Bi Married and closeted

Be careful.

I told my wife I wanted to share a cock with her and it nearly wrecked our marriage. PM me if you want to chat in more detail.
 
count me in as one that is afraid to act out on something that i want very much,that being a submissive bottom. i dont think i could live with myself if it ever got out.
I'm like you write about
I like M2M and tend to be a top
Hey from Jacksonville on the coast
 
I too have been in a desire mode for some years
you could call it curiosity but I would say its way more than curious.
I want to spend time with the right person and enjoy his cock
and mine, in a like minded situation.
Problem being "the right" person and safety.
Hard to get over the hesitation to search and find, and where?
I also agree there are many outlets on the internet and here as well
but the actual feel and act are missing.
 
I'm bi married....48. the internet is my outlet, and i like it that way. I feel no need to wave a flag or make any demands. I've accepted who i am.

Completely agree with you here. I am ok with who I am and quite comfortable with it. Unfortunately I’m not surrounded by sympathetic friends, so in the dark closet I stay

I am an exhibitionist flasher with a penchant to flirt and talk dirty. I have no audience for said outlet. I have no inhibitions, filter or hangups. Pm’s always welcum
 
As I get older my bi side seems to get stronger and while I am still deeply attracted to female beauty in all its forms I fond that I am drawn to other mature men in order to explore these thoughts. My wife who I love very much) is not interested in matters sexual now...

Do these thoughts seem strange?

Not strange at all. I could have written what you did!
 
it's the kids keeping me married

If your wife has shut down sexually, then how are you cheating?
I see this time and time again at the places I frequent. Over 50% of the guys (older) cruising are married. Almost exclusively they have been shutdown sexually by the wife.
Why not divorce? Life is short. As a couple you are distant sexually, you are distant socially = you barely speak to each other = you have run out of conversation. You barely laugh and joke anymore. Your situation will NOT improve. It will stay the same or get worse.
Your marriage is in the dead zone. If you were single you would be so much better off financially. You wouldn't have to be rushing home all the time. You could retire earlier. Have money to spend on yourself. Tell me your wife makes more money than you; go ahead - tell me.

Marriage has a shelf life of about 20 years max. Your marriage has expired. You are still in your marriage due to loyalty; not LOVE. When I see the media glorifying these 50 year marriages I want to puke. Those people are co-dependent more than anything else....so boring. They go out for dinner and barely a word passes between them. If your wife won't go to a nude beach with you, then there is no hope of salvaging the marriage. That is the true litmus test.
Good god man, you are well into your fifties. The happiest men I know are single; the most miserable are married.
Sex needs re-vitalizing, freshness, novelty. That is why the sexually adventurous are older. How many young people do you see at a nude beach? Your sexual abilities (code for erections) decline over time. You are running OUT of time.
Now dump that millstone around your neck and start LIVING!!!!!!!!!!

Finally, it wouldn't hurt you any to "firm up". And lose that disgusting body hair.
Now I've laid into you pretty good.....but somebody had to.....yes?

my parents got divorced when I was 7. they never should have had kids, f 'em
 
My experience

In was over 50 when I realized in was bi. For about 2 years I denied my desire, but eventually knew I could no longer do that. I knew I had to come out to my wife. I had no idea how she would react. I had done some research that indicated when a married man came out the marriage quickly ended for about a third. A third ended over a longer period while about a third endured.

I figured unless we found a way to incorporate my bisexuality Into our marriage divorce was likely any way. Coming out before I started having gay sex seemed less likely to end the marriage than coming out after I started having sex with men or being caught. That is what I did..

It proved to be a good decision. My wife appreciated my honesty and it started many discussions about aspects of our marriage. The upshot was a better stronger marriage. I found being able to talk with my wife about my sexuality helped me better understand it and even stay straight.

One morning about two months after coming out my wife said I should explore my homosexual side. If I was bi that was ok. We could accommodation that. If I was gay it was probably time for both of us to move on.

After some meetings wth men it was clear I was bi. Out marriage not only encdured, it improved. Sometimes honesty is the best policy.
 
Yeah I came out to my wife on our 3rd date...21 years ago. We've done some occasional swinging that lets both of us explore our bi sides. Still having sex at least 5 times a week. Still my best friend and wouldn't give her up for the world. But...we also chose not to have kids. Which also seems to have left us looking much younger than our peers.
 
In was over 50 when I realized in was bi. For about 2 years I denied my desire, but eventually knew I could no longer do that. I knew I had to come out to my wife. I had no idea how she would react. I had done some research that indicated when a married man came out the marriage quickly ended for about a third. A third ended over a longer period while about a third endured.

I figured unless we found a way to incorporate my bisexuality Into our marriage divorce was likely any way. Coming out before I started having gay sex seemed less likely to end the marriage than coming out after I started having sex with men or being caught. That is what I did..

It proved to be a good decision. My wife appreciated my honesty and it started many discussions about aspects of our marriage. The upshot was a better stronger marriage. I found being able to talk with my wife about my sexuality helped me better understand it and even stay straight.

One morning about two months after coming out my wife said I should explore my homosexual side. If I was bi that was ok. We could accommodation that. If I was gay it was probably time for both of us to move on.

After some meetings wth men it was clear I was bi. Out marriage not only encdured, it improved. Sometimes honesty is the best policy.

I applaud your integrity and celebrate your success.
 
Yeah I came out to my wife on our 3rd date...21 years ago. We've done some occasional swinging that lets both of us explore our bi sides. Still having sex at least 5 times a week. Still my best friend and wouldn't give her up for the world. But...we also chose not to have kids. Which also seems to have left us looking much younger than our peers.
smart move; nothing kills sexlife more than having kids (also fucks you financially)

https://xhamster.com/videos/bareback-fuck-after-work-xh1uWOL

hot vid here to my fellow blue balled sexually repressed brethren
 
Was married closeted Bi

I lived for years with the fantasy of having sex with my wife and another man. Oh,it happened,but they were never Bi and my wife didn't like that stuff.
Unfortunately, she passed 2 yrs ago, so I'm a 65 yr old widow who has cum out of his shell and would love to go Bi, at my home, and do some kinky shit man!!:devil: My name for discretion sake is Wifeswimp69 and I am in Syracuse, NY. :p
 
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How many are similar to me in that this and reading the stories becomes your outlet?
58 orally bi mwm who is overly cautious almost paranoid about meeting someone and the repercussions of coming out are more than I wish to deal with.

I can;t be alone in this
I'm with you here...57 married and bi. Love the feel of a woman but also love everything else...just no one to talk to about it and no one in the area to hook up with...I need a FWB who wants the same...
 
I know that's correct, I was there, exact scenario for years and now I want to make up for lost time and explore my sexuality and perversions. First on the list is to go out some night, pick up a hot chick and get her into the car and when I get to sliding my hand under her panties I find a nice fat cock and I'll freaking devour it! Mmmmmmm.

Wifeswimp69
Syracuse, NY
 
There are a lot who fit thst picture & can identify with the super paranoid about caution.
 
How many are similar to me in that this and reading the stories becomes your outlet?
58 orally bi mwm who is overly cautious almost paranoid about meeting someone and the repercussions of coming out are more than I wish to deal with.

I can;t be alone in this

DEFINITELY not alone! I think bisexuality should be the "norm"!! After all, why should men be the only ones to eat pussy and women be the only ones to suck cock or be fucked by a nice cock?!? So silly and so backwards if you ask me.
 
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