BBW's and Lovers…are you one?

I must say Jason….please never change!! ;)

I won't. Now you just need to remember there are plenty of men out there that are like me. Don't look at fashion models as your example of what is normal. Heroin chic is not where it is at.
 
I hate to disagree with you but I'm going to. My wife is a bbw and she looks AMAZING in whatever she wears. The way she puts together her outfits accentuates all her curves and she is constantly getting hit on. I really think it's all in how you feel about you and how you carry yourself.

See, I'm glad you disagree. I have no problem with that ever. I think it's great to hear a husband say she looks amazing! How old are you both? Just curious.

I think I'm very stylish, probably more of an Eddie Bauer/Land's End type casual sporty person. I don't wear low cut, tight fitting shirts and I'm ok with that. I'm also ok with not being hit on, but there are other reasons why I'm not either i suspect. But, I started this thread to share my most inner thoughts and heartfelt thoughts. What I show here is not mirrored in my personality on the outside.
 
I won't. Now you just need to remember there are plenty of men out there that are like me. Don't look at fashion models as your example of what is normal. Heroin chic is not where it is at.

Yes, I do need to remember that! lol I have a friend here online who has worked on me for 5 years…men have stuck with me to help me through this. Believe it or not, I've come a very long way to posting my nudes. But this thread, and I'm concerned by starting it that I make it sound like i'm timid, or shy, or have a low self-esteem. It's actually the contrary--I just like women and men to have a forum on this topic. I love hearing thoughts.
 
See, I'm glad you disagree. I have no problem with that ever. I think it's great to hear a husband say she looks amazing! How old are you both? Just curious.

I think I'm very stylish, probably more of an Eddie Bauer/Land's End type casual sporty person. I don't wear low cut, tight fitting shirts and I'm ok with that. I'm also ok with not being hit on, but there are other reasons why I'm not either i suspect. But, I started this thread to share my most inner thoughts and heartfelt thoughts. What I show here is not mirrored in my personality on the outside.

I'm 42, tomorrow actually, and she is 36.
 
I am always stunned the many women who you might put in this category really need to just throw away the popular myth of what women should be. As a guy who loves a curvy women, it makes perfect sense for me to be attracted to a woman that I fits my interests. The weird thing for me is this. I cannot think of one popular model or actress where I agreed with people when they said, she is amazing. I know I am not the first to say this here... really, love who you are. You cannot change you. You just find some idiot that looks at most of the women in film and in the press and walks away to watch cartoons. We are not the brightest lot out there (all the cartoon time) but we are super interested in what we find sexy as all hell!

Oh, and we might be really creative lovers. (All the cartoon time. I KNEW it was good for something!) :rolleyes:
 
I am always stunned the many women who you might put in this category really need to just throw away the popular myth of what women should be. As a guy who loves a curvy women, it makes perfect sense for me to be attracted to a woman that I fits my interests. The weird thing for me is this. I cannot think of one popular model or actress where I agreed with people when they said, she is amazing. I know I am not the first to say this here... really, love who you are. You cannot change you. You just find some idiot that looks at most of the women in film and in the press and walks away to watch cartoons. We are not the brightest lot out there (all the cartoon time) but we are super interested in what we find sexy as all hell!

Oh, and we might be really creative lovers. (All the cartoon time. I KNEW it was good for something!) :rolleyes:

hahah….I am dating myself here but my favorite cartoons were mighty mouse and Underdog…Mighty and Under…those are great influences in my life. lol

You guys are so good and it's still so helpful to hear this. I so appreciate everyone's thoughts and I appreciate hearing that not everyone 'buys' into the hollywood myth and I need to keep remembering that! Why i don't, i do no know.

LOVE…I mean LOVE your avatar!! :D
 
Clothes and personality make the person

I am sure this has already been said, I believe the prettiest/sexiest woman is one who is confident in who she is. She dresses for her size and excudes personality. I find those type of women no matter what size sexy.
 
I am sure this has already been said, I believe the prettiest/sexiest woman is one who is confident in who she is. She dresses for her size and excudes personality. I find those type of women no matter what size sexy.

Yah, maybe why when I'm in the public, people always respond to me. I am very confident and very well liked (no brag, just fact). But, you can portray that and BE THAT, but you don't have to feel it on the inside. It's that part that this thread is about.
 
Do any of you other lovely BBW's get aggravated trying to find sexy underwear to wear and never finding it? I was trying to find something today with no luck..Makes me feel so upset that the stores can not and do not carry stuff for us...So that today just made me feel so bad....Anyone else deal with this too?
 
For BBw lovers….Did you ever or...

Did you ever come to a realization that you really did prefer fatter girls over the others?

Or have you always loved plus size and big curves?
…does it tie in ever to a full figured mother or grandmother, ya think?

I have a very good friend who is divorced now for a number of years. He never remarried. He has a 'thing' for big women, always has. His Ex-wife was not not larger and was rather thin. He discovered that he just could not love her like she deserved to be loved, because of her size. He did not desire her. So, he confessed to her and they got a divorce. They are still very good friends and she went on to marry another man. He never felt bad about it because he felt he was lying to her because he sought out big women.

That was the first time in my life I had ever heard of this happening. A man would leave his more slender wife because he craved and desired big women!!! Who's heard of such a thing. With that said, I know he's had plus size women as girlfriends since and loves his life much more. I cannot comprehend it at all…I really can't. But, I'm glad it worked out for all involved.
 
Man, can i relate!

Do any of you other lovely BBW's get aggravated trying to find sexy underwear to wear and never finding it? I was trying to find something today with no luck..Makes me feel so upset that the stores can not and do not carry stuff for us...So that today just made me feel so bad....Anyone else deal with this too?

BeeLou, i hear ya!!!! I'm kind of fussy too because I don't like to wear those new form bras. I like the material thin and I usually wear underwire because I'm a huge sagger. Then I might find my size at "Catharines" and the side 'stay' under the arm pokes me forever until I have to take it out. UGH! I have found some cacique panties I like a lot. Someone said SOMA for big girls, but they don't go up far enough in size either!

It's a viscous cycle.
I'm feeling bad today too…took some new pictures and really am not happy. lol Vicious cycle! lol
 
BeeLou, i hear ya!!!! I'm kind of fussy too because I don't like to wear those new form bras. I like the material thin and I usually wear underwire because I'm a huge sagger. Then I might find my size at "Catharines" and the side 'stay' under the arm pokes me forever until I have to take it out. UGH! I have found some cacique panties I like a lot. Someone said SOMA for big girls, but they don't go up far enough in size either!

It's a viscous cycle.
I'm feeling bad today too…took some new pictures and really am not happy. lol Vicious cycle! lol

I know it is so aggravating..Makes me feel like a piece of crap really...It is very discouraging..I get a email from one site that is clothes for bigger women but have never bought from them..

Oh sweetie I am sorry...I took some pics too and once looking at them I am like UGh..... I am betting your pics came out great hon!!! :kiss:
 
I know it is so aggravating..Makes me feel like a piece of crap really...It is very discouraging..I get a email from one site that is clothes for bigger women but have never bought from them..

Oh sweetie I am sorry...I took some pics too and once looking at them I am like UGh..... I am betting your pics came out great hon!!! :kiss:

Ha! Wanna bet? Frustration hits me too when these guys talk about confidence. I do not see the two related AT ALL!!! It's like apple and oranges. I feel that I can WREAK of confidence. If you were to see me in public you'd have no idea what's going on in my mind. I'm very outgoing, even flirtatious for an almost 59 year old. I have guy friends that love being with me (platonic), but I cannot get past the idea that my body IS APPEALING and DESIRED. NOPE, can't get there….and these pictures do not help…course doesn't help either that I'm coming out of the holidays if you know what I mean (;) ) . lol
 
Ha! Wanna bet? Frustration hits me too when these guys talk about confidence. I do not see the two related AT ALL!!! It's like apple and oranges. I feel that I can WREAK of confidence. If you were to see me in public you'd have no idea what's going on in my mind. I'm very outgoing, even flirtatious for an almost 59 year old. I have guy friends that love being with me (platonic), but I cannot get past the idea that my body IS APPEALING and DESIRED. NOPE, can't get there….and these pictures do not help…course doesn't help either that I'm coming out of the holidays if you know what I mean (;) ) . lol

That is so good that you are so outgoing..I am the opposite..I tend to be quiet..I do talk and say hello and go on but mostly I just go and try to blend in..know I shouldn't do that but I do...You are all those things the guys tell you...I am sorry you are having a rough day. I really am..Oh yeah I know what you mean..about to head there myself...UGH
 
That is so good that you are so outgoing..I am the opposite..I tend to be quiet..I do talk and say hello and go on but mostly I just go and try to blend in..know I shouldn't do that but I do...You are all those things the guys tell you...I am sorry you are having a rough day. I really am..Oh yeah I know what you mean..about to head there myself...UGH

Thank you so much, you're a sweetheart. The guys love you too and I love to read some of the other threads and see your 'saucy' replies…you've got it hon!

I will tell you this too BeeLou, that with age it will become better and easier to become more outgoing. Another point of advice is put yourself in situations that you're afraid of…speaking in public, meeting strangers, etc….because we fear the unknown and once we start to master those, it becomes a piece of cake. I speak from advice!
 
Thank you so much, you're a sweetheart. The guys love you too and I love to read some of the other threads and see your 'saucy' replies…you've got it hon!

I will tell you this too BeeLou, that with age it will become better and easier to become more outgoing. Another point of advice is put yourself in situations that you're afraid of…speaking in public, meeting strangers, etc….because we fear the unknown and once we start to master those, it becomes a piece of cake. I speak from advice!

You are so welcome...Aww they are very kind I can say that....Thanks hon...*blush*

Thank you so much for that advice..I do need to do that...I know that would help me more than anything...Thanks I am taking this to heart!
 
You are so welcome...Aww they are very kind I can say that....Thanks hon...*blush*

Thank you so much for that advice..I do need to do that...I know that would help me more than anything...Thanks I am taking this to heart!

Really…DO! Make it a new year's resolution even. It's hard to face those fears, but it will get easier, I promise!

Good luck on finding those frillies! Have you ever had luck at Lane Bryant? Maybe you would fit Soma too.
 
Really…DO! Make it a new year's resolution even. It's hard to face those fears, but it will get easier, I promise!

Good luck on finding those frillies! Have you ever had luck at Lane Bryant? Maybe you would fit Soma too.

I promise I am going to try.I have been a bit better lately..just need to get even better..

Thank you!!! Not really...I will have to check out Soma....I think the site I have looked at is Big Gals Unite..They have some pretty stuff..
 
I promise I am going to try.I have been a bit better lately..just need to get even better..

Thank you!!! Not really...I will have to check out Soma....I think the site I have looked at is Big Gals Unite..They have some pretty stuff..

I like their dresses…that pop up on the opening page!! Wow.
Have you tried Avenue?
 
panties

Black Hills n Beelou
I am a total panty addict and know what you mean when you have a shopping trip that does not go well ... I dont go for the super fancy panties but have on occasion had good luck with Additionelle...layne bryant...Torrid and Aerie

Best of luck girls
When I luv my panties it just boosts my whole day
 
Black Hills n Beelou
I am a total panty addict and know what you mean when you have a shopping trip that does not go well ... I dont go for the super fancy panties but have on occasion had good luck with Additionelle...layne bryant...Torrid and Aerie

Best of luck girls
When I luv my panties it just boosts my whole day

Thank you so much for this CB42! :)
 
Black Hills n Beelou
I am a total panty addict and know what you mean when you have a shopping trip that does not go well ... I dont go for the super fancy panties but have on occasion had good luck with Additionelle...layne bryant...Torrid and Aerie

Best of luck girls
When I luv my panties it just boosts my whole day

Yes, ditto! Thanks so much. And I like seeing your suggestions too, i've not heard of two of those. So…never know what I'll find too and I'll be sure to show you all. Bee Lou will too, i'm sure! ;)
 
Bbw lover here. In a sense I stumbled my way accidentally into my admiration of voluptuous women. In college I started dating an average figured girl (now my fiance) who has slowly put on weight through our 6 year relationship. The thing is, the bigger she gets, the more I find her incredibly sexy. I love her soft big ass, tits, and especially her stomach. Years ago I would have never thought that I would find something like a chubby belly sexy on a woman.
 
Yes, ditto! Thanks so much. And I like seeing your suggestions too, i've not heard of two of those. So…never know what I'll find too and I'll be sure to show you all. Bee Lou will too, i'm sure! ;)

Oh I have been looking at some of the stuff on the sites...Just need to figure out what I want to get.. :)
 
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