Bi Married and closeted

[BlackSatinKnight]

Sorry to hear that you are under appreciated by your wife. My wife hasn't been giving out any sexual favors for a long time now, but she at least thanks me for my help and bakes me a 'cherry' pie every now and then. I would much rather it was a gooey, sloppy, 'cream' pie, but I'll take what I can get. As far as the company of other men, I am with you there.

Thanks, I appreciate the support from everyone here.

 

[mtsnowrider]

Need to vent again so please bear with me.

Because of my wife’s schedule I do many of the chores around the house; cook dinner, laundry, dishes, clean house. I really don’t mind until I see her just sitting around playing games on her iPad.

I started laundry this weekend and she got pissed because of my “body language” implying I was mad.

Most women (I’m guessing here) would love a husband that stepped up to help with chores. Not mine.

So, hardly any physical contact and now I can’t do the chores right. No wonder I find more comfort in the company of other men.

Ok, rant over. Sorry for wasting your time.

I share your pain, buddy. I get more complaints than compliments.... And nothing else

 

[moog999]

I share your pain, buddy. I get more complaints than compliments.... And nothing else

Me too, I tend to do all the chores with no 'reward' and just complaints on how i have ironed x y or z.
Wish i could find some male company, as many seem to.

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

Me too, I tend to do all the chores with no 'reward' and just complaints on how i have ironed x y or z.
Wish i could find some male company, as many seem to.

I guess that’s why many of us are her, to vent and find other guys who understand.

 

[Canuckcouple]

sexless marriage

I just joined today. My marriage has been sexless for 15 plus years - ok we might have sex once or twice a year. I'd probably be a Kinsey1 if my wife would be interested in sex say once a month or more. But, lack of sex pushed me along the Kinsey scale to a Kinsey5.

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

When did you marry my wife?

That’s a lot of guy’s wives unfortunately. They complain that they want a real man, but then complain about toxic masculinity. They want help around the house but then complain that we aren’t doing it right. They complain we aren’t attentive to their needs, but never take into consideration our needs.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my wife and I love pussy, but sometimes I need a nice hard cock.

 

[peter49parker]

I just joined today. My marriage has been sexless for 15 plus years - ok we might have sex once or twice a year. I'd probably be a Kinsey1 if my wife would be interested in sex say once a month or more. But, lack of sex pushed me along the Kinsey scale to a Kinsey5.

I feel your pain, brother.

 

[klippert]

I just joined today. My marriage has been sexless for 15 plus years - ok we might have sex once or twice a year. I'd probably be a Kinsey1 if my wife would be interested in sex say once a month or more. But, lack of sex pushed me along the Kinsey scale to a Kinsey5.

welcum bother from up north. Many of us are in the same situation. Hope we can make it a little more interesting for you while you are here

just need to work harder at finding another married gent in the same situation ..
https://cdn05.**********/uploads/photos/2019/01/105852/bdsmlr-105852-TaBSvVruOP.jpg

 

[mtsnowrider]

welcum bother from up north. Many of us are in the same situation. Hope we can make it a little more interesting for you while you are here

just need to work harder at finding another married gent in the same situation ..
https://cdn05.**********/uploads/photos/2019/01/105852/bdsmlr-105852-TaBSvVruOP.jpg

We all know they are out there but finding the right one (or any one) is not essy

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Love the first woman

Who in this group wouldn't LOVE to have their wife or girlfriend jerk a nice cock off in their mouth?!?

I certainly would LOVE it!!!

https://xhamster.com/videos/women-jerk-cock-into-bi-husbands-mouths-10907336

Doing all she can to get that cock to unload.

 

[OtherwisePrint6210]

I share your pain, buddy. I get more complaints than compliments.... And nothing else

Reading this after making dinner and cleaning up......I had to laugh, it is nice to know I'm not the only one.

 

[Oxida]

Reading this after making dinner and cleaning up......I had to laugh, it is nice to know I'm not the only one.

It is nice to see so many of us here. Have to admit, happily married, but damn, I just love this place and my exploration is making my head more peaceful and my bedroom hotter. So thank you!

Here is something to think about - sexy time

 

[Mature1197]

We married the same woman?

Need to vent again so please bear with me.

Because of my wife’s schedule I do many of the chores around the house; cook dinner, laundry, dishes, clean house. I really don’t mind until I see her just sitting around playing games on her iPad.

I started laundry this weekend and she got pissed because of my “body language” implying I was mad.

Most women (I’m guessing here) would love a husband that stepped up to help with chores. Not mine.

So, hardly any physical contact and now I can’t do the chores right. No wonder I find more comfort in the company of other men.

Ok, rant over. Sorry for wasting your time.

Mine does appreciate all that I do, but it pisses me off when she just sits on her ass on her iPad or reading or doing puzzles.

 

[Mature1197]

100%

I cannot express to you all how much I associate with the statements you've made in this thread. I also want to thank all of you for sharing, as it helps me realize I'm not alone in feeling the way I feel.

My wife and I are both in our mid-40's. We've been married for over two decades. We most definitely love each other. Of course our sex life could be better, but the stresses of daily life and her hormone issues definitely have a detrimental impact on it.

Like some of you, I never really thought about cock in my earlier years. I've still never had an attraction to men in general. The thought of kissing, cuddling, etc. does nothing for me. In fact, it is somewhat revolting to me personally. Most of the time I've expressed that opinion other places and have received ridicule. I hate labels, and do not consider myself gay.

Most of my masturbatory fantasies focus on submitting to an older, well-hung, "alpha" male in an oral servitude role. I fantasize about what it would be like to orally service a big cock and large pendulous testicles. To taste the sweetness of another man's precum. To successfully pleasure him while servicing his cock until he ejaculates his seed in my mouth and I have the privilege of swallowing it.

Telling my wife is not an option. She wouldn't understand. She just wouldn't...

There needs to be some kind of private support group for guys like us. A secret society of married, curious cocksuckers. I constantly ache to talk to someone who shares my fantasies, yet no one wants to be open in the "real world" about this when their identities are known.

Please, keep sharing your thoughts, your fantasies, and your ideas on this thread. Or perhaps maybe we could take this elsewhere. Feel free to PM me as well! Regardless, I desperately want to have a group of like-minded me to communicate with.

This turned out a little longer than I intended. Thank you in advance for reading!

I am late to the party on this thread, but this is me nearly 100%. I have a really good friend who was married to a woman, but divorced her because he was gay. He had to tell his three kids. Luckily they all accepted him. I felt bad that he told me all that, yet I didn’t share my secret with him.

 

[cj914s]

about sums it up for me too. scared to death of repercussions if I acted on it. never tried, but would gladly do oral (give and get) if a completely discreet and safe opportunity arose. no interest in anything else, just oral. no idea on where to look here in the pnw...

 

[coloradomtn]

new to the thread and hope it keeps going as I fall in line with just about everybody else..

 

[1960curious]

Same boat here too.
I'm a MWM, 52, bi curious though I had some fun in my younger years.
Married for nearly 20 years and we havn't had sex for like 15 years, no lie.
Sure I like looking at pictures of hot ladies, mostly the amature ones but I also like looking at nice cocks.
We have two boxes of toys but the wife basically hit them in the closet and piled stuff on top of them. It would be basically impossible to get to them.
Some might say I should just divorce her so I can go out and have whatever sex I want to have female or male and be "Happy". But I don't want that. I do love her, even though she pays me no mind.
But at the same time it would be nice to have a special friend or a special couple to have fun with and not have my wife want to divorce me.
It's like golly I'm a guy, I have needs. And honestly here on Lit is my only place I can express myself and also play from time to time.
I'm always looking for married guys to chat with that are in the same boat, so feel free to PM me.
Thanks
And if interested pics of my cock are in my profile and also here on Xham
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/none-15613896

I am with you brother! I have been married for 39 years. I still love her very much, but sexless for 15ish years! I have been with a couple guys and enjoyed it very much!
I am 60 bi and married!

 

[cj914s]

if only there was a "secret" signal one could send and respond to. totally discreet, available and no bs.. like I said, would have to be entirely discreet. neighbors are all to risky in our social circle. there's a gay couple up the street, but I don't trust them (or anyone) to keep my secrets. my wife has access to everything in my life, short of this account login, which i don't store anywhere (nearly forgot it today!) no way I'm taking pics on my phone as they do cloud share storage. I guess I could have a card for one of my cameras dedicated to pics that I upload directly, but even that seems too risky. do PM chats here allow pic uploads? I'd consider that if there was no trace.. insult to injury for me is we we used to have a fun sex life. she liked oral as do i. it all faded away with menopause..

 

[OnaTangent]

Not married but still want it to be discreet with my sexuality. Much as I enjoy women I would love to find another guy to experiment with. It's just been hard to break the ice with the right guy.

 

[Timetotryagain]

Not married but still want it to be discreet with my sexuality. Much as I enjoy women I would love to find another guy to experiment with. It's just been hard to break the ice with the right guy.

Same here, very easy to find a woman for sex, not so much finding a cock to suck.

 

[Blue_Duck]

I’ve been fortunate that my wife was a hotwife. A few of her play partners were bi and I was able to blow them when we were together at various times.

Over the last few years, my wife has lost interest in being shared but my desire to blow a guy has increased exponentially.

I remain in contact with one of her local partners who is an older gentleman. I’ve enjoyed him one on one a couple of times.

I met another local gentleman through this board. We met once and provided me with the best blowjob that I can remember. Of course he allowed me to explore his cock as well. I’m hopeful that he and I can meet again soon.

I doubt I can add anything to this thread that hasn’t been said already . But I must confess the idea of going down on a guy is so erotic. The feel of a gentle hand on the back of your head while his hips thrust upwards. So incredibly yummy!

I can’t wait until my next encounter

 

[OnaTangent]

I’ve been fortunate that my wife was a hotwife. A few of her play partners were bi and I was able to blow them when we were together at various times.

Over the last few years, my wife has lost interest in being shared but my desire to blow a guy has increased exponentially.

I remain in contact with one of her local partners who is an older gentleman. I’ve enjoyed him one on one a couple of times.

I met another local gentleman through this board. We met once and provided me with the best blowjob that I can remember. Of course he allowed me to explore his cock as well. I’m hopeful that he and I can meet again soon.

I doubt I can add anything to this thread that hasn’t been said already . But I must confess the idea of going down on a guy is so erotic. The feel of a gentle hand on the back of your head while his hips thrust upwards. So incredibly yummy!

I can’t wait until my next encounter

Very well said!

 

[790s]

OK, I'm in heat! If any of you guys need a safe place to play together and would be into a mature woman watching you? Let me know, hands off, I'm only a spectator!

I like spectator sports!!

 

[Mtnmike]

A secret signal would be nice.
But then runs the problem of how to safely meet up.
That's why I always fall back on the idea of a trusted friend or a neighbor with benefits. Someone my wife knows and does not care that I'm hanging out with him.
Even if I met a guy online that even lived in my own town how do I go about telling the wife "Hey, I won't be home tonight, I'm gonna be on the other side of town, don't ask any questions". That would go over real well, not.
As for pictures, no Lit does not allow the sharing of actual pictures from PM to PM but you can do it inside a thread like this one, but then of course you are sharing it to everyone. With what you described and what your wife has access to, that could even be tricky. You might fight that the moment you take the picture you are worried about her finding out. So it's probably best to be on the safe side. But of course fun PM's would at least you to express yourself and what frustrations you face and what fun you would like to have if safely given the chance.
My wife and I have not had sex for 15 years, no lie. And for over a year now she has hardly even touched me. Hug, kiss, etc. I don't even bother to discuss it with her because I know her too well. She will simply jump to the "Fine, we can just get divorced" conversation. And I don't want to go there. Some say I should to be "Happy". But I dont think being financially ruined just for sex would make me happy. So I grin and bear it. I'm used to it anyway. So it's like what I have never had, I can really miss, you know.
Sorry to ramble. But I just wanted to throw that out there.
I think there are lots of guys on Lit that are in the same boat. They enjoy the look of the hot ladies. They might also enjoy the view of a nice cock. They would love to venture out and have some fun. But at the same time they worry about being found out. At least Lit Forums and Lit Chat allows one to have an "out", if even only mentally.
Thanks for listening

I'm in the same boat as you, sexless 12 plus years and counting. I don't understand something, maybe someone can explain it? I've been noticing as I age that I catch myself looking at a nice cock and occasionally thinking about them, not often but sometimes. In my younger years I would have Never thought like this, strictly straight guy, women only. Does it have to do with aging or being sexless for so long or a combination of the two? Still not sure I could ever go thru with playing with another cock but does cross my mind occasionally.

 

[Mtnmike]

Hey there MTN.
I think it's because of lack of sex with the wife. Or maybe even when you were younger you "wondered" what it would be like to touch and enjoy another mans cock.
I think guys would go through with it but they would have to feel safe and secure. Plus would they want it to be with a stranger or a friend. Have a woman involved, etc.
I just think it's something natural, especially for guys who always have a need/desire for sex. Sure they could seek out sex with a woman. But it's almost like been there done that. But what they and you really seek, even once, is an experience with another guy.

Interesting take on it, I never even thought about touching one when I was younger, just not my thing. As you mentioned if I was ever going to take the plunge, for me personally I'd like for a woman to be involved, maybe calm the nerves a little.