val1976
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Something has been on my mind for quite a while. Seeing this thread today brought it up again and I thought I would post my thoughts. Sorry if this is misplaced.
I know from reading other posts over the years that my experiences are not unique. I had a girl friend in my teen years who I was very close with and you could say I had a crush on. I enjoyed seeing her in bra and panties during sleepovers and dreamed about making out with her. I was still very into boys, however.
Another very common experience followed. Went to a college party freshman year with my roommate, got a bit tipsy, got very turned on watching two girls making out while the guys cheered them on. Got back to our room later, "that was wild, huh? would you ever do that?" Pause, we were going at it. I loved it.
I'm older now, married to a wonderful man, very much in love. But over the years I have enjoyed relationships of various durations with other women, with my husband's blessing.
This is all a long prelude to the issue. I don't know whether I'm 'bi.' I know that I've never felt about another woman the way I feel about my husband. I can't imagine marrying another woman. I can imagine loving her, in a way, and I certainly enjoy physical sensuality with other women.
Do you have to feel about men and women the same in order to be "bisexual"? Must it be just as likely for you to fall in love with and have a deep, long-term relationship with a man or a woman to be 'bi'? I wonder about this because, feeling the way I do about women, I worry that I'm somehow being untruthful if I were to call myself 'bi' or approach another woman for a relationship if she says she is bi and looking for the same. I don't want to misrepresent myself.
first of all i would not spend to much time working about labels. I think you can safely/honestly say that you are bi.
I would have to agree, you enjoy sex with so that would put you as bi, but don't overthink it, enjoy it. And if you have a husband that you love and want to stay married to and he is good with you having a few girlfriends, you have it made!