weight in gold!! I am sure Gil blesses the day he found you and appreciates every loving moment you spend together.

Catalina

 

[Gil_T2]

I think I know how you feel about this, and how it undermines the previous thoughts and feelings you have had about the bf.....been there, done that when my daughter's bf was nursing her, even helping her on and off the toilet when she couldn't walk, and taking care of her daughter. Problem is I keep having this niggling at the back of my mind about the other side of him which is far less caring and downright dangerous which doesn't make the nice things he does OK and a free pass. She did throw him out after he went too far, didn't call the police as she should have and they had previously urged her to do if necessary, but now she is back to thinking perhaps they could get back together because he says he knows her financial problems are his fault and he tells her he is going for counselling to deal with his anger, and says he loves her...and so she is back in talking herself around to wiping all the bad things from her mind to give him another chance.

As with so many women though, she knows all the facts and figures (lol, having a DV counsellor for a mother sort of burns that into the brain), but it doesn't help control her feelings toward the nice him, her need for love, or her vulnerability to his methods of persuasion. Initially she followed my advice and didn't have any contact with him and was fine, but made the mistake of thinking she was immune now and could talk to him when he called, only to find herself walking back to him with open arms. Sometimes being a mother isn't all it is cracked up to be, especially at a distance. Her friends have threatened her with buying me a plane ticket to Oz if she dares let him move in again...so now she is thinking how she can convince them it will be OK after they were the ones who took care of her after the last time.

Catalina

Hi Catalina, It's not easy for dads either as my daughter always seem to find the worst possible guys & broke her long term relationship that she had 2 kids in to hook back up with a guy who she was with before who knocked her around so it isn't a mums only domain to worry about daughters.

As for BANDIT's Daughter when hearing about some of the things the B/F has done red flags came to BANDIT's mind strat away & I also had the same thoughts about the guy & frankly still do even though he is doing all he should to care for her while she is sick.

 

[Gil_T2]

You are worth your weight in gold!! I am sure Gil blesses the day he found you and appreciates every loving moment you spend together.

Catalina

The love & care BANDIT freely gives me is like no other I've ever had, she is the one in that gives & copes with what life tosses up at us & I do so value every minute since we first met in person back in 03, we are rarely apart yet always happy each other is there, many comment on our love as being inspiring to them & BANDIT's love still inspires me every day.

As for being worth her weight in gold I think she is worth 100 times her weight in gold.
No matter how down I am with what life tosses me knowing I have her on my side always lessens it all.

 

[wicked woman]

The love & care BANDIT freely gives me is like no other I've ever had, she is the one in that gives & copes with what life tosses up at us & I do so value every minute since we first met in person back in 03, we are rarely apart yet always happy each other is there, many comment on our love as being inspiring to them & BANDIT's love still inspires me every day.

As for being worth her weight in gold I think she is worth 100 times her weight in gold.
No matter how down I am with what life tosses me knowing I have her on my side always lessens it all.

This makes me smile.

 

[Bandit58]

The love & care BANDIT freely gives me is like no other I've ever had, she is the one in that gives & copes with what life tosses up at us & I do so value every minute since we first met in person back in 03, we are rarely apart yet always happy each other is there, many comment on our love as being inspiring to them & BANDIT's love still inspires me every day.

As for being worth her weight in gold I think she is worth 100 times her weight in gold.
No matter how down I am with what life tosses me knowing I have her on my side always lessens it all.

Second sharp done, and no shaking hands - it went straight in the only problem we have with starting a new buttonhole is blood runs out of the little hole in the end of the needle if it's inserted slowly (which has to be done anyway). So a little "oops" which I said when the blood leaked out was a little unsettling to Sir who really doesn't like hearing "oops" when He can't see what's going on

We're getting solar panels put on our roof today which hopefully will cut some of the soaring electricity costs we've been dealing with in the last few months. Even though we get concessions for being on pensions and for having the machine our last bill was close to $300 for 3 months and the last winter one was almost $400. Sir's mother is paying for it for us which is wonderful of her. It's about $10,000 roughly all up which seems a lot but will be worth it if our bills come down!

 

[catalina_francisco]

We're getting solar panels put on our roof today which hopefully will cut some of the soaring electricity costs we've been dealing with in the last few months. Even though we get concessions for being on pensions and for having the machine our last bill was close to $300 for 3 months and the last winter one was almost $400. Sir's mother is paying for it for us which is wonderful of her. It's about $10,000 roughly all up which seems a lot but will be worth it if our bills come down!

It should help a lot I imagine. Solar is becoming more popular here now and we have entertained the idea of seeing how much it would cost us to get some panels on the roof. Wind power would be even better as there is nearly always at least a breeze, often high wind, but it isn't easy or done on a domestic scale as far as I know. Electricity here is a lot more expensive than Oz....we pay AU$336 a month...nearly fell over when I first discovered how much it cost. I get frowned at as I am continually switching everything on standby off, and watch what I use.

Catalina

 

[kayte]

{{{{{{Bandit}}}}}} {{{{{{{Gil}}}}}} {{{{{{{Cat}}}}}}}

I haven't been around much and I just read all of your posts. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Sending lots of positive energy your ways.

 

[Bandit58]

My daughter is pregnant.

It's unplanned. She's still in shock (just had the test) and not sure what she's going to do yet. Her father won't be pleased to put it mildly, he dislikes her boyfriend. She's still recovering from glandular fever and strep throat which landed her in hospital 3 months ago. Boyfriend is happy, he's always wanted a child (he's 29, she's 23 and it's her first real relationship).

I've told her I'll support her whatever she decides.

 

[Noor]

My daughter is pregnant.

It's unplanned. She's still in shock (just had the test) and not sure what she's going to do yet. Her father won't be pleased to put it mildly, he dislikes her boyfriend. She's still recovering from glandular fever and strep throat which landed her in hospital 3 months ago. Boyfriend is happy, he's always wanted a child (he's 29, she's 23 and it's her first real relationship).

I've told her I'll support her whatever she decides.

Wow! How far along is she? Will whatever drugs she was taking for her illness hurt the fetus? How will it affect her health right now?

 

[catalina_francisco]

My daughter is pregnant.

It's unplanned. She's still in shock (just had the test) and not sure what she's going to do yet. Her father won't be pleased to put it mildly, he dislikes her boyfriend. She's still recovering from glandular fever and strep throat which landed her in hospital 3 months ago. Boyfriend is happy, he's always wanted a child (he's 29, she's 23 and it's her first real relationship).

I've told her I'll support her whatever she decides.

I so remember saying the same thing, and doing it. Maybe the medication she was on contradicted contraceptives if she was on the pill. With my daughter, they think it was the health kick she was on at the time....too much Vitamin C, especially lots of orange juice (which she was drinking litres of) also makes the pill ineffective. My thoughts are with you.

Catalina

 

[Bandit58]

Wow! How far along is she? Will whatever drugs she was taking for her illness hurt the fetus? How will it affect her health right now?

She's only just pregnant, about 4-5 weeks, and she was really ill about 3 months ago so she wasn't pregnant when she was getting treatment for her illness. I googled pregnancy and glandular fever and there weren't any problems associated with it apart from having to keep an eye on liver function, which in daughter's case is almost back to normal.

I so remember saying the same thing, and doing it. Maybe the medication she was on contradicted contraceptives if she was on the pill. With my daughter, they think it was the health kick she was on at the time....too much Vitamin C, especially lots of orange juice (which she was drinking litres of) also makes the pill ineffective. My thoughts are with you.

Catalina

She had problems with the pill (tried two different brands and then she got sick) so wasn't on anything as far as I know. She was also drinking lots of orange juice because she's had to give up alcohol. And when she was ill she was on IV antibiotics so that would have affected the pill as well

LOL...I jokingly told both kids that they weren't allowed to make me a nanna before I was 50 - well she waited until I was 52 anyway! I suspect in her heart, despite the shock of the news and not really wanting a baby at this stage of her life, that she will keep it. She asked about vitamins and supplements she should be taking, and she's mentioned names....and as with animals the minute you name them that is it you have them for life

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL...I jokingly told both kids that they weren't allowed to make me a nanna before I was 50 - well she waited until I was 52 anyway! I suspect in her heart, despite the shock of the news and not really wanting a baby at this stage of her life, that she will keep it. She asked about vitamins and supplements she should be taking, and she's mentioned names....and as with animals the minute you name them that is it you have them for life

LOL, then congratulations will be going to you as well on your new role in life. Being a nanna is wonderful, though distance makes it bittersweet at times....and they grow so quick!!

Catalina

 

[KayKat]

Congratulations Bandit!!!! I hope that all will go well with her pregnancy!

 

[eastern sun]

LOL...I jokingly told both kids that they weren't allowed to make me a nanna before I was 50 - well she waited until I was 52 anyway! I suspect in her heart, despite the shock of the news and not really wanting a baby at this stage of her life, that she will keep it. She asked about vitamins and supplements she should be taking, and she's mentioned names....and as with animals the minute you name them that is it you have them for life

A Russian friend of mine just became a grandma, and I love the way her daughter is handling her mom's desire to stay young.

The Russian word for grandmother is бабушка “babush’ka", but they're calling her бабочка “ba’butchka” which means butterfly!

Many blessings to your daughter - whatever choice she makes.

 

[Bandit58]

Well it looks like I'm going to be a nanna after all. It sounds like my girl has decided to keep her baby. It sounds like she already has to buy new bras - "My boobs are bigger!" was the text message I got last week

New buttonhole formed and used a blunt cannula for the first time today, it went in really easily.

Apparently the buttonhole technique isn't being used that much anymore, there's more of a risk of infection if the same place keeps being used. The "stepladder" technique is what is being promoted now, where a sharp is used on a different place along the fistula each time. Sir's fistula is rather short which means there's limited space where a needle can go, plus they don't want to be too close together anyway.

We've avoided any infections (touch wood!) because I use a separate blunt needle for each hole to remove the little scab or skin plug which forms, plus a separate alcohol swab just prior to inserting the cannula. While Sir is on the machine the needle is covered with gauze and taped so no dirt can make its way in. I wear latex gloves although they're not sterile they're mainly to protect me from any contact with blood - Sir has had Hep C in the past.

If the weather holds, Sir has a busy weekend ahead with vintage speedcars on Saturday and speedway karts on Sunday. Not racing, but safety officer and general helper respectively (I think He will be chief flag waver at the karts ). He is really missing the speedway, but refuses to pay to get in on principle.

I am back to normal gym classes now, shoulder injury almost back to 100% fitness. I love being back doing boxing

 

[FurryFury]

Glad things are going well with you and yours.





FF

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Well it looks like I'm going to be a nanna after all.

Congrats!!!!!!!

 

[Missingmeds]

I hadn't popped in for a while and was thinking of you two earlier this morning.

Bandit I am so happy for you. May mother and child both be happy and healthy during the pregnancy and years beyond.

Gil it is good to see you post and I am so glad that you found Bandit.

Keeping you both in my prayers.

 

[KayKat]

Congrats that you are going to be a nanna..

So glad that is working well for Gil!

Hope the racing goes great and he has a great time this weekend!

Congrats on getting back in the gym!!!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Well it looks like I'm going to be a nanna after all. It sounds like my girl has decided to keep her baby. It sounds like she already has to buy new bras - "My boobs are bigger!" was the text message I got last week

New buttonhole formed and used a blunt cannula for the first time today, it went in really easily.

Apparently the buttonhole technique isn't being used that much anymore, there's more of a risk of infection if the same place keeps being used. The "stepladder" technique is what is being promoted now, where a sharp is used on a different place along the fistula each time. Sir's fistula is rather short which means there's limited space where a needle can go, plus they don't want to be too close together anyway.

We've avoided any infections (touch wood!) because I use a separate blunt needle for each hole to remove the little scab or skin plug which forms, plus a separate alcohol swab just prior to inserting the cannula. While Sir is on the machine the needle is covered with gauze and taped so no dirt can make its way in. I wear latex gloves although they're not sterile they're mainly to protect me from any contact with blood - Sir has had Hep C in the past.

If the weather holds, Sir has a busy weekend ahead with vintage speedcars on Saturday and speedway karts on Sunday. Not racing, but safety officer and general helper respectively (I think He will be chief flag waver at the karts ). He is really missing the speedway, but refuses to pay to get in on principle.

I am back to normal gym classes now, shoulder injury almost back to 100% fitness. I love being back doing boxing

Sounds like good news all round.

Catalina

 

[Bandit58]

Weekend not so busy anymore. It's rained buckets in Sydney overnight so no vintage speedway, so Sir is doing His dialysis instead The weather is still crap so He's tucked into a nice warm comfy bed

He's still hoping the karts will be on tomorrow though!

Thanks to all for the nice messages on here, this thread helps keep me sane and it's so nice to read that people care

 

[Gil_T2]

Weekend not so busy anymore. It's rained buckets in Sydney overnight so no vintage speedway, so Sir is doing His dialysis instead The weather is still crap so He's tucked into a nice warm comfy bed

He's still hoping the karts will be on tomorrow though!

Thanks to all for the nice messages on here, this thread helps keep me sane and it's so nice to read that people care

Your stuck with me all weekend now as Karts have also been canned due to all the rian but good news is fine monday & up till next weekend when rain is again on the menu.