Collars

[the captians wench]

I have a few collars *giggles*. The first one and the one I wear most often is just a simple black leather collar with no adornments and a d ring in the front where it buckles. I have a little purple heart shaped tag on it that says "if found please return to Ireland" *giggles*, that part was totally my idea, but He seems to love it as most who see that tag do. This orininal tag mimiked my sig line and said "slut property of Jounar", which we both love, but it's just not apropriate for out side wear, and I wear my collar every where. I had to get something different for work, and so I have one that I made that's just a heart clasp thing attached to some wide/thick black elastic. and I have 2 more chokers, one purple satin and one black velvet, that I also wear for work. Then when I'm feeling just a tad silly and cutesy, I have a pink leather collar with heart studs on it and a little heart charm hanging from the d ring. My collars make me feel closer to him some how. I feel like he's watching over me, protecting me almost, and it's deffinitly a constant reminder of him and what he means to me. I rush home from work to be able to put on the leather black one, and it's hard for me to take it off and change it when I get ready for work. I remember the conversation before I put it on for the first time. "my slut doesn't need any clothing other than her collar"...."but I don't have a collar"...."go get one" *giggles* and until he can place one around my neck himself, I'll keep this one. even tho it's getting very worn it's my favorite and I just can't bring myself to replace it.

 

[BiBunny]

. Well, and I do have this whole fantasy thing of my Dom looping a finger in the ring of my collar and pulling me to him for a kiss. But I digress...

Oh, yes, that's hot indeed. I love when Master does this to me.

ETA: My own collar is just a very basic black leather with three D rings. Here's a picture, even though it's hard to tell much about the collar.

 

[Etoile]

I have a couple of collars. The one from my Daddy is a standard posture collar, well-padded, with a single D-ring directly attached for hooking things onto. I don't get to wear it as much as I'd like; usually when I do it's not outside the house. But I think I will ask to wear it whenever I am with em. It looks like this but without the extra ring hanging down, and it was custom-fitted. The one from my wife is pretty, it is this exact one but in black. I mostly only wear it to leather events to keep people from bothering me...especially if my wife is not there, but even if she is I still wear it.

I also have daily reminders. My wife gave me this necklace and the only time I take it off is when she's helping dye my hair. My Daddy gave me some diamond earrings and I wear those pretty much all the time, but I took them out a couple of weeks ago for cleaning and I haven't put them back in yet.

 

[DomRick]

I am not normally a 'gatherer' of things and it took a mutual understanding with my current sub before initially a play collar was introduced. Velvet with a silver D ring, she would wear it when we were together. I do use the D ring often to bring her to me, pull her away, or lead in different directions. I've never used a leash with it, nor do I have the immediate desire. In our times apart, she asked for something for everyday wear to show her devotion so I got her a simple silver braided necklace that she wears 24/7. When she moved in with me last year, I had a custom made thin leather collar with almost a micro O ring in the center that she wears in public for special occasions. Her final collar is a plastic, or pleather, one that she will sometimes wear in the pool since the other two aren't appropriate. She wants them, I like them, we're both happy. Be well.

 

[shy slave]

Collar pics

 

[serijules]

I have always been a symbolic creature, although I don't take them lightly. I love collars but I'm very picky about what I think is attractive and appropriate.

My first collar from Dawnie is still my favourite; a simple burgundy leather dog collar with a brass plate that reads "garnet, property of Dawnie". I don't wear it a whole lot anymore, but it's very very comforting when I do. I wear it on my ankle sometimes.

I also have a "dress" collar of burgundy velvet and buckles. I've only worn that once I think, but it's pretty to look at. It doesn't have as much personal association with it though, it's more so a decoration.

My first everyday collar was a Tiffany-inspired chain toggle with a heart tag that read garnet...that is now hanging from my Owners mirror in her car as my skin started reacting to the non-silver elements and I could no longer wear it.

When I am with her in person, I am locked into the steel slave collar in my AV.

This past weekend she put me into my new everyday collar, which is similar to that last photo shy posted, although it is patterned silver. Someone else on this site has one similar in their AV as well. It screws down with alien screws. I never remove it. I even had to be searched at the airport as I refused to remove it, heh. Never mind that I COULDN'T...I didn't have the wrench with me.

We don't "need" the collars in our relationship and I think that if the distance wasn't there, they wouldn't be quite as necessary for us as they are now, but wearing one very much helps me feel my place and keep my focus intact, so the need for them is a moot point, the desire and positive feelings associated with one are special for us.

 

[Etoile]

Oh my, that's an excellent point about the permanent collar at the airport! People ask that question in my corsetry group all the time - can I wear it, should I put it in carry-on, should I check it - but I never thought about it with collars.

 

[serijules]

Oh my, that's an excellent point about the permanent collar at the airport! People ask that question in my corsetry group all the time - can I wear it, should I put it in carry-on, should I check it - but I never thought about it with collars.

Well it wasn't purely on purpose, really...I didn't want to have to remove it unless I had no choice and I did intend to take the wrench with me just in case but forgot. I didn't think it would be a problem at all though because this collar is not much different weight-size wise from my old one, and I never had to remove that one and didn't have to on the way down, so...I'm not sure why they told me to remove this one, if it was just the people that were working or if it is different enough it set off the detectors where the other one didn't or...what.

The people were very annoyed when I said I couldnt' remove it and told me I would have to step aside and be wanded. I said that was just fine, stayed calm, didn't argue with them or get defensive (despite being very late for my plane lol). The lady calmed down when I didn't get all pissy or react and it went quick and easy.

I wouldn't suggest not bringing a means or having a means to remove the collar as every security person will have a different attitude on handling it, but staying calm and cooperative definatly helps.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am currently on my second collar, the first I had allergic reactions too so it is stared away. I have never had a collar from anyone else simply because I didn´t want to feel like I was collecting something which for me should hold more meaning than that. The one I have now is plain black leather, about an inch wide and double thickness and buckle at the back of the neck. Due to recent heatwaves and the reactions it causes during that, it is not currently on, and we are looking at finding an alternative collar to replace this one which will hopefully not create any problems. Whatever it turns out to be, it will likely be just as simple and basic as the other 2 have been. It is symbolic, though not necessary for us to remember what we are about (sort of like a wedding ring is symbolic but does not have to be worn to mean the union is important and real)...regardless, it holds importance for that reason and gives him pleasure to see me wearing it everyday.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Well it wasn't purely on purpose, really...I didn't want to have to remove it unless I had no choice and I did intend to take the wrench with me just in case but forgot. I didn't think it would be a problem at all though because this collar is not much different weight-size wise from my old one, and I never had to remove that one and didn't have to on the way down, so...I'm not sure why they told me to remove this one, if it was just the people that were working or if it is different enough it set off the detectors where the other one didn't or...what.

The people were very annoyed when I said I couldnt' remove it and told me I would have to step aside and be wanded. I said that was just fine, stayed calm, didn't argue with them or get defensive (despite being very late for my plane lol). The lady calmed down when I didn't get all pissy or react and it went quick and easy.

I wouldn't suggest not bringing a means or having a means to remove the collar as every security person will have a different attitude on handling it, but staying calm and cooperative definatly helps.

Interestingly, I had to remove my leather one last November when I was coming back from Oz. It was passed through the screening and not given to me until I had passed through and left the security check area.

Catalina

 

[serijules]

Interestingly, I had to remove my leather one last November when I was coming back from Oz. It was passed through the screening and not given to me until I had passed through and left the security check area.

Catalina

I find it rather weird that it's so inconsitant...sometimes I have to remove EVERYTHING including my bracelets, watch, even my earrings sometimes....and other times they don't even ask me to remove my collar, which has always been rather thicker than any normal necklace and more solid. Go figure...I try to just assume they will make me remove it and go prepared, if I remember. I'm so used to wearing it 24/7 I rarely think about it anymore.

 

[Etoile]

I find it rather weird that it's so inconsitant...sometimes I have to remove EVERYTHING including my bracelets, watch, even my earrings sometimes....and other times they don't even ask me to remove my collar, which has always been rather thicker than any normal necklace and more solid. Go figure...I try to just assume they will make me remove it and go prepared, if I remember. I'm so used to wearing it 24/7 I rarely think about it anymore.

I would be very upset if they asked me to remove my earrings, not because Daddy gave them to me, but because I'd miss my flight! They are all screw-back post earrings, and it takes at LEAST 10 minutes to take them all off...and another 10 to put them back on...and I have to be careful not to lose any of them, there are 12 tiny pieces...ack!

 

[CutieMouse]

Oh my, that's an excellent point about the permanent collar at the airport! People ask that question in my corsetry group all the time - can I wear it, should I put it in carry-on, should I check it - but I never thought about it with collars.

[hijack]

Etoile- what does one do about flying and tightlacing? At this point, I just skip wearing it when I fly out to see the kids, because tightlacing while chasing 5 children feels like it would kill me, but it looks like I'm flying out to California for a visit with Friends in April, and at *some* point I hope to be going back east to visit another Friend... I won't skip lacing for those trips, but I have visions of having to explain a 28 steel bone corset to security people, and just... ugh.

[/hijack]

 

[Etoile]

Etoile- what does one do about flying and tightlacing? At this point, I just skip wearing it when I fly out to see the kids, because tightlacing while chasing 5 children feels like it would kill me, but it looks like I'm flying out to California for a visit with Friends in April, and at *some* point I hope to be going back east to visit another Friend... I won't skip lacing for those trips, but I have visions of having to explain a 28 steel bone corset to security people, and just... ugh.

I think the first tip is: don't lift up your shirt! Because a corset goes around your waist, and so does a bomb belt, lifting your shirt unprompted will probably make them skittish.

If you're not going to take it off to go through security (and I can understand why you wouldn't), I think the best thing to do is go through the metal detector with everybody else. You'll set it off, of course, but people with pins in their joints, plates in their heads, etc. do so all the time. You'll get passed off to the person with the wand, and they're the one you should tell about the corset. There's no point mentioning it to the person operating the conveyor belt or the person watching the metal detector - save it for the person with a wand. You might want to ask for a female, and just be perfectly honest: "I'm wearing a corset, and I'd prefer not to take it off; if you have a security room I'd be happy to show it to you."

LISA has some funny metal detector stories here but they are all pre-9/11.

 

[LadyAria]

I think the first tip is: don't lift up your shirt! Because a corset goes around your waist, and so does a bomb belt, lifting your shirt unprompted will probably make them skittish.

If you're not going to take it off to go through security (and I can understand why you wouldn't), I think the best thing to do is go through the metal detector with everybody else. You'll set it off, of course, but people with pins in their joints, plates in their heads, etc. do so all the time. You'll get passed off to the person with the wand, and they're the one you should tell about the corset. There's no point mentioning it to the person operating the conveyor belt or the person watching the metal detector - save it for the person with a wand. You might want to ask for a female, and just be perfectly honest: "I'm wearing a corset, and I'd prefer not to take it off; if you have a security room I'd be happy to show it to you."

LISA has some funny metal detector stories here but they are all pre-9/11.

I actually met a man this past week who tight laced. He had a 19 inch waist (and he was not a small guy). I was really surprised. He wears it all the time. Very into victorian denial. New member of the community. My mind immediately thought of you when I was talking to him. I'm honestly a little jealous and really thinking about trying in the future.

 

[Etoile]

I actually met a man this past week who tight laced. He had a 19 inch waist (and he was not a small guy). I was really surprised. He wears it all the time. Very into victorian denial. New member of the community. My mind immediately thought of you when I was talking to him. I'm honestly a little jealous and really thinking about trying in the future.

I think men who tightlace have a much stronger constitution than women who do it! We have nature on our side, but men are fighting the natural shape of their bodies. Check out this guy - link 1, link 2 - he is the person behind C&S Constructions (they make expensive high-quality corsets) and he has a very impressive waist for a man!

Tightlacing is really delightful, I used to peek at myself in the bathroom mirror every day at work when I was doing it full-time, just because I was so excited by it! If you think you want to try it, start with an off-the-rack and wear it a few times before taking the plunge and going custom for daily wear.

And to keep it on the topic here is a very interesting collar being worn by a woman with an amazing corset on:
http://www.candsconstructions.com/images/C&Ssa2.jpg

 

[LadyAria]

I think men who tightlace have a much stronger constitution than women who do it! We have nature on our side, but men are fighting the natural shape of their bodies. Check out this guy - link 1, link 2 - he is the person behind C&S Constructions (they make expensive high-quality corsets) and he has a very impressive waist for a man!

Tightlacing is really delightful, I used to peek at myself in the bathroom mirror every day at work when I was doing it full-time, just because I was so excited by it! If you think you want to try it, start with an off-the-rack and wear it a few times before taking the plunge and going custom for daily wear.

And to keep it on the topic here is a very interesting collar being worn by a woman with an amazing corset on:
http://www.candsconstructions.com/images/C&Ssa2.jpg

Those pictures are fantastic. Yes, I have never seen a waist like his before and it was impressive to say the least. He was naturally slender and tall. The wasp waist just made him look so elegant.

I'm going to read up on it. Something he defiantly took from a mild interest to a desire for the future.

Yes, and her collar is beatiful to get back on topic.

 

[Marquis]

I have lots of collars, for different scenes.

My little one used to wear a plain bead choker as a collar she could wear in public, but we find it to be bad luck so she no longer wears it for now.

 

[satin_coals]

I am currently on my second collar, the first I had allergic reactions too so it is stared away. I have never had a collar from anyone else simply because I didn´t want to feel like I was collecting something which for me should hold more meaning than that. The one I have now is plain black leather, about an inch wide and double thickness and buckle at the back of the neck. Due to recent heatwaves and the reactions it causes during that, it is not currently on, and we are looking at finding an alternative collar to replace this one which will hopefully not create any problems. Whatever it turns out to be, it will likely be just as simple and basic as the other 2 have been. It is symbolic, though not necessary for us to remember what we are about (sort of like a wedding ring is symbolic but does not have to be worn to mean the union is important and real)...regardless, it holds importance for that reason and gives him pleasure to see me wearing it everyday.

Catalina

You have a point there Cat about the pleasure from the other party when seeing the collar worn; sometimes I think He likes seeing it on me more than I enjoy wearing it, teehee.

LISA has some funny metal detector stories here but they are all pre-9/11.

When I recently visted the UK I was stopped coming into Heathrow airport because of my old collar. I wore it on the flight mainly because I was on my own for the entire 18 hour trip (the partner flew in a few days later) and it helped me to feel a little more secure because I was feeling a little lonely, hehe. I didn't even think about it as I went through security because I was wearing a high neck jumper and I forgot it was there. The metal detector went *meep meep meep!* and a hoard of people with senors came flocking towards me.

It took about 10 minutes for me to empty *all* my pockets, take off my rings, braclets, earrings, and my belt for christs sakes before I *finally* realised my collar. I kind of leaned into the nearest guard and whispered, "It's the .. uhhh .. collar around my neck .. it has a .. uhh .. metal d-ring and buckle" and felt myself going red. I swear the stupid ass heard me .. I saw the recognition on his face, but he still asked me to repeat myself and remove my jumper. I just looked at him, and then pulled down the neck of my jumper so he could see. The asshole just grinned, had a good look, and waved me through .. still smirking. I swear I would have hit him but I wasn't really in the mood for a full-body cavity search and interegations that day .. I had already had enough I just wanted to get the hell out of that airport and into a comfortable hotel bed.

This was after 9-11 and the London bombings too, so I would have thought the hardcore security was because of that if the dickhead guard hadn't just done it to be an ass. I lost my collar on that trip too *sob* but we found a beautiful one in Berlin in this crazy adult leather store.

 

[callinectes]

This isn't a collar per se, but I thought it was so pretty. It also cracks me up that I found it on the J. Peterman website. I haven't been able to look at that catalog with a straight face since Seinfeld.

 

[satin_coals]

This isn't a collar per se, but I thought it was so pretty. It also cracks me up that I found it on the J. Peterman website. I haven't been able to look at that catalog with a straight face since Seinfeld.

ooo .. I like that one .. that would be nice to wear as a dress 'collar' when going out somewhere nice

 

[lil_squirter]

I must agree with others about accepting a collar being a true sign of commitment. Being that I've worked in environments that would not allow for the more obvious collars to be worn the Dom I was with and I catered to my own personal fetish and chose chokers for me outside the home and more substantial collars inside it.

I adore chokers and have some twenty odd different ones I would wear alternating them as need be for occasion, fashion, mood. They were a constant but not one that was overly hard to pass off in a business environment.

The third one is missing it's center stone but I have a few I bought to fit it, it's still pretty.

A couple of my chokers.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*smiles*

Finally found a pic of the collar I made for my first slave. When we added a second and became a poly family, I made a duplicate. The silver mesh bows up when the collar is laid out flat, and pulls flush against the leather when the collar is worn around the neck.

Since that time I have always handmade at least one collar for the girl who is mine. Other than those first two, each has been unique.

 

[Marquis]

*smiles*

Finally found a pic of the collar I made for my first slave. When we added a second and became a poly family, I made a duplicate. The silver mesh bows up when the collar is laid out flat, and pulls flush against the leather when the collar is worn around the neck.

Since that time I have always handmade at least one collar for the girl who is mine. Other than those first two, each has been unique.

Very fucking nice.

 

[callinectes]

*smiles*

Finally found a pic of the collar I made for my first slave. When we added a second and became a poly family, I made a duplicate. The silver mesh bows up when the collar is laid out flat, and pulls flush against the leather when the collar is worn around the neck.

Since that time I have always handmade at least one collar for the girl who is mine. Other than those first two, each has been unique.

Not only is the collar beautiful..so is the thoughtfulness of hand making a unique collar for each girl you have had. Very nice.