Discovering your wife or girlfriend having an affair

My wife had a lot more than me. Love to slide in and out while she tells me about them. Sometimes, she pulls up her skirt and rides me while she tells me about her lovers
That happened with my first girlfriend. She rode me after I she came back from cheating with someone else and I had witnessed it and to this day she doesn't know I saw it all.

I held her as she rode me and I fucked as I said before like I was possessed. I was so turned on after seeing her with him. I just talked dirty to her unbeknown to her.
 
Been married many years now and I’ve had several sexual affairs..
My wife never know or if she did she looked the other way.
A couple years back I got the feeling something might be up with her.
Trips shopping and returning with nothing purchased.
I got the notion to follow her.. and I did.. to a motel off the freeway.
I saw her car parked in the lot.. nothing else really around the place.
And no bar in the motel so had to be in a room..
I was so mad but turned on too.. I sat in the parking lot staring at the building.
I left and felt so aroused at what’s going on inside that motel room.
Picturing my wife in bed with who? Did I know him? Was it one of her old flings?
I went home and jerked off with those thoughts.
A short time later she comes in the house saying I’m beat..
I need a warm bath and early bedtime..
Did she ever confess? Did you confront her about it?
 
My ex-wife had two affairs that I am aware of. Early in our marriage we had talked about having sex with other couples or singles, but the closest we ever got was watching porn with one of her cousins and her husband and having sex in the same room as them without any swapping. She knew I was bi before we got married, and I let her know I was not opposed to adding another male into our bed.

When I found out she was having an affair, at first I was furious. Her new best friend was married to a black man, and she introduced my ex to another black male who she ended up having the affair with. I waited several weeks after I found out to confront her about it while I was trying to decide what to do about it. After struggling with the idea that she was seeing someone outside of our marriage, I actually began to be sexually excited by the idea. When she got home from her "evening out with her friends" I would take her to bed to see if I could detect any trace of her new lover. Our sex lives actually improved considerably during that time period. I finally confronted her, and she initially denied she was having an affair, but I presented some of the evidence I had gathered and she finally confessed. We had several days of discussions, and I finally admitted to her that the thought of her with another man actually turned me on. I forgave her, with the caveat that she would never go behind my back again. I told her if she wanted to have sex with another man, I wasn't opposed as long as she let me know beforehand. I also told her I would be willing to participate in any capacity she wanted, whether that was just watching or actually participating. I also let her know that if she cheated on me again, we were finished.

The idea seemed to intrigue her but she quit seeing the man she had been involved with and told me she had no desire to be with anyone but me. We talked a lot more about sex and things we'd like to experiment with, but the most we ever did was go to a couple of swinger's clubs where we watched others having sex and had sex in front of others, but she wasn't interested in experimenting beyond that. I was disappointed, but it was a lot of fun having sex with her in front of other males and females.

Our relationship improved quite a bit over the following year. Our sex life was much better, and we did a lot of things we hadn't done since the early days of our relationship. During a trip to Boston, we bought a strap-on at an adult bookstore and she pegged me for the first time. We also came extremely close to having a threesome with a beautiful woman we met at the hotel bar who was very interested in my ex. Unfortunately, by the time my ex made up her mind that we could invite her up to our room, we had already left the bar and rode the elevator up to our floor. We immediately went back down to the bar and looked for her but couldn't find her.

A few months after our Boston trip, I was required to travel quite a bit for my job. I was away two - three weeks out of every month for almost a year. I found out toward the end of that time that she was having an affair with another black man that her "friend" had introduced her to. This time I wasn't excited by the prospect like I had been before. I asked her one night after I found out if she had been having any desire to be with other men and she told me she had not, that she was only interested in sex with me. I immediately hired an attorney, who engaged a private investigator, and it only took a few days to gather all the evidence necessary to file for divorce due to her adultery. About three months after I found out, I presented her with divorce papers without even discussing it with her. She didn't contest it, and we were divorced soon thereafter.
 
My ex-wife had two affairs that I am aware of. Early in our marriage we had talked about having sex with other couples or singles, but the closest we ever got was watching porn with one of her cousins and her husband and having sex in the same room as them without any swapping. She knew I was bi before we got married, and I let her know I was not opposed to adding another male into our bed.

When I found out she was having an affair, at first I was furious. Her new best friend was married to a black man, and she introduced my ex to another black male who she ended up having the affair with. I waited several weeks after I found out to confront her about it while I was trying to decide what to do about it. After struggling with the idea that she was seeing someone outside of our marriage, I actually began to be sexually excited by the idea. When she got home from her "evening out with her friends" I would take her to bed to see if I could detect any trace of her new lover. Our sex lives actually improved considerably during that time period. I finally confronted her, and she initially denied she was having an affair, but I presented some of the evidence I had gathered and she finally confessed. We had several days of discussions, and I finally admitted to her that the thought of her with another man actually turned me on. I forgave her, with the caveat that she would never go behind my back again. I told her if she wanted to have sex with another man, I wasn't opposed as long as she let me know beforehand. I also told her I would be willing to participate in any capacity she wanted, whether that was just watching or actually participating. I also let her know that if she cheated on me again, we were finished.

The idea seemed to intrigue her but she quit seeing the man she had been involved with and told me she had no desire to be with anyone but me. We talked a lot more about sex and things we'd like to experiment with, but the most we ever did was go to a couple of swinger's clubs where we watched others having sex and had sex in front of others, but she wasn't interested in experimenting beyond that. I was disappointed, but it was a lot of fun having sex with her in front of other males and females.

Our relationship improved quite a bit over the following year. Our sex life was much better, and we did a lot of things we hadn't done since the early days of our relationship. During a trip to Boston, we bought a strap-on at an adult bookstore and she pegged me for the first time. We also came extremely close to having a threesome with a beautiful woman we met at the hotel bar who was very interested in my ex. Unfortunately, by the time my ex made up her mind that we could invite her up to our room, we had already left the bar and rode the elevator up to our floor. We immediately went back down to the bar and looked for her but couldn't find her.

A few months after our Boston trip, I was required to travel quite a bit for my job. I was away two - three weeks out of every month for almost a year. I found out toward the end of that time that she was having an affair with another black man that her "friend" had introduced her to. This time I wasn't excited by the prospect like I had been before. I asked her one night after I found out if she had been having any desire to be with other men and she told me she had not, that she was only interested in sex with me. I immediately hired an attorney, who engaged a private investigator, and it only took a few days to gather all the evidence necessary to file for divorce due to her adultery. About three months after I found out, I presented her with divorce papers without even discussing it with her. She didn't contest it, and we were divorced soon thereafter.
What a sad ending to what could have been pleasurable for both of you.
 
That happened with my first girlfriend. She rode me after I she came back from cheating with someone else and I had witnessed it and to this day she doesn't know I saw it all.

I held her as she rode me and I fucked as I said before like I was possessed. I was so turned on after seeing her with him. I just talked dirty to her unbeknown to her.
In this situation I still fantasied about her a lot.

I was probably more bothered about her getting off pleasing him as opposed to her being pleased by him.

Watching her make out with him sitting against this large tree and subsequently finish him with her hand still very much excited me. Didn't hear anything as too far away but her actions and his reactions said it all. I talk about cause its hot therapy...
 
Watching her make out with him sitting against this large tree and subsequently finish him with her hand still very much excited me. Didn't hear anything as too far away but her actions and his reactions said it all. I talk about cause its hot therapy...
I have always been excited thinking about my wives and GFs pleasing other men. Like you have detailed fantasies about what they did
 
It wasn’t a discovery, it was her telling me about it.

I was okay with it. lol
 
It turned you on?
Uh, yeah! Big time. lol

They carried on for a couple of years. She usually told me in detail about the encounters. Not everything, but quite a bit.

A bit more…she was abused at a fairly young age by a family member, and subsequently had a few hang ups as a result. Her affair with a colleague had certain therapeutic affects. Which was a positive for our relationship. All is well, that ends well.
 
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I have always been excited thinking about my wives and GFs pleasing other men. Like you have detailed fantasies about what they did
Honestly I really get turned on being the voyeur and cause I enjoy hearing my ex girlfriends sexual histories plus I love the feel of a woman's hand on my cock, actually seeing her stroke this guy cock furiously got me so hard. Like I said in other threads all came from an intial affair with the mom of a friend a year earlier...I just blame her!
 
I have always been excited thinking about my wives and GFs pleasing other men. Like you have detailed fantasies about what they did
I think about it the same way as I might think of banging their friends with huge tits and wetter pussies, like they might think of my friend's huge dicks.
 
I wish I understood this fetish better. I know this is what my husband wants, but it feels degrading and so opposite of matrimony. When I was away at college, we did not see each other much, and when we did, he would like imply or ask if I had been seeing other guys. It really hurt my feelings, but I kind of see it in a different light now. Not like I am going to do anything like this, but I see it as a fantasy of his that does not see me as a bad person. That probably sounds stupid, but like I said, I am still trying to understand this fetish. If there was anything I could get him to talk about, instead of all the innuendo, this would be it. I have read so many of these kinds of threads, but it still sounds so bizarre. It is like some guys want their wife to be bad, and that is a good thing. Is that it?
 
I cheated on my husband quite a bit before we got into the lifestyle. He never caught me and the only reason I ended up telling him about it was because he started to tell me that he wished that I had cheated on him once or twice. When we first started dating. It was clear that it was a fantasy that he had and I ended up telling him about my cheating which he absolutely loved. We ended up integrating his desire for cheating into our lifestyle as well.
 
Hubby hasn't confronted me about my affairs yet or he might not know. After years together we finally open our relationship up couple years ago after he had a health scare. With him now traveling and working. He let me meet up with a couple of male partner that join us before when he is away.

Maybe its a fetish or he is just looking the other way.
 
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