Dealing with changing group dynamics

[Ezzy]

I'm not looking for advice at the moment. This is just an update for those of you who followed the saga in its early days:

Ms. CL hasn't attended a meeting since February, when the meeting was at her house. The friend of mine who serves as the unofficial group secretary contacted her periodically to make sure that everything was okay. Her response was that everything was fine, but she was really busy (who isn't?) with her daughter and the community theater that she volunteers for. Then she stopped answering the phone and returning my friend's messages.

The rest of us were concerned that we wouldn't have a place to hold the meeting once it was her turn to host in September.

I am not giving advice just telling it as I see it, I think you should have made the arrangements as if she was still on the list and all turned up at her door on the day in question 30 - 45 minutes before you normally would meet.

As a group you could tell her that you understood she did not want to be taken off the hosting list, and you hoped she had responded to the voluntary secretaries phone message (make sure she rings at least once more leaving a message before the due date), as it would have included the fact that you were all going to turn up.

Of cause you will have made enough arrangements to be really ready to have the meeting somewhere else within that 30 minutes notice.

 

[silverwhisper]

eilan: isn't this called addition through subtraction? :>

ed

 

[Eilan]

I am not giving advice just telling it as I see it, I think you should have made the arrangements as if she was still on the list and all turned up at her door on the day in question 30 - 45 minutes before you normally would meet.

Now that would be funny! We have a member who gets confused when we have to change to Daylight Savings Time and back again. She showed up at a fellow member's house 90 minutes early.

isn't this called addition through subtraction?

It's that new math.