Being a woman in geek culture

[KoPilot]

I saw this on youtube once: "The comments after an article on Feminism justify why we need it."

Never a truthier truth than that.

Ayep.

 

[satindesire]

Well that left a mark.

Ayep.

/sagenod

 

[satindesire]

http://www.psmag.com/navigation/health-and-behavior/women-arent-welcome-internet-72170/

"None of this makes me exceptional. It just makes me a woman with an Internet connection. Here’s just a sampling of the noxious online commentary directed at other women in recent years. To Alyssa Royse, a sex and relationships blogger, for saying that she hated The Dark Knight: “you are clearly retarded, i hope someone shoots then rapes you.” To Kathy Sierra, a technology writer, for blogging about software, coding, and design: “i hope someone slits your throat and cums down your gob.” To Lindy West, a writer at the women’s website Jezebel, for critiquing a comedian’s rape joke: “I just want to rape her with a traffic cone.” To Rebecca Watson, an atheist commentator, for blogging about sexism in the skeptic community: “If I lived in Boston I’d put a bullet in your brain.” To Catherine Mayer, a journalist at Time magazine, for no particular reason: “A BOMB HAS BEEN PLACED OUTSIDE YOUR HOME. IT WILL GO OFF AT EXACTLY 10:47 PM ON A TIMER AND TRIGGER DESTROYING EVERYTHING.”

 

[satindesire]

How to Be A Woman:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?...03797416.97454.156007491151643&type=1&theater

 

[Stella_Omega]

some guy in Canada has actually been charged and is facing a trial; http://jezebel.com/a-man-is-facing-jail-for-harassing-women-online-and-it-1497322836

 

[KoPilot]

some guy in Canada has actually been charged and is facing a trial; http://jezebel.com/a-man-is-facing-jail-for-harassing-women-online-and-it-1497322836

I was gonna say something smarmy about the repercussions of death threats vs smoking pot, but I am actually pretty wowed and please god set a precedent and send this shitlord to jail.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I was gonna say something smarmy about the repercussions of death threats vs smoking pot, but I am actually pretty wowed and please god set a precedent and send this shitlord to jail.

And of course comments include about a hundred variations on "Does this mean we can say bad words anymore??? "

 

[KoPilot]

And of course comments include about a hundred variations on "Does this mean we can say bad words anymore??? "

Oh of course. Who cares about the NSA, about the TSA, about bombing brown civilians someplace I'd never visit, about global warming, about carcinogens in our food, but as soon as you try and tell me I can't be an asshole anymore...

Truly Orwellian.

 

[midwestyankee]

And of course comments include about a hundred variations on "Does this mean we can say bad words anymore??? "

Oh of course. Who cares about the NSA, about the TSA, about bombing brown civilians someplace I'd never visit, about global warming, about carcinogens in our food, but as soon as you try and tell me I can't be an asshole anymore...

Truly Orwellian.

Seems to me these responses are every bit as much about the loss of privilege as all those clowns who complain that they can't use the word "ni***r" but African Americans can use it with impunity. Which is not a new insight by any means, but lately I've been reading a lot of posts about the latter and the complaints all seem so closely related to the ones you've all been discussing here.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Seems to me these responses are every bit as much about the loss of privilege as all those clowns who complain that they can't use the word "ni***r" but African Americans can use it with impunity. Which is not a new insight by any means, but lately I've been reading a lot of posts about the latter and the complaints all seem so closely related to the ones you've all been discussing here.

Yep. Exactly the same.

And similarly, those responses trivialise the actual issue, which is-- threats of rape and violence. Which leads any thinking person to think that those responses just might have come from people who have used rape threats as a method of speech in the past, and who plan to use them in the future.

 

[midwestyankee]

Yep. Exactly the same.

And similarly, those responses trivialise the actual issue, which is-- threats of rape and violence. Which leads any thinking person to think that those responses just might have come from people who have used rape threats as a method of speech in the past, and who plan to use them in the future.

Nobody wants to be called a racist and no one wants to be called a rapist, and yet we know that acts of both sort are far more common than most people realize. That time you kept on pushing even though your girlfriend was (playfully, you now recall it) saying "No" over and over again? Not consensual, buddy. And I'd be willing to bet that a clear majority of men, by the time they're 30 or so, have had a similar experience. Perhaps acts like that could never be prosecuted successfully, but they're clearly the product of a society that wants to go wink-wink at most rape. How could such attitudes and language not be widespread and deeply entrenched?

 

[satindesire]

Nobody wants to be called a racist and no one wants to be called a rapist, and yet we know that acts of both sort are far more common than most people realize. That time you kept on pushing even though your girlfriend was (playfully, you now recall it) saying "No" over and over again? Not consensual, buddy. And I'd be willing to bet that a clear majority of men, by the time they're 30 or so, have had a similar experience. Perhaps acts like that could never be prosecuted successfully, but they're clearly the product of a society that wants to go wink-wink at most rape. How could such attitudes and language not be widespread and deeply entrenched?

Rape Culture.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Rape Culture.

That thing that so many people hate the name of, even more than its victims hate the consequences of, yeah.

 

[satindesire]

"A series of emails and memos reportedly sent between executives at BET appear to lend weight to transgender media personality B. Scott's allegations that the network discriminated against him when he was removed from a planned hosting spot for the network's annual awards preshow last June because he was dressed too femininely.

Scott filed a lawsuit against BET last summer, charging that the network discriminated against him on the basis of his gender identity by literally pulling him off the red carpet and demanding that he change into more masculine attire. When Scott complied, by pulling back his long hair, removing his makeup and high heels, and changing his flowing blue tunic and black slacks for a fitted navy suit jacket and slim black pants, he was added back to the end of the program's preshow in a vastly diminished capacity, as a guest commentator rather than the sole style stage correspondent he'd been hired as."

http://www.advocate.com/politics/tr...ls-support-b-scotts-claims-bet-discrimination

Please note: B. Scott wants to be addressed in masculine pronouns, so the website was NOT being disrespectful purposefully by doing so.

 

[Primalex]

as a guest commentator rather than the sole style stage correspondent he'd been hired as.

He had been hired to wear a masculine attire and had agreed to it, then changed his mind mid-production. What reaction do you expect?

Oh well, who cares about facts.

 

[Stella_Omega]

He had been hired to wear a masculine attire and had agreed to it, then changed his mind mid-production. What reaction do you expect?

Oh well, who cares about facts.

They tried to hire him despite his presentation, and he worked with them;
http://www.lovebscott.com/news/open-letter-what-really-happened-to-me-at-the-bet-awards
but what BET approved turned out to be not manly enough.

"Unless we can make public the reason we didn't want him dressed the way he normally does, I would stay away from suits, suit selections, etc."

There is nothing that implies that he agreed to dress "like a man."

 

[satindesire]

They tried to hire him despite his presentation, and he worked with them;
http://www.lovebscott.com/news/open-letter-what-really-happened-to-me-at-the-bet-awards
but what BET approved turned out to be not manly enough.


There is nothing that implies that he agreed to dress "like a man."

"Oh well, Primadonna doesn't care about facts."

 

[Stella_Omega]

"Oh well, Primadonna doesn't care about facts."

There's Glory for you!

 

[Primalex]

They tried to hire him despite his presentation, and he worked with them;
http://www.lovebscott.com/news/open-letter-what-really-happened-to-me-at-the-bet-awards
but what BET approved turned out to be not manly enough.


There is nothing that implies that he agreed to dress "like a man."

They had worked together and assembled an approved outfit, without make-up, without high-heels, without open curly hair. And _mid-production_, after being late already for no reason and drunk, he decided to ignore this and then got pissed off and pulled the "Hey, I'm different, so I can pull the minority discrimination" card.

 

[Stella_Omega]

When your first language is Bullshit, it's hard to understand English-- as Lexie so often demonstrates.

 

[KoPilot]

On Sexual Dimorphism in Video Games

My favorite is why non-organic humanoids have boobs. :V

 

[Stella_Omega]

On a more positive note;

http://lesbianswhotech.org/summit/

 

[KoPilot]

Is it just me, or is making "queer" synonymous with "gay/lesbian" an awkward anachronism?

But that is a really neat site.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Is it just me, or is making "queer" synonymous with "gay/lesbian" an awkward anachronism?

But that is a really neat site.

Yeah, I know what you mean.

But if they want to use the term, it opens the door for a large handful of other forms of queer identity...

 

[satindesire]

When MRAs obsessed with false rape accusations falsely accuse a woman of false rape accusations:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanhatesthis/this-is-what-happens-when-anonymous-accuses-you-of-faking-a