Can I come home now?--An unabashedly warm fuzzy thread

[artful]

Sandia

Artful because...

he had the balls to keep bumping the Artful N Site...

and

it was one of the funniest things I've seen in my life.

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And

MzChrista because she scares me... And I don't scare too easy. (Really.)

(shhh,...puuuullleeeeeeezzz,...don't let MzChrista
hear you say that)(she has a *butterfly board*)

 

[Sandia]

I know. That was sorta my introduction to her. Why do you think I'm so scared?

I hope she doesn't come in here and see us talking about her like this...

 

[monster666]

And the most obvious choice is.......

before I begin, may I please have my fucking brain back now, Ms RisiaSkye? Sheese, lesson learned. Never loan your friends money or your brain.
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My first entry is RisiaSkye. I lust for her brain. She is incredibly bright and informative, and the girl can write. When she posts from her heart and experience together, I invariably end up in awe. On some pretty complicated subjects, she crafts words together in an incredibly lucid, evenflowing manner, sprinkling in so much information you can't help but come away enriched. She's extremely even tempered (online at least) and slow to take bait.

Next, DRxBlue is a quick, warm wit. I find myself on the same page he is quite often. He switches gears so fast I often get whiplash trying to stay with him. But that's okay, the trip is worth a few scary turns. I find him to be a consistantly positive influence around here.

SpectreT is my biggest pain in my ass. He is consistantly posting pretty much exactly what I might on any given topic if he gets there first. Because of him, my post count is way the hell lower than it would be without him, which according to some around here might be a good thing. He always says what he has to say in a positive way and when posting on topics he feels are going to be debated, and he manages to do so without unnecessarily goading anyone.

CarolineOh just rocks. She's bright, warm, considerate and articulate, and the girl has balls. Big brass ones. She's not one bit afraid to speak her mind. And, as already pointed out, she's had her share of misfortune this year, and has remained remarkably upbeat. That says a lot about her good character.

You can't think of Caroline these days without MotorCity Sam coming to mind as well. Sam is just too cool. Calm, thoughtful and articulate, he strikes me as a man of exceptional character and patience.

cymbittybotz is the fullest possible blend of experience, intelligence, emotion, wisdom, curiosity and innocence wrapped up in one package ever. She's a dynamo. When she posts, half the time I don't know if she's going to implode or explode, but she always fascinates me with her range, and warms me with her heart.

Outsider Just because his AV as of this writing is just fucking nuts. And MzChrista for being BDSM touched enough to actually like that AV.

And once again, SpectreT, thanks for stealing my line regarding that same AV. It was so obvious, couldn't you have said something like "Gee, that looks like an Excedrin event" or something of the sort? But no, "Ow. Just fuckin'...... OW!" was perfect. And it would have been mine if you weren't there first.

 

[CarolineOh]

Re: My challenge....

.....goes like this,....for example: I see your av, hear a phonetic "kum by..yeah", and think about globe(s) in my hands....and just see a saucy joke...

Here's a warm fuzzy:

I like Caroline Oh because she genuinely cares for others and her feelings are real. And she likes hockey. And she has a friend my age in BC with an exceptional gluteal region I'd love to know....which obviously has been set back as my Master Plan just a titch or two with the pickle remarks, etc. But I do think she's really very nice, a warm tigerspirited person.

LC

That was quite gracious Lance, thank you. I don't hold grudges, in fact I hate getting into spats in the first place. I would be more than happy to start fresh with you, and I look forward to a long, friendly exchange of ideas with you.

And a warm thank you to Skally and Monster, and to everyone who has just made this wondeful thread glow.

 

[CarolineOh]

When I was a brand new Lit newbie, I wandered about, and read in all the areas, and took my first steps posting on the GB, but I was a little reticent to post in the just opened BDSM Talk area at first, because I didn't feel like I had much to contribute and I was, frankly, a little scared.
But in my explorations of the boards I saw certain names that popped up in opportune places and some of those names soon became real people to me, and a few became trusted guides to me, even before they had any idea who I was.
Two of those posters were strong, gracious and charming women who I came to count on as a sure sign of friendly and thoughtful conversation. If they had not been involved in this particular forum, I don't know that I'd have gotten up my courage to come in and join this wonderful, wacky bunch.
So thank you, Miss Taken, and thank you, Petrel.


Oh, and for those of you who are new, let me slip in a little plug for lovely Petrel. Check out her graceful beauty here-->http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=84205

 

[Ebonyfire]

I realy do like you all..

I never have to agree with people all the time to hold them either next to my heart or in high esteem.

To those of you who I have pissed off...

Remember, I would defend you just as avidly if I thought you needed it!

Opinions are like butts, we all have one, let us give each other the courtesy of being ourselves!

Ebony

RS, congrats on all your good news!!

 

[morninggirl5]

Okay, here's my list of people that frequently give me those a-ha moments.


1. SpectreT - he so often expresses what's running through my mind. He makes me think and think and think some more. When the answer finally clicks about something, i can usually trace at least part of it back to something SpectreT has said.

2. MzChrista and Shadowsdream - both of these ladies make me really think. Their posts challenge me. Understanding doesn't come easily but the knowledge is purer because of the struggle.

3. Dr. Blue and monster - whenever i need a laugh, they always provide.

 

[MzChrista]

Oh wow. Yous gonna make me drop the hardass act and get mushy. I really figured most people thought I was a pain in the ass.
Thanks.
And Sandia, baby, dont worry, I wont do nothing to you that I dont know first aid for.

 

[lilredwolph]

. I really figured most people thought I was a pain in the ass.

we like spankings so why wouldn't we like you ?

 

[cellis]

I really hate this sort of thing because I am always afraid that I am going to hurt someone feelings.

There are a few people that have touched me in one way or another so here goes...

BlondGirl because I actually have met, talked with her on the phone and she is very much in real like like she is here. I love those qualities about her. She is beautiful and has a inner strength that just shines through.

Desdemona First of all I love her av! She has been there for me and offered her advise and encouragement and sometimes just her ear.

Dustygrrl She is a most wonderful person. I admire her ability to survive and overcome her past.

foxinsox She is wonderfully supportive and caring. She too have been there for me. It means a lot.

MissT because I wish I had her ability to make people laugh. She has a wonderful, witty mind. And she just says the best things.

Nessus because Madame is... Nessus.

There are others, in fact I could say that every person who has posted here has touched my life in someway.

 

[MzChrista]

One person who I take notice of every time she posts is Ebonyfire. She has a lot of style and she doesnt take any shit, but she is obviously a very nice person.

 

[artful]

Ever since RS posted this thread...

...I have thought and thought, about the best way to contribute to it. Being 59 years old on August 12 th this year,...having sufferred congestive heart failure in the distant past,(doctors not aware how long ago I had it), claudicated veins, etc. My fingers often do not clarify on the keyboard what my THOUGHTS truly are. My memory is way south of my ass,...and it ain't coming back.

I respect all peoples rights to post their opinions, without having to wonder if they are going to be singled out and attacked for their views. People who OFTEN jump to erroneous conclusions, and single out an individual to make scathing, caustic, abusive statements toward that person are WRONG,...period. I still respect them.
I know they have a RIGHT to do this, but it saddens me to see it happen.

From time to time,...we ALL make errant posts,...
sometimes, because the topic is not clearly presented,...sometimes it is, and we just misinterpret the information,...and sometimes we are just dead wrong. I have been guilty of all three, but I do my best to not let it happen OFTEN.

Although I am heterosexual by choice, I respect anyones right to freely post their opinion on any subject manner in this BDSM Forum that deals with R/L BDSM activities. I personally don't like "chat room" mentality threads describing FANTASY
INTERACTING.(bores the hell out of me)That's just my OPINION,...and none of the above is directed toward any ONE individual.

That being said,...there are simply too many friends to list by name. I don't know of ANY regular posters to this thread who I don't have HIGH respect for. Many of my friends do not post here because of initial treatment they have SEEN others receive. My hope is that we can continue to fulfill RisiaSkye's intention for this thread:

"So, here's what I propose. The next thread that you read, note a poster or two
who's posted to it before you. In other words, let's focus on more than the usual
suspects--close friends or an S.O.--in praising or appreciating someone's
qualities. Then, come here and list some things that you like about those people."

By keeping her words close to our hearts when we post,...no matter what the thread.

Sincerely,...I respect, appreciate, and love you all. In my opinion,...this is the *BEST* forum at
Lit.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Wow, Artful, I just wanted you to know that I think that's probably in my top ten favorites list of posts. Very well put. Thank you.

dixi

 

[Ebonyfire]

One person who I take notice of every time she posts is Ebonyfire. She has a lot of style and she doesnt take any shit, but she is obviously a very nice person.

Thank you. I appreciate it. I like the fact that you can take it as well as dish it out, as do many of the people here.

And yes, I have misinterpreted some posts here too. I still think the computer is a poor communicator, but I really try to read with understanding.

Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

Oh wow. Yous gonna make me drop the hardass act and get mushy. I really figured most people thought I was a pain in the ass.
Thanks.
And Sandia, baby, dont worry, I wont do nothing to you that I dont know first aid for.

Hardass, and no-nonsense is how I like ya!

Eb

 

[Sandia]

Cellis because she's sweet... and strong.
A difficult combination.

Ed. to add: "A difficult combination to maintain.

I admire people who are able to do it.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Writer Dom

I don't usually like him, but that's politics. He's as infuriating as p_p_man (who needs to have his posts edited into yellow) at times. This is GB spillover.

Whatever you say about the man, he's not stupid. He's very intelligent. He's usually reasonable (more reasonable than I am at any rate) and he's not the least bit timid about sticking his opinions out there. More importantly, and this is something ya just gotta respect, he's willing to stand by them in the face of concerted opposition.

He has lovely poetry as well.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Here I find a thread that I feel I will have to spend some time on to be complete. My words are given in random order and do not mean to put anyone before another.

Dr Blue...who's journey he shares with an innocent honesty with an open hand of acceptance to all who join in reality. He plays the fool to no one yet uses his humour to add rather than detract from the posts he values. With open eyed wonder he travels a journey of learning and never portrays a no it all attitude while at the same time he shares what he has learned. A shining star that lights up My eyes when I see his name on a post for even before i read it I know it will have much to say in one way or another.

cymbidia...who stands behind every word she types and yet knows when to say * i was a bit on edge today* her depth of knowledge is never held tightly against her chest in jealous possession as it is obviously her genuine need and joy to smooth the path for those who come after her into this world that means everything to her. For the time she takes to moderate and to participate in a forum that has become home to so many searching for reality..If I didn't know better I would have to say
* This woman has balls!*

artful...who has strong opinions which he stands behind word for word, never buckling his knee to popular opinion. His support of the forum is long standing and genuine as I feel his empathy and compassion as he also shows the sides of Himself that are both intellect and wonder. A man who knows who he is and where he is going without having the need to drag anyone into his journey. Supportive without ever being an ass kisser!

dusty...who's strength shines through even when she doesn't see it. who's honesty touches us all in places many of us never expected to look. she supports the community with her finger on the pulse of those she believes in.

to be continued...

 

[Shadowsdream]

continued...

KillerMuffin..who jumps in with an amazing amount of clarity and shows beyond a shadow of a doubt that she respects the lifestyle so many of us live and has put more into learning about it than many that actually live it have bothered to do. She stands like a sentinel behind the words she writes with compassionate intellect that also shows her gentle yet firm heart. I enjoy the intellect KillerMuffin brings to us and never miss an opportuntity to view her opinions.

Writer Dom...who is stubborn in a good way...intellectual in a human way...strong in his opinions and never backs down to public opinion but also has the amazing ability and strength to admit if He may have seen something through less than clear eyes. He is steadfast.

WillowPuss...~who is so sweet as she shares her journey into the reality of D/s as seen through her own eyes. her constant good will and support in this community we all share. With warm and sincere welcomes to the newbies she never fails to show her soft side or her desire to be helpful to anyone that may need guidance to information that she has found value in. Not one to keep her knowledge to herself WillowPuss has earned My respect.

Risia...so much empathy, honesty, integrity and a good sense of balance. In no way do I see Risia able to kiss ass (thank god) yet she has the strength to throw a punch and soften the blow at the same time. Quite a feat if I do say so Myself! A wonderful moderator and so obviously a friend that one could count on in times of heaven or hell.

to be continued....

 

[Shadowsdream]

continued...

CarolineOh...such an amazing woman who shows her beauty and sensitivity in every word she shares. Never waivering in her beliefs yet open to all of the knowledge around her. Sweet yet stubborn as she protects the truth as she sees it. A valuable member who has more of an interest in uplifting than confronting. Yet a tigress in the defense of those she believes in.

Ebony...such strength and commitment to her own reality. Not bowing to others nor following any path just because it leads somewhere. Her consistancy in Her own brand of Domination opens the gates to others who see BDSM as more than kink and sex but see the door that leads to service as well. I watch Her words with interest and have shared many a laugh with this wonderful woman of strong beliefs.

MissTaken...so vulnerable in her painstaken honesty that is displayed innocently and gently. I adore her soft silly banter as much as the serious pain and hope I see her share. A strong woman who seems to have been touched by the wings of angels is what I see in her words of integrity.

MotorcitySam...suchhhhhhhhhh class and intellect with not a sign of a pompuss ass anywhere to be seen. I see in Sam a sensitivity and love that has opened the door on a journey that he is ready to explore for so many of the right reasons. This man is no fool.

to be continued....

 

[DRxBlue]

Okay! DAMMIT! i'll talk...(don't mean to interrupt, Mistress)

Risia, i love you and i congratulate you very warmly on all your recent, well- deserved joys, but i HATE this ooey -gooey -mooshy -wooshy -gooshy kinda stuff!

i turn into a blob of Blue Goo and all my precise calculations become illegible.

Since i can never fully express my feelings about you, cym, Caroline, (with whom i "bundle" the heroic Sam) my "soul sistah" Ebony or a number of others i will no doubt be collecting as i surf daily, i will simply continue to heap my saccharin slobbering on each of you one day at a time.

This also goes for my fellow Knights, Spectre T and Monster 666. 'Twouldn't be manly to wax poetic on there admirable qualities. They might mist up when we need to be sharp, to blast the sadness with Lightning Laughter. (Monster can shoot lightning right outa the bolts on his NECK! He's so cool!)

Just for now, i would like to single out 3 of my newer friends, all of them from "across the pond". i reserve the right to continue and add to this list forever.

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Shadowsdream- She fascinated me from the first time i saw Her post. Her wisdom and experience were built upon a foundation of sensitivity, intelligence and caring which gave me the temerity to speak right up, though i have rarely felt so shy.

She welcomed me warmly and soon had me willing to leap through hoops for Her pleasure. <lol> i can understand now what cym means when she talks about "Freedom Through Submission".

i'm honored to have inspired Her comments about me in Her post. Thank you, Mistress.

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WillowPuss- i don't know how she did it, but she appeared suddenly in our midst, as a full grown tree. A solid, beautiful, comforting tree with deep roots and an adorable kitten up against it's trunk.

That kitten has a playful side, but it also has that aloof "wouldn't you like to know" quality cats can have. YES! Yes i WOULD like to know! So i asked her. She's so open and honest you think it must be a trick. If it is a trick, i'm fallin' for it. Every time.

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Skally- i barely know her yet, but she sure has made me laugh a LOT for a stranger. i'm not sure if it was the Eddie Izzard av that broke the ice, but something clicked right away.

We haven't had any adventures as yet, but i just have a feeling we will. i'm rarely wrong about these things.


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That's all for the moment. Many a tale left to tell. That's the worst thing about these things. It's spozed to be the "Feel Good Thread of the Summer", but two minutes after you finish your post, you think of someone you should have thought of right away. Then you feel AWFUL!

i'll be back as soon as i feel awful enough to compound my misery.

Risia, how COULD you?*pout*


<edited by my own grammar checker>

 

[SpectreT]

Right, then....

DRxBlue - The man is quick-witted, thoughtful, caring, and dear Lord, I'd better not be drinking when I read his posts. I think I've done more spit-takes than Danny Thomas because of this guy.

Todd-o-Vision - Intelligent, thoughtful, and persistent. When he lacks knowledge, he immediately seeks it, then assimilates his information. When I first noticed his posts, he was taking a lot of crap for being a fundamentalist Christian posting here, and his grace in the face of it amazed me. As does his biblical knowledge, and non-standard interpretations.

Besides, the guy's into Professional Wrestling. Gotta respect that.

MzChrista - A genuine person, with a unique outlook she's just about always got exactly the two-line post to kick a conversation back in gear, she's right in here ribbing and joking with the rest of us, and she's done it without pissing anyone off. (The butterfly board, though....)

Ebonyfire - Another original voice, whose views and angle are always.... well, hers. Always nice to read a different take on a situation. True learning comes from having as many views and opinions and facts as possible, and she brings plenty of all three here.

cymbidia - I frequently call her a Silly Orchid, but she's anything but silly most of the time. Her intelligence and insight are part of what drew me to the M thread so long ago; Her openness, while an asset, is also a vulnerability, as the recent troubles have shown. Fortunately, she's got the strength to weather any storm, as she's unfortunately had to demonstrate quite frequently, both in her personal and Lit life.

Miss Taken - we're friends in RL, thanks to this place, so I'll just say this: HI!

RisiaSkye - Rogue scholar, sharp of wit; in terms of personality, she's what I wanna be when I grow up. One of the many great folks here who not only put up with, but thrive on, my philosophical bullshit. And intellect and imagination to more than match my own. I just wonder if my own intellect and erudition would survive a face-to-face meeting with her.

anybody I haven't posted about, I'll have to get to after work.....

 

[Guest]

 

[RisiaSkye]

Thank you, all of you, for the wonderful feeling of warmth I just got from reading this thread's development in the last day. I am honored by your company and humbled by your kindness.

Today's additions:
artful is a man who has fought some very public battles in defense of himself and those for whom he cares, a thing which in and of itself could turn someone away from this place--particularly when such battles come early in one's time here. However, he's chosen to own up to his own failings, accept apologies and forgive the transgressions of others, and stick it out--to the benefit of us all. It takes a strong person, a stronger man (given our social conditioning), and a titanium-clad Dominant to seek guidance when one's honest expression is not finding acceptance despite all attempts to communicate. And I respect him very much for being strong enough to know that personal Power doesn't mean iron-fisted control, even of ourselves.

Also, I'm a better Moderator today because he called on me to use my head and conscience to alleviate a tough situation. The combination of clueing me in to the idea that people might actually want or need me to do such things, and his apparently absolute certainty that I would and could do a good job of negotiating peace have helped me to approach this place with the image of who I want to be firmly in mind. This is a tremendously valuable service to me as a person, and I thank him for that.

MissTaken has consistently been supportive, warm, compassionate, quick to join the spirit of those she's posting with, and adaptable to all kinds of conversational styles and people. In the time since she arrived here, I've had the opportunity to see her come into her own as a woman of self-assurance, one reconciled with her own desires, and sometimes nearly bursting with emerging feelings of excitement about what the future will bring. Her refusal to take the easy way out is right there in her name, and she wears its duality well--as a laughing acceptance of human foibles and a passionate pursuit of a real and lasting bond with One who will help her as she continues on her path.

Ebonyfire is the unsung lady of laughter around here. Well before the admittedly fabulous MzChrista arrived, Ebony was in there causing my spit-takes with her bantering style of accepting all, her great one-liners, a repertoire of ways to say "don't take yourselves so freakin' seriously" without hurting anyone, and an ongoing compilation of closing descriptions of herself that always ring true. (I think my favorite is still: Ebonyfire <who's laughing her ass off>) She's also experienced, willing to share, and one of the most legitimately accepting members of this whole crew; She manages the tricky task of embracing that everyone's going to have their own opinions while still standing firmly behind her own. She's a woman I'd really like to meet for a cup of coffee and a conversation. I have no idea what we'd talk about exactly, but I feel sure it would be well worth the trip.

DRxBlue is actually one of the toughest for me, although he's just as wonderful as several have already suggested, because I feel such a unique bond to him. He has both privately and publicly credited me with introducing him to this whole thing, the idea that BDSM meant something more than whips and chains and scary weirdos. Our first exchange was a disagreement about the organization Mensa on the GB, and despite our conflict of opinion, I found tremendous respect for his willingness to recognize his own areas of ignorance, clarify his intent, and still defend what he knows to be true. He's been there in my reality ever since, sharing bits and pieces of his experiences and allowing me a chance to do the same--for two people who live solidly entrenched behind defensive barriers in our real lives, that's quite a feat indeed.

While I *still* think he gives me far too much credit for my strengths and the role I played in his reawakened interest in human contact, I have been in touch with him since the very day he found this forum, so I've gotten the chance to watch him revel in the ecstatic realization that he's not broken inside, just missing something he hadn't found a way to define. His stubborn insistence on treating me like a mentor not only makes me want to live up to the version of myself that he seems to see, it gives me a beautifully exquisite chance to be a party to the paradigmatic shift of a man in the middle of his life finally finding a path he wants to follow, a path that just might have love and romance to offer along the way.

That's all for today. MasterMe's birthday was a wonderful (if exhausting) complete sensory overload, far too much to process all at once. I'll have to review it in small bites to savor all its richness. Eventually, I'll find the words to express what I feel for him (as he lives here in spirit and awareness, if not in deed) and the finally-in-the-flesh cymbidia. Maybe.

 

[lovetoread]

I hate list threads..I really do.

If you dont post a million times or have a wonderful online personality,no one names ya and you feel kind of crappy.

Just so's yall know..

If I have spoken to ya,I like ya.

But if we must name names to be in this thread...

WD is the reason I came over here.