Dating Sucks!

[SailorJerry]

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[LadyVer]

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[BiBunny]

Messages you get as a bi poly person on dating websites. [Please note that I specifically say that I'm not interested in couples or married people whose spouses aren't cool with it.]:

1.) "Do you like men who are married?" (from a guy who went on and on in his profile about being unhappy in his marriage, blah, blah, blah--clearly cheating).

Yes, please sign me up for yet another drama-filled roller-coaster ride because some dumb motherfucker wants to fuck other girls and doesn't have the balls to tell his wife who will invariably go full-on crazy bitch when she finds out, even if I legit didn't know she wasn't aware of it. I would just fucking love that shit.

2.) "Are you interested in couples?"

WHAT THE FUCK DID I JUST SAY?!?!?!?!

Why do I even bother? Seriously?

 

[Loverskitten]

Being stood up is a real blow to the ego *pout*

 

[SailorJerry]

Being stood up is a real blow to the ego *pout*

I'm surprised that YOU would be stood up. Likely a case of male insecurity - You didn't want that one anyways. Consider yourself lucky that you didn't have to waste an hour (or more) is his crappy, non-committal, undependable, worthless company.

 

[Loverskitten]

I'm surprised that YOU would be stood up. Likely a case of male insecurity - You didn't want that one anyways. Consider yourself lucky that you didn't have to waste an hour (or more) is his crappy, non-committal, undependable, worthless company.

Thank you
It has happened a few times. I suppose it's part of the fun of Internet dating. I just don't see why one would take it far enough to where we (I apairently) set aside a day and then nothing.
I'm doing my best "water off a ducks back" but it still doesn't feel good.

 

[SailorJerry]

Thank you
It has happened a few times. I suppose it's part of the fun of Internet dating. I just don't see why one would take it far enough to where we (I apairently) set aside a day and then nothing.
I'm doing my best "water off a ducks back" but it still doesn't feel good.

Some of my lady friends complain about the same thing - one has a good theory (or two):

1) there are men out there in love-less marriages, who just want attention. Someone to listen to them, etc.. . and being online - even in the dating world - fills that void. But actually meeting: nope - not gonna happen.

(lesson: Meet RIGHT AWAY - it's face-to-face chemistry that matters anyways)

2) um...... I'm sure there was a second theory, but ..... I was onto my 4th Guinness by then. it was probably important.

but hey, Fuck 'em. they're missing out.

 

[Loverskitten]

This was lovely. "Hi I'm a dickhead!"


Jerk 4/13/2013 12:26:56 AM
Kitten snuggler? Pass!


Me 4/13/2013 12:31:31 AM
I'm curious, why waste time sending me that message?

Jerk 4/13/2013 12:41:47 AM
Well... it wasn't a waste of time, I'm amusing myself. I just find that people who absolutely love cats are rather strange.


Jerk 4/13/2013 12:43:09 AM
Am I wrong? LOL


Jerk 4/13/2013 12:45:04 AM
If you wanted to get into my deeper psychological reasons I'm sure you could, but I'm about ready to go to sleep. Good night.

Me 4/13/2013 12:48:26 AM
No thanks. Night

Jerk 4/13/2013 12:51:06 AM
Sorry. Good night. I will contact you in the future. LOL, just kidding.


In light of recent stand ups and general suckage I think I need a break from the Internet dating. Maybe that'll give me time to move to Canada and stalk SailorJerry
Also-

 

[LadyVer]

This was lovely. "Hi I'm a dickhead!"


Jerk 4/13/2013 12:26:56 AM
Kitten snuggler? Pass!


Me 4/13/2013 12:31:31 AM
I'm curious, why waste time sending me that message?

Jerk 4/13/2013 12:41:47 AM
Well... it wasn't a waste of time, I'm amusing myself. I just find that people who absolutely love cats are rather strange.


Jerk 4/13/2013 12:43:09 AM
Am I wrong? LOL


Jerk 4/13/2013 12:45:04 AM
If you wanted to get into my deeper psychological reasons I'm sure you could, but I'm about ready to go to sleep. Good night.

Me 4/13/2013 12:48:26 AM
No thanks. Night

Jerk 4/13/2013 12:51:06 AM
Sorry. Good night. I will contact you in the future. LOL, just kidding.


In light of recent stand ups and general suckage I think I need a break from the Internet dating. Maybe that'll give me time to move to Canada and stalk SailorJerry
Also-

Sounds like it's a good thing you didn't meet him...

 

[Loverskitten]

Sounds like it's a good thing you didn't meet him...

Oh this isn't the same guy who stood me up. Just a random

 

[sweepthefloor]

I am getting bored. This man keeps messaging me, addressing me as 'sensual one' and I am not fucking sensual at all. It's disgusting.

 

[SailorJerry]

In light of recent stand ups and general suckage I think I need a break from the Internet dating. Maybe that'll give me time to move to Canada and stalk SailorJerry

Ha! I should be so lucky. Too bad I'm allergic to cats.

This past week I had a nice date over after work drinks. She was pretty close to exactly what I'm looking for, and I was attracted to her intellectually, emotionally, and physically. It turns out that we used to hang out a bit 20 years ago, and I had a crush on her back then too. Unfortunately, she didn't feel the same chemistry. . We did agree to hang out again, but only as friends. That might be tough...

 

[Loverskitten]

Ha! I should be so lucky. Too bad I'm allergic to cats.

This past week I had a nice date over after work drinks. She was pretty close to exactly what I'm looking for, and I was attracted to her intellectually, emotionally, and physically. It turns out that we used to hang out a bit 20 years ago, and I had a crush on her back then too. Unfortunately, she didn't feel the same chemistry. . We did agree to hang out again, but only as friends. That might be tough...

Aww sorry on both counts.

 

[babyjane20011]

hello all

Yep, this is online dating
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A-FAb58XRC8&feature=youtube_gdata_player

This is for all of you,
If you saw a woman confined to a wheelchair, and she is articulate. Would you ask her out?

nancy

 

[Loverskitten]

This is for all of you,
If you saw a woman confined to a wheelchair, and she is articulate. Would you ask her out?

nancy

Well I'm a woman, so no. I'm sure dating is difficult, even more difficult than it already is. I'm sorry.
I do think this question would warrant it's own thread. I'd be interested in responses. I know there was another member in a wheelchair complaining about lack of porn she could relate to. It was a while ago though.
It has got me thinking about if I would date a man in a wheelchair. I don't know. I think it depends on the man. A strong, independent man... yes.

I'd love to see you start a thread about this for more responses, Nancy.
In my ignorance, I had to look up "paraplegic erections"

 

[Loverskitten]

Hmmm, lol


Him $-
Hi.....Want a sugar daddy?

Me-
Yes! Lol

Him $-
I will give u cash, shopping and vacations for sex


Me-
Ok cash and shopping first

Him $-
Of course baby

Lol! Sadly he probably wouldn't be turned on when my shopping spree happens at Home Depot.

 

[SailorJerry]

This is for all of you,
If you saw a woman confined to a wheelchair, and she is articulate. Would you ask her out?

nancy

Unfortunately, the honest answer is that I would not. But I also wouldn't date able-bodied women either, who couldn't/wouldn't match my active lifestyle.

However, I do routinely send emails online, providing compliments and just saying a friendly hello, to women who I find interesting, witty, and articulate, regardless of whether I'm interested in dating them.

Yes, this answer sucks. Sorry.

 

[babyjane20011]

your reply

Well I'm a woman, so no. I'm sure dating is difficult, even more difficult than it already is. I'm sorry.
I do think this question would warrant it's own thread. I'd be interested in responses. I know there was another member in a wheelchair complaining about lack of porn she could relate to. It was a while ago though.
It has got me thinking about if I would date a man in a wheelchair. I don't know. I think it depends on the man. A strong, independent man... yes.

I'd love to see you start a thread about this for more responses, Nancy.
In my ignorance, I had to look up "paraplegic erections"

First of all,
thank you for responding kitten. Your willing to listen and talk about this subject is a
good thing. I'm bi so I am somewhat suprised that more women do want give their imput.

 

[Croi_Leoin]

I love finding out that the guy I've been fooling around with has a girlfriend...

That's always a blast.

 

[Ropebunny]

This is for all of you,
If you saw a woman confined to a wheelchair, and she is articulate. Would you ask her out?

nancy

I find articulate very attractive, so quite possibly yes.

 

[marieR19]

This is for all of you,
If you saw a woman confined to a wheelchair, and she is articulate. Would you ask her out?

nancy

If we had things in common, and there was some sort of chemistry, sure.


Dating/relationship/lack-thereof rant:

Yesterday I saw a woman I haven't seen in, oh, maybe 7 years. We were teenagers back then and went to group therapy together. She remembered me, I struggled to place where I knew her from, she had fun teasing me about not remembering... And then BAM. When I remembered.... oh wow. I used to have a SERIOUS crush on her. Like, dreamed about her constantly type of crush. According to her (said with amusement) she was the only one I'd actually talk to there (true). And now I find out that she lives in the apartment upstairs? She mentioned a few exes that I knew back then, but she didn't mention if she was seeing anyone currently, and I REALLY wish I would've asked her but I'm really really horrible with the whole flirting thing and I know I'd never be able to actually ask her out... So basically, unless she wants to make the first move, I'll just be continuing to check her out every chance I get. *sigh*
(No, really, no chance of me asking her out. That would lead to an anxiety attack, which is really not impressive for a possible date)

 

[SailorJerry]

I love finding out that the guy I've been fooling around with has a girlfriend...

That's always a blast.

Ouch. Sorry to hear that.

I hope you gave him a swift kick in the nuts for that, or perhaps his GF beat you to it.

 

[Loverskitten]

I have a new dating site photo pet peeve. Add this to car, motorcycle, and boat, pics. As well as scuba and skydiving pics. Ugh!
Guys seem to be posting ALL travel photos. These are far away shots of them, I can't even tell what they look like. It also makes me feel bad that I can't travel more. It seems to be the new car pic, "look at me! I travel!" Douche.
Some have captions like "Egypt", "Paris", "Japan" and others are uber-douchey like a photo of a beach (could be any beach) but they caption "on the beach in Costa Rica" or "push-ups on the beach in Fiji"

I know! How about a clear, current photo of YOUR FACE!
/rant

 

[SailorJerry]

I have a new dating site photo pet peeve. Add this to car, motorcycle, and boat, pics. As well as scuba and skydiving pics. Ugh!
Guys seem to be posting ALL travel photos. These are far away shots of them, I can't even tell what they look like. It also makes me feel bad that I can't travel more. It seems to be the new car pic, "look at me! I travel!" Douche.
Some have captions like "Egypt", "Paris", "Japan" and others are uber-douchey like a photo of a beach (could be any beach) but they caption "on the beach in Costa Rica" or "push-ups on the beach in Fiji"

I know! How about a clear, current photo of YOUR FACE!
/rant

LMFAO! If I see one more photo from Machu Picchu, Imma puke!

And people still do mirror photos! WTF?! Just say: I live in a basement suite with no windows, and I also have no creativity left.

 

[jewelz_diamondz]

Or you find out from their kids they are seeing another girl!!