gsmith2011
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I think you fall in love more with the idea of that person rather then the real individual.
Can you fall in love with someone online?
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SweetSam42
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I still say it's a lot of fantasy. I don't doubt those who say they have found it online, but I think it would just be fantasy for me.
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Ultimately if you can't let your mind go with it, then you won't. No one can make you feel against your wishes. But still I know that there are close friendships that blossom online, and whatever you find, whatever you're looking for, as long as you both are on the same page with the end result, then that's what matters.
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yes
most definitely. the kind of love that is different than a physical one where you get to touch the other. The kind of love that is unique, in so many ways. The kind of love that is so intense at times, it hurts. The kind of love that you want so bad, but can't...........................yet
most definitely. the kind of love that is different than a physical one where you get to touch the other. The kind of love that is unique, in so many ways. The kind of love that is so intense at times, it hurts. The kind of love that you want so bad, but can't...........................yet
Girly_girl
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I truly believe this.... Recently happened to me,felt a connection the first time we talked but I didn't say anything.Started chatting again a few days later and he said that he didn't want to scare me but he was falling for me.It was then that I told him I felt it too.We continued to chat pretty much every night for the next 2 weeks,fell head over heels for this guy and from what I could see he did the same.Havent heard from him in over a week.I know it's online and living up to expectations and everything.Tell me you changed your mind,or you didn't mean what you said...I can take it
Cute3Kitty
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I would have to agree with that. It is a lot of fantasy in my opinion too. The problem with an online persona is that you can portray yourself as anything...hide the little things about yourself that only can be found when you meet the individual for real. Although it is very much possible to fall in love with someone online but it would be falling in love with the part of the person they have presented to you online. To really fall in love you would have to know them much more closely.
sensualsharon
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It totally is, it's happened to me twice. Sadly, for them it didn't.
WhiteManFux
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What a great charm to consider from someone who evidently seems to give some pretty great thread! It's definitely possible. I don't think there is one right place to find this. I just think it is sort of a challenge and would take the patient persistence of both partners. You're only getting perhaps a piece of that person. Not the entire daily individual interactions. It is easy to become attached quickly too. Especially if you're the kind of person who has a hard time initiating contact at first. You may be more intense with it as a result. I think it may be easier to find someone you genuinely care about more than a lifelong soul mate.
DominateMePleas
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Yes, it's possible to fall in love with someone you've never met, someone you've only known virtually...
WhiteManFux
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Absolutely. Sometimes, people are more real online than they are IRL. Sometimes, not. So, when you find a person who is real and you bond with them, you can fall in love.
You're not getting a complete picture though. Only, the selective one that they want you to see. From a specific point in the day. You are not interacting or living with them during those daily moments which are not always good. Many moments you may have online with someone are only during a fun or positive moment.
I am not saying it is impossible. It's just really, really rare I think. Even when you may think it is there could be discovered as all wrong later on.
I am not talking about caring. You can care about lots of people. This is not the same as romantic and true love.
SassySheDevil
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I fell in love with my husband before I lived with him. I loved him long before I knew he didn't always put the toilet seat down, or had horrible aim with his clothes in the laundry basket. If you care about someone or love someone online, they see the good and bad in you. You fight and argue, you make up etc. You just don't get the awesome make up sex right away.
SweetSam42
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I'd say this is my stance too.
And hey! Love that my thread was resurrected. I love this discussion.
I fell very very hard for someone I met online. It was so intense. We have met up a few times in real life. It only got stronger and stronger after several years. We've gotten to know each other so intimately, far more than any guy I ever met in person.
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I fell in love with my husband before I lived with him. I loved him long before I knew he didn't always put the toilet seat down, or had horrible aim with his clothes in the laundry basket. If you care about someone or love someone online, they see the good and bad in you. You fight and argue, you make up etc. You just don't get the awesome make up sex right away.
I agree with you. There is a connection that happens online that sometimes doesn't in real life. When you actually start to know someone online, that connection is due to actual communication between each other. The physical attraction is not always there as much as if you were face to face.
The feelings might not be as fast to surface when online but they do happen. And at some point, they can go either way, get stronger or end up hurting one or both in the end.
I've seen Sassy naked and she's beautiful. But I also know a lot about her. Parts of what makes her tick. Guess what, she's even more beautiful for knowing that side of her. Are them feelings not real?
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Bookishleigh
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It happened to me once . . . Then I just wiped it off the bottom of my shoe on a curb.
Oh wait, that might have been gum.
Oh wait, that might have been gum.
WhiteManFux
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I fell in love with my husband before I lived with him. I loved him long before I knew he didn't always put the toilet seat down, or had horrible aim with his clothes in the laundry basket. If you care about someone or love someone online, they see the good and bad in you. You fight and argue, you make up etc. You just don't get the awesome make up sex right away.
I have found multiple individuals online. Just not that special one.
Your story is a perfect example. One that gives hope that it is possible to find that special person in this cyber world of ours. Not to mention in general.
WhiteManFux
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I'd say this is my stance too.
And hey! Love that my thread was resurrected. I love this discussion.
I've seen your stance quite a few times over in your thread and it happens to be a sexy one.
It is a thread which makes one think. Have a little bit of thinking and a whole lot of fux. Not a bad way to spend your day.
Computers have really changed our lives. They give us so many different possibilities. They also take so much away.
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Dammit Fermina...I was in a serious mood. Then I read this and couldn't contain my giggles
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I don't know if it is possible to fall in love with someone completely online but now I know that is very much possible to develop feelings for someone especially when you talk to them everyday from morning to evening. Happened to me twice and the results ultimately were not good. I guess its a matter of luck...sometimes you can find that special person and click with someone online easily and other times you live in an illusion of having something special. The only issue is that when the illusion disappears you're left empty.
WhiteManFux
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You're exactly right in my opinion. You may develop feelings easily and quickly because that other person provides parts of you missing. You're just left with that challenge of getting the whole.
This worldwide medium tends to warrant extended conversation. A local one suggests simple familiarity.
Blending the both could be bliss.
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iamshaun
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Very thought provoking.
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Bookishleigh
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I had to throw in "my kind" of perspective
But sheesh, if I MUST be serious...I don't know, yes given the amount of people who say it's happened to them, my own personal feelings, the thriving communities of people looking for love online. Perhaps if the people involved are being honest and open with each other, the bond that has formed is real and not just some imaginary thing that happens only when connected on the screen. Like others have said, if you can add in phone conversations, video, etc that does help. But until you can really be together, you never 110% know. I mean many of us have seen Catfish. But there are no guarantees in life anyway.
And once you find love, how does one make love stay? (Sorry, just wanted to be able to throw in some Tom Robbins here because that was just WAY too much seriousness coming from ME.)
"1. Tell love you are going to Junior's Deli on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn to pick up a cheesecake, and if loves stays, it can have half. It will stay."
-Still Life With Woodpecker
